Due March 2007 - No. 3

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Ahem - allow me....

Hi evenhope: can't help you on that one I'm afraid. Sure the more experienced Mums on here will know!

Just had some sad news. My SIL is splitting up with her partner (knew that already) and she's just found out that he's been sleeping with someone else. They've got my lovely 3-year-old niece, and a brand new mortgage. He's left his job, and she's really stuck.

Evenhope - no experience of amnio but I would say if they didn't tell you not to have a bath you will be fine. Esp as it's been 4 days

Whoowhoo - your BIL sounds a real sod .
You get some wierd dreams when you're PG don't you? Sometimes you wonder where all the wierd dream stuff comes from? Its horrible awakening from negative dreams though - a really bad start to the day.

I used to be embarassed about asking for seats when PG, but am really bolshy about it now
Londoners are all so rude anyway Strangley I find its usually young men in their 20's who get up without being asked. I probably remind them of their Mum

Talking of which, the Dep Director of Queen Charlotte's called me three times today () and has now arranged a proper scan on Monday at 9am, then an appointment to see my Consultant Apparently his response to her was, "why hasn't this woman been sent to see me earlier?" and she has admitted verbally they were wrong. Don't know whether to pursue a formal complaint, to try and ensure it doesn't happen to the next poor woman who enters wheir doors - will depend how much energy I have . TBH am too tired to fight other people's battles as well....

Diva - your area sounds great for the care you get Sorry you feel so tired today. How old is DD now and how many toothypegs does she have? Try and get an early night tonight, or try and put DP on DD duty

AimeR - I'd forgotten about the cramps. I usually stand and wiggle offending foot, But its really annoying when you're in bed isn't it? LOL at TenaLady

Leo - Hi again - my DH never buys me presents either - unless I ask him to

WhooWhoo - are you tired out too? Try and get a good nights sleep tonight. Are you still getting much MS?

What happend when you were attacked on the bus? It sounds horrible.

I got mugged in Peckham once and I chased the guy, who jumped into a car and tried to start the ignition. I said "just give me back my fecking bag!". I was so angry with the spotty little tosser, I sort of forgot to be sensible . He responded by punching me in the face, so I fell out of the car and then tried to drive over my head . Everything went slow motion so I rolled out of the way - all for £40!!!!

I decided that next time, I'd just hand over the bag

My Dad and stepmum came round earlier to look at my wet patch (on the wall ). Stepmum bought me two big bunches of flowers I nearly burst out crying at her kindness - sorry to moan, but my Mum hasn't called me once since she found out I was PG. This is probably her last grandchild, plus I MC'd last year and have had problems this time round and she can't pick up the phone

She's not busy buy the way - just watches TV all day . Calls my little sister a least once a day, but acts as though my older sister and I don't exist.

Anyone else got crap parents? Either will do, Mum or Dad?

Kitty - weather was rubbish today wasn't it? How is your jaw and tooth today? Is it still painful?

18+5

kiwi-i get sciatica in pg,it starts in my lower back and spreads down my bottom and right down my leg.it wasnt too bad last time but when i was expecting ds2 i could hardly walk with it.i think it depends how the baby is lying at the time.
evenhope-sorry i know nothing about amnio either?

amie-barrow is scary in parts but more because everybody sticks their nose into everybody elses business.and they still have men only bars in some of the working mens' clubs!

Diva _ LOL at Barrow - a place to avoid for sure!!

Just wanted to add that this thread is great, isn't it - it mst be one of the liveliest on MN!

i didnt finish my post cos dd2 started crying.she is 10months today and has only 2 teeth,and she started teething at 3 months!now she also has a bunged up nose.i wont let dp get up with her in the night(even if he wakes up,which is rare)cos he might start playing with her or something,whereas im no-nonsense and dont even speak to her in the night.

whoowhoo,thats awful for ur sis

fatfox-ur mum sounds ..erm..nice?!
my mum phones me when shes annoyed with my sis,and phones my sis when shes annoyed with me.normally shes annoyed cos neither of us have phoned her for a while.mothers!

Hi everyone. A message from DS:

Fatfox, my mother is mental. She is obsessed with dogs. She has now just got another one today, a bloody deerhound and they are HUGE. She likes to contil things that's why she likes dogs. She likes to go round calling herself pack leader. The most awful thing was when she sent me a professional taken photograph of her, her poor partner and her dogs. It was sort of done as a normal family photo, if you can picture that (without needing to throw up), but with het looking all high and mighty. I said I would put it on my wall but couldn't bring myself too as it made me feel sick. I would hang it up when she came to visit and when she left I'd take it down and hang up a Kylie minogue calendar I get for Dp for christmas.
Anyway, you can guess the rest, one day she came to visit and I'd forgotton to swap them over and I was only as we passed the said calendar that she exclaimed "what's that? where's my picture?"
She even signs christams and birthday cards from the dogs. She also made me ferl really s**t about this preg and suggested that there were "ways of dealing with these things", she denies having said that now of course.

Hello everyone else
diva, cumbria is really beautiful I think.
Dd3 is 9 months and has just got her ist three teeth in as many days, so we've had fun and games here. I can see more poking through too. maybe we'll have a full set by the end of the week! So she is also waking at night which is very unusual for her.

opps gotta go boys are fighting

wow... you ladies pregnant and with young bubba's are AMAZING!! Any tips . I'd love to fall again after this one is born. I don't like the idea of another only child (dd is 10).

LOL @ your mum, Diva!!

Whoowhoo... how awful for your sister.

Fatfox... enjoy your flowers I'm amazed by your story of chasing after your mugger. Funny how we don't think things through until afterwards!!

Night everyone, sleep tight

Hiya - just watched the DVD of "Crash" - anyone seen it? I really liked it. I thought the best part was when the Persian shop owner shot the little Korean girl by mistake (I was in tears by that point }, but her "magic protective cloak" saved her!

Kiwi - totally agree, acting on impulse is not always good! Am a bit older and wiser now

Kitty you amaze me how you cope with your LO and the boys as well, you must have loads of stamina! ROFL at the description of your Mum, posing for a family portrait with her litter of dogs!!!! I'm glad I'm not the only one with a mad mother!! Mine just pretends I don't exist (which can be a blessing, I admit, sometimes). Do you come from a big family? I have two sisters and a brother with Downs. My Mum smothers my brother and youngest - and completely ignores us older two!! The words "mental" and "health" come to mind when discussing my Mum

Just hope its not hereditory (twichy emoticon)!

Diva - have a lovely vision of your DP playing happily wih DD at 3am, when he should really just be geting her back to sleep.

Well, its "quality time" isn't it?

morning! lovely day here, must get dressed is anyone planning on watching the birth show on sunday? think its on channel 4 or 5. not sure myself as am trying positive thinking and might get blown out of the water :0

Sponge - what time is it on?

Mornin' All

It looks dry and sunny outside, which is a good start to the weekend...

Fatfox, amazingly I am an only child!!!! You have come second to human beings I have come second to a load of dogs
Your mum obviously has some real issues and it must be very painful for you. I hope and pray that my children will always feel loved and valued and will not feel that any are my 'favourites' Although saying that no.2 feels like that already anyway !!!

I don't think I can face the birth show on Sunday spongcake, it all seems a bit, well, voyeuristic. I don't know why it is different from the normal birth progs on t.v(which I can happily watch btw), maybe because it will be unedited.

no5 ( 9 months) has been walking round the kitchen pushing a bucket. It's so sweet to see

Kittywits - morning

You have to laugh at parents sometimes don't you? Do you have any views on just having one child. A friend of DS is an only child and his Mum really worries about it for some reason. It must have its advantages though, I would have thought.

I really agree with you its important not to have favourites. Its about our "duty of care" not just who we like best. Mum always favoured our Lil sis because she thought she was the "prettiest" out of the three sisters!!! - I mean, how shallow is that?

Anyway, won't rant. Going to Kew Gardens later with my Step Mum

ps DD walking at 9 months? Can you replace the bucket with a small broom or one of those toy hoovers which actually sucks things up?

Fatfox, so glad you have a nice step mum, just pretend she is your real mum
Kew, how lovely, haven't been there so years and years. Are you just going for a stroll or are you going to spend lots of money!!? Ace day for walking around, so different to yesterday.

There are advantages to being and only child, but not many. I've always wanted to have sibs. Luckily though I have lots of cousins around my age on my Dad's side and I used to spend all my holidays as a child with them, it was like having sibs and we are still close even though they live in Birmingham and Shrewsbury and I'm near Brighton.
You sound a very together person considering what you've been through, well done for that. I am increasingly angry with my mother and I wish I could let it lie because it does me no good. If I manage to let it lie then I won't have a mother at all (in my head), does that make sense?this is too heavy, sorry. Going to have a bath, have a great day at Kew

Fatfox, what a good idea, they all been early walkers, damn I've had so many missed opportunities over the years

fatfox-think birth prog is on at 8- unlikely will be watching it if its unedited, also can't even bring myself to look at those pages in the pregnancy book the doc gave me! nah, hopefully spooks is on or something

morning
i had an awful drem last night that i threw dp out cos i found a porno mag in the house and assumed it was his.then it later transpired that it had been planted by my evil ex
note to self-do not read the relationship threads on mn before going to bed anymore.

kitty-walking at 9 months?!my dd hasnt even started crwling yet.shes only just started sitting up properly in the last week.all of mine have been late walkers,ds1 was 15 months,dd1 was 16 months and ds2 was 17 months.i didnt encourage them,though!

i agree that parents shouldnt have favourites but i do find some children are easier to get on with than others,and its natural to be more protective of the little ones,i think u just have to be careful it doesnt carry on as they get older.my sister always thought i was the favourite who got away with stuff(shes 3.5yrs older than me)but i always thought she was the favourit cos nothing i did was ever good enough or matched up to her standards.(she was popular and a boffin at school)

fatfox-ur so lucky being able to go to kew gardens.i went there when i was 13 but havent been since.
all i get to do today is take the boys to the barbersand ds1 is in one of his moods so id really rather not be in the same room as him.

hope everybody has a nice saturday

17+3

Hi girls. Been teaching this morning and have managed not to be sick, so feel like I'm on a roll.

Fatfox: lol at your wet patch, and sorry about your lazy Mum. Sorry to say my parents are lovely - although my Dad is an alcoholic, if that helps! They say it skips a generation, so there's something for me to worry about if I stop and think about it.

As for the bus attack, I was sitting on the top deck of a bus with my DH - I was on the aisle seat at the top of the stairs. It was only about 8pm, and this huge group of teenagers got on. I wasn't worried, and in fact felt quite nostalgic for my teens.

Then this huge boy sort of sat on my shoulder. I asked him to move, but he ignored me. So I craned round to look him in the face, and asked him (politely) again. He moved, but then seconds later came and sat really hard on my shoulder.

I pushed him off, and he landed on the floor; which was the cue for him (and about 15 of his mates) to surround me, scream at me and start throwing things at me. DH was behind me and trying to protect me.

We managed to push through them and down the stairs, but they banged my head against the wall a couple of times on the way out.

Nobody tried to help, as everyone round here is too scared in case the kids have weapons.

It could have been much worse, but it took quite a long time to get over.

No point calling the police, as I'm pretty sure that my pushing him onto the floor would be seen as an 'attack' in itself, although I'm 5'3" and female. You're not allowed to protect yourself, are you?

Thought I'd let it go, but actually it still makes me angry thinking about it.

Anyway.

La la la.

Hi All
Went to a NCT baby sale today, OMG it was mad, massive Q and total mayhem. I came away with a few sleepsuits and clothes feeling about 90.
Anyone else experienced NCT sale days?

whoowhoo-thats awful,when did it happen?its crap when u cant even report things to the police for fear of backlash.

Thanks diva. Over a year ago now - all better

Main effect it had on me at the time was that I suddenly found myself utterly unable to deal with call-centres (wtf?).

When I had to call the gas co. or some such to query a bill, then try and fight to speak to someone actually from the company (we've all been there), I'd end up in tears. V. embarassing.

Basically, I got hugely paranoid and developed a bit of a persecution complex (as it had happened when my dog was a puppy - and lots of people 'round here are terrified of dogs, and can be very abusive).

Again, la la la.

Am moving to Surrey in a couple of years, as we can't afford private schooling, and state schools 'round here are such a lottery. Lucky to have that option.