Due March 2007 - No. 3

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Ahem - allow me....

Eidsvold, keep your chin up. Hope evreything goes ok at the funeral

So glad there are some other not so large ladies. I was so huge during my last preg. I have no idea why it would be different now

at Annie..... grrrr. I am most definately showing. All clothes, even fat jeans have had to be shoved to back of wardrobe.... wish I had eaten six sponge cakes to get this broad, but havent !

Hi All
Trying to catch up on the thread, loads has been happening I see. Hope bumps are all ok, I am happy today because I have a new bra that actually fits me! Its a bit matron style.
My family were all disappointed at the wkend as bump is not really showing that much, but it feels big enough to me.

onilly , Chinese takeaway gave me a mass headache too. Bet you will cope perfectly with baby when he/she comes, don't worry you can still be yourself. I'm not going to start wearing pastel fleeces and matching clothes with DP. have promised myself!

You guys you are running about after so many children, you don't have time to get fat yet! I'm still at 10lbs heavier too. Haven't put on any more weight for ages, but I'm hoping to pace myself because I always put on three stone and it takes ages to get off again.humf.

Eidsvold persevere, you will have a lovely reunion on Friday. I know how hard it can be though.

Onilly when its your own baby its easier than it looks from the outside! You will be in love with your baby.

Onilly, other people's children are different to your own. I must say though about 2 weeks after ds1 was born I thought "oh my God, this is not going away, I can't say I have had enough and I don't want to do this parenting thing today".
That was the most shocking time for me, coming to terms with the fact that this was it now. Once I had got my head round that things were easier.

I had a moment of self doubt last saturday about whether I was up to being a Mum. DH was a gem and set my mind at ease. I think its just natural when its your first, and I don't know but I imagine there may be nerves with any child.

I just fear not coping once DH has gone back to work. Feeling.. Alone, I guess.

AmieR if this makes you feel better...the first time i took dd1 out on my own after dh had gone back to work, I rang him in tears from the car park because I couldn't collapse the buggy. I ended up putting it in the boot as it was, fully 'erect' and driving to his office for help, still in tears.

Now I am expecting no 4 and have the damn buggy in and out the car about 10 zillion times a day!!

You will be fine, my lovely. Don't think about it now, because nothing can really prepare you for it. It will all fall into place.

Thanks AnnieDiv, that story made me chuckle, and helped my nerves... a little.

You were lucky your boot was big enough for the buggy to go in erect!

My mother and dp STILL can't collapse the buggy .

Grandparents and buggy proficiency is a whole other thread.....

onilly and amie-it is different when its your own child but i can still remember wondering what the hell i was doing with ds1.id never been around children and id never even held a baby till i had him.all that matters is that you love them and all the other stuff u learn as u go along.my 1st baby is nearly 9 now and i still dont have a clue how im meant to be bringing him up!

i found that anything with MSG in would trigger a terrible headache in my last pg.maybe thats the problem with the chinese food?

rosy-i put on exactly 3 stone in my last 2 pgs but i put it all on in the first 28 weeks and lost it quite easily after.but in my 1st pg i put the weight on gradually through the whole pg and was still huge after,and i couldnt shift it atall.thats why im slightly concerned at my slow weight gain this time

Rosy, Penny Kitty and Diva, thanks.
Diva - me too, have absolutely NO experience of other kiddo's. Usually have given them wide berth in the past! Very foreign ground to me.

Am not sure I am going to be very capable....or good or even as patient as I need to be.

Did not help with friend chipping away telling me all the things I WONT be able to do once I have kids. I mean do you disappear into a black hole for all of eternity ? Coz it sounds like it?

Oh well stuff it as long as we are all healthy.There's too much pressure on us to lose it quickly etc I reckon. Anyway Dh likes me being big. I always threaten to flatten him and I think it turns him on

Onilly its not a black hole, its a multicoloured happy hole and you will never want to leave it!

Onilly, even when you have kids you will think you are not up to much parent-wise, it comes with the territory I'm afraid.
Even us old hands are learning something new everyday, especially with our first-borns. Even with the other children they are all different and they bring with them their own delights and challenges.
Becoming a parent is a huge life changing event, but it's like any job, you're not up to much when you start but you learn quickly.
And NO it's not a black hole!!!!

Hello lovely ladies ! Really rainy here today , but have caught up with some sleep and sorted out some paperwork that I have been putting off for a long time.

AimeR sorry to hear about your gran and Fatfox - hope your cervix is behaving itself again ( tell that baby to stop jumping up and down and sway side to side instead !)

I think that far too much pressure is put on new mums these days that you have to do things a certain way and achieve milestones at certain points. TBH it can be competitive and all adds to the pressure !

I think all you need to do is love your baby, recognise that your life will be different (although probably not worse) and trust your instincts. In these times, we are all so use to being "in control" and babies don't understand that concept !! I'm also sure fear is a natural and healthy process during any change.

I got a craving today for some fizzy strawberry laces ... probably the most unhealthy "snack" known to man ...but if the baby wants them it would be mean of me to not buy some

By the way has anyone seen ProfYaf or Jaysecond ? Haven't seen them on this thread for a couple of weeks and hope they are OK.

Also forgot to ask - does anyone want a bag of neutral baby clothes all new and sent from my dad in France - they are newborn and 3 months sizes - and all long sleeve/legs . In March it will be 35 degrees plus where I am !! Don't want any money for them - but would like them to go to a good home

Profyaf is around, just not on this thread. Jaysecond hasn't posted anywhere since Sep 18th.

Amie... bless, I hope that the next few days are a great time of remembering your Gran and celebrating her amazing life. Imagine being with the one you love for such a long time.

Eidsvold... start counting the days until dh is back I hope the kiddies are enjoying their extra hugs

fatfox... me too!! Food, all the time. I dream about it and plan my day around my next meal

onilly... I can understand your fears too. I'm petrified at the reality of having a wee bubba in a few months time. I can't even cuddle friends lil1s at the moment. I'm also having all sorts of doubts about life afterwards - I love my job and have said I'll go back to work but I don't want to even consider childcare right now. All these thoughts are so confusing.

LOL at buggy stories . I'm sure we will have more of these tales.

I hope Jaysecond is OK, can anyone remember what she last posted?

Onilly - better get an opinion from others about sleeping on your back. I understood it was fine until you didn't feel comfortable with it anymore. tbh at the moment sleeping on my side gives me terrible stretching cramps.
I found it really tough when ds was born but I think I found it hard to accept the big change it made to my life, I wasn't ready for it. Now i've worked through it and know what is important. Go with the flow and don't fight how it changes your life

onilly-did your friend not tell u about the stuff u can do when u have kids that u cant do before,like going on the swings and slides,building sandcastles etc etc etc.the best one (and probably the reason i keep having more children)is i can get away with talking to myself...i hated walking down the street or around the house and not being able to share my thoughts.now i just chat to Gloria all the time.everybody probably thinks im nuts now

sorry didn't finish my last post....
....the changes to your life are wonderful changes, don't let any friends or anyone else make you think anything different. Do what you want and dont get pressured into trying to be a parent and live life as you were before (depending on what you were doing before) - priorities do change and that is only something positive. however, having a babysitter somewhere to help you out when you need a break or need time out with your dh/dp is a good idea (advice given but not followed myself!)! i think having children and making a family is the happiest thing you can ever do! And saying all that I still don't think I am cut out to be a mother!

I was never maternal at all until I had mine. TBH other people's kids seemed like funny little aliens. Having one myself completely changed me. It opens up a whole new world, plus loads of new contacts and friends and interests.

It kind of makes you realise what life is all about as well i.e. its not about me, me, me, its about doing what's right for them and sharing everything. And, yes you get to do all that great stuff again - picnics, making sandcastles, eating ice creams on the beach, reading ghosty stories...

Blimey I sound like I'm on drugs or something LOL

feel the same, can't wait to read all the childrens books and splash about in puddles.. love all the funny stories and am glad not the only one who had to abandon "normal clothes".. i was in maternity by my second month- my tummy and boobs went hurrah! and expanded- my maternity stuff feels a bit tight but possibly thats the enormous anount of food I eat:0

am supposed to be revising for Ou exams HAVE TO PASS as resits are in april! eek!