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Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

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TinyTear · 07/08/2014 16:15

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

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TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

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TinyTear · 06/10/2014 17:31

Good they are sorting things London .

I am here sitting on my hands as I just got am email with the sex in an attachment and I promised DH we would open it together... Only one hour to find out

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smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 06/10/2014 17:33

Oh tiny im so jealous I cant wait to find out the sex but cant until nov when I have my next scan

LondonSuperTrooper · 06/10/2014 17:49

How exciting Tiny! Do you have a preference?

Let us know what flavour you will get :)

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TinyTear · 06/10/2014 17:53

I have one preference, DH has another so one of us will be happy
But after what we've been through I am happy either way

I will let you know when possible. Probably around 8 when I am feeding DD to sleep is MN time ;-)

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LondonSuperTrooper · 06/10/2014 18:02

Shetland I'm 11+1 and I look about 5 months pregnant. There is no way on earth that I can keep this quiet for much longer. My problem is that I'm 13 weeks into my new job & 6 month probation period :(

LondonSuperTrooper · 06/10/2014 18:04

Tiny it's good that you both have a preference for the other sex. I have no preference at all- I just want a healthy baby :)

CareBearWithFangs · 06/10/2014 18:23

London glad you got a refund. Hopefully that women won't be making someone else feel awful again.

I get my nifty results on 17th. My lovely lovely GP has signed me off for 2 weeks so I don't have to put a brave face on at work. I'm currently making a distraction plan. Going to start planning christmas I think. And find a good book.

Ooh tiny that's so exciting! Are you allowing yourself to relax into this pregnancy a bit more now?

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TinyTear · 06/10/2014 18:48

It's a...

...nother girl!

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CareBearWithFangs · 06/10/2014 19:00

Hooray! Which were you hoping for?

LondonSuperTrooper · 06/10/2014 19:38

Yay! You were hoping for another girl, weren't you?

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TinyTear · 06/10/2014 19:45

Yes
I could tell DH was a little bit disappointed but now we have a few months to get used to the idea...
And think of names...

We had boys names sorted but he already vetoed one of my suggestions

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LIG1979 · 06/10/2014 20:10

Carebear as the others said feel free to moan. That is what we are there for. I think you reaction is quite normal in the circumstances. I used to be very positive thinking but sometimes I think expecting the worst helps you to be prepared and then if it is better than that it is a pleasant surprise. I go into every scan expecting the worst and having a plan of what we will do if the worst happens. At least it is borderline and there is hope with the bloods. Keeping everything crossed for you. Glad you have been signed off to have a bit of thinking time whilst waiting for the results.

Little - we had a scare with leaving the keys in the lock the other night. It is usually me who does it but this time dh forgot but luckily I put the key chain on. (We mostly put it on during the day to stop dd opening the door.) I woke up in the night to a door slamming. Turned out the next day that someone had obviously given it a go but couldn't get in because of the chain. My baby brain has meant that I have been doing that sort of thing alot recently --just glad this time it was dh's fault. Sorry you are feeling so rough.Â

Tiny - good news - glad you got what you wanted. I am secretly hoping it is a girl and dh is hoping it is a boy. Last time we just wanted it to be alive and healthy so feel bad even saying it.

London - you may find your bump goes down. Mine is now down to looking like I have eaten to many pies whereas a week ago I had a proper solid bump. The same happened with dd and I think it was just bloating. I have also lost weight Grin. Good news that they are taking your complaint seriously - I hope someone takes it up with her.

So today and last night I have been feeling quite well and really enjoyed today with dd. After feeling rough everyday for 7 weeks it is a welcome break. Just hoping it lasts.Â

Need to tell my team tomorrow and I am dreading it. I really hate telling people I am pregnant. I am sure they have guessed already and seeing as it is general knowledge at work I am sure they have heard. Just got to formally tell them.

BitchPeas · 06/10/2014 20:22

Hello, I've been lurking but haven't posted yet as my heads been all over the place have hyperseremisis which has been miserable.

I had a TFMR in 2012 for Anencephaly. I'm now 12+1 and have had my 12 week scan today, looks good so far but they want to scan me at 16 weeks due to history and my nan having a still birth due to spina bifida, then after scan at 20 weeks I'll have a definite answer for the spine and brain being ok or not. 8 more long weeks to go! Have been trying to distract myself by working out the nub theory on my scan pics. Am really struggling to get excited though and don't really want to tell anyone. Work and my parents know will wait to tell friends until after 16 week scan, it is making me feel pretty lonely though esp as DP bouncing off the walls with excitement and positivity.

When I type all that out I feel so self pitying and whiney Blush

Oh CareBear that's so worrying. Fx for your blood test results. Look after yourself.

Congratulations Tiny

Shetland · 07/10/2014 01:46

bitchpeas I have the same history as you. My 12 week scan is on Friday but I'll need the 16 week before I can start to relax.

Congrats on another girl tinytears Grin

london when are you planning on telling work? Will it have to be before your probation is up?

LondonSuperTrooper · 07/10/2014 05:06

Shetland I was hoping to tell work about the pregnancy when I pass my probation period in January. But that means hiding my pregnancy until I'm about 24 weeks pregnant. Somehow I can't see that happening!
If all goes well then I might tell them when I'm about 16 weeks or as soon as i fail to hide the pregnancy.

Welcome Bitchpeas

LondonSuperTrooper · 07/10/2014 06:28

And I'm not even sure that I'm entitled to company SMP.

Actually my new company has a great maternity package but you need to be employed for 1 year before you get pregnant :(

Shetland · 07/10/2014 07:31

Did you get pregnant before you started working there london I think the basic criteria for SMP is that you have to be working there already when you get pregnant. You should still be ok for Mat Allowance though??

Shetland · 07/10/2014 07:32

And good luck to tinytear and little

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TinyTear · 07/10/2014 07:44

thanks Shetland
I am now nervous again as I stopped clexane on Friday and reduced cyclogest, but i think all being well today will also stop cyclogest.

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TinyTear · 07/10/2014 07:45

By the way, we are at 921 messages (woohoo) so will need a new thread soon...

Shall wait until we are over 950 (not difficult with how much we chat Grin) and create a new one

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LittleBairn · 07/10/2014 08:08

Tiny congratulations on your daughter. Lovely news.

LIG glad I'm not the only one that does it. Grin scary that someone tried the door! We are in a fairly nice suburb but in a large town so we were retry lucky.
Try not feel guilty for gender preference, I want another DS my DH wants a DD. We will be delighted with either. I feel like this one is a boy I've been right both times, but I would be so happy for DH to get his girl he was devastated when DD died feeling like he would never have another chance at having his dreamed for little girl.
His ex wife was infertile so the journey to being a father has been very long for him, 15 years, I feel so guilty sometimes.

bitchpeas Welcome its not self pity its completely natural worries.
I feel the same way about people knowing I'm pregnant too, their expectations is just too much pressure.
Are you on the high dose of folic acid? I am but I detest it I can eat anything green I miss my green veggies.

LondonSuperTrooper · 07/10/2014 09:12

Tiny & Little have I missed something? Do you have scans today?

Shetland I became pregnant 3 weeks into my new job! I was diagnosed with secondary infertility & we were planning to have IVF in January (after passing my probation period).

Tiny I'm stopping my medications next week! Slightly nervous but looking forward to getting some pregnancy symptoms and my sleep back! I'm permanently shattered. My DH is convinced that I am glued to the sofa at home.

LittleBairn · 07/10/2014 10:31

Yes it's my 12 week scan this afternoon.
I've totally forgotten, do I need a full bladder for this one? Considering my BMI I probably should a little but I do have a gloriously large bladder according to every sonographer who has ever scanned me....

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TinyTear · 07/10/2014 10:33

Thanks!
Measuring 13+3 and official due date is 11th April

DH was with me and it was great.

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TinyTear · 07/10/2014 10:34

London, it was NHS 12 today.

No full bladder and I also have high bmi...

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