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Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

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TinyTear · 07/08/2014 16:15

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

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TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

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LittleBairn · 03/10/2014 19:54

tiny great news.

smiling was that an NHS scan? I'm going to request it when my consultant scans me in a few weeks, after all I'm on Asprin if they think something may be wrong with the blood flow then they should at least check it out.

LittleBairn · 03/10/2014 19:57

LIG I had a 2nd nucal scan during my first pregnancy and the baby was equally uncooperative. But then my little ones are rather naughty in the womb and never cooperate its almost funny.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 03/10/2014 21:26

Yes it was NHS Little apart from a private scan at 10 weeks all my appointments have been NHS.

lila35 · 04/10/2014 17:37

Good news for you both Teachers and Tiny.

I havent been feeling as good as I had, the nausea seems to be coming back, but I am not quite so exhausted in the afternoons so its easier to handle.

Hopefully soon enough we will all have seen the back of ms and can start blooming!

LittleBairn · 05/10/2014 09:59

Lila my MS is coming back too along with the acid reflux vomiting it is almost getting as bad as when I had Hypermisser with DS.

Cramping seems to have calmed down too so I'm not entirely miserable.

CareBearWithFangs · 05/10/2014 19:22

Oh dear. So we had the nifty test today and a scan with the nuchal measurement. The nuchal was high and it just feels like the start of last time, like it's all going to happen again. I can't even explain how I feel, like I'm coming apart at the seams. I can't go through that again. I can't have a termination for another pregnancy I desperately wanted.

Sorry I am a bit of a mess today. Trying to keep distracted.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 05/10/2014 19:53

carebear im so sorry I dont know what to say.

sending you big hugs x

LondonSuperTrooper · 05/10/2014 20:08

Carebear I am so sorry to read your sad news.

We are all here for you. Big hugs xxx

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TinyTear · 05/10/2014 20:12

Oh no, how high was it? Could be a borderline that will be OK?
When do you get results?

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LIG1979 · 05/10/2014 20:13

Oh carebear - I am so sorry it wasn't good news. Is it salvageable if the blood tests come back ok? Can they do more tests to confirm? Will be thinking of you and your other half. x

CareBearWithFangs · 05/10/2014 20:41

It's borderline. 3.5. But it was 3.6 last time with our downs baby. DP is trying to get me to think positively but I can't. I'm too scared to even hope.

I'm sorry to be such a constant negative nelly on this thread! I'm going to head back to my GP I think, may need putting back on my anti depressants.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 05/10/2014 20:55

carebear you have nothing to apologise for, we may all have different stories to tell but we have all found each other because of a tragic loss, if you need support then thats what were here for, not only for the positive stuff but for the shitty negative stuff too x

CareBearWithFangs · 06/10/2014 07:21

Thank you for all your support, your all lovely. Hope everyone has a good day today.

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TinyTear · 06/10/2014 07:49

I hope the bloods will help towards lowering the risk. Is there a chance you can get your results sooner or do you have to wait the 2 weeks for the harmony?

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LittleBairn · 06/10/2014 08:02

carebear I'm sorry the test wasn't good news. Would it be possible to have the harmony test instead to give a more accurate result?
Don't worry about negativity everyone on this thread expects that what we have been through means none of us expects rainbows and pots of gold.

lila35 · 06/10/2014 08:02

oh carebear, you poor thing, I really hope the bloods come back positive for you, look after yourself.

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TinyTear · 06/10/2014 08:04

exactly, LIttle we may hope for them, but we definitely don't expect them!!

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LittleBairn · 06/10/2014 09:06

Baby brain seems to have taken over I left the front door keys in the outside of the door all night and the door unlocked, DH found them as he left he's a tad unimpressed.
He's obsessive about locked doors due to being burgled in bed one night many years ago.

OneDayLikeThis2013 · 06/10/2014 09:12

Hi all,

Sorry I've been a bit AWOL of late. HUGE congratulations to all those with good scans last week, fantastic news!!

carebear please don't apologise for any negativity. We're all here to listen and there's no right or wrong way to feel with what you've been through and are going through x

12 week scan is a week today and am feeling sick with worry (again) Taken my first sick day today this pregnancy. Bleurgh.

Stuntman · 06/10/2014 15:47

I hope you get some more news soon CareBear, the waiting must be very stressful.

LondonSuperTrooper · 06/10/2014 16:13

Carebear I hope that you are hanging in there. When will you get your nifty results?

I've had my last reassurance scan today (via the recurrent miscarriage clinic). We saw 2 arms, a head, a body and the umbilical cord. NHS said that we do not hear the heart beat until the 12 week nuchal scan - just as well I heard the heartbeat last week!

I also heard back from the FMC. The practice manager has been dealing with my complaint and I must admit that she's been fab. Utterly professional & was very apologetic about my experience.

Little I took your advice on board and requested a refund. She agreed to refund me £100. She was keen for me to come in and repeat the scan as I told her that the doctor spoiled the experience for me. Unfortunately I couldn't take her up on her offer hence the refund.

Hope you are all doing well. I'm now slightly panicking about my harmony results. I'm not getting the results till Thursday 16 October..... it's going to be a long wait.

LittleBairn · 06/10/2014 17:11

London well done glad you stood your ground, it will also help make sure she gets retrained its one thing someone complaining its another when they loose money because of it.

obeday I hope the scan goes well. Mine is tommorow afternoon the nerves are building already.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 06/10/2014 17:24

Hope your doing ok carebear

ive got a midwife appointment on Wednesday which I feel strangely emotional about, no idea why Hmm

I most definitely look pregnant now ive got a distinct bump which means ive had to start telling people but I still feel im jinxing it every time I tell someone.

16.1 weeks

Shetland · 06/10/2014 17:25

Hope your scan went ok oneday

carebear I don't know what to say - I hope it's all ok but I don't know what to suggest to help you cope in the meantime xxx

I've just got back from a weekend away which was lovely but my ms ramped up a bit whilst I was there - I must eaten almost constantly to try and keep it at bay, I'm not looking forward to getting on the scales again.

Shetland · 06/10/2014 17:28

Oh and great news on the refund london - that was the least they could do. Well done.

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