December 2014, Thread #6 August Amazonian's, Warriors of the 2nd Trimester

[Ladylel]

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Here we go thread 6, over half way - I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore!

Midwife this morning. Testing out how scantily clad I can go to trick the scales

ladylel I must be having an extra hormonal day. The Ohana bit got me!!

The only person turning their nose up at my name suggestions is DH. Grr!

This is the earliest I've been up on a while. I miss waking up feeling refreshed

We've had a plumber here since 8 - my rottweiler isn't bothered at all and barked when he walked in then promptly stopped when I told her to. A Westie that I'm looking after has not stopped yapping thank god she's going home today, her yap is so high pitched and goes right through you

Morning girls.

Put in my matb1 last night. I am taking midwifes advice and leaving at 32 weeks. I'm currently exhausted with a dodgy hip so I am not for arguing.

10 weeks to go!!!! Yayyyyyyyyy.

Morning

My mum vetoed one of the names we really like at the weekend for a boy, as it happens to be the maiden surname of a friend she had a falling out with last year and she said if she had to call that name all she'd think about is that "big fat cow's face and want to put her hands round her neck"!

I think I'm the worst for vetoing names though. I really really liked Alexander, but then realised that my cousin, who now lives on the other side of the world and is probably not likely to come back any time soon has a son called Alexander so I've said we're not having it now because you can't have two in the same family. Also a friend of mine, who I work with, had a little girl and called her Emily (another name which we both really liked) and I feel like I now can't have that because it would look like I am copying her.

I know it sounds really silly and I really need to get over myself and hubby keeps telling me I'm being stupid but I can't help it. Does anyone else get it or is it just me?

Right ladies! I'm after your opinions/advice. I don't work so no ML to worry about but I do look after my friend's little boy 3 days a week. He's hard work, 17months old, very big n heavy and developmentally delayed (not walking, communicating or doing anything for himself yet!)

I'm not sure when I should stop looking after him or for how long? Hopefully if all continues going well with my pg I will be having a CS at 38wks but will be in hospital for a week before hand.

Any ladies on their 3 pregnancy who can tell me a bit about coping with a toddler in the 3rd trimester? How much time do you all want to have between finishing work and having your babies. I feel like I should be giving my friend some notice very soon.

Got my MATB1 form today, can't bloody wait for ML to start.
Wanted a nap before I went back to work this afternoon, but the neighbours have turned up now with their hammers. Fml.

After everything you've told me about your friend in the past I would give her notice now with maybe a month to arrange something else if you can hold on that long. tbh she's known you're pg for a while anyway, so it shouldn't come as a surprise to her that you're not able to continue. You're doing it out of the goodness of your heart/unpaid aren't you poly and she's taken the piss with drop off/pick up times as well?

I'm not looking forward to a 3rd trimester with a 3 year old and at 17mo DS was a right little terror!

I'm watching OBEM, there's a Mormon couple who only have sex to reproduce and they're not allowed to have cups of tea!

Also, just watched an epidural being given, didn't realise they stick them straight into your spine. That rules that one out I think!

DH is doing exactly what you're doing lisa - can't have names because his colleagues child is called that or his cousin's child (who I've met once!). I don't care, if I like a name I like a name! It's not copying. Though my Dsis is refusing to tell me her choices as she's due 2 months after me!

As for your DM, after a few months of a DGC she'll forget she ever had a friend called that. If you like it then go for it.

Morning all. We're also keeping quiet on our name choice. So far we both like an old, very usual name that always get mixed reactions (I was actually really shocked that DP like it) so waiting until baby is here before we tell people.

Poly, I have no experience but you need to put yourself first. 34 weeks is reasonable and, if you tell your friend now, she'll have plenty of time to arrange alternative childcare. I drive a desk which is already wearing me out so can only imagine how hard looking after a toddler is.

Mat 1b submitted, I'm leaving at 34 weeks but using 6 weeks holiday before ML though. 10 weeks and counting!

Thanks whats. I'm worried about lifting this one later in preg as he weighs nearly as much as my 4yo. It's a real struggle as he's not mobile and has very little understanding of what you are saying to him. I've just about got him understanding "no"! I'm already refusing to carry him upstairs and I'm getting really fed up if having trace cot in the lounge! (Yes I'm getting irritable a already!)

I'm def gong to say at least 8 weeks after my section. I want to recover and spend some time with my little ones. I might tell her 34wks as a guide but warn her that things may change. I had DS at 36 and went in at 35wks.

Calling I won't tell you what DH said I should tell her but it rhymes with cough!

Oh yes Somerset, 'that couple'! Can't watch tv because of sex, violence and swearing! Can't drink caffeine! No drugs - but high as a kite on gas and air in labour!

Thanks Calling, I know you are right, I just can't get my head around it though and I'm running out of ideas.

My Dsis also said that if I called my baby by a certain name she would disown me. On that one I am taking absolutely no notice because its got nothing to do with her what I call my baby (even though DH dislikes the name), so I can see reason there, its just the "copying" i'm struggling with!

I am another one who would say try to avoid heavy lifting after birth as much as possible. I'm fairly certain my prolapse is due to lifting car seat/heavy kids after a bad tear and stitches.

I am not sure I would join a FB group. I'm totally private on MN and hear so many stories about FB changing privacy settings and I'm wondering if I could out myself on MN.

I would hasten to add that I'm not winning the argument lisa ! I love Sam but he doesn't want to (because his cousin's child is called that and another friend we know has a Sam) but we both have to agree.

With DS we really struggled to find something that we both liked and worked in both languages (Dutch and English) but once we hit on the name we were totally in love with it. Just have to hope that lightning strikes twice and we can agree! It's frustrating when you both have different tastes especially when I'm the one who has to do all the hard work

I feel a meany because he's pushing his late Grandfather's name again but I hate it and in English it's a girl's name, not a boy's and is pronounced completed differently

I think epi wise if natural labour isn't an option (especially as last few scans Ernie has been transverse) an epi is the way forward in pain relief, that way if I can pop one out vaginally the other is likely to come out via cs and then I've already had the epi and avoid further complications/delays altho I have said if one comes out via cs they both might as well... :/ I wanted to avoid epi and cs all together but that's unlikely now.
My only concern with cs is the recovery. If it was 1 baby it wouldn't matter I'd have some respite between feeding and holding and changing etc but with 2 once DH goes back to work and my other help (parents) are working then I've got to deal with them alone which to me means no real rest as such - I don't even have to contend with other small
Children just the logistics of my own new born sons!

poly as silver says out yourself first. You've already done your friend this massive favour and if she doesn't understand then she's being quite selfish about the matter.

I'm still liking rueben (just need to confirm the spelling) no one we know is called this, no family members, no other babies etc just the f1 driver - it's MiL whose bosses sons child (or some relation) is called rowan who is apparently is a little sh*t and it reminds her of that name? She named her children already my turn now! Mwhaha ha

Put not out stupid auto correct

Also add scan went well as could be and I'm less of a risk wooooo so now scan in 3 weeks rather than 2! Which makes me 28weeks and 3rd trimester and out of the woods for any major issues! So much relief massive weight lifted - very happy right now :) x

Ladylel I adore Rowan, but then I'm a knitter and it might make me wince thinking of how expensive Rowan yarn is whenever I call his name

Can't remember if I posted already about the midwife this morning? I'm so so so sleepy.
Anyway, my TSH has gone up slightly from 2 to 3.2, so she's arranged for a consultant endocrinologist to start treating me, which feels very fancy! I imagine they'll just tell me to increase my meds by 25mcg; apparently they like it to be between 1-2 in pregnancy, whereas normally 3.2 would be a perfectly normal reading. I feel well anyway, and my blood results are fine.
However!
About seven years ago I had a medical termination (tablets) with some complications, and I ended up haemorrhaging and needing the operation as well. I was told at the time that I was rh-, and would need an injection in subsequent pregnancies. My blood group has come back now as rh+. I don't remember a lot about the termination, apart from gallons and gallons of blood, but I don't think I would have just imagined being told I was rh-. So I'm now wondering whether that foetus was rh+ and ended up transferring it's positive blood to me, in the process of the termination, like a transfusion, causing me to become positive as well? My mum says she thinks the problem was caused by me being negative and the foetus being positive. It's all very confusing. There's also the possibility that my bloods were read wrong at either time (then or now). I mentioned it to the midwife today and she was puzzled as well, but said they'll be taken again at 28 weeks to be sure, so not to worry. Hmmm!
I'm at work, technically, but I'm actually next door in a coffee shop having tea and reading my book. Whoops.
Hope everyone else is well?

DS was 5lb15oz (2.7kg) at 36+2. Everyone kept telling me how small he was but he didn't feel small to me. He has always been heavier than he looks though.

I'm trying to work out my dates now. It looks like 34w will take me to the first week in November so I could just say I'm stopping having him at the end of October. Fx she takes it well.

Great news Ladylel