October 14, Fred 10. waddling our way through trimester 3!

[mrsb87]

New thread ladies x

I was meant to be working at home today but I only remembered when I was half way to the office! Grrr. I used to be really sociable and love being out and about but now I just want to be at home all the time - anyone else turning into a bona fide hermit?

BadgerInBury I am definitely turning into a hermit. I literally live for the end of day when I can walk in front door, have a nice bath, dinner and sofa :) I wouldn't leave my house if I had my way but with 8 weeks still let this might be a bit much! :)

Ditto that, littlewilliam - mat leave (and holiday) starts in two and a half weeks and I absolutely can't wait...

I'm always a bit of a hermit!

I'm having some really boring appetite and eating problems. I think it's probably still related to such sluggish digestion, but food is becoming such an issue. Need to eat All Bran every morning, otherwise constipation is awful. Eat it, then immediately feel sick and exhausted with a headache for about an hour.. just can't do anything except sit really still. As soon as I stop feeling sick, I get heart burn so have to take antacids, which then make me feel sick again. This all sort of wears off eventually (maybe 2 or 3 hours), by which time I'm hungry and need to eat lunch. Fancy NOTHING to eat, so manage a pot of jelly or an icelolly.. or ideally, just don't bother. Even drinking water feeling like it's going down 'lumpy' - like it does when you feel sick. Don't want to eat anything in the evenings either because the heartburn means I can't sleep. Yesterday I had to get out of the pool at aquanatal to go and take Rennies because it was either than, or vomit in the pool - that was the result of half an egg mayo sandwich 4 hours earlier.

It's quite miserable really. Of my NCT class, one is being induced on Sunday, another is having a C-section on Tuesday... and I'm massively jealous. Only 33 weeks and I'm really done with pregnancy. It's just wiping out all my energy - I'm either eating and feeling shit as a result and wishing I hadn't eaten, or not eating and having no energy. There is no happy medium. I've got SO MUCH TO DO, and at this moment can barely move without waves of nausea.

That sounds awful goats . What does your midwife say? Hope there is someone who can offer some useful advice for you.

Started washing the teeny tiny clothes which is lovely but I have nowhere to put them now they are dry! DH is convinced we can fit all the baby stuff as well as DS's clothes in 1 3 drawer chest of drawers and a toddler wardrobe which is currently full of blankets. All well and good when you're not the one having to find clothes at god knows what hour

Thanks Mum my sisters a bit of a diva and I'm so quite scared about making it. How exciting about your new car!

Goats that sounds awful, really feeling for you. That was how the first 14 weeks felt with morning sickness, couldn't eat anything. Thankfully now it's just meat and lactose (unless cooked, so pancakes are ok, cow's milk in coffee is a no no) I seem to have aversions to.

I'm also a hermit and have been for the last few weeks. Come back to work today but had cold sweats all morning, not sure if I'm going to last the day. Can't believe how much an upset stomach has taken out of me!

Had a chat with DH last night about how he makes me feel guilty for taking time off and tried to explain just how tired I am. He was really sorry he'd made me feel bad, but I still don't think he got it as he replied 'I know how you feel, I'm shattered with work being so busy'

Goats does cheese have any effect on you? Its the only thing that gets my bowels going I end up with the runs but it clears me out.

Ive woke up really meh today and haven't gone to my hospital appointment for no other reason than I cant be bloody bothered I know its bad and im bad but really cant be arsed to do anything today but mope about

binky You know its so funny reading your post about trying to explain how you feel to your OH - i feel like mine will just never understand either... I said last nite how i feel im always moaning about how sore i am to which he replied " i know it must be horrible" .. That is the most sympathy i have had in 7 months, and when DD was born he literally couldnt handle the sound of her crying for more than 10 minz, i said well try listining to that all day every day without a break his reply was " women are programmed to listen to crying babies, men just cant handle it " ... I love him to bits and he is great dad but i honestly dont think he will ever have a clue about just how much you do on a day to day basis to bring up your child and how stressful & exhausting certain situations can be especially when hormones are thrown into the mixture aswell ... They dont quite grasp how amazing us women are !!!

Hello lovely ladies. Apologies for being so quiet for ages but I have been following the thread keenly whilst studying hard. I'm not sure how I managed it whilst being heavily pregnant but I am now a fully qualified beauty therapist which I'm pretty chuffed about! Although the timing could have been slightly better for getting a job…..
I'm 33+3 today and feeling like a beached whale with ever decreasing brain power. I can't remember who mentioned they had a low lying placenta, but it seems I'm in the club too and unless it has moved soon, I will be having a C-section too. I'm not as bothered as I did manage a natural delivery with dd1 but still hoping against odds that I get the chance again. For anyone who has had a planned C section, any tips would be most welcome.
For the ladies with GD, I had it with my first and although the diabetic team are monitoring me I have avoided it so far. But I am still having to be careful with my diet - high protein, low carb seems to work.

Goats sounds like you need to have a chat with your midwife/ care provider as not wanting to eat in case of heartburn can't be healthy. They might be able to suggest alternative food options. I know you don't see/ speak to your midwife much but I've found mine to be really helpful.
Maybe others can suggest safe/ nutritious food to try.

Although my DH is useless around the house, and having a baby will come as a massive surprise/ shock to him he did tell me I was his hero last night and he thought what I/ we women do doing was amazing. Bless him.
So over work right now, 3 1/2 weeks to go

Congrats mrsbadcrumble on your beauty therapy qualification:) ... You will have the skills to make you look like a godess after delivery (",)

munday that was so sweet of your husband to say that :)

gunwalloe that is very naughty!! What kind of appt is it? Can you phone them and say you were sick and go this afternoon? Goooo onnnnnnn. Imagine there was a problem with your BP or urine

Well done Mrsbadcrumble I am in awe of you! I had to defer half of my first year of my degree as I couldn't cope with studying and morning sickness!

I just want to point out my DH is generally being lovely, as I think I'm painting him in a bad light! He did all the cooking and cleaning when I was suffering with morning sickness and has been involved in every step of baby planning, quite often being more excited about things than me. It's just now I'm not physically ill like I was at the start, or maybe because I've been moaning and complaining for 7 months, he doesn't seem to understand my need for doing sweet nothing.

Has anyone read the Discussions of the Day thread about Epidurals? I was under the impression that generally epidurals lengthened labour and there was more chance of intervention. I have chosen a MLU that isn't attached to a hospital, so having an epidural would mean an ambulance transfer during labour to a hospital 10 - 20 mins away and I am now having a panic I have made the wrong decision.

Sorry if this has been previously discussed, but what are other peoples experiences of epidurals? Obviously if I need one, I'm not going to say no but is natural labour really a good choice?

Hi everyone, well done crumble on completing your training, I'm very impressed - I'm still working on my dissertation and finding it so hard to keep going! House re-wire done now though and sockets etc just need plastering now, then we can start getting baby's room ready at last...sounds like most of you are far more organised than me! I'm 33 weeks tomorrow and can't believe he'll be here soon - my sisters went to term or over so I'm hoping i'll be the same and we'll have time to put the cot up and wash some clothes for him!
Had a scan yesterday and my fibroid seems to be same size so all ok for homebirth on that front...but baby now has moved to breech, and then turned to transverse during the scan so I've got to have another consultant appt at 38 weeks to check where he is. Started trying the spinning babies 'forward leaning inversion' last night to give him more room to budge...anyone else have an awkwardly positioned baby? Hoping there's still time for him to move! After doing hypnobirthing and plannign home birth I'd be really sad to not follow it all through. x
Haven't read the discussion on epidurals binky but I'm sticking to my aim to try and avoid epidural at all costs if I can!

Due to an old back injury, and DS being in the back-to-back position for labour, I ended up having to have an epidural, though I had preferred not to. But it was a very positive experience for me and I felt very calm, empowered and delivered naturally. My labour wasn't prolonged, either.
I had no choice about being in the delivery suite, though. Due to prolonged rupture of membranes (waters went the day before labour began) I wasn't allowed in the MLU.

clops yes me...still transverse..! Spinning babies here too (when I remember) and sitting on my ball, doing all fours stuff. I am 31 weeks though so a little bit behind you.

I should also say DS was in the perfect position from 30wks. Little monkey turned around the day my waters broke!
There's loads of time for them to move into position, yet. That being said, I'll be inflating my gym ball very soon!

shirehobbit do you literally bounce on it?

I bounced after about 37 weeks. I did pelvic circles and rocked - really eased tension and pain in my lower back/hips
I used it a lot in labour too.

I've been doing the inversion stuff - not in earnest yet, since only 33+ weeks, but I'm more scared of a spinal block than I am of any other part of childbirth. Last week at a scan the baby was breech as it has been for the whole time at every scan. Just went to see a midwife (first time ever - thought I ought to meet the local ones), and it's finally NOT breech - heartbeat near the bottom. I've been feeling feet under my ribs for the last few days, so hopefully now it'll stay there.

Midwife suggested I get some anti nausea drugs so that I can eat, but it's the heartburn that's the real problem. We'll see - consultant next Tuesday, so will get some then if still struggling.

At aqua last night, the midwife who runs it loaned me a book about positions for birth. Mostly it was about antenatal options for making sure the baby is in the right position, but there were some bits on positions for avoidance of tears - giving the medical reasons why things happen. I'd not read anything so technical before (it was a text book for midwives), but it was great. When I'm finished I'll summarise the main points. Probably nothing we don't already know, but you never know.

Ok so shouldn't be bouncing yet...??? Have been doing circles and sort of leaning on it but have been doing some bouncing

binky i honestly dont think bad your DH:) just dont think men in general through no fault of their own will ever understand how we feel physically & emotionally during pregnancy & after giving birth .., as we will probably will never understand them either ... As long as we try we should get along most of the time ;) .,. I know my OH is absolutly petrified of the whole childbirth experience and i know he worries about this because he didnt enjoy my first birth as it was all a bit of an emergency .. I think he feels totally helpless during pregnancy & childbirth which i dont imagine can feel too nice for him either... Think i would honestly rather it happning to me than having to watch if that makes sense ?

I don't think bouncing is bad, Happy !
I was just paranoid about DS coming early as I had to work up to 38wks (which I managed, and then he arrived a couple of days later)
I'm feeling a little the same this time - need to get to the end of August (don't want them to be in the same academic year) and then I have to get to mid September to qualify for another full year's maternity.
I'm keeping everything crossed - especially my legs!

I agree with you Stigz - must be difficult (tedious/boring/frustrating) to be the one around a pregnant person, or someone in labour. I was talking to a trainee midwife last night who said that sometimes labour is really boring for THEM too. Makes sense really. It's always easier to be the 'ill' (or suffering) person when there isn't actually anything someone helping you can do.

Ooh hadn't thought of that...might just stop bouncing until Sept (that would be early enough imo)!