January 2015 #7: Glowing & growing? Rock on 2nd trimester!

[rumisyum]

Onwards into the 2nd trimester, where hopefully the bumps will overtake the poo factories!

Stats here.

Aww Vivi glad I'm not alone in this!! hugs

Thanks sleep. I know we'll def be entitled to something as our income won't be a lot at all but it's very confusing.

Kate RE Tax Credits from what I know they tend to calculate your tax credits based on your last tax year's income. You can call the taxcredits helpline to talk to real person but not sure how helpful they would be until baby is born.

Yeah mummyk8 I'm trying to work it out as if it's this time next year. I think I'm just gonna have to be patient.

Hey all I am still waiting for me results!

Re: tax credits I think they can help of you call them and give a rough idea of earnings. They go by last years wages. Dh and I have to phone and inform them of changes as he is earning more money now - much more for far less stress! I doubt we will qualify. Cheshire I think of you are going down to just one income of 30000 you will be able to claim a little tax credits. This is why you should labour! ;) Tories are awful when it comes to benefits in general- regardless of wether it's due or not...
Anyway don't get me started on politics ... To hot for all that talk haha ;) ;)

*I doubt we will qualify for much I meant to say- bit still worth it!

** vote labour

Just asked DH about Annabelle. Answer "Sweet name but had an ex called Anna". AAAAARRRGGHHH!!

Well, that gov.uk calculator was educational! 20 quid a week for me, then.

Kate I was given a leaflet for the Money Advice Service - I don't know if they'll give that kind of help? I know what you mean - those calculators are very tedious!

That's a mighty stylish nappy bag, mummyk8! So glad you're feeling better today. Hope you're fully recovered very soon.

And oh gosh yes, I cannot wait till I have a proper bump and can feel the bub and am properly pregnant instead of just looking like I've been at the pies a bit too enthusiastically. That will be amazing.

I hope they call you soon, keep! Do you have bets going on pink or blue?

Thanks Rum! I never thought of them as musical names but I love that that's how they seem to you!

Oh no, Kate, the curse of the exes! Annabelle was looking so promising...

It doesn't bother me about the ex thing but what if she was a proper bitch hee. Anyway we've definitely decided to scrap Lily so we'll see where we go from here. Poop!

vivi we only have one boys name but I have a long list of girls names just in case. Will gladly share them when we find out.

I think you should treat yourself to that bag mummyk you have been through a lot and we all deserve a little something to keep our spirits up.

I once filled in the form for tax credits presuming we'd get something as we were on one wage at the time but our outgoings weren't a lot because we are careful, and so it turned out we qualified for nothing. Charming. Always the way, being the squeezed middle, trying to do your best but you'd be better off if you didn't make the effort! Grrr. Politics.

15+3

I love Robyn for a girl and Rory for a boy. We are finding out the sex (hurry up 17th sept) and will probs change our minds.
I got my Downs results this morning, I'm low risk.

Good news on the test results blizy :)

Yay great news blizy!

Great news blizy.

Ooh baby names. We struggled to pick a name for DS. We had three picked out then three days before he was born scrapped them all and picked Zachary. DH wants to use one of the names this time but I feel a bit like they were the reject names even though they are lovely. I like Dylan though, may have to suggest it. Typically we have a girls name picked out that we loved with last pg and still do. As this will be last pg for me we'll never get to use it I'm destined to just be surrounded by boys lol.

15 weeks (one of these days I will remember!)

I had a lovely girls name picked out for DS - but alas he was a boy and then my SIL used something that whilst it wasn't my name it is too close for us to use if this one is a girl - bit annoyed as my name was so pretty

DP wants to name baby after various people on his side of family. I keep pushing them off the table purely as I want baby to have its own name and not be after great uncle so and so.

I told him he can either have the first name or surname, but doesn't get to chose both... one way to get more freedom for choice!

Are you having a boy this time then looby?

That's a bit annoying sleep. I'd be miffed. We won't name baby after family because we wouldn't be able to choose and it'd have loads of middle names.

Yes Kate, another little boy

We used my dad's middle name for DS middle name as he died a few months before I fell pg and we wanted to feel like we had included him in it even though he never knew he was going to be a grandad. but otherwise I don't think we would use family names. Everyone understood why we chose it for DS but I don't think we'd use other family names this time. It would be hard to choose and feel like favouritism.

Minibagel I think I might just buy it. Could do with a pick me up.

Funny true story re baby names but only really works if you know my last name (see our FB group) I had a lovely boys name picked out for DS that I really had my heat set on. In the delivery sweet while the anaesthetist was trying to calm me down and talk me into having an epidural (I was 10cm when I got to the hospital and DS turned out to be an undiagnosed breech resulting in an emergency c-section) he asked what I was going to call the baby. I told him Isaac.

anaesthetist " Oh no Ms H you can't call your baby Isaac."

me "I'll call my baby what ever I like!"

anaesthetist "No I'm sorry you can not call your baby Isaac!"

me "Please shut up!" (ok so maybe I didn't use the word please )

anaesthetist " Ok so your going to call your baby Isaac H? Isaac H?"

Then it sunk in.

Mummk8, I just snorted my diet coke laughing! Glad you listened to the anaesthetist.

Haha, mummyk8, it's a good job it was pointed out to you.

I was a welfare rights and debt adviser for nearly 10 years, so I have already calculated our tax credits! Me and my DP have low incomes after we both changed career so even though I'm only going to get SMP with tax credits we're not going to be much worse off. If you want a benefit check I'd recommend seeing if they have an adviser at SureStart, the local ones all do. It can be a nightmare to get your head round tax credits on your own.

I felt so light headed today. I was at work talking to a colleague and it just came over me and I had to go and sit down for about half an hour!

Sleep I'm in the same situation and have the same view - baby will already have his surname so not sure why it should also have a name from his side of family - and like you say, for me it's important that baby has its own name chosen for our reasons. Think hubby has come round to this way of thinking but am sure in-laws will be unhappy. We are planning not to discuss names with any friends or family to avoid getting into arguments over this before baby is born!