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The final *JULY 2014* The one where we ALL move to post-natal

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justhayley · 11/07/2014 04:31

Hiya so this will probably be our last ante natal thread GrinGrin Really hope that our postnatal thread is as busy.
You ladies have been a great support, and it's been fab going through pregnancy with you all. I honestly don't know how I would have got through the last 6 weeks of 4am wakings without you.

I'm not due till 24th and have no signs baby is still coming early so will probably be the last one one here - don't forget me!

Anyway will love you and leave you - actually will now pop back onto our regular thread for a chat Smile

Happy birthing Thanks

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elliejjtiny · 01/08/2014 21:54

Forgot to add that the HV did Ds5's 6 week check and asked if he could smile. I said no, so she spent ages tickling his chin until his mouth moved about a millimetre and then she wrote "not sure" in the red book. Now anyone who reads it is going to think I don't know what a smile is Hmm.

AuntieMaggie · 01/08/2014 22:15

ellie I don't know how you mum's manage with so many dc - I'm not surprised you're tired! Be careful with your pelvis - mine was fine for a couple of weeks post birth but my public bone is now playing up and apparently misaligned! Oh and I'm upset about ds not fitting some clothes too :(

Emilybunny · 01/08/2014 22:56

mupperoon I've been surprised by how rude people are during my pregnancy... Strangers who think it's ok to either comment on the size of me "how many weeks are you, ooh looks like a big baby you look ready to burst" or just to grab my stomach and rub it... I've never even met you before... Although perhaps it is worse with family and friends because you can't really be short back to their comments. As you said your right for your due date so try to take it all with a pinch of salt even when you just don't want to hear these things right now :)

Good luck kitkat how many days/weeks are you now? I feel like I'm going to be the last one, my mum says me and my sister were 2 days late and quick labours maybe I can be hopefully for similar... I'll be 40+2 tomorrow and have a MW appointment in the morning so maybe they might offer me a sweep....

zing so sorry to hear hiw unwell and stressed you are... Is there anything with a similar taste to tomatoes you could try to replace with, maybe something citrus or salady/savoury... It will probably really hard to try to think of shopping or food with a newborn but maybe see if a friend or family could drop by with something, or go online and try something like a graze box, I really hope you start to feel better and more positive soon and that you manage to get something to eat once you are feeling well enough for that, just to keep your strength up and remember you can do this, even in the times when you think you can't!

Congratulations nancy beautiful name enjoy :)

KitKatChick · 01/08/2014 23:19

I'm 40+2 today emily so only a day ahead of you. I think a sweep is offered routinely at 40 week check if it is your first baby. Not a very nice experience but it's over quite quickly so if nothing happens and I end up going back next week of give if another go. But let's hope we'll have our babies by then!

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 02/08/2014 02:17

Congratulations nancy!

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Collie1806 · 02/08/2014 14:13

Huge congratulations to all of those who have had their babies!

zing hope things settle down quickly for you and the diet changes aren't too stressful.

Is anyone else having huge issues leaving LO? It started off just being a bit anxious about people holding him when we got home and now it's escalated to the point where I was a complete mess about leaving him with DM so I could go for a nap after having very little sleep last night. I completely trust her I just feel sick at the thought of being away from him (even if it is only downstairs!). Anyway, now DM is hugely offended and thinks I don't trust her, DH doesn't understand why I'm being so clingy(although he is being very supportive and constantly reminding me I don't have to do anything I d

Collie1806 · 02/08/2014 14:14

Oops, accidental post.

...don't want to). I'm just feeling very alone and not sure how to cope with this anxiety Sad. I don't even feel like I'm properly enjoying DS because I'm so tired/terrified to leave him, it's like a vicious circle!

Fourlittleclones · 02/08/2014 15:50

collie don't worry. I think the way you are feeling is perfectly normal . I have just had dc4 and have felt like this with all of them. He has been part of you for the last 9 months so of course it feels wrong to be apart. I was probably worse - not wanting anyone to hold my children due to them changing their smell. With dd1 My mil held her and 'infected' her with her perfume and I seriously lost the plot for a while. In my experience, with time, the anxiety will reduce and you will find it easier let those you trust step in for a while.

Howly · 02/08/2014 16:20

Charlotte Joan Eustice born 9.25am on the 2nd August 2014 weighing 8lb 5oz, water birth with gas and air!

Plateofcrumbs · 02/08/2014 16:56

collie I have been the opposite, quite relaxed about other people holding DS, taking him out for a walk etc. so obviously I am now worried I don't love him enough or must have PND or something. Worrying about whether we are worrying enough or are worrying too much must be the definition of new motherhood!

lentilpot · 02/08/2014 17:01

Our baby boy was born on Thursday! I'm so happy he's here but he had a bit of a hairy journey into the world, starting with meconium in my waters and ending with heavy blood loss in the delivery room. But he's delicious and totally worth it (he's sleeping on my chest now).

Congrats to everyone else!

mupperoon · 02/08/2014 17:31

Congratulations to Howly and lentil!

Triage confirmed today that I am NOT leaking and am just as tightly done up as before, and baby is still only 2/5 engaged. So a second sweep on Monday, then I am running out of time for a spontaneous labour and will be induced next Sunday. Nnnggaaargh. I bet I'm the last one on this thread!

GrouchyKiwi · 02/08/2014 17:53

Congratulations Howly and lentil! Hope you're all recovering well.

Milk coming in today. My breasts are like rocks and Sophia isn't all that interested in eating right now. Flipping typical. Will need to have a good expressing session, but worried that that will just increase the supply in the end anyway.

GrouchyKiwi · 02/08/2014 17:54

I feel your frustration, mupperoon. Hope your body decides to be nice to you (well, you know what I mean!) so you can meet your little one very soon.

Fox28 · 02/08/2014 18:21

I'm still waiting too Mupperoon!

Congratulations Howly and Lentil!

Emilybunny · 02/08/2014 19:16

I'm waiting too mupperoon and fox ...
No signs of anything for me except a few dull
Period pains, back ache and a bit of nausea this morning!

Congratulations howly and lentil :)

BlueC2 · 02/08/2014 19:40

Apologies in advance for the 'me me' post but feeling v emotional. DM and DSD been here all week though left last night-been great having them here though hard work at times and they're not as able and energetic as they used to be (DM late 60's and DSD late 70's). The reality of them slowing down and also DSD's age has been hitting me which is hard. Also DM just emailed as we still need to go and scatter Gma and Gdad's ashes and need to arrange when (they passed away overseas April 13 and June 14) which has also hit me pretty hard as I do v much miss them and so sad they never met DD and only Gma met DS :( Meanwhile I am shattered (who of us isn't permanently exhausted at the moment?!) and DD has got used to cuddles and sleeping on DM or DSD this week so now doesn't want to settle unless being held! DS been hard work today too. sorry for moan, just needed to get it all out!

Congrats to howly and lentil :)

Hope things get moving soon for those still waiting - come on babies the postnatal thread is calling (as well as lots of cuddles and yummy milky!)

BlueC2 · 02/08/2014 19:44

Oh and to top it all we've run out of chocolate :(

Just tried putting DD down and she's woken up and crying again

mupperoon · 02/08/2014 20:29

Blue is there anyone you can send for emergency chocolate? You've had a lot of emotional stuff to deal with this year! I know what you mean about it hitting you that the parents are getting on - seeing how spindly my dad's legs are these days always makes me sad. It's even worse with all these hormones washing through us.

Kiwi Just re-read your positive birth story to counteract the rather dramatic wailing I saw at the hospital this morning! How brilliant that your midwife let you get on with it without "coaching". What is the wonderful suppository for?

Fox and Emily I've been watching YouTube videos of newborns this afternoon to try and trick my body into getting on with it. So far I've just managed to dehydrate myself with crying and get annoyed with how rude the trolls are about these beautiful little babies!

NancyinCali · 02/08/2014 21:09

Congrats lentil and howly! Come on the rest of the babies, we want to meet you!

blue [sends mountain of chocolate via airmail]

zing hope you're feeling better very soon!

Sorry for not replying to everyone else, hard to remember even my own name right now!

Everything good with us apart from the agonising after pains! She's feeding well, sleeping well (7 hours straight last night, that may be a one-off I suspect). I'm healing well from 2nd degree tear. Despite the after pains I'm feeling so much better than after dd1.
I think being looked after in hospital is helping. I get two nights paid for by insurance. Private room, all my meals, lactation consultant, regular pain meds etc. Even though I miss dd1, it's good to have this time to establish breastfeeding and bond. Looking forward to my own bed tomorrow night though!

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 03/08/2014 01:40

Congratulations howly and lentil!

DS gets to meet his new cousin tomorrow - SIL gave birth on Thursday. Excited that they are only 3 weeks apart in age!

Also - he's just slept for 6 hours - this follows 2 nights of 4 hour stretches (before that he was waking every 2). Should I be cautiously optimistic that this means he's worked out days and nights (he's still waking 2-3 hours during the day)? Swaddling him before putting him down for the night seems to have helped.

nancy glad you're recovering well and being well looked after.

blue wish I could send you some chocolate!

mupperoon I also (to my surprise) had a fairly positive birth! Meant to write it u

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 03/08/2014 01:43

Whoops - tired thumbs...

Meant to write up whole thing on here but have never got round to it. In summary: it wasn't all that bad, I got to use the pool for some of it, gas and air was wonderful, DS arrived within 5.5 hours. It really is luck of the draw, I think.

GrouchyKiwi · 03/08/2014 06:26

Why does no-one tell you about the after pains?! Your care sounds like a great experience, nancy.

mupperoon the suppository is 12 hours of pain relief in the form of ibuprofen. It really helped with the tear and stitches.

Have worked out that the best thing to do with engorged breasts is just to feed as normal. They're doing a lot better now.

NancyinCali · 03/08/2014 06:41

I had no idea they would be this bad kiwi! I seem to be on a good pain med regimen now though and the nurses are making sure I get them promptly.

Had a bit of a meltdown earlier. The night shift nurse is a little intense and constantly bombarding me and fussing about stuff (like feeding records, not feeding long enough and my latch etc.) Everyone else has been really encouraging and it has knocked my confidence a bit. DH told me I was being arsey with her and that just set me off crying. So although being in hospital has been great in the main, I'm missing home right now! And DD2 is looking like she's going to be a bit more wakeful tonight which whilst expected I was hoping for a re-run of last night Wink.