April 2007 - strange cravings and even stranger dreams....

[liath]

Brand new thread for the due in April gang!

Hot topics - useless DH/DPs and pickled onion monster munch!

mammyjo, i said the same, i wouldn't want a termination even if it was high risk so not sure i should bother with the blood test. i think men get scared at things they see as 'abnormal' but if you didn't have the test and then give birth to a gorgeous baby, who happens to have downs, he'd learn to love that baby anyway x

Thanks everyone. I am so happy to be pregnant again and dont remember having such an issue with this first time round. Ellie K I think you might be right about it being a man thing. It just shocked me really that his opinions were so definite. In reality his choices may be very different and like you say, you love your baby whatever. In my mind I know a lot of my thoughts are irrational and realistically my baby should be fine but there is always that tiny doubt too.
Thanks to you all for responding. Its great to be able to come on here and vent your anxieties. Other people who are not in the same position just dont get it do they? I have my dating scan in just over a week and I know they look at the nuchal fold then so I am hoping for some peace of mind following that.
Thanks again guys, the support is invaluable.

Forgot to say good luck Peajay for Tuesday. Hope all is well xx

I am also 33! Have never had any tests/nuchal scans and wasn't planning to have one this time either - I just feel that the accuracy isn't great and you still are only given a 'one in xxxx' chance - would rather deal with it if it happens than worry about whether to have a termination or worry for the next 7 months as to what may or may not happen. So taking the 'ostrich' approach and have head firmly stuck in sand!

Hope all goes well on tuesday PeaJay.

Bucky - if you're reading this - hope you're okay - I remember our scan was on monday xxx

Head stuck in sand approach has its merits!! My mind was clear about what I would or rather would not do, its just that my bloody dh has really stirred things up and now I dont know what to think. Men eh!

i'm 35 and this is my first. full of nerves, doubts and fears but my dp and i had lengthy discussions on this before we were planning pg and we clear and agreed what our feelings and plans are. i intend to have the full screening and will be paying privately for the nuchal screen as it isnt offered here. i want as much info as possible to make choices and decisions. Those decisions may differ from what other people have said here but i guess none of us know what we would do until we are faced with it. we will all decide what is right for us and our own circumstances.
fingers , eyes, ears crossed for us all.
liath- hope you and the bobble hat had a lovely day out hillwalking!

This is my first post on here. I live in London and I'm 37 and pregnant for the first time after trying since late last year, 8 weeks last Tuesday so due date 24.04.07 - my first hospital visit including a scan will be on 12 October - would probably be earlier but I'm on holiday for 2 weeks and that's just the day after we get home. I'm feeling tired and sick (though not actually being sick) all the time and have been quite useless today and other weekend days since I started feeling symptoms at 6 weeks. I'm glad to see others feeling so many of the anxieties I've been expressing about what if something goes wrong etc etc. Thanks for voicing so much of what I'm thinking to all until I plucked up courage to post.

Hello and Welcome Elkie - Good to have you with us!! My EDD is 26th - so v.close to you!

@ No of 33 yr olds on here!!

I am young, so I know my risk of Downs is v.low, but it wouldn't make any difference to DH or I if the baby was affected - I think it is better to know before they are born though, if poss - just to prepare yourself etc. So tough for having a convo like that mammyjo - it is so strange when someone so close to us says something we didn't really expect - expresses a view we didn't know they held. It is good you had the convo though - it is good you can be open and honest with one another.

Thinking of you all as you approach scans etc - exciting times!!!

Still feeling v.weird, tired and sick all the time - and DH appears to also be PG too - any one else having this trouble???? Pleeeeease tell I am not the only one!!!!! Pleeeeease!!!

Gotta go - DD1 would like to "sing" to me, bless her!!

Welcome Elkiedee!

It is a great place to say how your'e feeling without being embarrased or alone - and what I particularly like is that no-one judges eachother which is great. Its like a mini drop in centre for the sick and tired! It won't be long before we onto bump sizes, backache, bump belts, matenity clothes (some of us sooner than others!) and 20 week scans! I really like it here xx

CD - don't think could cope if DH was pg! Bad enough when he has a cold lol x

hi there elkiedee!! captain dippy - is you dd recreating the xfactor for you on a sunday morning??
i think Dp is having my cravings for me and somehow he seems to have put on weight. more thanhappy for him to take on some of the other symptoms as well! i have given up smoking 9about time), given up coffee and all alcohol so missing some of my pleasures in life. bless him - he sneaks into the study to indulge in coffee and a beer so i dont feel bad. i am workingon him to give up something in sympathy. he says it might be blueberry muffins bit i dont hink that is enough. any of your dp / dh given up something while you are pg???

weeonion - both last time and this DP has given up peanut butter, as I can't have it - even though I said he doesn't have to. Last time, I did buy it for him occasionally (and probably will this time, too), but usually he eats it every day. If I suggested he give up booze, he'd just laugh...

i didnt even suggest the beer to him either - i think the hoots of derisive laughter would be heard in another country!

Hi all. Thanks to you all for your thoughts on the downs issue. Basically I have decided to have the bloods done and take it from there. If it shows a relatively low risk then that will be that. If not I will cross that bridge when I come to it.

I am 12 weeks today!! Still feel like crap though!

Welcome Elkiedee. This is a really friendly thread so I hope you will feel comfortable to join in and post Hoping you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

My DH has give up alcohol except for the odd lad's night out and a recent wedding which is sweet. However, what is NOT sweet is eating Brie with a rather wicked smile in front of me !

However, he too has had 'symptoms' - tiredness, heartburn (even I haven't had that yet)! But as you say, if they were really pg, wouldn't we know it!!

This IS a friendly threat and now I wonder what I would do without it! Welcome newcomers.

The downs issue is a difficult one - we will wait for the blood test and see the chances and take it from there if high risk. Agree better to know that not though

Hope everyone having a good weekend!

Soooo pleased it is not just me doghouse - he is driving me crazy with his "symptoms" Perhaps I should be more sympathetic, but finding that hard atm. He is lovely and helpful though most of the time, despite his tiredness and sickness!!

How's everyone else?? Good weekends??

I have survived the weekend! Managed a lemon & rocket risotto for luch and a glass of red wine - courtesy of dh! Let down by the fact he has decided that if we have a boy he wants to call it Roy - his dad's name NO WAY! But slightly redeemed by leaving the new kitchen plans to me! (within his strict budget regime of course) Have decided to have a chic/sleek effect with one of those double american fridge freezers - man coming in the morning to measure up...

Very jealous of the 12wk'ers! Congratulations!

that's week'ers by the way!

quite good weekend here - mostly working for big impt week ahead. did have a weep at eastenders omnibus today.

v of yr new kitchen CD - i really want one before the baby.

we also had the names chat and have decided on a short list for both. steering clear of all family references - thank god!

another week over for all of us - a week closer to it all!!

Hi All and welcome to the newbies.Good luck to all who have scaans soon and congrats to those that have had em.
Mammyjo i am 37 and dp and i have decided not to have tests etc as they can't predict the degree/severity of Downs.It's a tricky one isn't it and i think its very much up to the individual.Good luck with your decision and congrats on 12 weeks
I have been soooooo ill today.I ave a migraine and can't take my usual tablets so have had paracetamol which were ineffective.and have had an upset tum and been vomiting.Fortunately i can sit on the loo and be sick in the sink at the same time...what luxury
Hope your cat has returned bubaloomaybe it's just punishing you for being away.
Here's to a great week for us all.

Hope evryone had a good weekend!

Had a good walk on saturday although despite a good forecast the weather was a bit pish - went up a mountain with the promise of spectacular views at the top and only saw the inside of a cloud! Oh well, it was great just to get out & about.

I've suggested to DH that he might give something up for 9 months and been met with a very negative response, the git! I've gone right off alcohol some am not really missing it at the moment anyway.

No sign of Buckfyans for a few days - hope you're OK.

Morning all. I have just dropped ds off at school for his first day and have come home in floods of tears - how irrational is that. I have been taking him to a private nursery and to a playgroup for ages but for some reason this has upset me. Maybe its just me being overly hormonal as I was surprised at my own reaction. Could feel myself filling up in the classroom but held it together til I got to the car! He went in really well with no tears at all, found himself a hoover to play with and just waved goodbye! He is only there for 2.5 hours a day this week too so I have to go and pick him up by 11.30!!

DH says if can get interest free credit (most saved up) can have new kicthen b4 christmas!! We would have to eat out every night though - bummer!

DH not giving anything up - he did ask me though what I was planning to buy him for the birth of the baby (SHOCK!) - he got me an eternity ring for no.1 and saphhire ring for no.2 and he got it in before I even drop any hints about those lovely diamond earrings in the jewellers window!! I think I may be able to get away with a new golf club or cool head cover (SAD!)

Do any of your parents gasp in horror when you mention you are buying anything? My mum goes all pre-war-1960's living/costs whenever I mention I am going to buy anything - from a saucepan to a car - she has to comment on the price/why I need it - where I can get a crap one much cheaper etc etc - it drives me nuts! I have given all my baby stuff to my sister over the past few years - and although she is giving most of it back (thankfully!) I mentioned in passing to my mum that I was planning to get a new cot and she almost fainted/went on and on about how my sister should give it back etc - in the end I just snapped 'because I WANT one!' It isn't like we buy loads of stuff - I use freecycle and have loads of stuff given to me/buy off ebay etc - I think I just need to refrain from telling her stuff!

Feel much better now - had to get it off my chest! Hope I'm not alone here!

Kitchen man due any minute - if fails to show will bin them instantly!!

Poor you mammyjo... I bet he's having a whale of a time though!!! Hormones are rubbish... I was crying at x factor yesterday!!! Hope you all had a nice weekend, we had planned to do loads of nice things but when it actually came to it I couldnt be bothered.... still had a nice relaxing one, didnt feel quite as sick which was good. Went to a friends 40th on Saturday night with dp and people from work... it was in the Railway workers club... think of the worst place you have ever been to... multiply it by 100 and you are still no where near... I'm really not a snob but this place was just minging!!! It was stinking which I think is made worse by pregnancy!! Had lots of sleeps too which is nice. Sickness back with avegance this morning.... sitting with a cup of hot water with some lemon sliced in.. its actually quite nice and is meant to be good for.... "loosening things up" ... anyone else found that they just cant go??? Sorry if TMI for first thing on a monday..

I am struggling to "go" in that department too. Hot water and lemon is supposed to be good so hopefully you will find it helps. Last week I went for 4 days before going. It becomes quite uncomfortable too. (Hope no-one is still having breakfast)!!