February 2015 #2: Is the first trimester over yet?

[freneticfox]

Shiny new thread for us all!

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Tidying here too, we are still clearing the devastation from holiday, who knew you could pack away so much in a caravan!?!

Wedding anniversary today, four years but we've decided on cards or gifts, I might make a cake though if I have time :)

Jack happy anniversary!
I went downstairs to find dh cleaning all the windows! I need a drink and a bit of time to wake up before I start!

Hi folks, hope you don't mind me joining in?! I'm 11 weeks with no3 (eek) due 11th Feb and scan on 4th August. Really want to get the scan out of the way and all being we'll start telling people! Feeling pretty grotty but I think less sick than with my other two although I'm utterly exhausted but I think I can blame my 3year old and 17 month old for that!

Morning all

cactus glad it's partially positive with telling your ds, sounds like a tricky situation with the exoh though

memphis I think I would have just stood next to the food with my fork :D

Boo to crap family bimberly - do you get on well with them most of the time? I love my family dealt but they can be a little bit flaky re organisation sometimes!

2.30am bed time for me following yet another hen. I'm finding the only thing keeping me awake that late, with no drinks is to dance- get are killing me now!

Need to get up soon and write up some wedding cake design notes/hide the ironing- couple coming over for consultation in under 4 hours

Haha, and yet again, have spent do long composing a post, someone else had joined us- welcome rozbos

I've reached the headache stage..what fresh hell is this?!

Hi Rozbos, same due date as me!

Our kids are 10, 7 and 6 (the 7 yo is mine!). We're hoping the baby news will make them feel more connected although we've been together nearly 5 years. Hadn't factored in the jealousy stuff.. We're telling our exes before we tell the kids but be straight forward. Can't predict for the kids tho I'm optimistic.

I'm supposed to be clothes sorting (am home alone) but only ever have a 20 min spurt of energy before I need a lie down!

Cactus hope DS is finding it easier today.
Bangles - can I have some of your energy?

Hope everyone gets some time to relax today!

Welcome Rozbos we're the same due date, I've my scan on the 7th

Frenetic do you still have nausea? I'm truly out of that phase thank god, but I woke up with a mild headache and sore back of neck yesterday which gradually increased to tension headache/migraine with nausea on the side. I had to cancel all plans yesterday and sit in a darkened room with an Ice pack at the base of my skull. Finally subsided by 8pm. This morning it started again but I went for a massage so it's just neck pain / base of skull so far fingers crossed.

A mate who is a midwife mentioned cranial osteopathy. Which I'm going to give it a try this week. Can't wait to go back to yoga at 13 weeks!

I still have night nausea, I'm taking Ondansetron for it, but it still has me in tears most days. Desperate for some let up but at only 11+5 I'm not counting on it any time soon :(

The only thing that curbs the headache is sleep or massage so I suspect tension. How far along are you viper?

Frenetic I'm one day behind you 11+4

I really can't wait for next trimester I'm desperate for some energy to exercise and socialise again!

Oh I coughed while on my back in darkened room yesterday and I had the sharpest stab pain in my abdomen in the baby area it was so painful and felt numb for a few minutes after. Any ideas anyone? This was about 20 hours ago and no blood or further pain since

Viper I get this everytime I sneeze it is to do with all the ligaments and muscles softening and is normal.

We are supposed to have friends around for tea but ds's bottom has just exploded by epic proportions so have messaged them. Been cleaning and gardening most of the day with a small trip to invest in roof bars. Figure we need a roof box if next year it will be ds, baby and a dog in the car!

Thanks Memphis incredible such a minor thing can cause such a reaction. Prepping us for the big push?

viper I've been getting a load of those stabbing pains too, when I cough but also if I sit up quickly etc.. And I spend a lot ofy working life at ground level so happenned quite a lot until I finally 'learnt' and started moving differently. It's just the muscles adjusting themselves to our new circumstances. Though if my bladder 'shrinks' by much more I'm in trouble ;-)

Geeky wait until the baby uses it as a trampoline, I remember not being able to roll the last inch from the bed wailing to dh push me push me because I was sure I was going to pee myself!
With ds I wentloo every 5 mins (well it felt like it) just for a tiny drip of wee then it eased off And I was ok until the last few weeks again, this time I wee less than I did before I feel pg probably only about 3 times a day!

I got given the baby playmat I wanted with ds that was £55 and couldn't afford it this week so pleased, mum also got a set of baby grows! Need to clear a draw to put stuff in, still weirdly doesn't feel real!

Geeky I've def had it sitting up quickly, just not as sharp. 'Moving differently' please expand, I no like pain so want to avoid

DP is away this weekend at his parents, just had daily skype call, miss him so much! We've agreed we wont be apart for a loooooong time now, well until after papette arrives

'Moving differently' for myself is repeating all the things I'm supposed to do when my back is bad. Basically rolling onto your side from laying flat, getting your legs onto the floor and using an arm to prop yourself up to sitting position. It's all just generally thinking before you move and levering yourself around rather than using the stomach/back muscle combination on their own. However, a few sit-ups done in a controlled manner can actually help with keeping both sets of muscles strengthened but obviously only as long as it's not causing you any pain / discomfort. With my physical job / history of back 'trouble' I've got to admit I'm a bit scared of my back 'going' in pregnancy but fingers crossed.

Hi ladies, sorry I have been so quiet for so long. I haven't had anything positive to say thanks to life-shattering morning sickness. I am on zofran + phenergan and taking each day at a time. I am 13 weeks + 3 days. 12 weeks scan was lovely and gave me strength to carry on. Luckily DH has been amazing. I would be seriously fed up by now if I were him, eg he isn't allowed to eat anything smellier than untoasted bread in the house! Poor guy. My birthday is on Thursday and I am desperately hoping I get a few hours of respite then. I feel so incredibly isolated and worn down. All that said, I am still extremely grateful to be pregnant and I know it will be worth it. I am enjoying reading all your comments and hope I will be able to contribute something cheerier and more positive soon! Take care all.

PS frenetic - sorry to hear you are in same boat. Zofran gave me monster headaches too. And constipation. Followed by diahorrea. 'Fresh hell' is exactly the phrase. I found crying and screaming and throwing a massive tantrum helped a bit.... Good luck.

Viper also get pains here mainly when I sneeze or cough and also after DTD. I've had a few days off work and not back until weds so trying to relax a bit and make the most of the peace while DP is working and DS with his dad. Not really gone to plan as just spent all weekend catching up on housework.
Scan on Tues and this time off isn't helping I just keep worrying. This baby has been a long time coming.
Anybody else struggling to iron maternity tops? I can now see why I avoided them 1st time around. They're such a pain. Looking forward to getting bigger so I can fill them a bit better so I dont need to iron them.

Proudly, I feel for you and right there with you on the feeling isolated. I can feel everyone around me getting so frustrated; I work in an office where most people have children, but they either suffered little or no morning sickness, so roll their eyes when I say how rough I'm having it.

I'm going back to the GP in the morning to see about being signed off again, I made it through a full week last week, but at a cost... I've not slept at all really the last few days from a mix of over exhaustion and nausea. It's made more tricky by the fact work put A LOT of new pressure on me. I feel like an absolutely rubbish woman for not coping well with this. Sorry for the whine, there!

I can also generally only currently stomach fattening stuff, so all my clothes are tight - I genuinely just look bloated and overweight, which isn't helping matters -_-

Haha, hazzer. I bet i sound really smug!

On the flip side my most googled thing at present is 'can you get a false positive on two pregnancy tests'. Still totally expecting to get to the scan to be told its all been a horrible ruse!

Oh, I know exactly how you feel, I did a full week last week and it nearly destroyed me. I think I will sign myself off this week. I'm so sorry to hear about your work. F*ers. I read some hyperemesis forums and so many women in the US have lost their jobs due to it, which makes me so angry. I think you should definitely get signed off if you can. If you felt this sick and you weren't pregnant you wouldn't be at work or feel guilty about it. I am extremely lucky my colleagues are v supportive, eg my manager even said 'if you are sick for the whole nine months then so be it, your health is the most important thing'. Maybe you could present them with some of the literature on severe morning sickness so it brings it home to them? Or is that just really unrealistic? I really hope you are getting the right support at home. You are an amazing woman and don't let anything or anyone let you think otherwise!

It astonishes me how much women (me included!) are willing to be judged about these sorts of things. I was thinking the other day that if I am sick all pregnancy then I want an elective c section at 39 weeks on the dot (not that I think a c section is an easy option by any stretch of the imagination- just a potentially 'on time' option!) Then I thought 'oh, that makes me sound like a terrible mother', which is ridiculous really given what I've been going through.

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts and words about DS and the situation with his biodad - he's had a busy day, but is very emotional - i'm expecting some more meltdowns as he comes to terms with things. I suspect there's a lot going on in his head (even subconsciously) about his relationship with his biodad, his relationship with DP (who he adores) and the baby.

Frenetic - it could well ease up soon - much of the sickness is progesterone related, and could well ease up in the next week or so as the placenta starts to take over.

After a bit of a horrific time (and a bit of time off work) I think I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with the ms Am 13+2 and the midwife did say 12-14 weeks is usually when it starts to subside.
Crossing my fingers that it carries on getting better and that it does for everyone else on here really suffering x

proudly, thank you so much for the kind words, I think I'd be a lot worse off mentally if it weren't for this place, for sure. I don't understand why work has to be so difficult - other departments have had pregnant women and no issues, but I always seem to land myself in a troublesome dept. I'm going to ask my GP if she can recommend a staggered return when I do go back - I suffer from chronic pain and have had to stop all my painkillers since being pregnant and my GP is quite surprised I've managed to work as long as I have with the sickness as well.

Keep reminding myself that ultimately this is what I want and after more than 10 years together, DH and I are definitely ready for this!

Then there's the gripping paranoia as I approach my 12w scan (I'll actually be 13w by the time I'm scanned). I know that odds are in my favour, but I can't help feel a little bit of panic!