October 2014 #9 - Into the home straight we go, 3rd trimester here we come!

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Keep up the chitter chatter ladies!

Fed up I was def more paranoid last time, but J was conceived my first cycle after a MC.

Goats my DH does take a fairly avid interest but I don't think he really bonds until after birth. Just as long as he's not setting a precedent that anything baby related is your job I shouldn't worry. Equally 31 weeks isn't super early to buy stuff by any means.

My pal's sis who had a DS last month has switched to FF as she wasn't coping with cluster feeding. She'd always advised us we just needed to be stricter with our babies and they'd feed every four hours like the books say. I think she's realised strict and newborns is . Sadly she switched because her DH said he'd help with night feeds but he now can't be arsed and her boob milk has gone, leaving her alone at night trying to make bottles, let them cool half an hour, all the while trying to soothe a screaming hungry baby who is used to instant boob availability . Tosser!

Goats When I'm shopping for baby stuff it mainly entails me sitting on the laptop and if I see something I like I tilt the laptop towards DH for an opinion and he smiles vaguely/indulgently back! So I've taken to buying stuff without asking him most of the time! He isn't a fan of shopping at all so I'm not annoyed or anything tbh plus we have similar tastes so he knows I won't order anything horrendous.

Oh I've got no concern about his involvement once it arrives, not at all. It's just things like clothing and bouncy chairs and play mats etc. I wouldn't be very interested if I wasn't going to be home all day with it either!!

Goats DH wasn't bothered about play mats and bouncers either - though to be fair we didn't get either until J was 3 months and we got both for a £10 at a Jack and Jill second hand sale. Buggy, car seat and some comedy outfits yes that was more his bag. If your DH is a bargain hunter maybe he'd be more enthused at a second hand sale? There's something v satisfying about getting stuff for a fifth of the price.

FFS just had my sixth nosebleed since yesterday lunchtime. I too will be anaemic at this rate

I'm interested and mrsthedog and I have had disagreements about it all although not many and it was mostly in relation to my irrational nesty nonsense .

I cannot yet bond with baby in the way I would like and that's rough for me but when it comes to all the decisions about how we are going to deal with baby stuff we have made those decisions together.

When I'm shopping for baby stuff it mainly entails me sitting on the laptop and if I see something I like I tilt the laptop towards DH for an opinion and he smiles vaguely/indulgently back!

Yes, that resonates. "Yes dear..."

I've just made a spreadsheet with all the links on of things I'd like (geek much!), I'm just going to give him the opportunity to check it all out. I'm not interested in spending vast fortunes or anything, but I'd like a couple of nice things, just because we have saved so much money on car seats/buggies and the like.

Haha yes that resonates here too!

Maybe it's the how, might be worth a trip together to Mothercare. I struggle to give a shit about any shopping online. If you want him more involved of course :-)

Oh, he doesn't want to go to Mothercare... I only managed to get him in there because it was next door to M&S Simply Food (ie, I conned him).

It sounds like he's being rubbish - he's absolutely NOT. He's been ace in general, but I just don't think he has much interest in what stuff looks like. I don't HAVE to pay for everything either, it could come of the joint account, but I just figure that if it's my choice of pretty things, and that might cost a little more than the basics, then I'll pay. I have saved up a maybe-baby fund, I expect we'll only have one.. so you know, why not?

Also I think he thinks it's too soon. But I was premature, my brother was premature (not much - a few weeks), so I'd just rather be prepared. I'm sure he'd rather me be prepared with stuff in a big bag under the bed, than have to leave me in hospital to run round to Mothercare on his own!!

Lucky you sparkle!

If we had a room available, I'd have set it up by now too - or at least would be doing it over the next couple of weeks - beginning of my school holiday when I'm still mobile. We just don't have our own bedroom sorted yet, it got plastered today though, so next week I can decorate - at least that will start things in the right direction, can think about getting a bedside cot etc.

We have everything we need to start (pretty much) this is in part due to help from parents and in-laws financially to be able to and partly because we couldn't wait. I'm on leave for two weeks now !! Yay!! and the second week is decorating the nursery and putting up the crib etc week.

We have a crin, a moses basket, a pram bit for our pushchair system. Might buy a few more beds yet cos babies sleep like all the time right

I know it was a few pages ago but i definitely second what yellow said about baby bjorns. Its what most people start out with, find it uncomfortable & just think all carriers are the same & stop babywearing which makes me . Babywearing was such a life saver for me as DS was one of those velcro babies who hated the bouncer, Moses basket & pram! Incidentally, he is very non clingy now so anyone that tells you that slings equal needy babies are wrong!

Spreadsheet person here too also helps to even out the cost a bit. Wasn't planning to get a playmat and things til afterwards though?? Have no idea when you start using toys and mats and things, anyone?

sparkle we also had grief from mil about buying everything and leaving nothing for them so I set up a gift list with things we had left to buy and she found everything too expensive and didn't like our taste. Then last weekend she was horrified to hear I still need to repaint half the nursery furniture and told me how disorganised I was. Just can't win! The nursery is set up Ffs and all we have to get is a cotbed and sling!

I have got the following:
Cocoonababy & swaddle thing
Cot bed (flat pack, in a box)
Chest of drawers (ditto)
Baby clothes rail (ditto)
Shelves (ditto)
3 tins of paint that may or may not ever be applied as DH really wants to do it himself
clothes starter pack x3
A ridiculous shopping basket at JL that I need to edit.

Really need to get ass in gear.

Happy honestly they won't even look at a toy for the first three months.

And yes evidence shows that the clingiest kids are not those regularly worn but those left alone in their cribs - so actually its leaving them to toughen up (which can lead to insecurity) which makes a rod for your own back long term! J is really independent just comes back to check in for a cuddle and a chat.

Fab, thank you! Just going to get a cheap bouncy chair and leave the rest then.

Morning ladies

My OH is not really interested in the shopping either. He pretends he is but I see his eyes glaze over when I start talking.. oh well he's happy to pay for what I want so I am happy to buy it on my own. He also says it's an investment in our baby which is kinda cute

Went and did the JL nursery appointment and got the fright of my life - do you know how much stuff a baby needs?? Totally freaked me out

I have just started buying things this week:
Bought a cocoonababy via ebay
A car seat and base
And a nappy dustbin

As soon as we move my SD out of the room, I'll be able to start decorating and then it will be all systems go for getting the nursery decorated.

Sparkle9 the Caboo is the one I'm looking at - but the close caboo (same thing just older) on ebay for more of a bargain... My friend had one and raved about it.

I know the NHS debate is over buuuutttttt.....Puppy and others I wanted to say 100% with you on the NHS. I know people have bad experiences, but I do going into every day blooming shops like tescos sometimes and they are there to make a damn profit. I think you can only have the odd bad experience when you are the largest employer in Europe. It must be so hard to run something like that when it is so large and every government likes to come along and change something. My husband works for the NHS and really it is an amazing thing. Think of the people that get free healthcare no matter what, no money, homeless, drugs and they are ALL entitled to be looked after. No one is turned away no matter what their circumstance - that is amazing. I have lots of american friends and their healthcare is completely overpriced, bad and generally f*cked.

This is my second child and I am so unorganised/relaxed. We are doing quite large house renovations and the whole house is a complete mess. I've had to move out with my ds for 2 weeks because we have no power...I'm not sure if I should be more stressed! We have no where for the new one to sleep and need to totally redecorate the place before I can officially 'nest'! I'm hoping I'll have a couple of weeks before baby is due to get what I need done, get the clothes of the loft to inspect and wash etc! This baby needs to be on time or late I think, early will throw me completely!

I would say generally DP not mad interested but insisted on buying a teddy bear of his choosing and will randomly inform me he just bought a baby swing off ebay (then collect, then decide he doesn't like and put back on ebay ). I really wanted him to be involved with what the baby would wear home, I showed him some ideas and he chose the set. Blankets and other clothes I just bought and showed him when they arrived, he's not bothered, I am so, makes sense. He would've felt it was too early before 20 week scan but not now. ps goats I was horrified to read about your bat incident!! Euuuuugh!

I think we have both started nesting now. Delighted dp is getting rid of some crap and I have urge to go through everything and sort it all, when previously I didn't think there was much to sort!

Is anyone else getting squashed lungs yet? I thought it was a bit early (29wks) but given I am getting prodded on the bottom of my boobs figure it might just be how the baby is sitting/keeping it's feet in my rib cage or somesuch.

I am really fed up of this heat now. Grump grump.