"hey Mummy! Ready or not, here I come! ;-)" - July 2014 thread

[ZingWhale]

Some of us has weeks to go, some just days and of course another massive Congratulations to all who have already given birth!

pack your pads, tiaras, nappies & Vaseline -HERE WE GO!!!

Congrats ismarah mixi and jbiscuits!

All of my cramps/braxton hicks etc appear to have gone for now so Im on the sofa watching a lot of rubbish tv! Bean appears to have not only dropped but has also now migrated to the right hand side of my bump which is a bit uncomfortable!

inca and others in the same boat - had a little cry and rant at dh last night about the little jobs left to do around the house. I explained I was frustrated because Id spent 2 weeks busting a gut to get them done and I just felt like he wasnt trying as hard as he could be with due date in 12 days despite the fact there is actually not that much left to finish it off. Just frustrated as Im not really capable of the bits that are left. Think he finally got it today as he emailed me a link to an article about nesting being normal at this point - obviously an attempt at a veiled apology

I currently have a lemon drizzle cake in the oven which I will swap a slice of for a highly anticipated copy of head tilt if its agreeable zing?

MrsA and inca dh has decided baby will come on the 4th of July - apparently he 'had a dream' ?!

Itsalwaysbetter: it's frustrating not to be able to do as much as usual, I agree. I'm a very active person and I've been finding having to slow down quite hard.

For the rest though, maybe I'm just lucky with my DH, I was just surprised when I logged on to catch up to see that so many people were so cross with their partners, especially when it sounds like some of them were planning rather nice projects.

Fwiw, I'm not sure the house will ever be 100% ready for a newborn. But what the hell, we're committed enough by now. Bring on the baby, I'm bored of waiting...

Ipsum if he is right can you ask him the winning lottery numbers?!

inca

yes please to lemon cake.

you all get one free copy anyway!

I am PMSL at liquid being on house arrest by her DM.

tell me, did she make you wear a police tracing ankle bracelet?

Anyone else with little ones feeling conflicted? DS is still going to nursery while I'm off to give me time to rest, prepare etc which I 100% need.... Though I also think maybe I should be spending more time with him before it all changes. I want to sit with him, cover him in kisses and cuddles, watch a film etc then he misbehaves, I'm knackered and want someone to take him off my hands for an hour!

Fifi - me me me!! Mothers guilt is crap!

Haha Ipsum, how useful for him to be able to plan the date for you

Had my sweep earlier, ouch! Bit niggly now but bishops score was low so suspect I'll have a repeat next week...

Mrs A my first sweep last time did nothing. My second sweep however worked wonders!

Inca that's my hope too that at least this means I'm a step closer and the second might help...

MrsA

what is bishop's score?

fifi and inca and all others
I forbid you to feel guilty when resting and having "me - time".
looking after yourself and having time to yourselves is essential.
you need some time and space every now and then on your own in order to cope with it all.

think about it this way.
when you are on a plane you are told that if oxygen masks are needed you MUST put on your own first.
then, and only then are you supposed to help your children.
You first. then kids. in that order.
it's a safety procedure and there's a perfectly good reason for it.
if you try to save your children while struggling for breath chances are you will all suffer...
but if you are able to breathe you will be in control and in a position to help.

parenthood is the same. you HAVE to put yourself first so that you can look after those around you.
You MUST invest time and energy into being healthy, fit, relaxed & feeling into control or it will fall apart.
Even if the only time you get on your own is a nice bath once a week or a long chat with a friend on the phone - you must do it.
And do it guilt free.

ok?

Got one very active baby in here today, he will not stop moving!
I've been feeling so nauseous and (TMI!) can't stop pooing, no upset stomach or anything though, just needing to go a lot...

Just wondering if anyone else experienced anything like this before they went into labour or am I just clinging onto any tiny hope I have that he'll be here soon?!

ipsum my dh is pretty convinced baby will not come before due date- I've just started nodding in agreement with a whatever you say dear, safe in the knowledge baby will come when ready! Only 10 days until due date - baby will definitely be here this month!

My dh only really goes to the gym every night am hoping that will reduce some what when baby is here or that he will go when baby asleep! Hes meant to be away tonight but going to be late back/leave early tomorrow which I am very appreciative of.

I've done too much today- thought could fit in lunch and then coffee with a friend in 2 different places. ..would have been fine except lunch was 11-3 and coffee 3.30-5 so have been out all day mostly walking about and now am shattered annoyed at myself. Hoping 11 coffee and 3 midwife appointment won't be as bad tomorrow! Need to nap now... liquid I think I need your mum to boss me about and tell me to stop!

mrsa I imagine sweeps are painful- does it depend how ready you are as to how much they hurt?

zing I will take 3 copies of head tilt please. Going to bake at some point this week, is payment of cake accepted?

home agree house will never be ready- we seem to be talking about doing more and more to our house nearer we get to due date however is mainly just 'if only we could' than realistic plans. What would you do first? Extend kitchen/diner to replace conservatory, replace garage at bottom of garden or do loft extension!

zing I will follow orders!

collie I've been pooing on almost every trip to the loo.... For the last fortnight. Prob the same amount of time I've been urging too with a couple of sick in my mouth incidents no baby here yet!

fifi that's kind of devastating, I was praying it was a sign baby is on his way

I keep thinking maybe it is, then remembering I've had it for a while. Then trying to analyse if it's better/worse than previously.... It's like TTC symptom spotting all over again

Well everyone - mums orders for tomorrow are potter in the garden in the morning and then watch a film (with my feet up for my swollen ankles) and drink champagne in the afternoon while she knits for England.

Feel free to follow her instructions!

She also says eat what you want (including dust, an entire pack of cream eclairs and a whole bag of prawn crackers)... at 39 weeks there is not a lot you can do to harm the baby.

(But then she is in her 60's and with all her pregnancies she ate what she wanted as there were no guidelines and drank guinness every day as the midwives prescribed it for low iron levels ).

Baby's head had dropped more as I no longer have a baggy bit under my bump.

Zing Bishops Score is where they rank various elements (eg length of cervix, cms dilated) out of 3, it's used as an indicator of how successful induction would be likely to be - over 9 means spontaneous labour is likely. Obviously far from an exact science.

Ickle that's my understanding, that in general the more ready you are the less painful and more likely to be effective a sweep will be.

Collie, I've been rather loose for the last week too - so lovely...

Just been for a walk as midwife said to keep moving, now back on the sofa with a few cramps. Think they are normal after a sweep though??

Liquid, what I'd do for a glass of champagne! Sounds like a lovely Wednesday plan to me.

collie

loose poo and feeling sick can be an indication of labour starting off in the near future as your body prepares to save energy for giving birth (not waste it on boring stuff like digestion! )

also apparently there's a connection between stimulating the bowels and contractions coming on - hence all the advice about eating food that make you poo easily (prunes & prune juice, curry, pineapples etc)

how very exciting!

MrsA first sweep last time did give me some cramps during the 6 hours or so that followed. Also at first sweep which was 5 days past due date I was 1cm dilated and at second sweep which was 2 days later I was... 1cm dilated. However within 6 hours waters went, 2 hours later contractions started and 2 hours after that DS was born.

ickle

payment in cakes is actually preferable.

DH got me very nice caramel choc shortbread as a peace offering.
And he did apologise for being an idiot. I think I shall forgive him.

Especially that he is now looking after the kids - two of whom have the runs and are miserable (sympathy pg symptoms? ) and one who felt very ill and fell asleep at 5pm.
I'm contemplating putting up a big H sign on front door.

I'm telling you, this baby can not be born just yet.
there is literally too much crap going on...

Wow what a busy thread today!

Last day of work tomorrow. After weeks of trying to keep all the balls in the air, I feel like I have completely failed and just dropped the whole lot at the feet of my maternity cover. Only so much I can do now, which will probably still involve working tonight til I can't keep my eyes open like last night. But after that, fuck it, I'll just have to leave things in a total shambles and hope that in 9 months time people will have forgotten.

/rant over

In a few days or weeks time I'm not going to care am I?

Possibly even hours Plate. I felt the same as you last time but the relief of walking out the building knowing it was no longer my problem was blissful. Enjoy the calm!