October 2014 - thread 8 - more growing tums, shopping & pubic topiary

[Kirstipops]

Hi folks, new thread!

Fatpony the group's still private so it won't show on any non-group member's feed.
Pusscous - sounds like a proper shit time :( Rest up and take of yourself,fking raaaage about your lost dress for the wedding
Very impressed by your upcycling and decorating pics! I'm itching to get started now. Our bedroom needs done first but I'd really love to get nursery done immediately after! I'm saving my decoupage-the-chest-of-drawers project til I'm on mat-leave, but I guess I could start buying up the patterned origami paper now :)
Sorry to those feeling/being nauseous, hope it passes soon!

Excited no advice/experience but I hope perserverance pays off

I have had nausea back since 20 weeks Mrsb but it's only slight compared to 1st tri. Had to up my snacks to something more substantial. It hasn't got any worse 5 weeks later, hope it's the same for you.

Oo Fedup I can feel your rage radiating through your post! Hope you gave them what for. I am terrible at confrontation, so I admire this.

Enjoying the pics. You are all very inspiring.

Pusscous you have my sympathy, how frustrating on all counts.

Well, I've been trying to keep you whilst PILs here. But been in a selfish strop since last night when dp's bro&SIL announced her pregnancy 3 months behind us. All I have heard for 18 months since they got engaged (wedding was 6 months ago) is about their bleeding wedding and this weekend PIL was bringing the FINAL photo album so I thought finally they would shush about it and, frankly, me and dp and bump might get some of the attention. But no! Felt, childishly, like my thunder being stolen as ours is 1st grandkid on their side. Have pretty much got over myself now. Might even be a grown up and be happy for them soon I still can't believe I didn't even get a weekend where it was about showing them our new house and baby things instead of about the golden couple tho grump grump grump...

In some good news MIL informs me they will be staying in a hotel when they come to first meet baby as 'you don't want us around when you're trying to feed' and that she 'won't interfere'. I could kiss her! I take back everything I said about her! I really wasn't expecting this attitude as she's normally very full on. HURRAH!

Keep up

london I've been being sick every morning without fail still but last night was almost like being 10wks pregnant again, it was awful! Must remember to take my med, hopefully it won't happen again!

jellybeans - yes, I'm 'bigger'. I'm consultant led, and at no point has one of them (or the midwives I see at those appointments), ever mentioned my weight. I got my BMI at booking in, I don't know what it is, have never looked at it. But I'm 5ft nothing and a size 14, so am definitely a higher than 'healthy' BMI. I told them I don't want to know my weight, and they've all been fine with that.

Half the midwives that I've seen in hospital have been overweight, if one of them told me off I'd laugh in their face and ask them something like 'what do you do to keep your BMI 'healthy'.

Keep moving, don't stress about weight, that would be my advice.

London we have also been playing second fiddle to the Bro and sil since they announced there engagement...then the wedding of the year...and then the preggers announcement 3 months after ours! Golden couples are so annoying!

Sparkle yep perfectly normal. And it's also perfectly normal not to leak either. I never leaked in pregnancy or post birth and could BF fine. If you leak now it might be worth stocking up on breast pads as you might find you're prone to leaky boobies more once baby arrives.

jelly that's quite excessive to get weighed every appt for a bmi of 31! The unit I work in is very research focused and respected in the obstetric world and we don't do any extra monitoring unless bmi is 35 or more and even then we wouldn't weigh at every appt.

When do you think is a reasonable time to get the boyfriend to not be drinking too much (in terms of getting me to a hospital and not making me want to barf while in there due to his alcohol breath)?

I'm looking for answers around the 28 week mark

pusscous hope you feel better, sounds like a terrible time!

excited (and everyone with a toddler!) I can't even imagine - I can barely function after taking myself to the bathroom at ungodly hours.

mrsb, I've also had a return of the morning sickness feelings but not as bad - hope you feel better soon!

LondonJen, good news about your MIL! I heard DP on the phone to his mum arranging when she was going to come and stay after the baby. Given my own parents aren't allowed to stay with us after flying in from the UK, he can think about that one again!

I haven't felt the baby as much over the past day, again, and especially after last week, have been panicking. Doesn't help that DP is 'dying' (from the same virus I had last week, but his is MUCH worse, obviously). If he complains about feeling sick, tired and achy one more time, I might commit a terrible crime.

Goats my midwife advised carrying my handheld notes with me at all times from 30 weeks so I think that would be a good marker for dp to ensure he isn't over the limit...

So glad.our house is too small for overnight guests!

London, I very much feel for you. DH & i had been trying for a baby for almost a year when his younger sister announced she was pregnant by accident! Followed a few months later by his other sister! Thankfully i got pregnant about 6 months after that -or i may have completely lost it- but it was very annoying as DH is the oldest so we kind of felt like we should have provided the first grandchild!

Me23 & goats, i feel its a bit much too as i have seen many pregnant woman bigger than me but i knew i was unhealthy before getting pregnant so it plays on my mind a bit now!

Goats anytime you tell him to ! I understand the last blowout mentality of drinking in pregnancy for him but he's getting to the point that does need to change if you are getting nervous about him not being able to get you to hospital if needed. He's going to need to get used to having drier evenings as you can't get up to a crying baby tipsy. And you certainly regret it in the morning when they wake you at something daft o'clock. I'd plump for suggesting it at - wooo 28 weeks? Better to discuss it than to have a shock.

A pal's (now wanker ex) partner was drinking and doing party night outs and boy trips all over the shop during her pregnancy (including disappearing off to the West coast of Scotland, way out of mobile reception when she was 8 months preggers, for a week's boy's piss up on a yacht FFS), she was due 10 days after me, when I went into labour 4 weeks early he suddenly panicked and became temporarily contrite. Sadly he took it up again within weeks of her having their baby as he didn't like, despite having a December baby, the prospect of staying in on NYE. Asshat.

Not saying your DP is like this guy - as he sounds nothing like him, but I do think it's easier if the transition to the new drier reality / calmer social life isn't something that has to be done instantaneously once the baby is born as some blokes can get a bit resentful of new babies.

I clocked that much bigger midwife on OBEM last week and was thinking she's not a healthy 'advert' or able to have the bmi chat really is she. But it's like doctors who smoke - wtf!

Thanks for the support re the builders. They def got what for today. I had proper rage. It's also been a disaster day as ds wet himself 3 times and found it funny. So on the verge of giving up potty training. But then went to friends house to escape builders and he had no accidents and toddled off to the loo to do a poo. I'm so confused by him!!

Gosh. With you guys stopping boys drinking at 28 weeks is making me re think DH going to Canada at 35 weeks! Oh well. He went to Oktoberfest last time when I most have been about 37 weeks and that was ok!

Ugh - golden couples. I feel for you guys. I have some people I know like that who do everything perfectly and with such wonderful timing - land the best jobs, homes, babies when want etc. nauseating. I feel for those who have them in their family particularly when overshadows your joy and 'moment'.

Right after disaster day today I'm hoping for a better day tommorrow. Work will be a welcome break from the builders!

My oh stopped drinking... Well it was Christmas and new year so I said only the biggies and nothing after nye! Our ds was born 20 days later so worked out fine. I think this time there will be no casual drinking after 36 weeks and no excuses after 38. If the worst came to the worst we'd have to get a cab...

DH couldn't drive me to hospital when I ended up having a massive bleed at 3am (at 34 weeks) as he'd had a few beers the night before, so we just called an ambulance. In retrospect, that was actually the best thing to do as they just took me straight up to the labour ward and we didn't faff around either in A&E or with maternity assessment.

I got my Harmony results back yesterday and they were fine, the usual less than 1:10,000 chance. To say I'm pretty relieved is an understatement, although I will still be giving this baby's nose a good looking at when she arrives. I think we can say she's definitely a girl, two scans and a blood test have confirmed it . I plan to shop this week for a couple of things for her, I fancy some of the fluro pink Aden & Anais muslins, and possibly a couple of pretty summer dresses in the sale for next summer.

That's great news magic! I bet that's a weight off your mind!

Fab news magic, really pleased you got good news!

Great news magic. Next have some lovely dresses in for next summer, they're not in the sale yet so we're holding out for a few more weeks!

yellow thank you for the paint suggestion, will have a look online at that tonight. I went to B&Q last night and got some sample pots, thinking they were eggshell that I could varnish over. Obviously baby brain had taken over as had picked up emulsion and had a bit of a breakdown!

London My sister got engaged at New Years at was supposed to be getting married next year, then they decided to bring it forward to this August after we'd announced the pregnancy. Thankfully my parents are being very fair and giving us both as much attention, but it still irks me. Mainly because I'm going to be looking like a whale, although at least I have a good excuse not to be super skinny like all her 'Made in Chelsea' style friends

How is it I've only had a shower, put washing out and some in the washing machine and I've had to come and sit down. I'm exhausted! Anyone else like this at the moment?

I've been like that since day 1 mrs!

I've been quite lucky as I had a few weeks where I felt ok. I don't think the heat helps!

I'm out of breath getting off the sofa! No idea how I'll survive until october!