October 2014 - thread 8 - more growing tums, shopping & pubic topiary

[Kirstipops]

Hi folks, new thread!

Hi all, been trying to keep up but still on holiday at moment and it's doing me the world of good. I realise this is the last holiday I am going to have that will be relaxing so I'm trying to enjoy every minute of it.

Goats, think you have to let him go as much as that sucks but hopefully the ticket will be gone so you won't have to feel bad.

Pinkie I have been doing that DVD as well as another one it feels so good to be doing something but I am not convinced it is doing anything as my face, arms and bum seem to be getting slowly fatter as the days go on despite not eating much more than normal :-(

Dreading going back to work already, third trimester in the heat of summer plus loads of scans coming up as I'm high risk all seems rather stressful from here now...

I think that is what makes it difficult ... If u genuinally would not go if it was him that was pregnant because i think thats what hurts your feelings the most is that you would be totally considerate of his feelings and miss out.

I can totally relate as me & my dp enjoy drinking and socialising mainly together- we are like best friends and its hard not to feel a bit put out when he can carry on with his intrests without worry or guilt. Its not so bad this pregnancy beacause it was planned but first time around it was a total surprise and my life had to change overnight and sometimes i dont think he was considerate to my feelings & realised how hard it was for me to adjust and accept that i couldnt do certain things anymore.

I know that it is my nature that i totally would miss this one out if he couldnt go without question.... But women are totally diffrent i suppose and i know that i probably would hold it against him to a degree.

God, I haven't done glasto since I was very young! I'd only be pissed about missing my lay in with him being gone so no one to take my ds to the park in the morning but then he has been totally epic sine we had our first. I did 3 days at carnival last year without them!!!

I guess you just have to wait and see what happens this evening. If the tickets gone then no worries, if not, then you'll probably be pissed off for a bit but you'll get over it eventually. And like others have said don't be doing all the hard yards without him. All those apint fumes and strain... He'll just have to do it when he gets back! Sounds like you'd have a prime negotiation tool for some time to come

I think if he's been supportive thus far ie not drinking in front of you, appreciating what you've had to give up in pregnancy - I'd give him my blessing. I have to say DH and I wouldn't tell each other what we could and couldn't do, but if it was my fave thing, DH would likely not go in solidarity.

Looking for a bit of advice here about compensation from a carpet company, heres the situation : carpets for new house bought & paid for im march (£1500). Carpets gettin fitted today but last week had a phone call from company saying that the warehouse had cut my carpets short and now carpets are out of stock: so basicslly will have no living room carpet for 2 weeks which means i cant order sofa till carpets are fitted.

Then the guy arrived today and basically said he wasnt made aware that the stairs in hallway are stone and he needs to glue down grippers which takes 24 hours to dry and he cant come back till next week to fit as he is on holiday !!! They have offered £100 compensation for living room but do you think im entitled to more now as i have 4 year old that will now have to be up & down stone stairs for a week and sitting in a living room with floorboards & no sofa for another 2 weeks?

So sorry for rant but i am actually so angry & stressed out !!!

It's an interesting thing. I don't know any men who have given up drinking, or in fact given up anything at all that they love doing and is contraindicated in pregnancy, while their other half is pregnant. None. If anything, my male friends have done the opposite - gone towards the 'last blast' approach, and spent quite a lot of time moaning about the pregnant partner being annoying/spending too much money/not being up for a shag all the time. These are men who are my friends, and are otherwise all quite supportive about 'stuff' - and are also all really good once the child arrives. I mean, my boyfriend has been really nice about cooking for me etc (which is the easiest way he knows how to look after me), but he's been a bit odd about things like thinking it would be alright for me to clear a front room of furniture on my own, or help pickaxe out an old patio for example. He's also been out and got drunk on quite a few nights - one at around 9 weeks resulted in a massive melt down that might have surprised him a bit.

It's a weird one. Maybe they just don't even think about it. Encouraged by their childfree friends who are obviously not even thinking about it.

My oh gave up smoking when I was pregnant with no 1...

Can anyone recommend a pregnancy yoga or pilates dvd? Thinking it may combat the back pain ive been having xx

Oh and here's my 25 week bump xx

My female partner has given up drinking in solidarity with me but I will do the same when she gets pregnant in a few years time!

goats, I'd do that annoying thing where I'd tell him it was fine to go, but expect him (psychically) to not go out of solidarity, and spend the weekend stomping about if he did actually go. It wouldn't last long though, and I'd think of all the trips I'd be able to bank for when the baby's here.

Here in Mexico we've got a lamer Glastonbury equivalent on October 12th. He thinks he's going to that, which is a week after the baby's due date. He tried to get tickets, I did the silent huff thing, now he's not going, but doesn't see why we can't just leave the potentially few day old baby with his mum while we go drink and spend lots...

DH gave up smoking whilst ttc whereas I dragged my feet. He's recently realised that he needs to step up helping round the house.
Although he is still drinking. So far whilst pregnant I had my b'day, his b'day and my brother's wedding. I enjoyed all sober and didn't feel I'd missed out anything.
I agree with the others- let him go to Glastonbury but make sure you get a weekend when you want one.

I don't drink all that much anyway, so I don't miss it on a day-to-day basis. Once a month or so though we'd have a decent blow out on cocktails etc, and I've REALLY missed that. Boyf drinks a lot (probably isn't a lot actually, but because mine is so relatively little, it seems like loads), he definitely drinks most days. I don't miss booze in itself, I miss the whole being out thing, and not being knackered - even before being pregnant, if I'd been out and not drinking I'd have got bored the minute people start being drunk, it's worse now because I'm also that little bit more tired. Oddly in the 100 days before I got pregnant, I'd been off sugar and he'd been off booze - we have wondered if that has had some impact on getting pregnant so quickly.

Anyway, I haven't heard a thing - am guessing that Glasto isn't happening. See, even that makes me feel a bit sad for him, cos it would be a good experience doing it properly VIP. But also I'm glad, because the house is a tip and I need to him to help me move everything back, I can't stand being like this until Monday or Tuesday.

Another day, another reason to long for mat leave.... Left work at 4.30 as needed to pick up ds early. Some total twat had got on the train lines so nothing ran out of Waterloo. Just home now with one bery tired little boy and one grumpy, feeling ill, pregnant lady. Luckily my neighbours could take him at their house for a bit. SO OVER COMMUTING.

stigz I really don't know but probably yes. Try ask for more than 100 quid but just ask the once or you will
Get more and more worked up about it. And if in doubt a pregnant cry down phone will help them understand :)

Snap fedup. Ended up getting a taxi all the way home from Waterloo

Pinkie and Bumpforme I have that 10 minute solutions pre-natal pilates DVD too, I really like it, had been doing it off and on since the first trimester til I stepped it up to every day within the last couple of weeks as I found it was really helping with back and hip ache. I recommend it Ldt, 5 different targeted sections that you can pick and choose from and program them to run in whatever order you want. I do the "flexibility" one and "bum & thighs" one every day and alternate one of the remaining 3 sections. The lady is 34 weeks preggo herself so it spurs me on to man up when I'm struggling!

Is anyone getting shin splints from walking too far? (Though really not that far?) I'm going to have to dig out my bulky unattractive New Balance trainers for the walk between my office and the bus, Converse and sandals obv aren't giving me enough support, argh....

Anyone commuting in and out of London preggers, in the summer, is just epic. I salute you ladies! Not long to go.

Goats that might be the best option - oh dear the ticket fell through and I didn't have to have a strop would be my preferred option . Being accidentally magnanimous rocks! My DH quit smoking at our first BFP and also all dairy for 16 months, so some blokes do.

I just ran 20 minutes for a train pushing the buggy (thank Christ its largely downhill so gravity helped!) and am shagged out. Delivery curry for tea. DH is on toy tidying duty as am pinned to the sofa.

Where do you live taking? I thought of taxi but then thought queue would be monstrous so left it.

yellow suprised you can run still - I would prob leak a bit of wee and have to stop because of terrible stitch pain across bump so I'm impressed!

Wow you guys are really good with your exercise, I'm not really doing anything I got such bad spd last time I'm trying to take it as easy as possible (plus I'm a bit lazy!)
fedup a mouse my cat had caught had hidden in our coat cupboard the other day, when it ran out at me i properly wee'd myself then I couldn't stop laughing and wee'd more!
Oh the glamour of being pregnant!! :)

I live in Wandsworth. There was no queue because the nutjob man on the tracks incident had just kicked off. I was actually on a train and they announced "suspended until further notice" so I hightailed it over to the rank.

I leaked wee today...In John lewis...as I hobble/waddled to the loos where I had been only 25 mins before!!! Baby just belly flopped onto my bladder and refused to get off!

pregnant that made me chuckle!
Phew - glad not just me who is a wee leaker too. I get sudden jabs / kicks to the bladder and that's when it happens with me!!

Just downloaded a kick counter app as after my panic at chessington I decided to monitor it properly. Got 10 kicks in less than 10 mins earlier so was chuffed I wasn't sitting there for 2 hours! Mine definately moves in bursts and a pattern of around late morning craziness and then evening is round 2 karate session. Rest of day small movements but not loads.

Wandsworth not too bad in a cab, we live in Surrey - Walton, so would cost about £50 I think at that time.

DH on stag do - so of course I will stupidly stay awake watching crap tv when should make most of early night. Well clearly missed that one...

I did more than leak on my sisters new couch earlier. The kids made us laugh hysterically and that was my bladder control gone.

What counter did you download fedup? Considering doing the same.