October 2014 - thread 8 - more growing tums, shopping & pubic topiary

[Kirstipops]

Hi folks, new thread!

I'd be after a hugely expensive weekend away by way of compensation

Can you not go aswell goats? Is it for both of you or just him! It wont be the same pregnant but I wouldnt miss it if I got the chance I'd just do it sober and feel righteous that I dont have a hangover

I was the only sober person in the corp box last week at Kings of Leon and it was quite fun just watching everyone else get more and more drunk as the night went on. I didnt enjoy it any less!

If its just for him he'd owe you a lot!!!

Can someone explain the need for a 5 day week?! I just can't deal with it anymore!

I would let him go. Really I would. You just get to do something else you want - whether it's the same when baby is born or something else. DH went to Oktoberfest a month or so before ds was born and I was so jealous. This time he's going to Canada to our friends wedding!
But he was prepared to let me go skiing without him (he loves it too) in march after ds was born. (Didn't go in the end as was still bf but the genuine offer was there). Instead I went on all my best friends hen dos and it was so much fun. I expressed so could go away for the night - just not a week for the mountains!!
Obviously gutted about missing Canada but he's doing a shorter trip than we planned (hope he doesn't miss birth as it's at 35 weeks!) but just so glad to be pregnant after two mcs last year!!

Ha ha - mum I'm with you and don't even work FT at the mo. Walk to station is killing me, get awful stitch pain across bump. Going to start driving / getting taxi next week I think.

Yeah goats if it's an option for you to go too the deffo go, it will be fun despite the lack of booze (and pills if that's your thang). I went on lots of things sober and were suprisngly ok..

I know the discussion has moved on, but regarding car seat safety, it's all about the force of the impact throwing you forwards (or backwards into a rear-facing seat). Whereas an adult might suffer a whiplash injury, a child under four has a head proportionally much bigger to the muscles and ligaments attaching it to the rest of its body. This means they are at far higher risk of internal decapitation and death.

Germany is no better than Britain in promoting rear-facing seats for longer than the first year (worse if anything, since I've only even heard of extended RF from reading MN). I have read that in Sweden, where chikdren are RF until age 4, there are virtually no deaths in that age group in vehicle collisions.

Also been feeling the rage when teaching children. Only have to get through next week, though, and then I never have to do it again (well, at least until dc2 is in daycare).

I would definitely go goats, why sit at home being a miserable sod when you could be having fun? Just say no drugs or drinking for him either? If you don't go can I have your tickets?! Seems a shame to waste them
I've missed Download fest because of work this year and by the time Reading fest comes along I will be too pregnant to enjoy anything.

It would drive me mental to go somewhere everyone was letting their hair down and I had to be saintly mum to be.
I also would be a total harpy and tell DH to enjoy himself and not worry about me then get totally peeved if he got hammered and be all " what if something happened to me and I neeeeeded you". There is nothing more boring than drunk people when you're sober.
Then I would get the pregnancy exhaustion and be all cross trying to sleep in the yurt on my own while hearing music.

So I'd stay home and tell him to go and have the best time ever. But I'd organise nice things for myself at home so I didn't feel hard done by.

Yeah taking I'm inclined to agree with you, I enjoy squiffy tipsy company up to a point and then when they start becoming repetitive and slabbery wasted drunk I soon become fed up! Having a few beers in the sunshine (read:getting pissed) is part of the festival experience for me so I prob wouldnt enjoy as much as a preggo! I'd defo let the OH go so he had the experience tho, but plan something else I'd enjoy more as an alternative while he's gone.

Frau internal decapitation!!!! Trust our Scandi friends to get it right.

I went to a festival last time (Cock and Bull) when 7.5 months. Camping was fine actually.

I've not got the option! He's been offered the ticket, just the one. To go with a mate. Realistically he'll spend £300 (minimum), and he's been going on about being skint for the last month, so not sure he can afford it.

This weekend I'll be putting paint on newly plastered walls, moving the house back to normal after a week of work having been done, cleaning up dust etc.

goats i would be raging if my dp even considered going ... We planned to do T in the park this year but i just couldnt do it being sober the whole weekend!! If he went he could live in his tent permanently!! Someone mentioned solidarity ... I totally agree! You can both go together next year, and enjoy together & both be dissapointed that you missed it this year but knowing it was for a wee bundle of joy you created together!!

if you can afford it maybe he should stay and you can have the ticket?

I would hate being somewhere like Glasto and not being able to fully participate I think. I definately could not do some of things did when I went if I was pregnant or even with children :-)

Goats, I'd let him go, say have a good time, but without a doubt you get a weekend when you want away to see a friend do whatever, completely baby free when baby comes. It'll be more worthwhile to save a very precious weekend up for when you really need it and good practise for him to see what it is like for the whole time you normally have the baby!
If he's never done Glasto before it seems a shame to miss it...and you can plan to go next year anyway together.

It's a bit shit you have so much work going on at your house though...I can understand why you don't want him to leave, but a VIP ticket is pretty hard to pass up!!!

Goats only agree to it if you genuinely don't mind as holding it against him would only spoil it.

If it were me I would let him go...but then Glastonbury doesn't really sound like a big deal to me so i guess that's easy for me to say! However, if he went, I would not be doing an ounce of work on the house!

fedup I don't work full time either lol! Am now starting to wish I hadn't spread my hours over 5 days though!

Oh thats rubbish! I'd be really torn between wanting him to go but then I'd spend the weekend at home in a grump especially if he did what my DH would do and call me to tell me how amazing it is!

I've decided 2016 we'll be there in a yurt/ camper with baby. Start her young!

frau when I watched the crash test videos online and read a few stories about children who had been left with severe spinal injuries or worse, it sealed the deal for me! I had a lot of people call me mad and say it was unfair that she couldn't "see where she was going", but she really wasn't bothered at all. She could still see out of the window...she was just riding in reverse, which is all she'd ever known anyway. ..

The issue mainly is that it's not just 'any' weekend away - I wouldn't care about anything else other than Glastonbury. Any other festival, fine. Glasto, no. It's just about my favourite thing in the whole world.

Totally torn. Realistically I'd never tell him he 'can't' go - we don't have that sort of relationship. He'd never tell me I couldn't do something. But I'd just be miffed that he didn't ask if it was alright. Haha.. total double standards. Also, I probably wouldn't go if it was the other way around. I wouldn't have even considered it.

Anyway, I'm still waiting to hear - he's at a conference (hence not being able to go last night).. and the ticket might not still be around for tonight. So... we'll wait and see.

After weeks of seeing it sat next to the DVD player I have just tried out 'Prenatal Pilates 10 Minute Solution'. Only did one of the workouts but it felt good to do something...even if it was just 10 minutes! I did no exercise in my first pregnancy so I'm determined to do something this time. And like others have said, most the classes are on late or at times when I have my son with me so are totally inappropriate.

Is anyone else using pregnancy DVDs?

Goats let him go & genuinely be happy for him. There will be something exciting for you to do in your future together that you will be given an opportunity for & he will have to welcome it for you. I would also face it head on, I'd want to see pictures, hear all about it afterwards. Book yourself in for a fabulous pampering spa day on Saturday & screw the wall painting. He can do that when he comes back!

I haven't looked at exercise options much...With this pgp I'm not sure I can do anything except aquanatal...

I'm doing yoga twice a week. It is extremely gentle stuff!