We've got fire in our bellies, we're incubating out little Penis Dragons #4

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(Attempt number 3!)

I'll let someone else do this bit next time!!!

Mmmmm stir fry! I haven't had one in ages and soy sauce would def go down a treat with my salt craving!

Well my "friend" dropped her son off this morning half an hour early which pissed me off from the start but she just picked him up late (11 hours later) and stood bragging about her weekend away then dropped in "and I've had half a day off today and I've been shopping and to get my legs waxed" I nearly threw up on her! I'm so exhausted and she knows it and she pays her son no attention at all. There is no way I'm going to continue having him when my christmas bean arrives. I'm thinking I give it a few more weeks then tell her I can't cope anymore. I'm doing her a favour and she's taking the piss

Definitely taking the piss poly - 11 hours of looking after someone else's son is quite a big favour and really needs to be appreciated!

Hang on a minute. I thought you'd told her last time that when she left him with you just to go swanning off that that wasn't acceptable and she apologised... but now she's done it AGAIN?! What a fucking knob! I'd definitely give it in Poly. Out of interest, does she pay you?

You've got it spot on Fancy but obviously in her eyes this was different because it was only a half day. She doesn't pay me. She was in a really difficult situation and had to go back to work so I offered to have him 3 days a week for her to help her out. I wish I'd never offered now. She's obviously no longer in such a financially difficult position if she can afford weekends away and salon leg waxes!

Oh and to add to it, I told her a couple of weeks ago that I couldn't have him one day next week because I have a hospital appointment and tonight she said "well if you can't have him next Wednesday you can have him Friday instead". It's a good job I was so gobsmacked or I'd have smacked her one!

poly, I'd be absolutely fuming! How does she not realise that by not paying you she is doing you a massive favour?

I'd feel so indebted to you I'd be falling over myself to have you doing less if it were ever possible. Bint.

Such a shame when people ruin friendships with ignorance.

*sorry, you are doing her a massive favour. Though by the sound of it, she thinks it's the other way round.

Oh Poly you have to try and get out of this now nicely before she continues to take advantage of you so your friendship isn't salvageable. It's really not fair!

I just said to DH she is treating it as if we have a business arrangement and has completely forgotten that I'm her friend and I'm doing her a favour. I've honestly had enough now.

I'm not normally such a doormat, honest. I was just in a position to help as I'd decided to be a SAHM for a few years. I find it even more shocking that she had her son, went back to work so early, doesn't see him from 8am till 6:30pm most days and she doesn't even grasp the chance to spend some time with her LO when she has it. I feel more sorry for him than myself to be honest.

ANYWAY my steak was delicious!

Oh poly thats awful!! Are you going to stop taking him during your pregnancy? It cant help with the tiredness!! Hopeyou manage to sort it all out

Question for you all... I have a friend who has been ttc. Not for long but has been moaning about people announcing their pregnancy. I would like to tell her if all goes well with the private scan. As she is a colleague, it would be difficult to tell her at work without people over hearing. Dh says I cant text her..... what do you all think?
Ive been wary as she told me about someone else being pg at 7 weeks so I think who will she tell about me?!?! Hard one!!

Our dinner was a picnic. We went to shop and bought crapsandwiches etc then went to the beach and sat and ate it. Then went a rromantic stroll :)
Tomorrow is curry!!

It's so nice to know you're all with me on this. I'm going to have a good chat with DH about what I should do and come up with a plan for winding it up without causing a fall out. I'm just so tired if feeling used

Toots I think it was on another thread where people we're saying it is easier for the ttc party to receive the news in private, i.e. By text or email, so that they have the opportunity to take on the info, get upset if they need to and compose themselves to respond. I think it's a good idea and to include something slightly sympathetic just to let her know you understand it might be a bit difficult. Hope it goes well fx

Mmmm steak. Was it rare? Did you have sauce?

I reckon text isn't actually a bad idea Toots because then she can have her own reaction without having to put a happy face on straight away. When you see her after she can then have had her moan and just be happy for you. If you think she'll blab though even if you ask her not to then I'd keep quiet until you reveal to everyone. Maybe also remind her that when people announce pregnancies they don't also announce "We were trying for AGES" so she can't assume everyone had an easy time of it.

Thanks poly! That makes sense. We had started trying before them so im hoping she will be happy for us. But I will word it sensitively :)

Actually you're right Fancy everyone seems to jump to the conclusion with us that it was an accident! I've had to put a few people straight but haven't told anyone how long we were ttc for.

It was rare and with peppercorn sauce

Hi ladies, well the beans still in there, dildo cam couldn't see any reason for the bleed. No bloods needed!

Bean was a 4mm blob, I couldn't make out a thing & she wouldn't let dp take a PIC. On my discharge it just says early pregnancy with viable crossed out so I hope that means just no heartbeat yet. Thought there would be more to see/bit clearer. Dated me at 5weeks or less, LMP makes me 6w4.

On brighter news I've got a pay rise a month early :-) xx

When I read rare with peppercorn sauce I said "Phwoar" out loud like a dirty old man.

Bella well good news that dildo cam spotted a bean! Are they sending you for another scan later on?

Well done Bella and congrats. When do you have to go back again?

Fancy the only trouble is, I'm still hungry! I've had that horrible empty feeling all day.

No they're happy no cause for concern so just another 6 weeks till 12w scan. :-) xx

Brazilian BBQ steak pot noodle? Why am I only just finding out about this?

great to hear 2 new little beans are doing well! Am I the only one whose appetite is completely down the pan? Don't fancy anything, even dorritos :-( and can't eat very much of anything!

Good news bella!! :)

is rare steak ok? Im so jealous! I think my food in pregnancy knowledge is a bit out of date.
can we have rare steak, cheesecake and mayo as long as it aint homemade? How would you know if it was homemade (deli etc) im also crap with ice cream and sour cream. Feel like im avoiding stufd just to be safe but there was maybe noneed to be so cautious!

Toots the risk from rare steak is toxoplasmosis which is an infection with only a small chance of being passed to the baby. However, if it is passed on it can cause problems. Thing is, once you get toxoplasmosis you're immune from it. You're more likely to have had it if you have cats/dogs (from their food I think?) and therefore more likely to be immune. However, if you're not sure you've had it before then it might be worth avoiding.

The raw egg thing is the thing about mayonnaise and that's about salmonella. Salmonella is food poisoning that is treatable and is highly unlikely to pass to the baby so avoiding raw egg is more about keeping you healthy.

And never heard the cheesecake one before!!

Crap just read this back and realised some of it might totally come across as patronising. So sorry if it does!

Well hello to what's for dinner thread! I fell asleep on the sofa and woke up to find a slice of my favourite pizza ready right next to my head...thank you dh, yum! I've had lots of yesterday's leftover tzatziki too - seems even more garlicky now it has had time to develop flavour, poly I thought of you! And a huge slice of watermelon. The curry I bought at lunch is untouched, couldn't face it...

I found a bit of pink and brown in my knickers too so I'm feeling nervous. I know it's most likely to be ok, but I'm somehow panicking that today's extreme nausea and upset stomach is linked and is bad news... Monday's scan can't come soon enough!!

(Poly, your 'friend' is taking the piss - where are her manners?!???)