Pop pop pop We're all about to POP! - July 2014 thread

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Hope you like the title - like inside us, there was no room on the other thread!

How is everyone getting along with names by the way? We have two lists (don't know the gender) but there isn't a name on either that I love - m husband is happy with any of about five on each, so at least that's easier

One of the girl names that I really do like has become incredibly popular (top 3 kind of popular) and so I think that probably has to be dropped. My favourite of the boy names was (very randomly, I didn't bring it up) slagged off by a group of my work mates - to the point where it would be a bit awkward if we used it.

At 38 weeks I feel like we should have this all tied up now (or at least have a shortlist)

Sorry Fifi x-post. It must be extremely worrying but I really hope that it won't come to anything like that. Sorry, no useful advice but thinking of you.

My little brother was called baby for a good couple of weeks so don't panic yet :)

I'm not sorted on names and I know I'm having a girl. I think I have a fav first name but haven't really spoken about it properly to DP as he's hardly been home the last 4 months so nothing decided. Haven't even got a shortlist! I don't want to settle 100% on a name until I see baby & what suits her but would at least like to have a few options by now.
DS wasn't named for 5 weeks which was ridiculous - don't want to do that again!

Auntie I'm very sorry to hear that it is not good news about your MIL. Stay positive about your baby and hopefully your DP will be back in time.

Hayley it sounds like you have a got a lovely group of friends there and if you need any help while your DP is away you should just ask them.

fifi that sounds like a nightmare situation that you don't need at the moment. Try and stay calm and not worry about things that might happen.

I think that we are there with names except for a second boy's middle name. I would stick with one, but DS has two so we have to be fair! Before I was pregnant the first time I couldn't understand why people couldn't come up with a name during 9 months of pregnancy, and then once I had to choose a name it was a nightmare and I suddenly understood. It doesn't help that in France you have to register the birth so have a name within 3 days.

Yesterday I had a home visit from the community midwife who answered all my questions about VBAC and c-section. Fortunately she used to work at the hospital I'm going to so she knows how it all works there. If I don't get an ELCS approved then it is helpful to know what to expect.

She confirmed that they won't let me go past my due date, and unless the cervix is very favourable it would be a c-section then - so I might just have to keep my legs crossed for 2 and 1/2 weeks! I was also interested to learn that if your baby is breech at that hospital they don't give you a c-section date and you wait until you are in labour and only then do you go in and they recheck the positioning and if it is still breech they do a c-section, otherwise you are good to have a normal birth.

I need to have a little sleep now - I didn't sleep that well last night and I have been busy going to the shop, making cakes for DH to take to work tomorrow and making a tiny dent in the paperwork mountain and office clearing exercise.

Oh Fifi. God some people can be so evil and bitter. Try and keep calm and the ex's history of being awkward will become apparent to anyone who looks into it. It's so easy to sow seeds in children's minds and for them to repeat without understanding.

Re names I am doing terribly at the
Moment. Am finding girls names far easier than boys but am sure this is a boy.

Just been for a presentation and growth scan after seeing the MW yesterday and her having a panic. Baby not breech! Hooray! And growth is all fine. I just have a small bump probably due to being very active and pretty tall. Big, big relief as had a pretty sleepless night reading all about breech and small babies and over analysing every twinge trying to work out where it was coming from!

fifi what a horrible situation. Hope that any investigation is short and sensible. Hope it's over for you very soon.

Re names: we have our sorted, a choice of two for each sex. Only problem is that I like one and DH likes the other so we'll see who prevails. I think he might have come around on my choice of girls' name, though.

We had names picked out before we were married because we're dorks but I've gone off our "first son's" name so want something else. DH still likes our original choice.

Think I have just won the battle of sleep with my 2-year-old, and naturally it's later than I'd like. She was up 1 1/2 hours earlier than normal this morning so I've made her have a nap when I wouldn't usually. Can't cope with a grouchy toddler anymore. And it's stupidly hot here so I'm even grouchier than normal. Not a good combination. Meant to get even hotter yet, need to take her outside to play when she wakes up. Dreading it.

Turns out acupuncture doesn't agree with me - started feeling faint and queasy straight away. A shame because lots of others I've met have said it's been really relaxing for them during the pregnancy. Maybe I'll give it another go if the baby is overdue. Shame it didn't turn out to be the cure for my insomnia.

Names. A massive spiral of overthinking and paranoia in my case! We've got it down to two names for our boy, one of which is one of my favourite names ever but doesn't go as well with DH's surname, the other we both like but seems to becoming very popular. Sadly neither works quite well as a middle name with the other, unless you put another middle name in there too, which I think's fine but DH isn't so keen on. Plus not really sure what that middle name would be, and what if we decided to have a second child and wanted to use the name we didn't use for them?! Plus I want to somehow get a bit of my family in there somewhere as the baby's getting DH's surname. And we can't double-barrel as it sounds terrible!

This is the way my brain works. Apologies for dumping it on you guys.

We've gone for two middle names: another name we like (sometimes a family one) and then an old family surname. PILs did that with DH and his siblings and I love it. It's an especially good way to get Dutch names in there somewhere because most of them are fairly unpleasant to our ears. (Sorry, Dutch names, but it's true, though I do love mine.)

Re names I have come to the conclusion that if it supposedly popular but I don't actually know any of that name then it's fine to use.

I 'won' the name game at the weekend. Actually when I say won I mean I had thoughtfully decided on names that include refences to DHs uncle/godfather and grandfather as well as his surname. What I won was the fact we have two middle names so my family are in there too and I like the names.

I feared it would be a battle as DH and his family are all a bit fond of themselves as a family (apparently my family are odd as we only speak when we need to rather than several times a day ) so quite relieved.

Actually it was more of a 'we havent thought about names much since 12 weeks so are we sticking to whats planned'...

Have also enthusiastically downloaded and completed the child benefit form (one for a girl, one for a boy). Just need to add the date of birth.

Up yours Bounty!

Just had another epic dizzy spell which knocked me off my feet! thankfully onto my bed which I was standing next to :( and there was me thinking we were nearly done with them since I hadn't had one since minor episode on Monday :( Got DS all day on my own tomorrow which I'm now starting to worry about, especially as I really shouldn't drive so will be stuck at home to keep him entertained again.

On a more positive note had a nice time with DM this morning and nice not to have to sort DS out and just 'be' with her iyswim.

Re. Names. We have a girls name left from before we had DS which I not only LOVE but it also has Gma's name as one of the middle names, all the more poignant as she passed away a couple of weeks ago. We've really struggled with boys names both times but have come up with another one in case this us another boy, I'm just not so keen on it! I was v nervous about DS name but he has grown into it and now I do really like it so tat could happen again I guess.

Now to work out what to do for dinner as standing in a hot kitchen to chop everything and then make a stir fry doesn't seem the best plan when I'm feeling rather unsteady on my feet!

Blue sorry to hear you had a dizzy spell! I really wouldn't do dinner tonight, can you not order pizza or something?. Sometimes you just need to rest.

DH just rang, he's going to pick up some ready meals on his way home BUT he's not feeling well-either tooth infection or sinusitis for him now! I forsee a 'fun' evening here tonight. Currently laid on the sofa contemplating the mess the kitchen is in -DH turns into mega tidy-freak when not well and won't rest til he's tidied everything so I could do to find at least some energy/stability to at least load the dishwasher and avoid his tutting and annoyance when he gets back!

I forgot my run in with the bounty lady last week when I was on the postnatal ward... The mws must give them your name and what bed you're in cos she knew who the other ladies in the room were. She was quite inoffensive and friendly but when she asked me about my baby I bit her head off and told her I hadn't had it yet.

MIL died this morning. DP seems ok from what I can tell over the phone but will be much happier when I can see him in person. They should have the funeral in the next couple of days so hopefully he'll be home at the weekend. I couriered his suit to him yesterday.

Saw mw yesterday who isn't my normal one but has been with me for most of this nightmare and she has stolen me from my normal mw and told me not to have the baby when she's off next week! She's really good and even said that if she could guarantee being there she'd offer to birth partner if DP wasn't back. :) BP is ok (still high but in acceptable range) so I just need to keep it that way!

Was talking to a friend last night who is quite petite about estimated baby size and I forgot that they told her she was having a tiny baby and he was 8 lb 10! Her sister who isn't much bigger had a 10 lb baby!

Oh auntie so so sorry to hear about your MIL :( how quickly it has all happened-your poor DP! At least he will be home soon though so you can be together to work it all through and towards baby's arrival. Glad to hear you've got good MW support and your BP is hanging in there ok!

Oh auntie sorry to hear she's passed away, hope dp is ok and know you would just want to be there with him at this hard time, glad it won't be too long. Also SO pleased for lovely midwife who sounds fab! Baby best hold off for her to join you. Sounds like she is just what you need right now!

blue rubbish that dh is also ill! a night on sofa doing not a lot and eating ready meal sounds ideal, hope you both feel a bit better tomorrow...make sure you sit down and stay hydrated if dizzy...

We have 2 girls names and 2 boys names chosen and just hoping we can stick with favourite when baby arrives, the nearer I get the more I feel it will be a boy which was much easier to think of name for so fingers crossed!

Had 37 week midwife appointment today lots of stabbing to get blood so bruised again but not as bad as last time... Think I had whopping cough jab as early as I could to get it out the way? Around 21 weeks I thought? Booked in again for 39 weeks...had wondered if might be every week now but guess not much they can check. She asked if hospital bag packed but didn't ask or even glance at birth plan which I thought was odd but never mind! Friend from NCT is going on water birth session at hospital giving birth in which also allows us to have a bit of a nosy around and see rooms etc so hoping to get onto that next wed

Only 2 more days at work to go now to think of an excuse not to go to the gym this beautiful eve???will I want ice cream count?!

I want ice cream is a perfect excuse not to go to the gym. DS and I just shared a solero (autocorrect tried to change that to spleen?!)

Auntie am so sorry about your MIL but it is good that your DH and other members of her family were with her. And as awful as it sounds it doesn't sound like it dragged on which can be so so tough. Hugs to you and hope your DH is ok and gets back to you soon.

Lots of hugs to you and your DH auntie. Good that he could be with her.

Ice cream sounds a great excuse :)

Somehow managed to load dishwasher and get washing in from the garden. Now back on the sofa-feel so nauseous! Ugh! DH and DS due home any minute

Sorry about your MIL, auntie. Having your DH home will be so nice for both of you to recover.

IMO it's always time for ice cream, especially in this horribly warm weather.

auntie - it must feel like you and your DP are in a long dark tunnel at the moment, but hold on in there as I'm sure bringing a child into the world will be a bright, bright light at the end of it all.

On a grumbly note: 12hrs of work today, still insane amount to do in next fortnight. Mum visiting this weekend - we aren't close so not really looking forward to it - and feel sad that my DC might one day feel same about me.

On the plus side: new freezer + glut of strawberries in garden = homemade FroYo lollies to eat when I get home. Whoo!

incapinka you SHARED a solero? What is this madness!!! The excuse worked! Mainly because dh had been at a company charity regatta and been out in the sun all day without suncream. ..pink is a light description of his neck!

Mmmm plate those lollies sound awesome- am currently trying to persuade dh we need new fridge freezer no luck as yet. ..Sorry to hear so much still to do at work- I've definitely switched off and just doing bare minimum now. Realise this isn't always an option but can only get done what you can do!

blue well done but now you do need to rest!