Pop pop pop We're all about to POP! - July 2014 thread

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Hope you like the title - like inside us, there was no room on the other thread!

collie moan away! I usually only see community midwife but she did say when she called at the house to monitor my high bp that I could call and ask them to come out if I was concerned about anything so Id assume itd be fine to try and get an appointment?

I think nesting has well and truly commenced. Im painting again today and eyeing up my back door for a sanding/restaining job currently!

collie sounds like a rubbish experience... Only advice I can offer re:back to back is what my nct teacher told us... Lots of crawling on all fours, sitting upright and forward eg on a ball or on a chair back to front and keeping legs and pelvis open. She said that by sitting slouched back (like on a sofa) it encourages baby towards the back.
This advice makes sense but doesn't go hand in hand with trying to keep feet up to reduce swelling! Good luck.

collie swimming is supposed to be good to move babies from back to back. Also spinning babies website has advice.

I've been in agony with my back for last few days after chiropractor appt to shift my breech monkey. It feels a little better this morning but have another appt today! I have so much to do but can't do it when in pain :(. Hoping she can do something different so it doesn't cause so much discomfort this time as it doesn't seem right to be this bad.

Hugs to you auntie. I can't even imagine what you two are going through.

Went to gp who refused to prescribe antihistamines, saw mw this afternoon who said piriton is ok to take as long as it was the chlorphenamine one so went to pharmacy and they refused to sell it to me! Now I wouldn't mind so much if during my 5 hours in the assessment unit in the hospital last week the mws weren't advising women to take it! When I said that in the pharmacy the staff looked at me like I was trying to sell heroin or something!

Oh auntie. They are infuriating aren't they. I tried to buy some nurofen the other day as the MWs say you can have it after birth. They refused to sell it to me.

Just seen another different midwife. This one has now referred me for a scan tomorrow as measuring too small and she wonders if it is breech. Oh happy days. Now to try and arrange childcare!

Auntie - sorry to hear you are having such a tough time. I've been prescribed chlorphenamine for severe eczema, so it seems strange they wouldn't give it to you. Maybe go back to your gp? Mine said that in late pregnancy it can cause the baby to be born a bit drowsy, but that weighing that against the need for me to get a decent nights sleep without hideous itching, it should be ok provided I don't take it every day, and maybe stop taking it in the week before the due date. I hope things start going better for you soon.

It's like not like you couldn't be buying anything for someone else?! I hate stupidity like that from people that really should know better. Also, I just hate stupidity. That whole patriarchal 'we know what's best' for the poor preggo lady is infuriating sometimes...I've not said it but I've thought it a lot at medical staff and buttinskis full of advice - I've not had a lobotomy, I'm just pregnant.

Anywhoo. Had a HV call at 2.40, asking to come round so I said whenever so she was here at 3.30. She seemed fine, surprised me with how few 'routine' appointments there really are. Then I really impressed her when my mobile phone rang and it was some chatty bint coldcalling about payment protection refunds. I have a tendency to be quite brusque with this sort of nonsense so I'm hoping that in the process of politely thanking the bint for calling and hanging up on her, I haven't scared the HV too much. Hopefully no black marks already...let her at least get to know me first!

Sorry just caught up with the thread.

Auntie am sorry to hear things are not good with MIL.

I have been secretly taking Pirotin for the last few days, not every day just a tablet when I need it.

I went to a pharmacy the other day with a really, really bad sore throat. Like swallowing knives. The young person behind the counter told me in a particularly infuriating way that they could only sell me Lockets. I looked her in the eyes and growled "Being pregnant is SHIT." She looked quite taken aback.

Actually I quite like being pregnant, even with all the crying. For example, watching Tigers about the House last night on BBC2, I cried at the ultrasound scan of the baby tigers; the birth itself (looked quite peaceful except for all the cameras); the first suckling; when the cubs were taken away from their mum; when they got ill. Can't believe my soppiness has gone inter-species.

Just now I got it into my head that my baby might not love me and had a stormy few minutes sobbing over that.

At least I didn't cry in the pharmacy I suppose.

Had the loveliest day today. As I posted earlier my friend had asked me to look after her baby while she had some after birth physio as her back had been playing up. I was very excited about practising looking after a baby and my toddler and just generally getting to smell a newborn for a few hours (this baby has the best smell). Anyway I got to her house feeling a little rubbish actually, tiered hot, didn't bother putting any make up on or even washing my hair - I basically looked dog rough lol. Anyway she had organised a surprise baby shower for me! She had asked me a while back if she could organise one but I wasn't really up for it as I thought firstly it was pretty American (no offence American people) plus it's not my first, but mainly I'm not overly keen on asking people over for a party where they are almost falsed into buying me presents. Anyway she went ahead and organised one without my knowledge- and I had such a great day - and I love the presents lol. I cried when I walked in (bit emotional lol). I'm now a total baby shower convert
Was really lovely to be made a fuss of and be around all my friends especially with DP away - feeling very loved and special today.

Got my birthing pool organised today, and my friend brought her TENS machine to the shower so I can use that as well when things kick off. Had a total baby day. Am exhausted now so off to bed in a minute and will hopefully get some sleep.

Aw that's lovely hayley I saw mine as a nice way to spend time with my friends before baby arrives. Of course they're much more the norm here.

What a lovely friend you have Hayley. So pleased you've had a nice day.

I am currently analysing every twinge and kick trying to work out which way up baby is and whether it really is small... It's great that they can see me tomorrow but will be very glad when tomorrow is here and we have some answers.

So the MW came at 3.45 after I'd hung around all day...oh well, at least DS was still napping/contained in his cot upstairs so I could focus on the appointment! All still seems fine for home birth, I'm measuring slightly small 34-35cm vs 36 weeks but I was expecting that. MW also wrote down that baby is 3/5 engaged which is more than DS was at this stage (he didn't engage until early labour and took a day of painful contractions to do!).

hayley so glad you got spoilt by your friends. I said no to a baby shower with DS for the same reasons you stated plus I'd already got everything we needed and didn't want to end up with loads of random extra stuff.

DS has been super hard work today and I am exhausted once again. I'm hoping that he can go to the childminder for an extra day tomorrow but she still hasn't got back to me about it which is frustrating as I need to decide whether I get up at stupid o'clock to pick DM up from the airport (which I'll do if I don't have DS for the day) or get DH to go instead.

auntie I'm so so sorry about everything you're going through. Don't forget the monkey hat in your hospital bag in case you have to stay over due to bp... Even just a little bit of cheer can go a long way in the midst of tough circumstances. Thinking of you.

Now the question is whether I try having an early night or whether it will just backfire on me and I won't be able to sleep and then get twitchy and restless and even less likely to sleep?!?

For all those trying to buy meds, you could add them to an online shop order if you're that way inclined?? Seeing GP tomorrow and hoping to get some kind of prescription for hayfever, the nasal spray just isn't enough and is really expensive!!

Hello so tonight I'm in an earlier club at woke at 2am - thinking will probably be awake till 3.30ish but at least when it's earlier I'll get back to sleep for a few hours before DS wakes up.

I suffer extremely with hay fever - had to be hospitalised a few years back as I had so many tears the ducts got blocked and formed a blister in my eyeball - nice.
With DS my GP said that most hayfever medicines are perfectly safe, the reason they don't prescribe them or recommend any is because they havnt been tested on enough pregnant women so medical industry has to cover themselves and say do not take if breast feeding or pregnant.
Iv been taking benedryl - just buying them from sainsburys or boots self service. Should get a prescription really as working out expensive as it does every year & this year I don't actually have to pay but even if my GP is fine to prescribe them id have to wait over 2 weeks for an appointment.
My hayfever is pretty extreme there's no way I can't take anything. I don't take medication for ANYTHinG don't really believe in it, but when it comes to hayfever I'm like a druggy I just can't cope without stuff. Iv heard Bee pollen is amazing - and is perfectly safe to take. Just found this out so planning to head to town tomorrow and get some from Holland and Barrett's. The very very best nasal spray iv had is the Sainsbury's own brand one - it gives relief within 3-5 mins and totally clears a stuffy nose. I discovered it last year and now wouldn't go back to the branded more expensive ones - worth a try ladies. There's not a spray out there I havnt used - I'm almost an expert lol.
I drink tea with honey which helps and burn oilbus oil in a bowl of boiling water as soon as nose is stuffy.
Anyone tried homeopathic stuff? Safe to take when pregnant. Also accupuncture. I really am desperate for some sessions for this and baby but with DS away I don't have the childcare to go and get any

So glad you had a lovely baby shower hayley, I appear to be having 2! One organised by some friends four of us all within a month! And one from work colleagues...when others are excited about organising don't want to be ungrateful and like nancy says nice excuse to spend time with friends!

blue that's as bad as waiting in for a parcel at least the outcome was what you wanted and you can have your home birth fingers crossed childminder can give you an extra rest day today!

nancy make sure you rest when your in pain.., says she who never takes her own advice and makes everything worse/ takes a lot longer to recover if oush yourself too hard.

auntie still thinking of you lots and dp family...

Well 4.30 is an annoying time to wake up by time I get back to sleep will be time to get up! Only working half day today because of midwife appointment then only 2 days to go which I know will fly by then maternity leave and time for this baby to make an appearance!

auntie so sorry to hear that your MIL's taken a turn for the worse. Hope you and your DP are doing as well as can be expected under the circumstances. One day at a time.

hayley - that's such a nice thing for your friend to have done :)

ickle - with you on the early morning insomnia. Working from home today as I have my first acupuncture appointment at the hospital, I'm usually a massive sceptic about these things, but figured I may as well take up the offer and see if it helps with the sleeplessness.

Just over a week before maternity leave starts and I'm feeling fairly stressed about what I can get done in that time. Don't want to leave the team I've been working with in the lurch but was hoping I'd be winding down and concentrating on handovers by now and it doesn't seem to be letting up.

Morning all. Well as I thought might happen I fell asleep and then woke up around midnight and was awake for a couple of hours then up every hour to wee! Was just in nice sleep when alarm went off to go to airport to get DM-thankfully we're only 15minutes from Heathrow but bed was waaay more tempting! DM and DSD now fast asleep on the sofa after an exhasting trip trying to tie up all loose ends after Gma passed away and then bad flight last night. Childminder thankfully got DS so a peaceful day ahead.

Has everyone had their whooping cough jab? I had to cancel mine when I was ill a few weeks ago and then nurse been away and I forgot to ring for an app just rung now and nurse fully booked til 03/07 when I'll be 38.5 weeks so too late! Now on cancellation list to get an appointment which will almost certainly come at most inconvenient point possible

auntie how are you doing? Is DP flying home to get his suit/extra stuff etc, will you get to see him albeit briefly? When is your next MW / BP check?

morning all

hayley it's lovely that lady helped you.

auntie
so sorry to hear your struggles inc. MIL not improving/being in pain/DH being insensitive...
just do what you can and remember what you can't do now will get eventually done, if after baby is born then so be it.
we want it all to be perfect, but trust me, good enough really is good enough!
big hugs to you.

blue

it's worth trying out how quickly the pool fills up, if possible.
a friend hired a pool for homebirth. she started contracting but labour progressed quickly and her DH, who was crazily boiling the kettle & pots on stove to get enough hot water on time (because water pressure was rubbish, but they hadn't realized that!) almost missed the birth of their DD!!!
(3rd child, born on the bed, after 10 mins of pushing)
when he went down some time later the pool was still not even half full!

in other news DS2 had his tonsillectomy yesterday morning. all went well, he was able to eat very soon after and we came home at 2.30pm.
he actually slept through the night and missed 2 doses of pain killers, so I think he'll get better quickly.
and of course lots of ice cream, custard and smoothies (on top of normal food) are aiding his recovery
his wobbly tooth got knocked out while in surgery so he gets extra money for it - lucky chap.

And if that makes anyone feel any better - I haven't prepared a thing for baby yet.
I'm just not in the mood

I think I have decided this one will be a week late too, so I can't be bothered.
weird, huh?
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Midwife yesterday, BP, measurements etc all as they should be. Not sure they would be now....

DP has a DD. For the last 3 years, since we got together, his ex has been playing funny buggers with contact. She's allowed as little as 45 mins pw to 6hrs last summer for a month or two. It's currently at 2hrs. Whenever DP has started mediation etc to change it she's stopped contact all together, made up allegations such as DP is negligent or that he said he's going to abduct her when at the meetings and makes him restart contact (only if he drops court) at a new minimal level which he does as due to the slow nature of these things he finds it hard not seeing DD. Apart from the brief time he had her for 6hrs, DD hadn't been allowed to see me, DS or any of his friends/family at the insistence of ex or she'd stop contact.

Now with a baby on the way, he's finally had enough. DD doesn't even know I'm pregnant as ex said she'll say DP is lying! She didn't attend mediation this time so a court date has come through for the end of the week.

DP then had a call from a SW saying that there had been concerns reported to them. When DD was asked 'tell me about your daddy?' The first thing she said to the SW was he shows me his willy. DP is distraught. Being 3 3/4 if they are out she does need to go to the loo with him but that's the only time she could have seen him.

Ex has form for putting stuff in DDs head. DD once told me daddy's girlfriend was yucky. I asked her why and she said mummy said so. She was quite surprised to realise that meant me! She has also been told that her and her mum don't like DS and that DP chose him instead of her :(

I was not the OW.

C section due in just 2 weeks and now our happy time has gone.

Thanks zing the hire company are providing us with an extra liner for the pool so we can do a test run... If I'm honest my biggest concern about the whole pool thing is the amount of hot water needed and time to fill so will be good to test it out. One good thing with hiring over buying a pool though is that the heat retention is better apparently so we don't need to get a cover for it! Though I'm expecting that the pool will probably be filled just in time for me to get into it and it sat around for ages anyway! Glad your DS is doing well after his op.

Just wondering what to do as parents still fast asleep on the sofa downstairs so I need to be v quiet so as not to wake them... DSD is in his late 70's so really needs to rest well.

Ooh...it's all happening, just had a call from the birth pool hire place and it's being delivered tomorrow

Forgot all about the whooping cough jab. Was very sick till last week. Thanks for reminder .

X-post fifi so sorry!! How do all these things have to come at such bad timing!!! What a mess. It amazes me just how awful ex-p's can be with regards to access to children etc. my parents split when I was 7 and yes, things were difficult and there were court cases etc but they always tried, for our sake, to be cordial and agree access arrangements properly. Goodness, DM used to make us go and see dad sometimes even when we didn't want to as she wanted to honour his time with us. So sorry your DP (but more you!) have to deal with all of this right now.

Oh Fifi what a nightmare and awful timing. It's tough that they ask a three year old questions too, they are so easily influenced and come out with the oddest things so it's hardly helpful as evidence.

Blue, glad that your Mum has made it back and you get to see her.

We think my husband's grandad is going to pass away this week, he's 90 so a great age but still very sad - we'd love him to meet the baby. He's been in and out of hospital, been back in about a week and now they say all they can do is try to make him comfortable. Feels like it's just a waiting game now.

I'm trying to remain as calm as possible for the sake of this baby, it's bloody tough though. My mum 'helpfully' mentioned that if they chose to do a proper investigation (which after all the bad press they've had I fear they would regardless) that they could stop him having contact with DS and the baby until it's cleared up. I got in a bit of a state about that yesterday.

It seems small when some of you are dealing with bereavements. What we're facing will be sorted eventually and everyone is healthy.

Group hug!