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Hey everyone, as discussed here is our brand spanking new antenatal club thread! I thought I'd start with the stat's....

Kiki- due 23rd September
Weebairn- due 30th September
Binky- due 10th October
Misskgb- due 8th November
Ladymillion- due 11th November
Lolly- due 28th November
Chillychicken- due 10th December
mrshjb- due 28th January (awaiting confirmation of date from first scan)

Awaiting update:
mrsb87
Gennz

I have a cityjogger Lolly which has been great for a flat. It folds up with one hand, so you can take baby out, collapse it with one hand, and walk upstairs (though I usually leave it downstairs). It is lighter than most (7kg I think) and sturdy wheels so can be used in parks etc easily. You can even jog with it when baby is older! It goes completely flat so supposedly suitable for newborns but it doesn't really look as cosy as the bassinet style ones. But I didn't really use it much till around 4-5 months (much much easier carrying newborns round in a sling when they are tiny I found, specially living in a flat/city centre).

my city jogger was £250 new so not particularly pricey as these things go. it is still great for lively 21 month old and loads of growing space left.

Also I bought it off amazon a few weeks after birth and it was delivered the next day. I've heard people talking about waiting lists for pushchairs on here.

Think you can definitely get some bargains second hand. There is a facebook group I believe.

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Helen you are in the worst patch for tiredness, honestly. 9-10 weeks is horrendous, it gets better. Hang in there.

H I was so tired around 9-10 weeks and also full of cold. I felt awful. Happy to report it does get better, like wee said. Although today, I am so tired I could really do with a nap. I'm still waiting for the 2nd trimester glow

17+1 and I have a definite small, hard bump that is waiting to pop out! Can't wait for that, would like to look pregnant rather than just a bit porky. I do still weigh 2lbs less than when I found out though, so it's rather unfair that none of my trousers fit!

I got my bump bands from Tesco, H. £8 for two - one black, one white. Really worth it, IMO.

We've bought a pram I was absolutely determined not to buy one until November but we started looking because we're terrible at making decisions and decided on the Bugaboo Chameleon. It's £820. Sooooo, DH went on eBay and ended up winning one (I think it's the previous model as the brake looks different) for £185 Collecting it tonight. It looks in pretty good condition but we've already said if we don't like the covers, then we'll change them as you can buy new ones for £55 from Bugaboo. Very excited! At least we can properly test it now and check it fits through our stupidly narrow front door So I fully intend to spend the evening pushing the pram around downstairs

Chilly- I love your conversations with us/yourself where you cross things out.....it's like we're living inside your head!

We bought the Graco Evo. Didn't mean to- went to Kiddicare and there was an offer on so ended up buying it there and then! This you can collapse with one hand but you have to take the pram bit or car seat off first. I think the pushchair seat can stay on but I can't remember. It's in the loft so as to stop me playing!

The cot is now at home too, although not assembled yet. I want to wait to get the absolute OK from the re-scan on Friday before doing any more. A little bit superstitious. I know it won't affect whatever happens, but in my head it helps!

We're trying to look at doing something for our wedding anniversary in September. I'll be 7 weeks off due date so certain things I don't want to/can't do such as spa in a hot tub; long walks etc. We're thinking of going to London again and eating at some nice places (I've found some good offers too) but again, not booking anything until after the scan. Any ideas that don't involve flights for weekends away with DH prior to labour ladies?

Thanks for the reassurance ladies, in bed feeling thoroughly rotten tonight!

Love the thought of you walking around with your pram Chilly!! Go DH as well, he's done well there hasn't he.

misskgb we've got time off in September for our wedding anniversary too. I'm thinking a cottage in the Lakes for a few days. Obviously you'll be much further gone than me and you're not a Northerner so it's not really the same but that's my thoughts anyways!

Was it Lady's 20wk scan today?

We thought about a cottage in the Lakes as never been but always wanted to go. Wasn't sure if there's enough to do or where to book. Love the idea of a romantic get away in the Lakes! !! Being a midlander-I can go anywhere in the country n it only takes 2-3 hours (apart from Cornwall!)

Ah sorry I thought you were from down south so I thought it would have been a bit of a trek for you when heavily pregnant! My sister has just been to Bowness-on-Windermere and she said it was nice and there was a decent amount of restaurants etc. Seemed to be pretty touristy too so boat trips on the lake and things like that. Have a Google!

We have our wedding anniversary on 10th September but I will be just under 3wks off due date by then so I doubt we will be going anywhere! My appetite has already shrunk too so I doubt I will want to go for a meal either by then, unless it's ice cream. I can eat plenty of ice cream! Haha.
We inherited our whole travel system off my brother and sil which has saved us a lot of money and a lot of stress trying to pick one!

Sounds like September is a really popular time to get married!! Haha mmm ice cream! Really good getting free stuff isn't it. I'll be getting loads from my sister too.

Feel really awful today so have phoned the doctor. As soon as I mentioned my palpitations they want me to go down and get checked out. Going down in about half an hour so will see what they say.

We also got married in September 8 years this year I doubt we'll do much - possibly go for a nice meal somewhere. We're away in a few weeks and in October we'll head down to St Tropez for a couple of weeks. Part of me can't wait but at the same time, I'm dreading the ferry crossing, the 10 hour drive and the fact that when we get there, we'll go everywhere by speedboat which in itself is fine but it's the getting on and off it that's the problem. I have enough trouble when not pregnant! DH wants to take the sailing boat out too but I'm not as keen on that idea because I don't like sailing.

kgb It's exactly like it is in my head. I'm always thinking things that I don't quite say out loud!

Well I didn't get the chance to test drive the pram because DH got all superstitious and wouldn't take the pram in the house

Hope you're ok H, definitely worth getting checked. Over the last few weeks I've definitely noticed my heart beating faster/stronger, very odd feeling!

Wow 8 years!!! This is actually our first wedding anniversary! Yeah the journey sounds a bit gruelling, should be lovely when you arrive though!

Haha so where is the pram living then?!

Doctor was really nice, listened to my heart and did my pulse etc and basically said the best thing I can do is rest so he signed me off FOR TWO WHOLE WEEKS!! I can't actually believe it. I've never had this much time off around the house since I was at school. I definitely need to practice the art of napping. And it means all being well when I return to work I can tell everyone that I'm pregnant so hopefully that will make things easier too.

Oh and all my bloods are back from my midwife appointment and everything is clear :)

I can't even remember our first anniversary now I was only 20 when we got married! It just felt right though I think at the time people either expected us to have kids straight away or thought we'd never bother. I know quite a few of DHs relatives have been really shocked that I'm pregnant! I've had lots of queries as to whether we've been trying for a long time (usually with a sympathetic head tilt) or if it was an accident! The other weird question: "Are you happy?" No, not at all - this beaming smile is a fake and I've only announced my pregnancy so you all know how bloody miserable I am about the whole thing. People are odd around pregnant women.

A client/friend lets us have his house for a few weeks every October. It's in Port Grimaud and is just beautiful. I really do love it so I'm looking forward to it but the journey is a killer. We did the whole journey down last year with only 2 loo stops. DH has another thing coming if he thinks he's getting away with similar this year!!

Pram is currently at work. DH is inspecting the chassis closely and I actually have no idea where he's put the rest of it! Probably hidden it away in the stores!

Oh I'm so glad you've been signed off! That's great news. You really do need to rest so feet up, ice cream and films for you!

Hi girls, just at work, thought I'd give you a quick update, I'll read everyone else's tomorrow on my day off!

I had the anomaly scan yesterday and all seems well with baby boy (they confirmed it's a boy phew!) - also they checked the fibroids again, they've grown about a millimetre... I had a consultant appointment this morning and was told basically that the fibroids are nowhere near the cervix so they won't be worrying or doing extra scans etc as they are so common and I will more than likely not experience any issues with them, regardless of their size! So I don't have to see them again until September time and I can just relax and enjoy the pregnancy! So pleased, 21 weeks today, bump is definitely noticeable now so don't feel just fat anymore! Only niggle is groin and hip pain but I can live with that! Going to self-refer to physio to see what they can offer in regards to that.

Hope everyone's okay

Hey lady. My sis said if u feel pain in your hips it can be to do with the alignment during pregnancy n so said not to sit on your legs or tilt one way when sitting. Basically, always have your legs in line with your pelvis so straight on the floor together or raised up (not tgat I'm following that rule at this very moment) but she assures me we'll thank her for it later!

Def worth a googke H-thanks!

This will be our second anniversary. Been together 8 years n friends for 4/5 years before that so people have wondered what's taken us so long!

Someone told me yesterday they didn't know bi was pregnant (did she just think I was fat?!) Whilst someonethe oother day asked if I was having twins coz of my size #confusing!

Hi all. Missed so much chat on here. Chilly I love Poet Grimaud, we spent many family holidays there and cant wait to go back so v jealous!

We were given our pram, its a Silvercross Classic so huge and we live first floor so going to be interesting. Was not going to turn down a never used gorgeous pram worth 700 for free though!

Lady I'm suffering with lower back and hip pain. Told my MW in the hope I might get a bit of time off work but was just told how to get in and out of the car properly. I've booked onto an antenatal physio course too so will see how that goes.

H enjoy your time off and rest lots. I'm easily tired now but nothing like the first 12 - 14 weeks! It does get better!

Can't remember who said about the Lakes but I would def go for that. Theres lots of tearooms, easy walks, boat trips and the Beatrix Potter shop for baby stuff!

We're celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary this year and also have had years of people asking when we're having kids. Think our parents had given up on us ever having any!

Chilly I think it's nice that you met the person you wanted to marry when you were young. It gives you more time to be young and enjoy yourself together. We've only been together for 3 years and I think some people think that we've rushed things because we moved in together after 3 months and now we've got a house, got married and soon they'll find out we've got a baby on the way. But that's because we met when we were older and neither of us wanted to have our first child in our 30s so we've kind of had to speed things up, but that doesn't mean that we aren't sure about each other! Although if he doesn't stop snoring soon, I'm going to cheerfully murder him. It's a bit rude of people to be asking you if you've been trying for a long time isn't it. I think that kind of question is only acceptable from someone who you're close to and is wanting to know for themselves, not to judge you. What would they say if you were like actually yes we've been trying for years and it's been heartbreaking.... oh right, that's a conversation killer....!!!

Misskgb haha that's a bit weird isn't it. How do you feel like you look? Have you been managing to keep up with swimming? I've done eff all the last few weeks. Hoping to get some energy soon and get back exercising!

Thanks for the reassurance binky. I'm trying to learn how to nap but I'm finding it a bit difficult at the minute. By the time I get myself comfy I need to pee and then the cycle starts again!! Oh well, it's definitely taken the pressure off not having to go to work. 8 years for you as well! Are you late 20s too?

Lady glad to hear that your scan went well and that there are no more concerns with fibroids!

Less than a week to my scan now and obsessively counting :)

p.s. Kiki if you're quietly lurking, I hope you're doing well too!

Hi H I'm turning 33 in a few weeks so it was definitely time to have a baby! We got married when I was 25 and DH was 24. My age to have children by is 35, so if we decide to have another one (or two!) we are going to have to move pretty quickly!

We also moved in together quickly, within 2 months, engaged within 3 months and married 18 months after meeting We just knew it was right. We've definitely had our rocky patches since though with a near divorce just two years ago but all those things have made us stronger and by the end of last year when we decided to start trying for a baby our relationship was the best it had ever been. For us it just wouldn't have worked if we had had children earlier, but I know lots of friends who had kids straight away and have 4 and 5 year olds now and are perfectly happy so it's just down to the couple.

Chilly my MIL in drove me so mad about having children when we were first married I actually told her I couldn't just to get her off my back and see the look on her face. I then spent years worrying that I might have jinxed myself by saying that but at least I didn't have her asking on a weekly basis if we had started trying yet!

I've been showing since 8 weeks really so am just glad to be at the pregnant stage and not just fat or bloated anymore!!

Nope, swimming has not gone well. I think we went 2 or 3 times. We're just so busy that if we get the chance to be at home together 1 or 2 nights a week, we just want to catch up on TV, relax on the sofa, eat chocolate and cuddle!!

Little Miss Rice Krispie found some strength last night and I got several strong kicks.....wowsers- she's got some power!!

Re-scan tomorrow afternoon so fingers crossed she behaves for that!

I am fully into bump-commentary stage which is a bit tiring. Someone at work said my bump was huge for 27 weeks and they thought I was much further along, other people have been saying it's tiny and they only just realised I was pregnant blah blah blah. Some days I wish they'd all shut up! I feel heavy and tired and achy. I got away without stretch marks last time and I'm wondering if I'm bigger this time round but I'm not even really sure. I don't bother weighing myself. All the weight came off fine after last baby (not that quickly, but it did, I ate healthily and exercised -and breastfed for a year and a half- but never dieted) so I am trying to just go with it!! People can be annoying though.

Lovely to read everyone's relationship stories. I am naughtily unmarried and quite happy that way but me and boyfriend have actually been together since we were 17!!! It wasn't very serious for the first few years but somehow we kept failing to break up and getting back together again to have loads of sex and, well, he's my best mate and my soulmate, we have been through everything together. The relationship gets better year on year in my opinion which is a lovely place to be. We are still quite like randy teenagers too. I always joke that it's when people get married that they stop having sex

I had my first baby at 32, this one I'm 34. Dunno if there'll be a third. In some circles of friends everyone was having babies at 25, in others no one is even thinking about it yet. It's been the right time for us though. I really enjoyed my twenties and don't regret starting later at all; but like binkybunny I wasn't too keen on having kids in my late thirties.

Morning everyone hope you're all having a lovely weekend.

misskgb how did your scan go?

I also like reading everyone's relationship stories. Only a few of my friends have kids and they all had them at 27/28 and I have plenty of others who don't have any at all. I always thought I'd be married with kids at like 25 when I was young, but I think the older you get, the more you realise you don't actually feel that old when you hit that age... If that makes any sense?!!

We had quite a small, low key wedding. Getting married was really important to me, but I just couldn't justify spending a ridiculous amount of money on it. But we had a fantastic day and I wouldn't have changed a thing! Do you think you'll get married at any point weebairn?

Scan day is getting ever closer, every time I go to bed I'm like a kid counting down how many sleeps there are to go! How much did you all drink before your scan and when did you last wee?! I'm a bit scared because my bladder is like a pea at the minute and it really hurts if I try and leave it too long before I go!

Are any of you taking pregnancy vitamins? I will finish my last lot of conception vitamins on Tuesday, which ties in nicely with my scan and not feeling like I am jinxing anything by buying something that has pregnancy written on it!! I don't want to get the pregnacare ones though because they're absolutely huge and I think the conception ones upset my stomach. Just wondering if anyone had any recommendations?

Hey H

I tried desperately to fill my bladder but pee'd at 4am n again at 8am. Scan was half 8 n they were fine. Second scan I pee'd 5 mins before-there was just no holding it in!

Scan not great. Still couldn't find her tummy. Sent me for a walk n to have a sugary drink n chocolate. Tried again 40 mins later n still nothing. Off to see a consultant on Weds now. Really upset n worried but don't know any more than it's just not showing up on the scan. Fingers crossed

Hey misskgb. Thanks for the bladder story, hoping I get away with peeing slightly later too!

Sorry to hear the scan wasn't as straight forward as you hoped. Does that mean that she wouldn't get in the right position or that she was in the right position but they couldn't find what they were looking for? Really hope it's good news and everything is plain sailing on Wednesday. Got everything crossed for you xx

She was in the right position, they just couldn't see the tummy. Basically they should see a full tummy as baby swallows the amniotic fluid. They thought last week that she might have just emptied her tummy and that's why they couldn't see it. As I was the last appt of the day there was no time to re-scan so bought me back last thurs.

On Thurs she still couldn't see it. She can see the artery than runs by it but no tummy bubble. She sent me off for a sugar intake and to move about but still nothing after the third attempt.

It could be the timing of the scans in relation to when Rice Krispie is emptying her tummy, or it could be an indication there is something wrong. The sonographer doesn't speculate and neither did the midwife who made the consultants appt for me. They just said they need a specialist to look at it. Very nervous but trying to stay calm.....there's been a few tears over the weekend!!!