The 'Umm newbie'/ 'Thread maxed out' lovely ladies!

[mrshjb]

Hey everyone, as discussed here is our brand spanking new antenatal club thread! I thought I'd start with the stat's....

Kiki- due 23rd September
Weebairn- due 30th September
Binky- due 10th October
Misskgb- due 8th November
Ladymillion- due 11th November
Lolly- due 28th November
Chillychicken- due 10th December
mrshjb- due 28th January (awaiting confirmation of date from first scan)

Awaiting update:
mrsb87
Gennz

I'm one of 4 & DH is one of 2 so we've both got different experiences. I think we both want a minimum of 2 n see how we go!

Any plans for the BH weekend ladies?

Good to hear from u Lady- thinking about you!

It's lovely to hear you thinking of the future and being so positive Lady. I am a little bit awed by you, honestly. I'm so sorry your mum isn't around.

I'd like three but boyfriend says he doesn't think he can take me whinging through a third pregnancy

And it is such a big disruption to work/career, and my job is very unfriendly to pregnant girls... My SIL reckons you can't have three and work. I mean obviously you CAN, but you know, do it comfortably, have a life too. I am very much the breadwinner/career person in our relationship so there isn't really any question of me giving up work long term.

We're having 2 quite close together (there'll be exactly 2 years between them) and I and my body need a break now!! I want to get fit and get drunk and be able to run up hills with the kids. Being pregnant with a toddler has been such hard work, and I miss being fit and active so much, I feel like I've missed so much this year that I would have done with her. It will definitely be at least 3 or 4 years before I'd consider a third. By then I will be getting towards late thirties so it will be a matter of whether I want to really do it all again at that age.

I am one of three (two brothers) and I love it, nice number, works well in our family. But realistically, probably not. Will be very happy with my two - feel very blessed.

Sorry weebairn, hope you don't think I was being offensive about 3 children families, not my intention at all. I'm absolutely sure it works really well for a lot of families.

There is 2 years between me and my sister and I've always thought that was the gap I wanted between my kids, but I can totally see what you mean about being pregnant with a toddler. My niece is one and I can't imagine looking after her full time and being pregnant. But there is still part of me that thinks 2 years is a really good age gap, plus at least you get being pregnant out of the way in a short space of time. I'd like to think I'll get my figure back and keep it, plus it would make things easy for career development later down the line. But who knows, I'll have to see how this one pans out!

I know time is flying but I'm so desperate to get to my 20 week scan now. 17+3 today, scan at 19+6.

Not at al Helen!
I think there are lots of advantages of a 2 year gap too- quite hard in the short term but after the pregnancy and first year they play together etc and as you say you get all the pregnancy and work disruption out of the way at once. Right now I do feel like I've been permanently pregnant for about 3 years though!!!!

Yeah exactly. Plus me and my sister have had the same friends and been on loads of nights out and girly holidays together. Not sure that would have been as likely with a bigger age gap! I can't imagine if my sister had of been say 25, she'd have wanted to go on 18-30 holidays with her 18 year old sister. For me anyway, my mentality had changed a lot by then!!

Does anyone own a maternity cossie or tankini?! Need one for holiday but a bit unsure about sizing at different places seen as I'll have to buy online!

I just went to sports direct & bought a size 18 tankini. I was a size 14 before getting pregnant but with a big chest so I thought that would be easiest. Wore it on our hols at 12 weeks n the other day at 28 weeks. It's done the job so far!

29 weeks today n she's definitely more wriggly, especially when Daddy is around!! You still can't tell I'm pregnant from the back n it's difficult to tell from the front so I have fun surprising people who don't know when I turn around!!!!

I just wear my normal bikini, I bought a new top for it in the same size as my current pregnancy bras. Possibly I am flaunting more bump than people want to see but don't really care!

I have a maternity swimsuit from figleaves, I found my tankini's were riding up really badly! It was no more expensive than a normal swimsuit.

I had my 34wk midwife appt yesterday. I knew over the past 2 weeks I had grown a fair bit and had anticipated measuring a bit big this week. I have measured way over what I should be at this stage and I've grown considerably since last time. I've now got to go for a growth scan. The midwife rang the hospital but they couldn't fit me in for just over a week which I thought was fairly normal but she wasn't happy so I've got to go to a hospital 40minutes drive away because they could get me in Monday. The main thing that keeps wizzing through my brain is TWINS and they somehow missed it! Twins run in both our families!

Haha mrsb-ive always wondered if twins have been missed before. Fx that's not the case with you! Let us know how your scan goes.

My friend is due this week a few weeks ago she had a big growth spurt. They were happy with the scan tho n have left her to go into labour naturally-she's not happy n is still waiting!

Eeek there's no way they could miss twins!!

I know quite a few people who went for growth scans and had big bumps but babies were normal sized. (The opposite, too, teeny bumps producing normal/big babies). I think a lot of it depends on position of the baby and fluid and that… bit of an inexact science. Fingers crossed all straightforward for you.

I can understand it would be very rare. If it was something as simple as fluid etc then surely she would have been happy to wait a week?
I know both my scans were hard work because I was so dehydrated from the hg.

Ah thanks for the suggestions on various costumes, tankinis etc. I'll have a look about soon.

That would be a hell of a shock if you were having twins mrsb87. Like others have said though, surely it would be really really hard to miss?! I can't really offer any advice because I don't know much about how you're supposed to grow towards the end of the line, but my friend was absolutely massive, went two weeks over and her baby was 8lb 6oz, which isn't particularly huge. So maybe it's just how you carry or something?! I don't know, but at least you get to find out tomorrow, much better than wondering for over a week.

Did anyone else find before they got very definitely pregnant looking, that when you lie in your back, your bump kind of goes back inside?! The bottom part is still very hard, but if I've been laid on my back before I get up in a morning my stomach isn't too big, then when I stand up it all kind of gradually pops back out again?!!

So bizarrely after sending that message, I went about my business for the morning and then came back upstairs and laid down to annoy DH who was trying to have a lie in and realised that the really hard bit of my belly seems to have risen?! It's now coming up to my belly button. I can't breathe it in and it's very hard to touch. It's not bloating because I've not eaten that much this morning, it's very odd.

Anyways just thought I'd share that!!!

I've laid down again and it's softened again at the top!! Is this all part of the growing process?!

Ah yes. The fluctuating bump! For a few weeks at one stage I would have no bump in the morning, but definitely a bump in the evening!

Now I can barely remember what it's like to not have an enormous bump!

Have had a nice couple of days, toddler being easy going and sleeping at night well. Did a full hour of yoga yesterday which was good, exercise has been very slack lately. My bump is getting in the way though! Today have spent entire morning in bed reading which has been bliss, boyfriend playing with toddler, doing painting and watching peppa pig when he needs a coffee - he's such a great dad and I am so lucky to have him telling me to rest up. They are going out to this fair thing this afternoon but I am going swimming.

Still got a couple of weeks at work,but it's not my priority now. I want to focus on my body and my baby and my family, do daily (gentle) exercise again, get some rest in when I can, oh and sort out the house for our move, eek.

34+4

Did 40 lengths in the pool and feel fab!! Must try and make time for exercise most days!!

Well done wee! Now I've finished work I'm looking forward to more swimming again.

Morning,

Yeah the fluctuating bump is very weird, I always have some kind of bump, but it definitely changes! By night I just put it down to bloating, but it was weird it was so all over the place in the morning!!

Your day and boyfriend sound very good! It's lovely to see men who are good dads, makes my heart melt a bit. It shouldn't do, because it should be a given but it's not is it. It makes me really angry/ sad to hear about men who don't remotely want to be involved in their partners pregnancies and think child raising is for women. I read a thread the other day where a woman said she shouted her partner because she could feel baby kicked outside for the first time and his response was that he was too busy cleaning his glasses!!

Swimming sounds really good. I'm really hoping to get back in to it on holiday and then carry on when I get back. I have had a pregnancy yoga class recommended to me as well, so will give that a go when we get home too. I was moaning to DH yesterday about how I had all these good intentions of doing lots of exercise and eating brilliantly when I was pregnant and it's really not worked out like that.

Congratulations on finishing work mrsb, must be a huge relief. Good luck with your scan today, let us know how you get on.

Oh and p.s. I laughed my head off at 'tell them to knob off' weebairn. In my opinion people don't tell people to knob off nearly enough in life

And it's nice to hear that things are still going well with Gennz's pregnancy. Even if she is slightly enraged about various things!!!

I don't know if im nesting or just bored but having just built little ladies cot in her big room, I've proceeded toclean the windows & sskirting boards in our room; wet dusted her room; cleaned & mopped our freshly painted bathroom and will shortly be heading to the tip. This is so not like me!!!

Have you had your growth scan mrsb?

I did and babyB is a right little chunk! I had to have a gtt yesterday morning. They said if there was anything on the test results they would ring me last night but no phone call. I'm quite pleased they didn't ring! It took 5 attempts to get any blood out of me second time and when they did there was only just enough to test. Ouch!
It does mean I have to have baby at the consultant unit at that hospital and not my local mlu as I'd hoped but it's okay. As long as babyB gets here safely!

Awwww glad its all ok. Are they still letting you go into labour naturally and everything? It's just the location that's changed?

It's getting so close! Eeeek!!

I'm not sure yet I have an appointment with my midwife next Wednesday. I'm not sure what's for the best really. I like the idea of going into labour naturally but then if it's going to be HUGE by that date I'm not I would want to wait. If they want to induce me or have a chat section I guess that would be in the next couple or weeks maybe as I'm 35+2 now.

Mrsb that's a shame about consultant led but as you say as long as s/he arrives safely that's the main thing, glad to see you're so relaxed about it, or so it seems! You could be one of the first then to have your baby if it's a c-section then!

Thanks for adding me to the nappy groups, still trying to work out all the nappy types, I didn't actually realise there were so many

Hello to everyone else too, hope you're all keeping well? I keep reading the threads but by the time I start typing I have forgotten who said what. Baby brain is in full swing here

Glad to hear there's nothing wrong mrsb. Shame about having to change where you give birth, but not the end of the world. Exciting to think you might have your baby in a few weeks!

Do they give you an idea of how big baby is? They've not done all the growth stuff with me yet so I have no clue!

18 weeks today