November 2014- thread 4- 12 week scans and blooming in the second trimester!

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Hi everyone, we have run out of posts on our last thread so hopefully we'll all find this one easily enough.

Here is to more positive 12 week scans and enjoying our second trimesters, all feeling more human hopefully!

Yeah hopeful - glad you got yr results!!

Ours was a planned pg but happened a heck of alot quicker than we thought - a matter of days it seems. I just know lots of folks will think ours was a mistake /surprise or that we took years to conceive (given my age and 7 yr gap with DD.

We will be fining out sex from hramony test but wont be telling anyone (we didn't last time either) as I think so much about pg becomes "public". I like the idea of dp and I having something that is just for us two.
Can I ask what a chemical pg is - apols for my ignorance!!

Having had IVF I guess it was planned in a way but no guarantee it would work! After so long TTC we didn't care when it was born. Am glad it will be here at Christmas though!
Today I've told work and been telling friends so that's been really nice. Have already had so much stuff offered to us- one bonus of taking so long to get pregnant, lots of our friends are finished with the baby stage now and happy to give us all their bits and bobs!

Hiya everyone,

Baby was wriggling and waving and generally being a pain for the sonograher.

All is good, am now 12 weeks 1 day and my nuchal measurement was between 1.0 and 1.5 mm, she measured it 3 times as baby wasn't still for that long!

Hope everyone else's was good today :D

A chemical pregnancy (awful name) is a very very early miscarriage, most people just think they had a late period but as we were trying I'd had a positive test then it went away a few days later... miscarriage.about.com/od/onetimemiscarriages/p/chemicalpreg.htm

Twiglet perhaps you won't feel any stretching until you start to get a proper bump - my friend sid to me this morning "There's no mistaking that for a pregnant stomach now!"

Bump band is helping. Am going mad with the body butter too, though very sceptical it prevents stretch marks. Just makes me imagine I'm more in control I think!

Planned baby here. Tried in January no joy, then joy in February even though DH had been away for what I thought were the best 3 days. Almost 100% conceived on 24th Feb. Due 10th November. Just told my boss in writing (he's known a few weeks anyway) so risk assessment soon
my chance to skive off any duties I Hate also told him in the letter when I intended to go on maternity leave. Had to use calendar to count forward the weeks based on new EDD. Feeling more real by the day!

Thanks ladydolly for that.

Studyfulltime - good news on scan!

Hi everyone. Just skimmed the thread as it's been ages since I posted. Lovely to hear of all the great scan results.

Surprise baby here. I so hated all the trying and the disappointment that I decided we would just not not try . After a couple of years of that and being 41 I just assumed it wouldn't happen, so it was a lovely surprise when it did and in a month where given the timing I would have thought it would've been impossible!

I'm having lots of stretching at the moment - 14+4 today, and I've had a bump for weeks. Think I may have felt a couple of fluttery movements, too. Did feel DD1 (ooh, she's DD1 now, not just DD ) early, too - from around 15 weeks - so hopefully I'll be lucky enough to feel proper movements in the next week or so.

alita - I saw your question the other day about sleeping on your front, and I'd just been wondering the same thing. Even though I have a a distinct bump I'm sure it's partly poor muscle tone, so I'm still soft enough for front sleeping (very slightly angled to the side) to be comfy. I'm dreading not being able to sleep on my front, but I remember I got used to it fairly quickly last time.

Hopefuly - how lovely. I found out a girl from my Harmony too - it's so exciting to be able to know so early, isn't it?

Hopeful, I mean, obvs!

Planned here. DD wasn't planned and we were 27 and 28 which felt young, never mind 24, Twiglet! But in my country the average age of first-time motherhood is something like 30.5 so maybe that's why we felt a bit young!

Welcome moggle and any other newbies I've missed - really exciting that IVF happened so quickly for you moggle.

I'm definitely getting a bump now and have been driving myself mad trying to figure out what to wear. For some reason I feel quite self conscious about telling people this time around! I don't know why.

On the christening/naming ceremony issue: we didn't do anything at all. Probably sounds weird to a lot of people but we're OK with it. I was raised Catholic and even though most people in Ireland still get their children baptised even though they don't go to mass, I didn't feel I wanted to do that at all. (DH has no religion.) Thankfully my family were cool with it and there weren't any comments. I think we were lucky there as the cultural pressure to baptise is enormous here and the schools admission issue is a factor too. Ah well, we'll all muddle on :)

Congrats on finding out the sex Hopeful and books!

Greenstone - I felt a bit sheepish about telling people too. I didn't avoid doing so, but when I did I felt almost a bit embarrassed. I couldn't work out if it was because of my age (although I don't consciously feel embarrassed that I'll be having a child a 42 - quite proud actually), or because I hadn't allowed myself to think I really wanted another, or because I have close friends who so desperately do want another I almost felt it should be them and not me. It can be a complicated feeling, I think, very different from the excitement most people feel when they conceive their first, particularly if it's planned. Getting my head around it now, though, and knowing the sex has definitely helped with that.

Twiglet I started trying for DD at 24 when I got married. Didn't happen till I was 29 but I felt ready for it then, and I know a couple of mum's who were around that age on their firsts. It's younger comparatively nowadays but not for our parents generation. I'm finding pregnancy at 37 is way harder than it was at 28 and this has kind of changed my mind about encouraging DD to wait till her 30s.

I have friends who have had some major setbacks in their ttc #1 journey and although things are looking positive - in that they're getting assistance now - I felt really conflicted about telling them and in the end I'm sure I half-bungled it . They were totally great about it but I definitely didn't feel excited about telling. But apart from that, I don't know what it was - just a funny hang-up, I guess.

In other news, my eating has thankfully gone back to normal and I feel fine now at 14+4! Still a bit tired though. I need to work on the exercise though and force myself to work on my hobby which I love but which I avoid sometimes if feeling stressed (makes sense? ). Wish there more hours in the day! (And yet here I am MNing, so...)

Scan this morning, all good, just the one and a right little cutie poser waving away great to see all the good news coming in. Hope you're all well. My EDD is now the 10th, not the 16th!

Good luck to everyone waiting for results/scans.

Annarose, I have terrible stretch marks on my bum and thighs despite having skinny legs, what cream are you using as a preventative? Have a horrible feeling my belly is going to end up looking like a road map if I don't do something about it! I hope you're right about the stretching too - am 12+4 today, so it should be starting to move about now I think? Have had some crampy type discomfort but pretty sure it's just wind. Which I seem to have a lot of!

Thanks Random, that makes me feel a little better. I'm pretty inured to snotty comments etc as I worked in an extremely bitchy, back-stabby environment for a while and developed pretty thick skin, but I've already had quite a few 'Oh, but you're still so young!' and (gob-smackingly) one 'But I just can't imagine you being a good mother at all, you're so unmaternal!' and it makes me realise how other people look at it. Though I did get to unleash The Rage at that particularly thoughtless comment, which was a bit of a relief!

(On a side note, I regularly teach under-6s to ride ponies, and some of my kids this year have been as young as 2. Believe me, not a task to take on if you don't love children!)

Mines kind of a surprise got married in January and said we'd have another but took 9 months of extreme planning with dd as we were both told we would have alot of trouble conceiving me especially from a injury when i was 18. Anyway thinking it would take ages to get pg again. First month and it was a bit of a surprise as we wernt really trying that hard. Had my dd at 21 and now 25 i felt ready to be a mum at 21 mainly as i meet hd and was and still are head over heels (he's 7 years older). I don't regret 'settling down' so early as i never was a party animal and besides when im in my late 40's kids would have left home (or better have done).

Oh and from my injury i was told that the older i am the harder it will be to have children and complication would start to happen (as with this pg). And strongly recommend to not have children after 30 or i would be in risk of paralysis.

Fabulous news Hopeful!

Planned baby here- got married in October but for various reasons (including the wanting a child older within its academic year) we didn't start trying until after Christmas.

Hubby and I are both Catholic (just by chance, it wasn't a pre-requisite for finding a partner or anything!) so will have baby christened. I wouldn't say we are super-religious but it's still been an important part of our lives, so feels like the right thing to do for us.

14 weeks today so hello 2nd trimester!

Planned baby here too. We had been trying for 11 months and was just diagnosed with pcos. Was due to start clomid the next m

As I was saying (stupid phone) I was due to start clomid but a bfp meant I luckily didn't have to! Weirdly though two people in my oh's family who we told about the pregnancy asked if it was planned. Firstly, I don't know why they're asking this at all as we just hit thirty and we're allsettled down and secondly it seems a bit rude!

I need some advice and rational thought from someone. I've got a strange feeling today. Nothing physical, no pain, no bleeding just a niggle in the back of my head telling me that something's wrong.

I just don't feel pregnant and I know this is probably normal (I'm only 14+2 today DC2) but I can't shake the feeling.

I don't know whether to call midwife to get checked or if I'd just be wasting their time & I'm just being paranoid.

What are your thoughts? X

V18. Your midwife isn't just there for physical support but mental support too. If you don't feel right it can't help to ring as just talk about it.
Somedays you don't 'feel' pregnant but its more then likely to come back tomorrow.
If your not in physical pain id say your fine x

Stupid phone * can help

V18 I definately think call midwife, or go to clinic or GPs surgery where there's a doppler. It'll put your mind at ease. Whar you need is to hear babys heartbeat to know everythings ok.

Twiglet I'm two weeks ahead of you so don't worry about not feeling any stretching yet - I felt nothing till this week. Am using a cheapie Dove body cream ("Warm Vanilla"....yuuuuummmm....) which is actually very softening indeed.

Am toying with getting Palmers Stretch Mark lotion after I run out of this but feel embarressed if anyone saw it in the bathroom - isn't that insane?? We get no visitors!!! I am a nutter.

And Bio Oil! So expensive!!! When did that happen??!

Will prob just repurchase the Dove. I honestly doubt it makes much difference.