November 2014- thread 4- 12 week scans and blooming in the second trimester!

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Hi everyone, we have run out of posts on our last thread so hopefully we'll all find this one easily enough.

Here is to more positive 12 week scans and enjoying our second trimesters, all feeling more human hopefully!

weeonion, unfortunately not at the moment, but the range he stocks is called iDye - pretty similar to Dylon use-wise as think they are all machine dye ones, but they have lovely colours. I like 'Emerald' & 'Royal blue'

The best advice I was given (that I remembered vividly after the birth) about breastfeeding was from a colleague who was a midwife. She said it would hurt like buggery for two weeks then it would start to get better, so keep at it for two weeks then see how it goes.

Well it did hurt! I had an emergency c section which I think caused lots of problems because of positioning, and feeling exhausted etc. Being in hospital for 4 days after the EMCS made things worse, in retrospect as there was no help. Things were better when I was home and had MIL and midwives to help. I ended up with mastitis as well. The HV said to top up with formula because DS wasn't gaining weight, which I ignored as the midwives said he was fine. The midwives eventually referred me to the lead health visitor for breastfeeding who came once a week to help with positioning. But around 6 weeks it just clicked and stopped hurting and we continued till 18 months. I am worried about the same thing happening again but there is a lot more support available this time around, and I hope to be able to catch problems like mastitis quicker.

My own advice for breastfeeding it that it take 6-8 weeks for everything to settle down. Be mentally and physically prepared to have a baby permanently feeding from you for those first 6 weeks, and any sleep/non feeding time is a bonus. Get your latch checked by a professional, daily if possible. (There is a BF support group on somewhere near me every weekday these days) Co-sleep and use a sling. Eat and drink lots. Read up on growth spurts and when they happen as baby will want to be fed even more during those times. Post on mumsnet when help is needed at 1am. Lansinoh nipple cream.

not too worried about the pain of feeding as I am about how squeamish I am about my nipples, same with my belly button and blood tests.

got my doppler in the post :) I gave it a go even though I should have waited for dp to get home (not til like 5...) and found the heart beat easy! at one point I could hear her super fast hb and my much slower one at the same time. I also heard the placent i think ,a slower swoosh?

Hi girls, can I join you please. 10 weeks 2 days today! Due Nov 24th with baby number one! We have our 12 weeks can on May 12th so very excited for that, I've already had two scans, one at 6 weeks and one at 8 weeks but it was basically a blob at that point so looking forward to actually seeing a baby that's hopefully moving around on the 12th,

Anyway, question for you, where are you planning on getting all your baby stuff from, is it just the usual culprits like john lewis, mothercare, mamas and papas or do you know of unique places that do quite funky stuff?

Also anyone planning on going to the Babyshow in Birmingham in May? Dh and I have promised ourselves we won't buy anything but I'm sure we will come back with a heap of stuff!

Hello MrsStardust! -waves- Congratulations!

I haven't even thought about buying baby things yet. We're probably going to have 90% second hand stuff as on a bit of a tight budget, but planning to buy car seat, crib mattress & bedding new, probably from Mothercare.

Not a peep out of the nausea so far today (other than a massive, revolting gag when I made the mistake of gargling with some mouthwash first thing) but now can't seem to stop eating. Think my appetite is trying to make up for lost time!

Twig my nausea has more or less waved goodbye after very sever hypermisis. However with the heamtomia i have has given way to extreme tiredness.
I agreed with second hand stuff. We have all the stuff from our first who is know 4. We had all neutral things for her so crib buggy car seats are all ok if we have a boy.
Second hand clothes are useful too. We tired to stay away from mama and papas lovely.lovely place but sortnof price range and for how short a time things a worn/ used.
Great tip is gum tree found some.great things that have hardly been used... Usually been used at a grandparents house. And look for adverts in 'posh' areas. Bargains!

mrsstardust if you like originals their are some lovely shops on etsy.co.uk found some lovely things on Facebook shops. Signs etc. Keep sakes. Blankets.

I've got pretty much everything I need now either second hand, off Gumtree or eBay, or with my John Lewis vouchers I won a few weeks ago. All I need to get now is clothes and a changing mat and I'm going to leave the majority of clothes to gifts as you can guarantee you'll get every aunt and long lost friend of the family buying baby grows and hats. I'll get things like a good snowsuit and footmuff and maybe a small bundle off eBay but that's probably it. I'm also going to hit the car boots over the summer for anything else I need.

I have scan on Tuesday. Not worried about it as had a private one at 9+4. Off to groezrock festival on a coach in 12 hours (yes we leave in the middle of the night). Excited about that too but in a way wish I could switch off being pregnant for a few days so I could be irresponsible! In general I'm just excited! Think sober festival will have it's up sides too as in remembering everything and saving a fortune. Might also possibly be last young person I do before we have an actual young person to look after!

I had my scan today. Was really nervous, and half expecting the sonographer to go "there's no baby in here - are you sure you didn't make the whole thing up", but everything was fine, and we saw hands and feet which was exciting. I'm still finding it hard to believe that it's all going on inside me. She had a bit of difficulty doing the nuchal measurement at first but eventually managed to get a reading of 1.8mm which I guess is fairly good? I also must have overdone the drinking water beforehand thing because she started out saying "you've done well with your bladder", and then about halfway through decided that my bladder was actually too full and so sent me out to go to the toilet and then come back!

Caravela, that was me at my first scan (8+4 then, was using contraceptives at time of conception so weren't sure when it had happened!). I waddled into the room with my knees together because I needed to pee so badly & she scanned me & said, "Oh gosh, you ARE full aren't you?" No, I just walk like this all the time... I nearly wet myself when she chucked the gel on - and I do mean chucked, she didn't even look at where she was aiming!

Congratulations on your good scan news

Wow you guys can't talk!!!!

I'm dreading drinking the water for my scan next week as its so hard to get anything liquid down! On my first scan las time I drank a litre before we left home like a good girl and they kept me waiting 45 mins!!!!!! I was in a bit of a state when they got to me! After that I busy drank water whilst waiting and it seemed to be enough.

Glad the scans have gone well :)

Can't remember all I've read and am rubbish with names but

• def give crochet a go. Once you pick it up its really easy - I taught myself with YouTube last year and for Christmas made nearly 20 hats as presents - puppy, dinosaur and owl ones! And I'm no way an expert!

• dying muslins is such a good idea - will be doing that!!

• as for bf - I'm an emotional wreck about that already! Last time I was so v pro bf and read all the books and believed all the stuff about only bf and having any bottles would confuse baby and ended up totally exhausted, with thrush (which the doctors failed to treat correctly) and in tears the whole time dreading the next feed. I ended up going cold turkey which was awful - for me - DS was such a milk monster (and still is!!) he couldn't have cared less where his milk came from!!! So I'm almost scared to try again but then feel bad if I don't even give it a go. I think I will def be combi feeding from the word go and if it doesn't work out I won't be beating myself up about it.

Had anyone else got a horrible taste in their mouths? I swear that is making the nausea worse and it's showing no signs of going. I'm desperate for a refreshing drink but nothing hits the spot. Hurry up second trimester - I have high hopes!!!!!

I tired bf with my first but i wasn't producing enough apparently im too small both height and weight though i would say im average. I will try again with this one only if it is for a few days again. Not looking forward to the after birth breast swelling though or the salt baths! They should tell school kids all of this that will stop teen pregnancy!

I am going to try bfing but am worried as I have a disabled family member I take care of outside of work hours. Not sure how I'm going to be able to do that and bf, particularly in the early weeks, but I figure I'll just have to work it out. I reckon I'll have about a weeks respite after the birth and then I'll be back to hoisting and hauling into wheelchairs, whilst baby screams for food in the pram beside me. But hey, no situation is perfect.

A great comfort to me is remembering that back in the day, women didn't have maternity leave at all and would just have to get on with their usual work. Ditto for women with other small children. You just have to juggle, don't you?

Oooh by the way! Got an email this morning for 25% off ASOS till Friday morning! (You may need a student number, not sure)

I wasn't going to buy maternity stuff this early but 25% off only happens once a year! Abovementioned family member is having a nap right now, so I'm going to spend the next hour making a big shopping list!

Has anyone bookmarked any great things on ASOS they like? Share them! Being FORCED to shop - is there any better feeling??!

I didn't bookmark it, but there's a lovely black and white floral print maternity dress on there that I adore - very summer evening-y. Gah, need to finish work now so I can window shop (screen shop?).

Have spent the past ten minutes debating with myself if I will actually wear leather maternity leggings!

DH was talking about going shopping for maternity clothes, but I still fit in my normal clothes, so I think it's a bit early. Don't want to spend too much on things I'll only be wearing for a few months, but equally would like to have some nice things that will make me feel a bit less of a lump. I was actually really surprised because the sonographer weighed me at the scan, and I've only put on about a kilo since I got pregnant - I thought it would be way more because I feel quite big and bloated, and was feeling quite self-conscious about it the last week or so.

I also got given that Bounty pack at the scan. What a lot of guff. It got on my wrong side from the start because at the back of the envelope it comes in it says "Baby brain? Why not keep your maternity notes in here". Which made me want to throw it on the floor and shout "Don't treat me like I'm mentally incompetent just because I'm pregnant." And then the inside was full of helpful "FAQs" such as "Is it okay if I take illegal drugs while I'm pregnant?" and absurd pictures of mothers of newborns who are so chic that their carrier bags for their designer shopping match the colour of their baby's pram cover.

Annarose I may have bought leather maternity leggings

Heh I am also semi-interested in leather maternity leggings :)

I want to buy a few new bits this time around, but I don't know if I necessarily want maternity-specific clothes just yet. My sister gave me a great haul of maternity tops and I have a couple of pairs of jeans, plus my waistband extender kit which means I can wear normal jeans/shorts for longer. Last time around I felt I was in and out to Primark the whole time buying bits and pieces because I kept feeling like I had nothing to wear and my bump was fairly low key.

So my new plan is to get sorted with maybe 4 max 5 tops/sweaters and just pare my wardrobe right down. I'm willing to spend a tiny bit more because it will still end up cheaper than the accumulative spending on shite that took place last time! But it's so hard to find stuff - I only want longline tops but there's feck all in the shop and what I do find is sold out or not in my size or something. Me&Em do a lot of stretch jersey stuff so I'm holding out for one of their tops.

Random, am totally fascinated by your account of feeding with implants and feeling no pain despite the horrors of thrush/mastitis. Must have been a very strange experience.

mislinford did somebody tell you that the reason you hadn't enough milk was because you were too small?! That doesn't sound right, I am 5'2 and size 6-8 pre-pregnancy and although my milk took a while to come in once it was in there was lots of it. Fennel tea is good for milk-making too. I'm with you on the not looking forward to the engorgement period though, it's astonishing the stuff that nobody tells you, if only the teens knew...

Annarose that's very tough for you, are you sure you'll need to get back into really hands-on caring straight away? Is there anyone who could give you a hand? Even another family member who could come around and clean and cook for you and stuff? It's true that back in the day women didn't have much maternity leave but I think there were generally more people around to help out with babies, the takes a village to raise a child mentality and all that. Whether you end up breastfeeding or not, do consider a stretchy wrap sling. If you have to be buzzing around doing stuff, it will absolutely save your sanity.

Greenstone my hoped-for weeks respite will be because of another family member! But I can't impose upon them for longer - its very full on. I don't mind it, as I've been doing it for half my life, its just I never had a demanding baby before!

I am thinking about a sling, but then I suspect that carrying a sling in front of me whilst operating a full hospital-sized mechanical hoist would not be very safe! I'll work it out - I know I sound a bit blasé but there's no point stressing about stuff I can't change. Actually its a priviledge as I adore the person - I'm already seeking out some baby cushion thing that will enable them to "hold" baby safely. They'll be so happy!!!

I think I'm gonna get those leather leggings, fuck it! Imagine how cool they'll look with a basic grey t-shirt! No effort required!

Caravela - and that's why second time round I've not bothered to look at my bounty pack!! Only got free tea bags this time too!! Last time was a small can of caffiene free coke!

Thanks for the info on rubella everyone. I am not going to worry about it then, I was just very surprised to get so many letters about it! A bit over the top I think.

Happy to go ahead with a Facebook group, but I won't join until after 12 week scan. Interestingly, a friend of mine who is a doctor (had her first DC in March) texted me to ask when my 13 week scan was. Not the first time she's referred to it as 13 week scan either, but everyone knows it at 12 week scan so I was confused by a doctor using a different date! Odd!

Also planning to breastfeed here if possible, but will see how it goes really. I am hoping that being relaxed will help make life easier about things like that as I normally stress which won 't help the baby much!

I too was unimpressed with my bounty pack, it seems like an excuse for an advertising campaign, not impressed that he Nhs give these things out!

Ahhh I have to wait 2 days to tell the kids and I'm desperate, I have ever so almost told dsd today but I couldn't go further than I think they'll be a baby soon as I can't tell her without her sisters it's not fair. Really glad I can let them listen on the doppler as well :D

My scan is tomorrow! So excited! I am 12+4 and the sickness has got worse, feeling cheated!