November 2014 Thread 3- Counting towards the second trimester!

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Hi everyone,

A new thread for us chatty bunch due in November. Could someone repost the stats? I'm on my phone so can't do it. Thank you!

Argh. girlythoughts, I hadn't even thought about Christmas shopping!!! I might do it in summer sales!???

Alita - good luck with scan and anyone else with scans today!!

Yes to funding bump a bit smaller!!?? having a few little twinges down there today hoping it's just a bit of stretching.
12 weeks today!!

thanks elle!

I'm waiting for dp to be ready to leave, it's at 10.40 (or whenever they get to me :p) but going on the bus and want to be early.

Anyone want to hold my hand? I'm thinking positively but I'm finding it so hard to let myself imagine seeing what I want to see! I don't know if I could handle another mmc, but I'm telling myself that I'm refusing to let that happen!

my bump has sort of shrunk in that it looks more like a little bump and less like all over bloat or fat, it's narrowed and is lower, where as for me bloat and fat have been more spread out :p

Managed to turn up an hour early for the scan - not sure how that happened as I thought I was borderline late!!

But anyway went very well - it's a real little wriggly bum in there! Jumping all over the place, kicking & waving, saw it swallowing and rubbing it's face, it's really active!!! Calculated my downs risk which with my bloods has dropped from 1 in 244 to 1 in 4859!!! Blimey!! Very pleased with that! Size is spot on, everything else looks great, very happy little thing! Obviously too early to tell the sex but looking at the pics and working on the nub theory my friend and I are thinking girl... could be very wrong though and have another month to find out!

Yesterday I suddenly developed the desire to want to live in a house with a garden It must be all the hormones. We live in a split level flat, no outside space but there's a nice communal area (well, two, one which is for play and one which is more like a garden), it's fairly secure around here, and we have a huge lovely park nearby. Plus I have a very nice view of nature type business so it's not like other flats I've lived in, and we have loads of windows so it's nice and light. It's probably not as big as a house (unless the house we compare with is very small?), but it's not that much smaller, decent sized rooms and what have you. Only 2 bedrooms, but that's plenty for now. But I just developed this desire that I must live in a house now! not happening, we only moved into this place 6 weeks ago!

A little bit nervous about tackling stairs with both toddler and newborn, but then again DS climbs them himself these days, getting better at climbing down, and newborns are light We only have one flight to go up before getting to our door and they're wide and not steep.

I really want to organise our place, make it much better organised and have a system going for maintaining it - it's alright, but we have stuff to do still since having moved in, and though I'm only 9+4 I can't help feeling nervous that I don't want it to stay this way until 39+4! That's what happened last time, planned on spending last week or two of pregnancy organising and then DS started making his way on 39+3 The cot wasn't even built yet...

Random Lovely news!

got my scan tommorrow afternppn at 1:40 and am starting to feel nervous!!!

How lovely Random! Makes it seem much more like a little person in there when they're moving about so much, I bet.

Cunfuddled, I have my scan a week today & nerves are already building. Hope all goes well, pop back & let us know!

Hurray Random! That's so exciting! Good luck alita for today and Cunfuddled for tomorrow. It's really all starting to happen now, isn't it?

I hear you on the garden issue it'sjustthursday. We are currently renting a house in a stunning area, a seaside village with great amenities. The rental house is nice: 3-bedroom, 3-storey (it's narrow rather than wide) and end-of-terrace. There's a little yard outside with decking and we do grow plants and stuff and the beach isn't far away. We've been here about 4 years and really enjoy living here. The sad thing is that we could never afford to buy our own house in this area, though, the prices are sky-high as it's very desirable.

It really struck me this weekend seeing DD running around her grandparents' garden how good space is for kids...and also how much easier it is to wrangle them when you can just let them loose in an enclosed garden! But, you can't have it all I suppose. There are benefits and drawbacks wherever you live.

Speaking of everything outdoors, I am really disgusted with myself, I have turned into such a sedentary lump (or at least that's how I'm feeling). I absolutely need to start exercising again -- currently plotting to buy nice new trainers to help motivate me into this. My skin is awful, my legs are hairy, I look so tired, and grey is poking through at my roots because I've been reluctant to colour them in the first trimester. I'm 12 weeks tomorrow and really determined to get some fitness and perk back into me. Going to book a leg wax now. Please all, keep kicking me virtually up the arse!

Greenstone, I feel your pain on this one. I normally do quite a lot - not gym-type exercise, but do part-time groom's work as well as normal office hours so a lot of shovelling horse crap, walking around, lifting stuff etc. At the moment I wake up in the morning and genuinely feel like there are lead weights attached to all four limbs.

As well as that, my OH casually stroked my ankle under my PJ bottoms last night & actually RECOILED at the hairy feeling. He said it was like stroking a man.

If anyone sees the tattered shreds of my dignity lying around anywhere...

I just feel like I was so much more active in the first trimester last time around, Twiglet. Was walking everywhere even though I was tired. I'm going to put DD in the buggy and go for a long walk this afternoon.

Right, leg wax is booked for Saturday, let this be the first of many steps towards normality!

Greenstone I'm exactly the same- now the nausea has improved significantly, I feel like I'm largely feeling rubbish because of the lack of exercise and vast amounts of crap I'm eating. Working 12 hr shifts all weekend unfortunately, but scan next wednesday, so planning after that to give myself a push and be a bit healthier, and hopefully start swimming.

Random glad to hear scan was all good. Hope it feels a bit more exciting for you.

Alita you summed up perfectly how I've been feeling- just generally a bit low and chaotic. Hoping it might change soon with scan next week. Lots of other stresses at the moment with work etc which don't help.

Good luck Alita and anyone else with scans today.

Greenstone Well, I've now managed to move past the garden issue briskly as I've just learned a whole lot this morning about school admissions locally! It turns out we basically have one choice... I know it won't be for a while, DS would start applying for reception class I think in September 2015, but it's coming eventually and it's taken be a bit by surprise! The school we would probably end up with is nice, and on our doorstep, so I'm not worried by it. But it's just odd - the 2 closest schools after this one are actually 1 mile away, which is fine by me, only they're incredibly popular - heavily oversubscribed, outstanding Ofsted etc - and have really narrow catchment areas; if you don't live within a 5min walk of the school, and don't have a sibling there, then just forget it really. There are only 2 other schools in our region of the LEA that don't have strict catchment areas, 1 is alright, the other is an improving school after having been on special measures but still has some work to do. Both of these are 25min walks (I suppose it could be longer though, depending on how fast a 4yo walks!), no direct public transport, but could be driven in about 10min depending on traffic (we don't have a car yet but hopefully will do within the next year). So, they're not exactly convenient either.

It just seems so strange, the way school admissions work. I've known from hearing people talking about postcode lotteries and such, but obviously this is the first I'm really experiencing it. At least the school next to us is quite good so I'd be happy with DS there, I just think that (as you should anyway) we'd have to keep a keen eye on his work to make sure he's understanding things, broadening his experiences and such, whereas the super schools 1 mile away do a lot of extra activities and have impeccable behaviour, according to the Ofsted report anyway, so it gives those pupils a little bit of a boost I think. My main concern is actually just behaviour, I went to schools were there were a lot misbehaved children, and it was largely down to home life, they needed support, but the schools weren't quite capable of providing that and so everyone suffered. I just want DS to be in a supportive environment where that isn't an issue

So very off track there, particularly for an antenatal thread!

Ahh I can't tell you all how happy I am :D : D Baby looks totally healthy, measuring fine and jumping and wriggling about all over the place. she had to get me to come back later as she couldn't get the nuchal measurement so got to see baby twice, nuchal was between 1.1 and 1.5, she measured several times, which she said is fine :) she hadn't heard of the nub but showed me the bottom which had two lines - and If nubs are split it's a girl one so that would indicate girl? when I could see what looked like the nub on the screen it looked pretty straight as well so I'm thinking girl :)

oh alita thats fantastic news and

congratulations x

Yay congratulations alita!

Fab news Alita congratulations!

Congratulations Alita

just read back, congrats random!

This relaxed feeling is pure bliss :p

It's weird though, how active they are, yet we can't feel anything!

Congrats to everyone who had scans!

I had a busy couple of weeks. Firstly, I had my PhD viva, which I passed, so I'm really happy about that. But then I had some more spotting so I was back at the antenatal department for another scan. Luckily everything was fine, and I am now around 9+3. I saw the heartbeat again and this time it did a little wriggle. It's crazy how fast they grow. It looks so much more than a baby now compared to 6 weeks and I know it will look even bigger in 3 weeks' time when I have the 12 week scan.

Congratulations Alita and Random - let's hope this is the start of lots of happy scan news!

Congrats everyone who had scans! Am jealous, mine isn't till week 20! At least I had a brief glimpse in wk 10 when they found the heartbeat so I console myself with that.

Today Dh & I did a very brave thing - we started looking at prams! Not to buy mind you, just as a preliminary recce. This is our first and we didn't even know the difference between a pushchair and a carrycot. And it was quite good fun - we went to a few places, and asked loads of questions (& I pushed my belly out to look further along, lol).

We're probably going to get a carrycot as well as the pushchair/carseat combo - I know some ppl don't bother but we live in a coastal area and the wind/rain can be cruel, & I walk a lot with the dog. Also like the idea of using it for daytime naps in the kitchen as I'm pottering about, also for day-long visits to my parents house.

What did the rest of you do that have kids already? Carrycot or no carrycot?

I had a carry cot with my DS, it came with a stand and was invaluable in my opinion. DS was quite jaundiced when we came out of hospital so I had to put him outside in the sun for a few days, it came with a cat net so the bugs wouldn't get to him, he slept in his carry cot so I just used to pick it up and take it to my room at night time.

Fabulous scan news, what a relief for you both and such happy times!

I opted for a pushchair type one with DS. forward facing only. Kinda regret it. Id love to buy a new 'pram' for this one as ill be walking to school twice a day to collect DS but I cant justify the cost (although I kight try to find a cheap second hand one