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November 2014 Thread 3- Counting towards the second trimester!

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barmybunting · 06/04/2014 06:56

Hi everyone,

A new thread for us chatty bunch due in November. Could someone repost the stats? I'm on my phone so can't do it. Thank you!

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ElleOhElle · 23/04/2014 17:47

hooray for good scan news! only 39hrs til mine Grin

Polkadotscarf · 23/04/2014 18:02

edward I was on citalipram for nearly two years after a nervous breakdown! not on it now but midwife did warn me that I would be more prone to depression both during and after pregnancy. It is pants when you feel low but really can't pin point why or change it. I had a fair amount of counselling alongside the citalipram which really helped as I talked through things I didn't even realise we're bothering me!
I hope you have a good support network at home and are able to take time to just wallow sometimes.

Polkadotscarf · 23/04/2014 18:03

Didn't mean to put an exclamation mark after the word breakdown in the last post!

Chivesmum · 23/04/2014 19:19

Wow this thread moves fast! I can't keep up! Good luck for all the scans coming up - 2 weeks to go till mine

I've not been sick for three days!!!! So am hoping the worst has passed - still feel quite rubbish but am managing to function a bit which is very helpful! Also can't stop eating! Feel sick if I don't and dinner time gets earlier and earlier!!

Only downside of feeling better is that I've more time to think and worry :( so many worries going around in my head - partly due to my sons recent asd diagnosis and all that involves especially as I'm not doing all the things I could be doing to help him cos I feel so rough. I'm sure all will be well in the end but heck this parenting lark is hardwork at times!

barmybunting · 23/04/2014 19:37

Seriously stupid question from me...

What do you dress a newborn in? Long or short sleeved babygrows?

I am asking because I am trying to order a particular babygrow online for DH's birthday, as our 12 week scan is on his birthday, so I want thought this would be a good idea as one of his presents for after the scan, all being well.

But they don't have any babygrows with legs on, they are all legless but have the option of short sleeved or long sleeved. Which one is used when? And what do they wear over them?

(Extremely clueless here!!)

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barmybunting · 23/04/2014 19:50

I have just realised what I am talking about is actually a baby vest, not a baby grow... Hence it has no legs! Ah...

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Chivesmum · 23/04/2014 20:26

Hehe!!! Bless you! I remember standing in mothercare when I was pg last time almost in tears as I couldn't work out if needed long sleeved vests or short sleeved ones and what size baby Gros to get !!!

itsjustthursday · 23/04/2014 20:31

barmy Grin Your post made me smile! If you have any further questions about baby grows I'd be happy to help... Wink (got myself in a right muddle before DS was born as I just couldn't understand how anyone would know how much clothing they need!)

I have a serious amount of work to do and I'm struggling Confused Was so tired last night I couldn't do anything and went to bed early, then during DS' nap today (as am at home today) I napped too Blush Unfortunately I can't use pregnancy as an excuse, I've got about 3 days and it has to be done!

RandomInternetStranger · 23/04/2014 21:29

DD was born in the middle of a major heatwave so she lived in just a nappy initially! Grin

These are due just as it's getting cold and wet and miserable but as the central heating and log fires are coming on so I'm planning layers layers layers. How many you need is a bit confusing. They grow so fast I wouldn't get too much but then if they are a particularly sicky baby or are a master of the fountain poo as DD was then you could be changing them 3 or 4 times a day and twice in the night. I stocked up on 0-3 month bundles from eBay but she was so big (10lb 2oz and 23" long at 3 weeks early) that she was too big for all of it & went straight into 3-6 months stuff which I only had a few bits of! This time I'm sticking to 3-6 month bundles and if they're too big he/she will grow into it eventually!! Grin

They say the baby should be dressed in 2 layers more than you would wear so if say you'd wear a jumper in November then baby needs a vest, tshirt and jumper. Sounds a bit ludicrous when it's written like that but it comes naturally when it happens. (By the way first timers the maternity ward is like a bloody furnace, it is uncomfortably hot and they are really panicky about keeping the baby burning hot. I remember having a row with one nurse because DD was bright red and felt burning hot to the touch and I stripped her down a bit and you'd think I dangled her out the 8th floor window by her big toe FFS! OK they need to be warm but when they're burning up, unhappy and bright red it's going a bit far!

alita7 · 23/04/2014 21:34

With the depression thing, I'm not depressed exactly, but I've had the feeling you get with pms, that chaotic, low feeling, for most of this pregnancy.

Barmy I think what you dress them in (in November anyway) would be one of those baby vests with or without long sleeves underneath a footed (socks fall off) baby gro or top with dungarees or dress with tights and then a jumper, Cardigan or baby hoody and a thick snow suit when going out.

argh so nervous!

WinterLover · 23/04/2014 22:17

Any ideas how to tell work? Going to tell them tomorrow and then email the agency after work.

MummyV18 · 23/04/2014 22:27

Hello all Smile can I be added to the list I'm 11+5 today due 7th nov with DC2 and I have my scan on 1st may Smile

I'm planning on buying newborn short sleeve vests, a baby grow, cardi & thick snow suit for coming out if hospital. Hope that helps any new mums as I didn't have a clue 1st time lol x

alita7 · 23/04/2014 22:27

oooh forgot to say congrats winter! have you had a guess at gender? :)

itsjustthursday · 23/04/2014 23:22

DS was born mid-December so I feel reasonably prepared for a winter baby (was super cold the year he was born too!). I can't be doing with panic over layers so I bought a Wallaboo Fleece wrapper, for use in the pram and in the carseat going home, as it has slits for using with a harness/belts. It was great! Definitely using it again with DC2. I still dressed him, of course, but made it a bit easier as it was easier to unwrap him instead of removing from the snowsuit. He had a snowsuit, but being a newborn he slept a lot, and I found it difficult trying to remove him from the snowsuit when he was asleep. I used the snowsuit for when he was in the carrier, but we'll be using the Caboo this time around, so I think he'll have some layers, Caboo, and then me in my huge coat to cover, rather than a full on fluffy snowsuit. But we live in London and it really doesn't get cold here like it does in other parts of the country; I lived on the coast a few years back, still in the South East but the winters were awful comparatively. That's not to say babies in London don't require wrapping up Grin

If I recall, at home DS lived in a vest and sleepsuit for a good 3 months or so. Occasionally a long sleeved body and some crawler pants or joggers. When we went out he wore the same, but then we would put on a hat, a cardi, and wrap him up good in the Wallaboo. We had extra blankets on hand but they weren't needed. His pram also has an 'apron' (Hmm it's a cover that clips to the pram but isn't padded like a footmuff) and a hood, and it was pretty snug in there so I think he was fine! If it was particularly chilly we had some extra warm sleepsuits, they were sort of velvety so they were a bit thicker than the standard, and we would put him in one of those. I figure we'll take the same approach with DC2! We still have all of DS' sleepsuits, vests and winter stuff.

RandomInternetStranger · 23/04/2014 23:45

I've got a wrap and they can get quite hot in those so no need to over dress them while they're in the wrap and arms and legs are tucked in while they're little. I loved my footmuff with DD but I can't for the life of me remember which it was but not seen one the same since.

Going to be strange having a winter baby, with DD we were out all the time making the most of the sun (well I was, she was shaded!) but I wonder how different it will be this time, especially as I'm on the sticks now instead of the city centre.

itsjustthursday · 24/04/2014 00:05

Random It's a really good excuse to stay in a snuggle up like an excuse is required. If you're not keen on too many visitors just predict treacherous ice and sleet and whatnot in your region - if you want people, tell them the treacherous ice means you need lots of help both in and out of the house Grin Winter has it's advantages!

The only thing to bear in mind is the holidays. Not what you'll do, but some of these November babies will be born relatively close to the holidays, especially those that are due towards the end of the month and then go overdue. We kind of forgot that stuff stops in December and that online grocery slots would be booked far in advance. We had to sellotape a too-small nappy to DS at one point as we'd run out of his size and the shops were all closed near us and we couldn't get a delivery Blush (I'd like to point out at this point that the sellotape was to tighten the nappy, not sellotaped to his skin!) Fortunately my parents did dashes for us to various shops near them to hunt down nappy packs and formula, and mum had cleverly booked an online shop way in advance so added a bunch of baby stuff for us, as well as milk and bread and what have you. We were in a blur of newborn tiredness and it all just slipped our mind until we realised we had run out of everything!

It also meant that, at 5 days post partum, DH got caught in mega queues when just "popping out" to get me supplies from Boots (was woefully underprepared). Took him about 4 hours for what would normally be no more than 1.5 hours.

We will be crazy stocked this year and I'm booking my December delivery slots as soon as they let me...

itsjustthursday · 24/04/2014 00:06

Sorry my 'helpful' winter advice was a general one to all, not just picking on you Random Grin

MrsWombat · 24/04/2014 06:20

Considered signing up for an amazon prime trial after baby is born, and also the milkman. That way at least you have the option of bread, milk and basic groceries, and nappies if you can't get to the shops if winter is bad.

Has anyone else's bump disappeared? Obviously I'm still larger than before, but it's deflated a bit. Hopefully it's fluid retention that's gone or my healthier lifestyle is working. Confused

Mumonabroom · 24/04/2014 07:05

Yes yes to bump seeming smaller. I think mine due to lack of wine and nauseous days. I didn't fancy chocolate yesterday. I'm worried about myself haha.

Good idea with amazon prime. I've got it and use it all the time. I hadn't considered the whole December mayhem thing. Both mine were August/September, so it will be a bit different this time. Any other wintry tips appreciated. Grin

RandomInternetStranger · 24/04/2014 07:17

YES to smaller bump!! I'm not eating as insanely as I was, the hunger has subsided so it's not unexpected but it is worrying.

TMI warning but does down there hurt to anyone else?? Externally I mean. Basically everywhere front to back where hair grows?? For weeks now this has been really painful! I've tried going au naturel, I've tried going hollywood, I've tried soothing moisturisers and oils, I've tried astringents, I've tried various crams, nothing helps!! I'm plagued with painful ingrown hairs like never before but my skin down there is just so horribly uncomfortable all the time! its really annoying! didn't have this with DD! Sad

amylou85 · 24/04/2014 07:18

Random thanks for advice on what to wear, I've not even considered that! Just perusing and smiling at outfits that have hoods with ears!

Being only 8+4, it still feels like an idea in my head to me.

I had my midwife booking appt on Tuesday, 2 HOURS LONG!
I got dragged in to a room by a children's centre woman first who started going on about baby massage groups, baby yoga, childcare etc. I sat there feeling stupid as I still don't feel like it's real, felt like a fake! I wanted to say HANG ON LOVE it's the size of a raspberry!!
Then the midwife went through the world's largest booklet of questions - my best friend who came with me had to break off to get food supplies and drink to keep me going!

Also, not been able to get more than half way through meals without going off them and feeling sick. But yesterday I had a whole burrito - my stomach popped right out! I looked massively bumpy - how can one burrito do that?? It calmed down later but I thought god there's no room left in there! (Yes, yes I did stand in front of a changing room mirror and stroke it for quite some time.....) Blush

Also played with pushchairs in mamas and papas. Far too exciting and must calm down!!!!!!!!!!

amylou85 · 24/04/2014 07:21

Oh and no thank goodness no pain downstairs for me....how many weeks in did that start?

Thisisimpossible · 24/04/2014 07:29

Good luck scan people Smile xx

pinkgirlythoughts · 24/04/2014 07:30

I told my headteacher yesterday... she seemed over the moon! Said it was wonderful news, really cheered me up :) I don't plan on telling anyone else at work until after my scan (May 7th).

I've been panicking a bit about Christmas shopping, as the last couple of years I've started from late October, but obviously this year I'm not going to fancy braving the hoardes of shoppers with a huge bump, and certainly won't want to do it with a newborn in tow, either!

chirpchirp · 24/04/2014 08:09

Hi all, glad scans are coming around and there is plenty of good news to share.

I'm still feeling awful, so much worse than first time round. Sickness is 24 hours a day and I just broke down last night after being sick for the upteenth time and cried. DH is doing everything around the house which I appreciate hugely but feel so utterly useless and like a shit mum to DS as his every request is met with sorry, I can't, I feel sick.

Add to that I had a total freak out as I'm supposed to have single handedly organised the summer fair for DS's playgroup at the end of next month and I've done practically nothing. Just feel like I'm letting everyone down.

About to phone my GP to see if I can get an appointment for some sickness meds.