Pregnant after MC due December 14

[Penguin13]

If you're pregnant after a previous MC and due in December 14 this is the thread for you.

If you're an obsessive knicker-checker or just want someone to chat to who knows where you're coming from you'll fit right in.

Evening all,

No purchase here yet, Mother Care no longer has a shop nearby so I've just started looking at slings/baby carriers and cots online, completely lost... still haven't been clothes shopping either, more online searches show maxi dresses (too long, i'm short) or short dresses (too short, i refuse to show my knees). On the other hand my mum has bought Sophie the Giraffe (I had one as a child and absolutely adored it, still do).

Mw appt went well today, with all test results good and another listen to baby's heart beat. Next step is 20w scan on 25 July.

16+5 and huge

Sorry to hear you've been messed around by the system regular. DH thinks I'm mad but I can't bring myself to buy anything before the 20 week scan is over and probably not until 24 weeks when baby is 'viable'. I still can't believe I'm going to have a baby in my arms in a few months. I'm even scared of using up my annual leave at work in case something goes wrong and I don't take maternity leave in November! On the other hand as this is my second ds I should theoretically have a lot less to buy this time!

Thanks guys. It got worse as the day went on and appt 2 saw me disintegrate in to tears because of yet another series of cock ups and random decisions!

Sorry your appointments haven't gone well regular, hopefully things will go more smoothly from now on.

Penguin I haven't bought anything yet, apart from a couple of maternity bras. Except they were actually nursing bras because Mothercare didn't go up to my size in store! I did consider buying a travel system a couple of weeks ago, it was reduced loads online but I couldn't bring myself to get it so early, and now it's sold out. I think I'll wait until I'm a bit further along and had my next scan.

Covent glad your appointment went well and you got to have another listen to baby's heartbeat, I'm seeing the MW next week, hoping I get to hear it too!

MrsFtn Congrats, I didn't realise you were having another DS. I have one DS and have just kind of assumed this one would be a boy too, after all boy are what I know, and what I seem to make. (And boys are great!) But having looked at nub theory articles and pictures my scan is looking very much like a girl. I'd be delighted with either so will be an interesting day when I get my next scan, to see which of my theories are right!

My sickness has eased a bit, partly cos I'm bunged up with a cold/hayfever and so can't smell anything (smell seems to be one of my triggers). Making the most of it and hoping it lasts (the loss of sickness, not the cold!) Going to try some soup for lunch, can't taste anything but will be nice to keep it down!

Hope everyone else is doing well xx

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Sorry things have been rather trying, regular. Hope its all plain sailing from now on.

Other than a couple of pairs of maternity trousers, I'm also avoiding buying anything before the 20 week scan (2 weeks today!!). Don't really know why, just that the half way point seems a sensible time to start. We're very lucky in that our parents are jumping at the chance to buy us some of the bigger items, but we also want to spread the cost so will be buying bits each week knowing my shopping habits month. Penguin, if you work out where to start, then let me know!

I've felt some more definite movement in that last day or so. I was dancing around to rather loud music at home yesterday and got lots of wiggles in response! Just lovely! Think DH is a bit miffed that he can't join in yet though.

18+3..it's flying by!

Ooops I seem to have made another cock up ! I meant to put that this will be my second DC not DS! I have a girl already and don't know yet what this one will be!

Can't believe your day of appts got worse regular hope they manage to organise themselves from now on.

I think last time round I just bought stuff as and when it was in the sale rather than in a particilar order! I guess it depends how much room you have to store things between now and your due date.

18+5 and counting...

Haha MrsFtn how old is your DD? My DS will be 6 this weekend, and all his baby stuff went along time ago so starting from scratch again!

She will be 4 in September. We've kept all her baby things in the loft and garage, some of it is like new - she was a big baby so didn't fit into most of her newborn clothes and she was breastfed and totally refused to take a bottle so my steriliser, bottles, teats, breast pump etc are all pretty much unused! We need to buy a new mattress for the cotbed and a new 'big girl' bed for DD but I think that's about it for the big stuff.

Did anyone else hear about the woman who gave birth on the pavement outside Primark in Birmingham yesterday? !

Oh no Regular, sorry your day actually got worse. I hope they get their act together from now on.

Glad you've at least had a temporary reprieve from sickness Basgetti even though you had to pay for it with a cold.

How lovely that you could feel wiggles cakes. I'm sure it will only be a short while before we're all getting jabbed in the ribs and bladder and wondering why we were all so impatient for definite movement .

Well, it isn't a baby-related purchase but we've been having some shelves and cupboards built either side of our chimney breast and today they put in.....The bay window seat of my dreams! Cue no doubt misguided daydreaming about peacefully reading to new DC in our new reading nook.

With 11 nieces and nephews in total I am hoping that we will be getting quite a few hand me downs or loans in the baby equipment front. The thing that is perplexing me the most is choice of travel system/pram. We live in a village and quite often go walking over fields so want something good off-road but I also want something manoeuvrable and that I can take on the bus as we only have one car and dh drives to work. I don't think everything I want exists in one pram/system but it's hard to know what will really end up being important to us. It did occur to me that with a due date in Dec newborn excursions may be somewhat minimal anyway owing to the weather.

Sorry ladies, just need a little rant.

I have a friend who has a 2 year old and therefore she believes she is the oracle on pregnancy. She badgers me constantly about how I'm feeling and what's happening now but every time I tell her something she tells me I'm wrong! Latest example was me talking about buying maternity clothes and she said, "why are you doing that? You won't be showing yet, it's too early". Erm...I think I know how my clothes fit thank you very much!! She's also said I couldn't possibly be feeling movements yet either.

I feel like telling her to back off, it's my pregnancy, it won't match yours exactly so pipe down!! she has offered some great advice along the way, but recently, now I'm feeling more confident, she's getting really annoying!!!

Rant finished!

How annoying Cakes that would get right up my nose, especially the telling you that you don't need mat clothes yet! I have a friend who is a couple of months behind me and like me it's her first. It's been lovely to have a pregnancy buddy but I'm trying to be careful about what I say as I don't want her to feel like I am taking away from all of her new experiences by being all 'I've been there first' about it. Every pregnancy is so different anyway there is no 'one experience fits all' manual. I might be tempted to gently hint something along those lines but it's easier said than done I know.

I think I will say something. She's a good friend, just a bit pushy sometimes! And I do appreciate some of her advice!!

Evening Ladies, Sorry I've not been about much I've had a horrible week. Spent a lovely weekend at my parents, managed to put my feet up lots and not have to cook. Then returned home for it all to go wrong. DD is being bullied at school, its been going on a while and the teacher was pretty much useless. It all became too much when she came out of school yesterday in floods of tears demanding to move schools. I released all my pregnancy hormones of rage at the teacher who finally realised how serious the issue was. The bully has been moved away from DD in class and her parents have been called in to school. I'm hoping they are in separate classes next year (it's a massive primary school so 2 classes per year).
Add all that on top of now daily headaches i've not felt like leaving my bed to be honest.

Anyhoo enough drama! Penguin I've bought maternity clothes (no choice really!) and have been eyeing up a gorgeous play gym for baby which i have totally fallen for but will hold off for a little while. We will be trying to spread the cost as much as possible so will need to start soon. I have kept DD cotbed and also the bedding as i loved it so much.

Regular Sorry to hear about your disaster day, hope you are feeling better now. I've come to the conclusion that consultants are only involved in antenatal care to mess stuff up and be complicated. They aren't that important until it comes to baby arriving anyway!

Basgetti Glad your sickness has eased off slightly. Apparently stuffed up nose is common during this stage of pregnancy!

Cakes You definitely need to say something, I have a friend who is similar and had to tell her to butt out before i cut her off! Thankfully this pregnancy i now live further away so although we are still in regular contact i don't have to put up with it as often!

Hello to the newbies, and everyone else! I promise to not leave it so long next time so i don't have so much to catch up on!

15 weeks today woohoo!!

Your poor DD Franks. Good for you for taking the issue up more forcefully with the teacher and getting something positive done. I hope this helps to resolve things.

It's been a while since one of these has needed to be doled out but could I have a massive fish slap please? Since we had a positive 12 week scan I have started acting like it's a foregone conclusion that everything will be fine. Now that the 20 week scan is fast approaching (ours is on the 14th) I am irrationally paranoid that I have somehow jinxed things by being too optimistic. I know this is ridiculous but can you just please tell me it is?!

I have a trout handy, Penguin, so I'll slap you! But only if you give me one in return because I'm also starting to feel anxious again...

Thanks Cakes have a reciprocal swipe with a salmon, slap with a sardine and tickle with a turbot for good measure.

Completely non-pg related but I have the rage this morning after getting my arse groped on the way through the turnstiles at St Paul's. I mean it was pretty crowded, but not 'feel free to cup my buttock with your hand crowded' Ugh! What is wrong with people?!

I will happily fish slap all of us. I too am tossing between uber positive and stupidly anxious from being too bloody positive! Will have to be with a box of fish fingers though as this is not a fishy household.
My 20 week isn't until 7th August so i really need to chill out. Next seeing midwife on the 16th when i will be 17 weeks. Thankfully my Doppler addiction is keeping me from climbing the walls.

Random of the day, whilst walking to school this morning I suddenly realised with a due date of Christmas day, should I buy baby Christmas presents in case he/she makes an early appearance?! DD was discussing a Christmas eve baby and as she still believes in all the magic I can't imagine she would be impressed if the big man "forgot" her new sibling.
Ending on positive thinking because we are daft for thinking positive is bad.

That's a good point, Franks, this baby is likely to born early December but I hadn't even considered buying it Christmas presents! I have had the 'when will I do my Christmas shopping' panic God, I can be so irrational as I'll either be heavily pregnant or faffing around with a newborn! It'll all have to be done online in those first few weeks of maternity leave. Or everyone will just have to be satisfied with newborn cuddles as their Christmas present!

Cakes I've started shopping for DD and my nieces already
Have told everyone else I'm not doing presents as they will be getting a new grandchild, niece/nephew! I don't buy for many anyway but figured the money will be better spent on baby things.

Work has been a bit crazy this week. Sorry to hear about bullying and know-it-all friends, appointment disaster and negativity, big slaps to all of that.

Willing to join the "not-buying-anything-before-20w-scan" club but struggling with my normal clothes, and yet too many plans this weekend to squeeze any shopping. Trouble in sight Anyway I need to throw stuff out before getting anything in.

Anyone with belly button piercing? When is it time to say goodbye?

AIBU: I'm upset because when telling family the biggest response I seem to get/hear is: "oh have you told your brother yet, it will be hard for him" - excuse me, yes I'm aware of that, and because I live abroad and have kept my mouth shut about TTC and mc for 6 years, it doesn't mean the journey has been an easy one. Makes me feel guilty for having some happy news. Sorry, had to get it out

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Franks I'm so sorry to hear about the problems your DD has had. I can't believe that bullying is something you have to worry about at such a young age. It breaks my heart to hear of children being bullied - they say your school days are the best days of your life but I beg to differ!

Covent (glad to see you've altered your name BTW!) that's a rubbish reaction to get from people - very insensitive I think.

I am definitely getting more and more anxious about my 20 week scan next week. I almost had a full on panic attack on the way to work yesterday as I was driving alone and kept thinking about it and all the horrible things that could happen. I kept thinking 'this time next week I'll be getting ready to go to the hospital'. To top it off I'm feeling rubbish today, I don't know if it's just because it is so muggy and hot here. I feel sick and keep having to go to the loo every half an hour. I also have a dull constant ache in my abdomen which I am telling myself is just things stretching etc. but I'm trying to stay away from Dr. Google about it (waves a turbot in the air - could I have a slap with this please?) I also have my first consultant appt after my scan and judging from other people's experiences I'm not expecting much.

Hand over that turbot Mrs, I'll give you that slap! But I understand the anxiety. The odds are very much in our favour that everything will be just fine and dandy...but the waiting is dreadful. I feel like I've been waiting ever since I got pregnant the first time, waiting for scans, waiting for MMC confirmation, waiting for ERPC, waiting for BFP, waiting for scans...it goes on and on. We'll all wait and panic be patient together!

Covent, those are really inconsiderate responses. I think sometimes you just have to turn away from those kind of comments and think only of yourself and your baby. It's your turn for some happy news, don't feel guilty.

By the way, I have a belly button piercing. It came out about a month ago! Now that bump is growing, I now have a small, red, thinly stretched scar forming, so I can tell it would've been getting uncomfortable by now particularly as I'm stuffed with cake and biscuits but just go with what feels right for you. You can get special soft plastic bendy bars I believe if you don't want to give it up.

By the way, I messaged my friend as I hadn't responded to the 'you don't need maternity clothes' comment, and just said, i think I know my body best and that every pregnancy is different. She took a while to respond, but conceded that I was probably right! We'll see how things go from here, she's a lovely lady with the best intentions, she just needs to think before she speaks!

Lots of slaps required today so slap slap slap and reslap to you all.

Well done cakes, you are not "probably" right, you are right, full stop. And thanks for belly button tip, maternity baby feet belly bar ordered, so cute

My brother is a very very nice person btw and family is happy for me, I could do without the "but your bro.." comment though.

I have been feeling things on my right side this week, not sure if it is it, read in my notes placenta is anterior and it's my first so I think it's a bit early to feel it move.

Hi ladies, so sorry to hear of awful appointments, it is appalling how badly communication in the NHS works out. I hope things get better!

I am still in the "assuming all is well between scans" stage but I know I will be nervous as the 20 week approaches (Aug 4). I think I am more worried about anomalies than mc but obviously either would be a real blow.

Covent you have done very well to take the comments about your bro without mentioning mc. I was in your brother's position as my younger brother and SIL got married just after us but conceived first with no trouble, while I had 2 mc in 5 months. However I would never, ever have wanted them to feel their news was sad in my eyes...it was a bit at first but it is irrational and doesn't mean you're not also overjoyed for them. You brother would probably be mortified to hear others have been saying that...I certainly would!

Cannot believe the groping, Penguin! I take it you means St Paul's tube station and not the cathedral

Am just surviving the end of In The Night Garden then DD can go to bed and I can do some marking....joy! Happy weekends ladies!

Covent I feel sad for you that people have been so insensitive in their reactions to your news. No-one should be reacting to news of your much longed-for pregnancy with anything other than joy and happiness. I'm sure they are very very glad for you though.

Franks I'd never thought of it but you're right. Baby's first Christmas will come round a lot sooner than I anticipated!

Haha yes fun it was St Paul's station. I can only conclude my currently gargantuan posterior was too much of a temptation to resist!

Cakes I think you did the right thing saying something to your friend. I tend towards silently seething and letting things fester because I'm a coward this way you've nipped it in the bud and you can still enjoy the helpful bits of her advice.

How nice is my supervisor? She said I could go an hour early today cause it's so hot on the tube. As it happened I was in the middle of something so only left a half hour early but I really appreciated the gesture.