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September 2014 - Holding hands and 20 week scans...

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BexBoo12 · 27/03/2014 19:47

New thread for our chatty bunch :-) x

Bex

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Missingcaffeine · 19/04/2014 17:53

cookie big hugs and I hope you are feeling better. Whatever happens, I promise you will be fine. There is nothing worse than unresolved upset in a relationship and not knowing what to do or what is going to happen. To top it all, everything is going to feel a million times worse right now due to your hormones, so please remind yourself this and be kind to yourself.

I stayed with the wrong person for far too many years and it is only looking back that I can see how miserable I was. The best thing I ever did was leave for good, and I am happier now than I've ever been, but it didn't feel that way at the time - it felt like my world was falling apart and I'd never get back to a good place - but I actually got back to a much much better place. It is not worth staying in a truly unhappy relationship for any reason - even children/pregnancy. I know that's easy for a stranger to say, but I do know people who have broken up during pregnancy or shortly after birth, and they are all in much better places than they were before the breakup.
white I have patches of really dry skin on my face too. I might try that moisturiser, as my usual one which I love just isn't up to the job of this extra dry skin. I'm also spotty.
Went for a little jog the other day and got a pain like a stitch in my lower right abdo after about 20 mins so I stopped as I was worried. It went as soon as I stopped. I don't know if it is just because my abdominal muscles are weak and they are used when running? I'm worried to try running again though. Anyone know what this might be? I'm 18 weeks today. Should I stop running?
I'm also starting to just struggle with things like getting off the sofa and out of bed! I feel like an old lady needing support! I'm guessing this is normal at this stage?

whiteblossom · 19/04/2014 18:25

missing Im getting off the sofa like a classic pregnant lady Grin. I've read that running is a bad idea due to impact- but I guess is down to the individual etc, I used to do a bit of running- theres no way I could do it now, even walking at times is uncomfy- I feel the baby/pressure/pushing it makes me squirm, esp' when the baby is turning urgh.

I asked my dh if I looked pg or just fat and he gave me a resolute "def' pg" He even said I looked lovely when he saw me (after I'd got dressed and applied my slap Grin) -amazing what a new statement necklace can do!

Im really pleased as we bought a new sofa and footstool today and managed to talk myself a good discount. Grin yay!

let us know your ok cookie x

FTM1985 · 19/04/2014 18:52

Bit late to the party but only just started having a nosey for a thread. FTM1985 EDD 11th Sept Yellow for one more week :-)

FTM1985 · 19/04/2014 19:05

Oops FTM1985 EDD 11th Sept. Yellow for one more week Smile

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whiteblossom · 19/04/2014 21:49

ella you can always sell your old sofa on gumtree/ebay at least you'll get something towards a new one. My dh and ds would both LOVE a recliner, they were both trying them out today Grin me not so much, I thought I would but once I tried one it just reminded me of the dentist chair Shock. (fear of dentist-ive spent far too much time in THAT kind of chair, shudder) I couldn't get my pg arse out of it fast enough, like a beetle stuck on its back with its legs going lol.

welcome fm

whiteblossom · 19/04/2014 21:51

I'm going to make flapjacks tomorrow mmmmmmmmmmmm

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topmammy · 20/04/2014 08:34

Morning all! Well I am not a happy Easter bunny as one of my wisdom teeth has decided it'd be a good time to try to make bid for freedom again and the gum around it is feeling a bit sore Easter Sad Its not really bad but my other wisdom tooth did the sane thing last year and the gum got infected and I needed antibiotics. Going to do some warm water and salt rinses I think. Hope it'll keep any infection at bay!

Have a good day everyone Easter Smile

ilovemonstersInc · 20/04/2014 08:43

Morning all.
More drama here with ds.
Ive copied this from another thread would like your opinions too

Ds has a background of gastric problems,
-reflux (so bad hes fed via tube)

  • chronic constipation
  • he gets bleeding on the inside too

This time last year he was constipated for over 10weeks. The only reason why he did not become really ill was because of overflow.
Hes been complaining of pain for a while now, took him gp last week and he was happy with him. He felt his tummy and prescribed lactulose. Hes already on stronger constipation meds.
His pain is getting worse. Low grade temp (37.7)
In between being sick and overflow hes happy until he gets pain. When a hcp sees him they see a happy little boy who suffers then is happy again
hes been sick 6x last night. Hes been sick this morning too.
Hes in pain and keeps saying it hurts. The gp and ooh did nothing. Wwyd?

ilovemonstersInc · 20/04/2014 08:44

On a plus note I've seen a few limbs sticking out this morning Grin

lilone1234 · 20/04/2014 08:57

topmammy ouch! hope the salt water gargles help!

Happy Easter all! I saw my family yesterday and got a load of baby bits from my auntie - a bag of clothes (lots of little pink things!), a baby monitor, a bouncy chair, a play mat and some baby gates. Exciting!

Have to go see the in laws today, despite the fact that DP was at football yesterday and not seeing my family...

KatharineClover · 20/04/2014 09:49

Oh your poor little boy ilovemonstersInc - I guess if your mummy instincts say something is wrong then keep pushing for some further help. Do you have a phone that videos? You could video him when he is in pain so they can see what a bad episode is like? Xx

ilovemonstersInc · 20/04/2014 09:55

I feel like im failing him I really do.
Hes fought so hard to be here aftee battling meningitis and malnutrition etc.
My poor little boy.
I rang the hosp the reg was a bitch. She said I cant give you advice. I said put me through to a gastric dr who understands!

Missingcaffeine · 20/04/2014 10:05

ilovemonstersinc can you contact the PEG nurse or any specialist at the hospital for advice? The dietician? Paeds dept? It's a bit tricky as being bank holiday weekend, some of the specialists might not be available until Tuesday. If he's well in-between the pain, that's usually a good sign it's nothing too serious, but of course, it's not nice to see your baby in pain. It may be something as simple as the type of feed needs changing? I would keep a diary of when it happens and how often and try to share with the experts as soon as you are able. If he gets really bad, obviously take him to A&E, but fingers crossed this won't be needed.

I did some gardening on Thursday and boy do the back of my legs ache today. I obviously wasn't able to bend quite as usual, and so I think I must have used muscles in a different way. I'm trying to make the garden lower maintenance, as at the moment it's very high maintenance and it is likely to turn into a jungle very soon, as I'm already starting to feel it's too much for me. OH hates gardening and we can't really afford gardeners. Never thought I'd say this, but there's a lot to be said for artificial grass and plastic trees. I went to garden centre, and wanted to buy compost but thought there's no way I could lift it. Feel so disabled!

Still haven't felt any movement :( 18+1, but only 5 days until scan :).

white I think I'll stop running now. I was only doing it as I was told I could carry on any exercise that I was used to doing - and I was running regularly before pregnancy - but I feel it might be time to stop now. My summer is usually spent being very active - I love to play tennis and run through the countryside and garden. This one is going to be very different!

whiteblossom · 20/04/2014 10:05

ILOVE Has your ds tried Movicol?
My ds has suffered with constipation/overflow/sickness/pain for 6 years now. My ds started on up to nine sashets a day until cleared then reduced, and further reduced as we started to be able to monitor/read the 'signs'. DS is now on 1 or 2 a day.
I could go on about loads of fluids/pear juice sitting on the loo after every meal but Im sure you know all that.

The blood is a concern- is that from straining or something else. Im not sure how being fed through a tube would affect things. Your docs sound crap but then they can be with this sort of thing.Has your ds been checked for crohns or intolarances??

My ds finds that raisng his knees to poo helps, cycling knees while flat, rubbing tummy etc.

Its dreadful when they are rolling around in pain, so I can sympathise with that!

ilovemonstersInc · 20/04/2014 10:20

Movicol no longer works. Hes on picosulfate, docusate and gp said try lactulose again Hmm
im sure he has something like crohns but his gastric is adamant he cant havr it as hes too young Hmm
I have no gastric nurse number (apparently I dont need one) community nurses cant do f.a. for this and I tried ringing the gastric on call for advice but got put throughto a paed reg.

The blood is digested blood from his inside that comes out as black specs. Hes saying his poo wont come down. He wont sit on the toilet as hes scared of it. Hes got a cars potty that he will only wee in. Hes borderline autistic so pushing him too much will only make it worse.

Have been told he needs to be seen in a+e. Hes watching sponge bob right now so as he settled I can get some cleaning done and sort baby out so will get him down if he starts complaining again.

lucidlady · 20/04/2014 10:23

ilove that sounds awful. I'd be tempted to go to children's A&E in all honesty. Hope you get some respite soon for your poor DS.

Ladies - wanted to share some shopping news!

Kiddicare - 10% off today only online - code is easter10

Dream genii pillows - TK Maxx are selling these at a discount so worth checking out if you have one nearby.

HippyJess · 20/04/2014 10:44

Sorry you're struggling ilove :( hope you get some answers soon!

lucid DP says I'm not allowed to buy anything else til after the scan on Friday Grin. So much to think about - after the scan it's only 2 weeks til our wedding! Eep!

whiteblossom · 20/04/2014 12:40

ilove the gastric doc is talking shit, my dh newphew had it from being a tiny baby and like you took years to be diagnosed. He's since had three major ops. He screamed and screamed as a baby. Is there anyway you can book in to see a gastric privately, I don't know where you live but I know a fab one who I have seen via bupa. Clearly this is not normal toddler constipation and given all the other probs its sounds as if there is an underlying issue. The fact that this has a huge impact on his and your family life is enough.

thanks lucid Smile

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Fairypants · 20/04/2014 15:04

I got back from hols yesterday and have been trying to catch up ever since- you are chatty!
Can someone add me onto the list? I only use my phone so can't do it myself. Fairypants edd 15th Sept, team yellow I know I was on the new list before I went away but think there was a copy and paste glitch at some point in the last 2 weeks.
My bump has hardened up whilst ive been gone and can no longer be mistaken for flab. Loads of random strangers were commentingBlush I'll be 19 weeks tomorrow but this is dc3 so its a bit earlier than last time.
Cookie I hope you can talk things through with your oh. I know mine was v hard work with the first 2 and not happy about the pregnancies so we fought a lot. I sometimes think we shouldn't have stayed together it was so bad but we have come out the other side now (mostly).
Nazly I'll be getting a bedside crib (the snuzpod one). It's an expensive way to do it but given how I fed/slept with my other 2, it just fits how we work. I'll be doing a nursery (just cos I'm excited rather than anything else) with change table etc but will leave the spare bed instead of cot for 6 months as baby will be in with me and DH may need an easy option for disturbed nights where he has to get up early for work.
Hi to all the newbies, there seem to be a lot since ive been away. You all seem to have had exciting scan news too- I have to wait til 30th apr but will be asking the colour thenSmile
ilove sorry your DS is feeling so unwell. I really have no insight to offer but hope he is doing better soon.

cookielove · 20/04/2014 15:49

Hello everyone, sorry I disappeared for a while. What I said earlier is only half of it, he also told me he doesn't feel that he isn't in love with me anymore :( so its been a hard few days.

But I want it to work and he wants to try, so he's going to have some counselling which I'll attend to.

If we do split up, I wanna be able to say we tried.

Baby wise we bought a barely used quinny buzz 3 off of ebay for £150. The family fix base and maxi cosi pebble off amazon for £217 (cheapest we could find) and adaptors off of ebay for a £10. Quite pleased we got such a good price!