Due In Jan 2007 Part 3 -where we do stop worrying & start complaining!

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Thought I'd try an set up the new thread up this works!!

I've spoke to the MW now and she said pretty much what I thought (plus what yo said laughalot aboout pains)

Shock...horror....could this mean that I am finally getting to grips with being PG again and starting to not worry....Me...not having hysterical thoughts??.....wooooo....it's a amazing!!!

LOL LTH - we'll all think there's something wrong if you stop worrying

Maybe the title of the next thread can be "The one where we really do stop worrying (honestly)"!

Ha! Got here too late to answer your call UD, but the only reason I can do links is because I've spent waaaay too much time on Mumsnet! (and what's a greebo, BTW? Never heard that before!)
It was lovely here for most of the day so we went to the beach with ds. Reminded me lots of when I was pg last time, because we went for lots of beach walks while we were waiting for ds to finally arrive. He didn't appear until term + 14 arrgh! If this one's as late it'll arrive in flipping february and I'll be on the wrong thread, lol!
Loubie - have a fab hol (though you've probably gone by now!)
Mrs W - OMG yes! I don't remember being this sore this early with ds, but my back is already killing me and I just cannot get comfortable in bed.
Hattie - glad you had a good holiday, hope the feeling of relaxation lasts
LTH - not be hysterical? Nah! Makes far more interesting reading on MN
ftm - d'you know, I've actually forgotten my due date I think it's the 19th or the 21st of January..... I have just checked: it's the 21st. Another one whose brain has turned to porridge! Ach, brains are overrated IMO....
Nemo - I hope the movements carry on. Isn't it funny how different the times we feel them are, even for people not on their first. I've had a couple of kicks so strong I could feel them with my hand not just from inside, but then it goes quiet again for a day or two. Maybe mine's lazy, too, laughalot!

Blimey I can't keep up!!!!!
Welcome to newcomers and welcome home Hattie
LTH: I think you should find something to worry about so we don't worry about you not worrying

On a more serious note though I am having stupid irrational worries about having a poorly baby etc.... I know its irrational and at the moment all I keep thinking is If I can get past 24 weeks the hospital will help if I have early labour but if its before then they wont
I know its crazy!!!!

Bubs is moving tons but coz my placenta is across the cervix it feels really dull and thuddy.

Anyway I am sounding crazy so gonna go drink a weak cider

LOL magnolia....

What about if I just make something up??
You all know I have an over active imagination so I could make up some serious worries for myself. I caould save you all alot of time and trouble worrying about real things couldn't I??

I'm scared my newborn will be used a weapon of mass destruction in lebanon....how about that??

(ohhh aren't I naughty)

PMSLMAO! Naughty naughty!

Hi, just a quick question to hopefully put my mind at rest. I'm 17+5 weeks pg with my 5th child and i have'nt really noticed much in the way of movement, maybe about 6 times in total over the past 2 weeks and only very very mild. Not even certain thats what i was feeling, though you'd think i would know what it feels like by now!

Just hoping that there are others that have'nt felt much by now, especially those who are on their 2nd or subsequent babies.

Tracey.

Tracey, if you read my wittering on this thread you'll see that I'm not entirely sure how much moevemnet I've felt either.
I know I've felt alot more at this stage (20 weeks) with the ds's (this one is no4)....i've doubted so many pokes and prods. It's only been in the last few days when I've felt him/her kicking my hand that I've actually let myslef really believe I've felt it IYKWIM.

I also think that this time around I am a little bit chunkier because I haven't been as active and have daily access to the car, so have become obscenely lazy. It's only few lbs but it really has made a differnece. The little extra layer of blubber is insulating the kicks for a bit longer.
Not saying you're a big fat whale too, of course but it's definatley is the case for me this time.

Tracey, I am expecting #5 and am 22 weeks now. I only really started having movements at about 18 weeks and not strong ones till about 20 weeks.
I thought I would feel it earlier but like LTH I think I am just a whale with more blubber for baby to kick through
Now that sounds like I am saying LTH is a whale which of course she isn't

Thank you both for your prompt replies, they have made me feel a little less worried. I am heavier this time round so i suppose that does make sense although i had'nt thought about it.

I have my 20 week scan on the 8th September so hopefully i'll be feeling a little more positive by then. I think my age, i'm 40, and the fact that i've had 3 miscarriages in the past has made me feel more anxious this time. I'm having to hav e an extra scan at 30 weeks to make sure that the baby is growing properly and since being told this i've been very worried, also my daughter had a little boy 4 months ago born 8 weeks early due to pre-eclampsia and IUGR, he was only 26 weeks size when he was born. I have high blood pressure too and all these worrying thoughts keep whizzing through my head. Any way sorry for going on so much and thanks again for your replies.

Tracey.

Aaah kay does it seem strange to know your daughter has had a baby and you have another on the way ?

Lth that is why im having no movement its not a lazy baby its his/her whale size mummy all I can say is im going to look like posh spice once iv given birth ooops I meant to say vicky pollard .......

And to all of you ladies on there 4th and 5th pregnancy I dont know how you do it im 28 and finding it hard with 1 can I ask a serious question though going from 1 to 2 is it alot harder ? I know thats probably hard to answer and im sure you feel more confident about being a mum 2nd time round because you have the experiance I guess im just worried I cant cope because ill be to tired ... I think im having a lth moment

Laughalot, the one BIG thing I noticed when DS2 was born that was I knew how to love him.

When I was 1st time mum it took me a few days to know how to deal with my new baby and my feelings towards him. It wasn't like that thing where they say you do or don't get a rush of love...I just didn't know how or what maternal love was meant to feel.

When ds2 was born it was instant. The very second I saw him I thought "Ohhh I really know how to love you...and OMG I bloody love youloads"

The actual thing of going from1 to 2 children is abit of a shock (whole lot easier than going from 0 to 1 though) but because you've done it before you'll know all the short cuts and will be in aroutine far quicker than you were with the first, IMO anyway.

God...how many sane, rational posts can i do in one day???
I think I need to start my irrational brain going again...don't want to scare you all after all

When I was pregnant with ds2 I worked myself up a bit at how late in the pregnancy I started to feel little kicks/wriggles - not until nearly 20 weeks when it was about 15 weeks with ds1.

Anyhoo... when I went for my scan, the sonographer said my placenta was 'posterior' (think that's the right word for it!), meaning it was at the front of my tummy and actually acted like a big cushion to prevenmt me from feeling much until tiny little ds was big enough to kick/wriggle more vigorously!

Could be why some of you haven't felt movement until later on?...

HTH - enjoy the rest of your pregnancies. How time's flying, doesn't seem like long since that LTH was announcing her shock pregnancy!

I just hoping the rest of the pregnancy will go as quick calista, it has gone super quick so far

LTH, that was a lovely post. I have been really worried because I didn't have that first rush of love for DS1 and it took a while for me to come to terms with having him (hope that doesn't sound too awful but I guess alot of people feel the same?). I have been quite worried about the fact that when the new baby is born, I will totally love DS1 but it might take the same time to fall in love with the new one. So I would love one more than the other and also, how could I love another as much. It has really made me feel more positive because I hadn't thought about it like that. Thank you. xxx

hello all

Laughalot..going from 1-2 for me was ten times easier then going from 0-1. DD just slipped into the routine we had established with ds just hoping db is as co-operative. Only prob we had is that dd was quite poorley until 6mths old so we had time in hospital which made me feel guilty about ds.

LTH how very dare you stop worrying..lol I am glad it is nothing but if you stop worrying the whole jan thread will stop spinning..pmsl

2happy it is funny how the movements are sooo different...but then my kids have all wound me up in different ways in uterop

Kayasmum you have a lot to deal with hun. Lack of movements are normal[so I am told..lol] I am 19wks and still up and down on identifiable movements..lol

Hope everyone else is ok

We have been busy this weekend. DS new bed arrived at 7.40am yesterday so spent all day putting it together with dh[midi sleeper with chest draws bookcase etc]. Then obviously moving his clothes and putting stuff away. So was shattered last night but had to go for shopping. Today been to b+q for some bits then to pil for most of day so again shattered.

Thanks lth and nemo for you words of advice I know I will be fine its just you get all mixed emotions when your pg as you know, it did take me a while to love my ds it definatly wasnt that instant rush of love so hopefully this time it will be different I just dont want my ds to feel left out and hate me !!! im sure he wont we shall just involve him loads in our new baby. Im getting excited now as its a week tomorrow untill my scan I cant wait. Hope everyone else is feeling fine.

hi everyone...not had a chance to post on here all weekend as been spinning around like a top! makes a change as i'm usually so bloody lazy but there we go. DP went back to his mum's yesterday (sunday) and came back practically in tears. i mean, this is a 31 year old 6 foot, 16 stone guy who plays rugby in his spare time! she's being such a bloody nightmare and totally irrational! i didn't go along as i didn't think i could handle the hassle and didn't fancy four hours in car, what with needing the loo every five minutes at the moment! so anyway, i'm not entirely sure what has been said between them but i do know that there was a huge row, and she said "oh, well, it'll be a shame not to know a grandchild!" how dare she use my child as a weapon? i'm so hopping mad ladies it's not true!

anyway, after the anger settles i think it'll be defeat....i don't want to exclude her from the wedding or the baby for that matter, but i just don't know what to do in the face of such blatant irrationality. i'm a fairly logical person (yes, even now!) and i really struggle to understand someone who won't listen to reason.

sorry to mope, but i feel really down. bump is wriggling round lots today though (as though he/she is trying to cheer me up!) and i'm 20 weeks today! halfway there!

btw, whoever wanted to know, greebo is slang for "greasy biker" and is used as an insult for anyone who is slightly alternative looking. cause i'm just such a goth these days, with my blue jeans and trainers! lmao!

hope you're all well - how was the wedding firsttimemummy? hope you had a fab day...

i got my 2nd scan on wednesday....so excited, i can't wait! xxx

Hi urban well your mil sounds like a right old bag and all I can say is at the end of the day its her loss if she dosent see baby, so long as you and dp have a happy and stable relationship then thats all that matters. Remember to not stress to much because you can do without it at the minute make sure you are taking care of you and baba. Are you going to find out the sex then at your scan ?

Ftm hope you had a fab day and all your dreams and wishes for the future come true xxx

Oh Urban, so sorry you are having these problems hun xxxx
Laughalot, having twins the second time I went from 1 to 3 so never knew the 1 to 2 feeling

Ladies I can't sleep!!!! Not for any particular reason just silly things, needing the loo, heartburn, unconfortable, rain outside the window you name it it's waking me!!!!
I am getting very impatient now and I am only 22 weeks. Hopefully when the kids go back to school time will go faster.

And I am starting my CHRISTMAS SHOPPING

I've started mine too magnolia. About half way through! I usually run around in the week before and get everyone whatever is left so for me that is REALLY organised. Just cant face the thought of shopping at 8months preg!!

Went to Blue Planet Aquarium near Liverpool today for my sister's birthday (yes she was 29 but she loves fish. Went to Maldives for her honeymoon in April and swam with fishes so spent the whole time saying 'I swam with that!). It was brill, if a little expensive but DS loved it! Even did some walking!

Which brings me to my question - any tips on encouraging him to walk. He is nearly there, can walk when you are holding his hands, stand alone for a long time and cruises along the sofa but hasn't made that first step. It is killing my back having to carry him and would love him to be ble to walk to his highchair or when I change him. Iam sure that I will be wishing he wasnt walking when he can but now when I hold him, he squashes the baby and it gives me an almighty kick!

Scan tommorrow and even though I have felt the baby move quite alot now, I am still nervous.

UD - I'm so sorry to hear it I guess you've really got to find out what the umil (unmentionable in law) said to your dp (apart from that bit about not knowing her grandchild ), but if she's using emotional blackmail like that then, frankly she needs to grow up and accept that your dp isn't a child and she can't manipulate him using blackmail like that . I think you're totally right in what you said, at the end of the day she isn't leaving you much option but to exclude you. (((hugs))) anyway, and I hope your poor dp is ok.
FTM - I hope your wedding went smoothly! Give us all the details when you can!
DH - hmm, how to encourage him to walk? I think don't probably is the hint that leaps to mind, lol! ds took his first step at 12m, but it's only the last couple of weeks he's really taken off and is racing everywhere. It's easier on the back and bump, you're right, but there definitely are downsides (like when he skids face first over concrete...). It is cute though, and we bought his first proper pair of shoes today (£25 now there's a reason not to encourage him!!)
Magnolia - christmas shopping? (mind you, don't fancy the thought of struggling round the shops with huge bump...)
dh and I are on holiday so may not post for a few days (rest of thread sighs with relief). We're at a friends house now, she's also pg, but has only lurked on MN and never posted - I'm going to try and pursuede her to join the thread - give her a nice welcome now

Welcome 2happy's friend. Hope you are having a nice holiday.

Sorry Ubandryad, much sympathy for your MIL nightmare! I think that all those of us who have sons or who will have them should make a pact that we will NOT be the MIL from Hell. We will be suportive of our DIL and not criticise their every move and never ever ever use our grandchildren for emotional blackmail!!!!! xxx

Good luck for scan tomorrow Dragonhart xxx