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Due In Jan 2007 Part 3 -where we do stop worrying & start complaining!

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elliepippamummy · 10/08/2006 14:53

Thought I'd try an set up the new thread up this works!!

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theUrbanDryad · 01/09/2006 13:25

of course, it's possible you were referring to the bump el? it's coming along quite nicely....if you know it's there you can see it, but if you don't then you can't! i think cause i was skinny to start with, i've shown quite quickly....was looking at pictures from stonehenge (summer solstice, 21 june!) yesterday and because i was wearing tight tops still you can really see a bump, and i was only about 12 weeks then! i don't feel like i've grown much since 16 weeks though, although the bump's got really hard instead of all flabby like it was...

el123456 · 01/09/2006 13:30

i was underweight to start with to(not convinced myself!)but it isnt wait gain im worried about,its my huge bump!by way urbandryad i have thought about home birth aswell.are you going to have a natural third stage?i would be a bit worried about this outside the hospital environment,what you think?

el123456 · 01/09/2006 13:32

in time it took me to slow type my reply i missed you nxt post!!confused now!

laughalot · 01/09/2006 13:55

Hi everyone hope you are all well. My bump is masive but I only had my son2 years ago iv still not recorvered from that or so I keep teling myself.

Urban I love zach not so sure about arthur but everyone is different my little boy is called aidan and his new sister will be called lauren I am so worried that the hospital have got it wrong I was so sure it was another boy I darent buy anything pink

Lth great pic you look well posh

LadyTophamHatt · 01/09/2006 13:59

TBH El...I don't think I'm that big this time.

My brother and SIL visited the other day and they said the same.
Ok, for 21 weeks I'm not small, probably look closer to 24 or so weeks but when I was PG with DS3 I was vast by this stage.

No doubt in the coming weeks I'll expand to ridiculous proportions!

laughalot · 01/09/2006 14:07

El are you from nottingham ?

theUrbanDryad · 01/09/2006 15:00

aww....sorry el didn't mean to confuse you!!! basically, the gist of what i was saying is that i'm feeling fat, but i don't think i actually AM fat! just have a big bump...for 21 weeks anyway...

when you say third stage what do you mean? how many stages of labour are there??! (insert scared emoticon here!) i thought it was just push and there it was...no? well, clearly not, but most ladies who i know who have had children have either had caesarean (my mum included!) or like half hour labours, so i haven't heard any horror stories! anyone out there, please tell me your labour horror stories! prepare me....go on, don't spare any gory details!

laughalot · 01/09/2006 15:09

Urban all I will say is gas and air, pethadine, epidural 24 hours labour and a vontouse deleivery , hopefully a water birth this time

2Happy · 01/09/2006 16:20

You really want horror stories?! Really?? Well ok, but maybe also to help me come to terms with the fact that I am putting myself through this again [daft eejit emoticon]...

Try term+12 days in sweltering June heat. Waters finally went thursday lunchtime. Had mw appt that pm anyway so toddled (sorry, at that gesatation that should read waddled) along, she said to go to local hospital for "quick check up, but they'll probaby send you straight home". So, nearly 1 hr drive to nearest hospital, plus drive home to pick up the bag, and swallow a quick cup of raspberry leaf tea, lol!
Got to hospital feeling fine, they put the CTG on (monitor which straps round your belly and reads baby's heartbeat and your contractions). Oh and they did an internal to check my waters had gone - lets just say it was unequivocal, lol! (think niagara when the speculum went in!! ) But then they said the CTG showed the tightenings were too strong to go home. B*llocks. They were just BHs and no worse than I'd had for the last 10 weeks, but because of the distance home, that was it. Stuck in flipping hospital. I wasn't allowed a bath even because of the risk of infection.
Didn't sleep all night, just emotions I guess. All next day paced up and down the hospital and all round the grounds. By evening, getting stronger pains. Eventually paracetamol wasn't enough, so friday night moved to labour ward for gas and air (mmmmmm, nice stuff!).
Examined by senior mw who immediately said, "baby's OP" (his back to my back, the wrong way round) "it's going to be a long, difficult labour. You can try gas and air, but you're as well off having an injection and getting some sleep"
So I tried G&A for a bit, but the contractions just kept coming and going (typical for an OP labour), so by about 1am I had morphine. It's just like they say, it doesn't take the pain away, it takes you away from the pain. But it wore off after 3hrs, I forget but I think I was only 4cm then (very upset to hear this, wht a wimp!) so they said I needed synto (a drip to make the contractions come better), and there's no way I was having that without an epidural, so the anesthetist was called. He was just brilliant, and I swear (I am not brave BTW) I barely felt it go in. Honestly. The one thing I never wanted during labour was an epidural, but in the end it was fine. Weird to have no feeling (I swear at one point I was heard to say, "what the heck am I leaning on here? Oh, it's my leg!"), but I promise it didn't hurt to get.
So the contractions sped up, I got some sleep. They checked me at again at lunchtime saturday, by which time I was 9cm!! Yay......except, suddenly all we could hear on the CTG was ds's heart beat go thopthopthop..thop..thop......thop............thop.........................................thop

thop

thop

Cue massive panic, people piling into the room. I was rushed to theatre for emergency c-section under general anaesthetic (not enough time to top up the epidural). The worst thing was being wheeled along the corridoor, knowing my baby was dying, and having to leave dh at the doors to labour ward because he wasn't allowed in theatre. I was so scared and just sobbing. (and god knows what the poor mw thought as I couldn't let go of her hand - surrogate for dh, lol!)
Anyway, they thought they'd have a last listen for ds's heart when we got to theatre: thopthopthopthopthopthopthopthopthop!!! The wee bugger was back! So they got dh into theatre and then had a long chat with us. Basically, I could have a c-section if I wanted (but under epidural), and get it over with, but medically they were happy with ds and if I wanted to continue labouring I could. I passionately didn't want a c/s, for lots of reasons but not least because we live in the middle of nowhere and not driving for 6 weeks is a complete arse, so we went back to labour ward.
I was left for a bit, then re-examined. Only 9 1/2 cm, and the registrar said I would need a c/s (cue sobbing from idiot me again not wanting a c/s!!). So she got the consultant, sho examined me, and said she reckoned actually I was now fully! Whew. So they started me pushing. About an hour later and the head had dropped (really they strated me pushing far too early, when the head was too high, but I understand why), but both me and ds were tiring and his heartbeat was dropping again with and after contractions (called late decelerations and a sign of foetal distress). So the registrar decided to use forceps. But she couldn't get the blades on (apparently, not only was ds comping the wrong way round, but he was also trying to come with his hand up the side of his head! D'oh!). So guess what? Round to theatre again for c/s. By this time, I'd accepted the fact that we'd tried as hard as we could and a c/s was necessary. But the consultant decided to try one last time with the forceps - and she got them on. A few heaves, wrenches and pushes and out he came. I had an episiotomy and 2nd degree tear, and ds was fine though his head had big cuts on and was bleeding lots (his Harry Potter scar now).
dh said "oh, it's a boy". I said "what the hell else was it going to be causing all these problems?!" So it was 18.45 on saturday (having gone in thursday afternoon) and exactly 2 weeks overdue we had our son.
Wow. I'm sorry this was so long. And I've been crying as I'm typing! But I think I'm really ok about it, because having been through it once, it just wouldn't be so bad again, though I can't tell you how much I long for a nice "normal" delivery! Put it this way, though, from about 32 weeks I'm spending all day on my hands and knees (the best way to turn an OP baby!).
Well, UD, you wanted to know!

theUrbanDryad · 01/09/2006 17:23

bless you!!! what a nightmare! i'm not going to get my heart too set on a home birth as i know i'll be gutted if i can't get it! also not too worried about c-section cause we live quite near the hosptial and not being able to drive for 6 weeks isn't a problem as i don't usually have the car in the daytime anyway!

having said that, i know that women in labour are't rational creatures and i may refuse to move from the landing/bedroom/bathroom/toilet/whatever. i'm just wary of the hospital, as i have friends who work there, also a friend of mine who had a very easy labour, mostly at home, 30 minutes in labour at hospital was kept in for 3 days because she was over 30!!! also, 60% of deliveries in northampton general end up in c-section and i don't want a c-section unless it's absolutely necessary!

thanks for sharing your experience though 2happy, don't cry about it (though it must be very hard to come to terms with!) you have a gorgeous DS at the end of it after all!

el123456 · 01/09/2006 18:03

ahhh,nothing quite like sainsburys preg with 3 kids in tow.....!anyway!third stage is the whole afterbirth thing.you can opt not to have the injection they bang in your leg and deliver it naturally.takes much longer and you much higher risk off a post natal haemorrhage,but the injection makes me really,really sick and feel ill.having had three easy(two drug free)births i dont like then havin to have an anti sickness inj at the end!what you all think?couldnt bear to read your story 2happy,sounds awful,all ok in end so thats all that matters.oh and i am from notts laughalot

2Happy · 01/09/2006 18:26

Sorry, didn't mean to scare anyone! 3 months before I had ds, dsis laboured at home quite happily, arrived at labour ward fully dilated, and popped dd out (though she did say it still hurt). Though interestingly, harking back to what LTH said earlier in the thread, even having a "normal" delivery with dd being delivered up onto her chest, all as you'd imagine, she still didn't get that instant bond you expect, but that LTH said comes naturally with 2nd and subsequent kids.
UD - was thinking of you today - we went for lunch at inlaws! One thing occured to me - you may need to prepare yourself/your dh (by then) that when your lo is born, you may not like your mil holding him or being in any way possesive over him. I'm more or less ok with mil and ds now, but initially I hated her having much to do with him, and didn't feel I could really talk to dh about why.
Anyway, I only came on here to say, looshkin - after what you were saying last week, have a look at this thread

Hattie2 · 01/09/2006 18:55

Hi all - scan went well today, due date brought forward to 5th Jan and we're having a BOY!!! Have one dd at the mo so excited at having one of the other type
No idea on a name yet - last time had a longish list of girls names we both liked but no boys names, so back to square one!

2Happy · 01/09/2006 18:57

Congrats Hattie
What a lot of ds's on this thread!

laughalot · 01/09/2006 19:04

2 happy my labour was the same not as long but same thing back to back and heart rate dropped it was like a bloody crash team in the deleivery room I was told if he dosent come out by vontouse they would then try forceps and last resort c section luckily he came out with the vontouse but I had a tear , what are you hoping for this time.

El im from mansfield

laughalot · 01/09/2006 19:06

Hattie thats fab I have a ds and this time im having a daughter I keep worrying though in case they have got it wrong, it will be so nice to have one of each

magnolia1 · 01/09/2006 20:46

Congrats Hattie

Laughalot did I miss the girl announcement? I can't keep up with you lot

Urban are you definately doing the photo shoot??

looshkin · 02/09/2006 09:04

Morning all, have just been catching up on all the news, I have admit that I got upset again to hear Happy2's birth story, I remember it the first time round but perhaps all these pregnancy hormones are making me a little wobbly! Second births as you know tend to be better as our nether regions have a good memory! Thanks for that thread by the way - I was having a little panic about how to look after a baby and BFing lots of good advice - I know that all my friends have said that my anally retentive ways will go out of the window once DS arrives but i cannot imagine going more than 48hrs without wipping the duster out - so many changes to come!!

Everyone seems very organised thinking about names we can only comeup with stupid ones like Igor at the moment (sorry to anyone with a relative called Igor). Hopefully when DS arrives something will seem to fit.

It is good to hear that other peoples bumps are getting big I feel very large and in fact manage to wedge myself between a wheelie bin a wall and a rather wet tree last week as i misjudged the gap - rather funny for anyone passing by!

By the way has anyone got any experience of ordering from jojo maman babe as have been waiting for 2 weeks for a pair of jeans as busting out of a friends pair? Also any opinion on mamas and papas pilko pramette?? Thanks Loosh

looshkin · 02/09/2006 09:06

Ooh forgot to say the photoshoot sounds fantastic willwe get to see the end result?

2Happy · 02/09/2006 09:15

sorry, but I love the wedged story!
And I don't know about nether regions having any memory, my pelvic floor hasn't got much memory of what it used to do prior to ds . But you're right, it has been stretched further than a bungee with a hippo on the end, and, theoretically, I should cough this one out (which then makes me worried about having the baby in the back of the car since it's so far to hospital. More worries about dh getting the calving ropes out ).
JMB were great - dsis and I just ordered some clothes and they arrived within 2 days. Other times they've been pretty prompt. If it's 2 weeks I'd give them a ring. I need a new pair - tried wearing last time's pair but they (like my pelvic floor ) are so stretched they keep falling down - not good when I'm carrying ds and don't have a hand free to hold on to them
Oh yes, the photoshoot - which glossy is it for? Brave lot (though an airbrushed piccy sounds good - can they airbrush cellulite and stretch marks?).

2Happy · 02/09/2006 09:16

Oops sorry, didn't mean to suggest you have those, UD, I meant could they airbrush mine

Hattie2 · 02/09/2006 09:47

looshkin - I was just wondering where my jojo order has got to! They're normally really quick but I ordered some stuff week before last, got despatch email over a week ago and it still hasn't turned up. Will try ringing them later today but no doubt they will say I will have to wait the 8 - 10 days for delivery as stated on the despatch email.

LadyTophamHatt · 02/09/2006 12:40

no no no no no no no ladies ladies ladies....it's ebay all the way for maternity clothes!!

I got 2 pairs of jeans (1 next, 1 Mothercare) for £12 including P&P. 1 skirt (next) £6, and 4 tops fot £8.

I love getting bargain!!

magnolia1 · 02/09/2006 12:55

The magazie is a new one called First Magazine. They offer airbrushing but I am going to say no I want to be able to look at the pics and say yep that was all me

Will find out which edition and date of rlease when I go

I do Ebay for maternity too, must look today actually have money in paypal!!!

Hattie2 · 02/09/2006 16:39

Don't worry LTH - I have ebayed most of my new maternity buys Stuff I'm waiting for from jojo is pyjamas, didn't fancy those second hand!!

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