May 2014 - the Maybies get even closer to Definitely!!

[ClearlyMoo]

I've been brave and started a new thread. Hope the name is ok....

Hello all! Have been a bit AWOL- just feeling sorry for myself and poor and grumpy.

A quick warning before I get onto anyone else- started my mat pay and opted to have it spread over 12 months rather than 8 wks full pay, 18 half pay plus stat mat etc, which I worked out to be £600 ish a month- just about livable with dh etc. HOWEVER.... They can't spread the stat maternity pay so I got paid the grand sum of £131.... Cue lots of hysterical crying before I got my act together. Hopefully all is sorted now but I won't get anything for final 3months of maternity :(

Ok now on a less selfish note moomin I'm with all the others regarding your man/child- HOWEVER I am also in a relationship with one (have been for 7odd years). I know men shouldn't need reassurance and guidance but if it helps any my dh went in the morning to get some bacon from the shop when I was 38 weeks and didn't come back for 3 nights. He panicked and ran away to Manchester (we live in south/west mids) it could be that your dp is having some similar issues?

Now our relationship is stronger than ever and we laugh about those times- but sometimes there is a definite need for pregnancy rage, and sometimes maybe if he had a man friend that had already had a baby and could talk over the worries with? My dp works sometimes 15 mins away, sometimes up to 5 hours so I'm just hoping it's the former. If not then the baby'll still come whether he's there or not!

bornin it sucks that your having to go in and out of hosp ... Have no words of wisdom but get some good books for the hours you're strapped onto that monitor!

dobe hope all is sorted out with the work knob

mammysam fabulous news!! I hope everything works out well and you have a smooth pregnancy

clearlymoo , mrsfoo , longtailedtit sarahjinx have been following your posts but can't remember what I was going to reply it was obviously rubbish or I'd of remembered ! And xavielli you are like a pregnancy oracle as you have done it so many times! I'm hoping not to bleed for 6 weeks :(

As I have booked the holiday for 16th June and due date is 4th may, is there anything specific that I can't do that soon (eg use tampons to swim etc ) and can baby swim by then?? (Obviously not by it's self)

Sorry for epic post ladies! And also sorry to anyone I've forgotten

At 30+3 dh finally felt his first
Kick!!!

nanny dont take baby swimming until first immunisation. Xx

Had a feeling it was something like that mumof2 when is their first immunisation? Because I had whooping cough jab etc does that 'cover them' until then??

Sorry for delayed reply, got OH's family visiting. Their first jabs are at 2 months. They lose body temperature so easily when new so I would wait till 3 months before taking swimming.

Whooping cough is one of the jabs, but their first jabs are a cocktail of immunisations.

I have just one thing to comment on today. Itchy nips. AAARGH!

That is all. As you were ladies.

We'll I've just rinsed boots of their lovely 3 for 2 offers and now have a much more respectable looking hospital bag! Still more to get I'm sure but definitely less twitchy!
Feet are sooo achy from walking around town though. Got a school trip to the zoo coming up, might have to pack a sneaky pair of trainers as not sure will cope in smart teacher shoes! Hope everyone's got nice things planned!

Afternoon all.

moomin Sorry to hear that OH is being less supportive than you'd hoped. I think you are entirely reasonable to request that he says no to his family.

MrsFoo - I second the push them back in idea for your - um - little visitors. I haven't suffered yet frantically touches wood but have experienced them before (living in Pakistan for three years does WONDERS for your digestive system )

It's suddenly hit me today that I am 29 weeks and have 11 weeks till monster is due. I am going to get some lists written today/tomorrow, hit town on Monday for some bits and get busy with the online shopping.

Can I ask for some advice on birth plans? Mine is very sparse so far (and probably incredible naive), and is written on the assumption that I stay on course for the MLU. It quite literally reads:

No pethidine
No epidural
No visitors (unless otherwise informed - definitely no Bounty reps)

Dimmed lighting and music if possible
Water labour/birth if possible
Active labour/birth (not on back)
Vitamin K injection to be given
Skin to skin ASAP
Attempt BF ASAP

What obvious stuff am I missing?

Maybe something about the second stage? Ie natural placenta delivery or syntocin injection, possibly something about cord (if you want it cut after it stops pulsing/ dh to cut it) and maybe something about internal checks if you want them kept to a minimum, opinions on students being involved in any way and your feelings on assisted delivery (forceps/ ventouse/ episiotomy) etc.... Haven't started a plan of any kind yet!

Thanks for the info re maternity pads everyone. Seems like boots or mothercare wins the vote.

Kally yours sounds very similar to mine. Does your dh want to cut the cord/definitely not want to? That could also go in. In my maternity notes there is an outline of lots of questions about the birth plan which were really helpful when I was writing mine. I also said no students.

We spoke again this morning, he's going to tell his parents he can't do it, and understands that he needs to put the baby first - I said I don't care where I am in your priorities as long as baby is number one. Think everything is sorted but we'll see on Tuesday evening when he gets back from seeing his parents whether he's managed to get out of it or not... he called his sister and asked for advice on what/when to tell them. The general gist of the conversation, from the way he told me what was said, is that she probably thinks I'm overreacting and just trying to ruin their holiday and 38 weeks isn't THAT far gone and two hours away isn't THAT far.

It IS very far gone and it IS that far, regardless of any other issues, but considering the problems we've had so far with my scar stretching, it's even less likely that I'll be far off giving birth at that point. Thankfully OH seems to understand it, and there wasn't any self pity today. We've had a nice day and he's just gone to work. Still feels a bit tense between us but it'll probably go over the next couple of days. I can see now that I tackled it wrong too because even when he offered to talk to his parents I kept pushing, asking why he wasn't putting the baby first, why their holiday came before our baby etc when I know deep down he means well. He's just as fed up as I am of seeing him constantly being treated as the skivvy, everything is just assumed 'Oh well, he'll do it'.

Thanks for all the advice.

Feeling really low today and I am not sure why. Nothing in particular has happened and I have had a relaxing day. I just feel really unsettled and like I want to burst into tears.

Oh randdom. Know that feeling!

Moomin. Good news I think... We wait til Tues with you xxx

::warning selfish whiney post to follow::

OW! After 2 days on the antibios I was feeling all perky so DH and I went and helped at a marriage prep day at our church. Then lunch out THEN shopping! Half way round the shops baby started kicking my bladder! It's happened before but not since UTI came along! Agony!! I imagine this is how guys feel being kicked in the balls! Dashing to loo/ limping round supermarket. Had a lie down when home while DH put away shopping and then he (sweetly) came up to chat to me! Took paracetemol (I know! I really try not to) and felt loads better so got up to make welsh cakes (I'm welsh/it's a tradition on 1st March) and in pain all over again. I just feel like I'm being so whiny and DH must be so sick of my whining. He says it's fine and has been very sympathetic today but I feel like I should just be able to "man upl and get on with this pregnancy thing. I keep thinking of Chinese ladies working in rice paddy fields til they push the baby out and with two months to go feel ultimately pathetic!

Ooh Clearly sounds painful we're allowed to whinge though, pregnancy perk

Lately I've started using the phrase 'woman up' instead... men don't have to put up with pregnancy, let alone childbirth, they need to woman up rather than the other way around!

Ooh yes Dydd Gwyl Dewi hapus i pawb (another Welsh one here )

I can now officially say, my due date is next month how did that happen???

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeek moomin! That hadn't crossed my mind! Next month, I better get a shifty on and get my hospital bag ready....

Evening all!

I've been lurking but not posting after quite a tough week. I'm sorry things are difficult in lots of areas for many of you, whoever said this pregnancy thing was easy?!

As you know I spent Sunday in the hospital day case unit and was started on urso tablets for cholestasis. I was signed off work for the week and have been absolutely shattered and the itch has been intense, particularly at night which is keeping me awake.
I was back at the day case unit on Thursday for bloods and monitoring. My bile acid results were back and they were at 70, apparently anything over 40 is considered severe . They've doubled the urso dosage. I also got an upper abdominal scan to check for any underlying liver or gallbladder conditions, thankfully that came back clear. I then had a growth scan and got to see my beautiful wee baby. The baby is a wee bit small, particularly it's head, but it's within the parameters, which is a relief.
I'm waiting for an appointment with a consultant to discuss my options, but early induction is extremely likely, so I could be meeting mini Isean in 5 or 6 weeks! I'm really nervous about it all now but I know I'm being monitored really closely and they will do their best for my baby and me.

Also, has anyone started to lose their mucus plug? Mine has started to come away in blobs in the last 2 days

Hi ladies

So I'm currently flat on my back with a what pack draped attractively around my fanjo, paying heavily for leisurely mooch around a retail park this arvo. It's horribly painful, need to chase up the physio referral and investigate drugs I think.

Isean, have you spoken to your midwife about losing your plug? I think maybe you should because although I think plugs can regenerate, it coming away is generally a sign that your cervix is getting ready, or that something has dislodged it....I think.

The itching must be insane? I had weirdo hives just after having DS and it drove me mental.

Good news Moomin.

Clearly, that does sound painful! And random x

From a different view, we took ds swimming from 6 weeks old, was very keen to get him into the pool ASAP and got this cleared by a GP so thinks its fine.

Posted too soon.....it was a hydro pool we took him too so was bath temperature so no concerns about him getting too cold.

Hello Yummy Mummies!

Hope you’re all having lovely weekends and your DP's are pampering you sufficiently. I've been keeping up but struggle to find time to post in the week.

Congratulations MammySam! Wonderful news, wishing you a H&H 9 months. X

Isean I agree with Sarah, get some advice on the plug just to be sure. Glad they are looking after you. 5-6 weeks is crazy, suddenly everything is going really fast!

Moomin Glad you’re OH is behaving like a daddy now. I hope your dramas are over and you can have a stress free end to your PG. I think you've earned it!

I was interested in the co-sleeping chat. We've just purchased a crib that attaches to our bed at the same height. Our 3yrs old still has a habit of joining us in bed every night between 3 - 6am, and we don’t have room for 4 in a bed. So baby has her little bed extension and we can all cuddle safely. In my experience BFing and co-sleeping were a god send, I found it wonderful with DS and managed to get lots of sleep. I hope little lady is as chilled out as he was and as cuddly. It did take a longer than I thought to move DS into his own room but I didn't want to rush as I loved having him in bed.

We had our 3D scan today which was amazing. She’s 3 lbs 4 oz already and growing some very long legs. DS was in the 98th percentile for length so she is taking after her brother. They couldn't get a really clear picture of her face so only charged us £50 not £120. We took both sets of grandparents, it was very emotional.

to all x x x

Isean - I've personally never seen a mucus plug with any of my babies but I'd definitely mention it to the MW when you're in for bloods/monitoring as OC babies can come early by themselves and they might want to check that your cervix isn't thinning.

I spent the day yesterday in bed
Doped up on codine and paracetamol!! Ooh doc said I have muscular pain due to baby growing! Gp on the phone said it sounded like a trapped nerve!! Have to go to my own gp tomorrow if pain isn't better!!

Dh is off to make croissants - well warm them in oven for breakfast in bed!! Then he's painting and then we gonna try and go for a walk with the dog!

Happy Sunday everyone

I think nesting might be kicking in, I had a dream I was cleaning the house....wtf! Can't I have a nice sex dream like a normal person

Hope you're feeling better today Bornin. X