Due in September 2006......nearly there ladies!!

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New thread...

Cori x

Hello, just thought I would join you on this new thread, so that you knew that the link worked brilliantly. Some people are so good at the whole computer thing, I wouldn't have the first clue how to set up a link!!

I'm quite good normally but I'll be damned if I can work out how to do it on MN!!!!

Thanks Liquidclocks!!

oooo! I go away for a few hours and come back to a new thread how exciting!
Sympathy to all who have family decending on them, makes me realise that mine aren't so bad after all, at least they'll come for a bit then leave and won't expect to stay over / be entertained (not that I would do any entertaining!).
Marls - I have been putting off packing my bag for what seems like weeks - especially when there's been so much talk of 'what goes in' on here! I have nowehere near finished it, but have made a significant start.
A question to all those knowledgable mnetters out there... why is it when my MIL, her sister and daughter decide to visit ths morning to have a nosey at what we've done to the house that DS decides to poo on my bedroom carpet and then wipe his bum on my duvet. Picture the scene... me on my hands and knees scrubbing and hoovering, frantically changing the duvet cover, while DS is plopped in front of Tikkabilla and me hoping that I get it done before they arrive... partly because of the poo but also because I don't want MIL and her sister (both primary school teachers) to catch me with DS dumped in front of the TV

oh and ezridax - I can't think of anything worse of watching videos of people giving birth. It is one of those things that I know it's going to happen, but I'd really rather not watch someone else do it - gross!

Well nice to know that i'm not that weird.
I know that we've got some people on here that can't stand throwing up but it doesn't really bother me cause i suffer from migraines and often throw up.

I've been saying that i'd rather sick this baby up than have it au natural.
I'm sorry but as a 1st timer it seems the most unatural thing - something THAT big coming out of where????
As soon as i got pregnant i thought 'i've not really thought this through'
But my body will do what it was meant to.

Oh i've been really tearful recently and everything DH says is wrong - no it is actually wrong

Oh and you've all given me the push to start writing my birth plan. So cheers ladies

Good luck mimpim - thought you meant they'd be sleeping at your house!! [aaargh emoticon!)

Mabel, hope you got it cleared in time!! We had a poo incident today too - DS woke up at 6.20 (yawn), when we went in with the morning milk (so mean, 45 mins later...), he had poo all over his hands, sheet, feet, legs, pillow - it had gone up his back and he'd wiped it over every available surface it seemed. Serves us right for leaving him in bed awake so long.. Big wash on immediately and he went straight in the shower. Then he got plopped (is that the right word in these circumstances?!?!) in front of Bob the Builder while we checked the carpet, walls etc. Mabel, you are not alone!! hurrah for CBeebies! At least once they were plopped there, hopefully having done one poo, there weren't any more coming....

Hi Ezridax,

my DH suffers from "open mouth, wrong thing come out" syndrom too. This morning, he said in response to me putting in birth plan that a good position might be to kneel on the bed and lean on his shoulders - 'oh that'll be quite tiring' - PMSL - he thinks he'll be tired and achey from me leaning on him?!

My fear of sick is more of other people being sick, but I can't bear someone else seeing me throw up - would rather do it alone...

Another one here who's DH can't seem to say the right thing.
I said to him last night that everything seems to be irritating me - he said ' I KNOW!'
We have put it down to hormones (i decided it best not to argue with that and kept my mouth shut)

My DH said last night that he was off to get the encyclopedia to look up the word sex......it's been that long (some 32 weeks at least!) he can't remember what it is or how it feels. I wasn't amused... - my sense of humor has gone right out the window!!...!

Ooh, got goosebumps for you ladies!

I'm having a section end Nov, beg Dec and I remember last time the month before and how I felt.

Good luck and hugs for the last month!

How exciting - a new thread!!
My dh is bearing the brunt of my hormones too atm. I'm still feeling quite down as everything I eat or drink gives me that horrid acid burning thing in my throat so whenever he asks me what I want to eat he gets told 'what's the point of eating when it just makes me ill'
Little things have started to upset me too - like all my family live close together and I'm the only one who lives a distance away so when my siblings tell me how mum and dad babysit for them I get irrationally upset that it isn't fair etc!!

Yeah!!!! A new thread!

Well, here the weather is cooler yet I am still burning with rage at DP... half is hormones now but since found out he has decided to go away on the weekend of 26th Aug to his friends birthday weekend.... I am not amused! Also HE hasn't had the decency to tell me and I have found out via his buddies partner. Needless to say I have been teary and now absobloodylutely fuming!!! After the last weekend away's shenanigans I said no more... but it has obviously fell on deaf ears. I appreciate that he is good friends with him but he never bothered to come for DP's 30th and kinda feel they have no children, no 'outgoings' as such (they live in her parents second house and there we are running round to please them when he couldn't even manage to come to DP's big 30th meal/party when everyone else did. (also feel sad for DP as he managed for all other friends of theirs- but wouldn't say to DP as don't want to upset him but it's got my goat!) Anyhow the point is I will be nearly ready to pop, have DD to look after and on the 4th he goes back to work leaving the last week or two of me trying to fend for myself. Also I will have DD's birthday to sort out too. He hasn't even told me he's going so bloomin' cross

ooh Pol! even more on your behalf now! if my DH did that I'm afraid foot would go down. grrrr. How far away is this weekend? Doesn't he realise that during those final few weeks he's supposed to be at the ready with the car keys and stay off the booze???

If thinking calmly, I would perhaps say to him that since he has made arrangements to go away, could he also make sure that there are adequate provisional arrangemnets to get you to the delivery suite if necessary, and that you expect him to be able to come home at a moments notice (ie no drinking so he can jump in car). Might nt be what he wants to hear but a reasonable compromise IMO.

Also, given how people have been saying how they don't like to watch videos of birth (can't think of anything worse personally) see what your take is on this is: My friend knows of a drama company who act out traumatic birth situations (aim of educating) to antenatal groups like hospital or NCT group. How is that helpful to already anxious first time mums?

Well, i'm waiting until he mentions it and then going to say that after the last weekend away that we agreed no more. And so it was wrong for him to promise/say he could go. We live in Essex and the weekend is in Bath, so not exactly round the corner and seens as DD's birth was quick- i'm expecting this one to be quicker so it's a no no in my eyes. Also he will have to fetch his mum and dad here to have DD and no doubt it will be at the most inconvienant time (the middle of the night) and as they don't drive he will have to fetch them or get them a cab. I refuse to go to hospital in a cab when we have a perfectly good car here too! More cross he has just, yet again organised things without even telling me... Sometimes I feel like his glorified baby-sitter and incubator!

Hi everyone, new thread a great idea.
Sorry I haven't posted for a while but I've been quite sick again and everything makes me cry at the moment.
I shouted at DH last night as he hasn't made a pass at me for two weeks. He said he thought I was sick and exhausted and wouldn't want to make love. This is very true and I would have turned him down but I still want to be wanted. How stupid does that sound? I want my husband to come on to me even though I know I'm going to turn him down! Hormones!!!

So glad I'm not the only one getting anxious about visitors. Really don't want PIL here every day. They're just around the corner now and MIL has said how nice it will be to be able to see both her grandchildren every day.

Really wish we lived 400miles away!

Oh and I'm going to start a pregnancy thread to see if anyone knows if there is a marked difference between the different brands of TENS machines. Last time I used a boots one but I haven't got a large boots close to me now so I'm wondering about other makes. Any ideas?

Homemama - poor you, can't believe you're still feeling so sick. And I know exactly what you mean about the DH thing - I think I'm the one in need of a dictionary in our house! Cori - I wish I had your horemone levels, then I wouldn't notice!

Pol- def think that's too far. stick to your guns gal!

I can't remember if I told you all - after your fantastic advice and support I did put my foot down over PIL staying at our house after LO comes along. They're now going to stay 10 mins drive away in our freinds house who'll be away on holiday. They felt a bit let down I think but it was the best decision for me I'm sure - especially given my 'dark room alone' fantasy!

I cried at the end of The Price is Right when the woman won all the prizes ! Talk about emotional!

I too am not happy about the idea of watching births on video, and definitely not being acted out! I can't even look at the births they show in the magazines with step by step photos. I can't imagine how anyone would want to be photographed or videod during labour. No amount of money in the world would make me agree to having a camera anywhere near me until after the birth!

Well done to all those MN ladies who've been rain dancing It's so lovely and cool and I just don't care that it's pouring down in August.

As for families, I'm staying with my parents and 87 year old grandmother so I have no choice but to have them around me after Lo has arrived but to be honest, they've been so helpful and supportive, I really wouldn't be without them. It's not going to be easy but it definitely beats the alternative. The only other people I have to visit are my sister and her partner and a couple of very close friends and they will only come once I'm ready to see them.

Less than 6 weeks to go till due date

Hello ladies

Sorry not posted for a while, been so busy winding up work and then just being so knackered!

Pol - totally uinderstand why you are angry at your DH going away. I have said that from the 1st August that's it, no more trips anywhere.
I reckon men just don't get it sometimes - need to be reminded of the obvious!
Like for instance my DH asking me if I thought it would be a wonderful idea if he started training for a marathon on the 1st November. Oh yes darling, what a great idea, whilst I am suffering from sleep deprivation and learning how to look after a baby for the first time you will be out instead running!!!!!!!!!! When I mentioned this he said "oh yes hadn't thought about that" - ERM HOW OBVIOUS !!

Compo - I hear you on the acid....so annoying isn't it!! I keep buying smoothies and then looking at them and just seeing razor blades in my throat. The fruit rennies help.

Lovely poo stories ladies - I am guessing I have all this to come!!

Well am in Birmingham at the moment doing a handover and think I should be leaving now to get my train back to London - so looking forward to reading my new Richard & judy bookclub book. Yep I am that sad and joined their bookclub - theory being that it makes me read more as otherwise can get a bit lazy.

Nice cool weather - easier to sleep - shame hip pain is keeping me awake instead!

Anyway moan moan moan..............

Hope all is well with everyone.....Homemama, hope you feel better soon xxx

I don't know that having family living further away will make it easier for me, homemamma.
I think it means that they will descend on me for longer concentrated visits, and I will feel obliged to let them visit even if I feel rough, cos they have travelled so far afterall. The guilt will kill any good intentions I have for being strong and just saying no.
At least with my own mum, I can just call her when I feel ready, and if I don't she will steer clear until I do.
Can't do that with the PIL, who have travelled so far and are only up for a wee while?

Yeas, Mimpim, I know what you mean as when we lived much further away, they came regularly for entire weekends. Still, at least then we had time in between. I've told DH that he has to be firm and ask them to stay away for the first week so we can adjust as a family. I know this sounds harsh but I decided it after last time as her constant advice laden visits were too much for me.

I agree about demanding your DH doesn't go away. Last time DH wanted to go on a stag w/e in Dublin when I was 37wks but I was having none of it. This time he knows better than to ask. I've even got him to agree that after I reach 36wks, he's allowed no more than 1 glass of wine or 1 beer in any one evening. He daren't risk my wrath if he was over the limit to drive me to hospital!

Lol Bella at your DH thinking he would train for a marathon. Believe me, with a new baby in the house I doubt he'll have the energy to run for the phone!

WARNING: Do not read if you're trying to be positive about men

Arrrghh! I'm so pissed off. an hour and a half ago DH asked if DS will need a bath. half an hour ago he said he'd go to the suprmarket for some sour cream and then I could cook fajitas. Now he wants me to do DS's bath so he can go (supermarket shuts at 8). I know this is petty but fgs I'm shattered, have played with DS all day, have a lingering pain from migraine yesterday, bump barely fitting behind steering wheel and have told im again and again I'm supposed to be avoiding lifting DS - why does he not get it!!!? He's had and hour and a half to do the bath, if he'd got off his arse he'd have time for both. Have told him to piss off and I'll make pasta instead but really wanted fajitas

Sorry, I know I'm moaning but it seems to be the general theme today! Why can't these blokes appreciate that doing the odd extra bit around the house and planning to be around for 4 weeks out of 40 and being sober enough to drive is nothing compared to what we go through.

Thank you for the outlet. Do love mumsnet

I LOVE mumsnet too- it is a perfect vent to let all the crap about DP's and DH's out!!!

I am going to say he shouldn't go when the situation arrives but as yet i'm not saying anything. But fuming underneath.

Men just don't understand how crap you feel sometimes, the hormones and tears, the acid, sickness, tiredness and just generally you body being used and sapped of any energy you have.

He also moans I never want to eat 'anything' it has to be specific- yes state the obvious i'm prgenant!!!

Have just realised I've finished the bottle of gaviscon that I bought on Monday. That can't be good but I've never had acid heartburn like it! Oh and if one more person tells me it just that my baby has hair, I'll scream!!!!! DS had a huge mop of hair and I never sufered like this. Also, wouldn't they have to have hairy feet for hair to be causing it???

Liquid, feel free to rant away. I often think about showing DH posts on here to prove to him that my demands are not just me being unreasonable and that he needs to understand what pg is really like for a woman.