February 2014 - babies flying out all over the joint!

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We've now welcomed mini sun, dawn, kat, zazou and selfies (please tell me I haven't missed anyone...)....who will be next?!

Those of us waiting impatiently will be showing down on dates, pineapple, RLT and curry while having awkward whale sex.

eugh be warned, I've got a me me me post coming.....

37+3 for me.... I had been hoping baby would be born before due date as my MIL was diagnosed with terminal cancer just before Christmas & I really wanted to crack the baby out so that she would get to meet him/her before she passed. selfishly I also wanted there to be as much time between the birth of baby and the passing of MIL so that baby's birth doesn't always bring horrible feelings for DH

however MIL was rushed to hospital on Wednesday & it's now a case of waiting for her to pass unfortunately so now I'm desperately hoping I go 2 weeks overdue because I'm terrified I'm going to give birth at the most inconvenient of times and poor DH isn't going to know whether he is coming or going!!!!

my heart goes out to you littleen because I can't imagine what you're going through at the moment!!!

anyway sorry for the self indulgence, have lovely Sundays all x

Eughhhh Bugsy, what a horrible situation. Have some xxx

Congrats bumpie!
Welcome new ladies :)

thanks for the advice marzi - I am slightly freaked out tbh, not felt like this and starting to get scared I might leave him because of everything, because I have a tendency to run away -.- Though I don't want to!! I mean, I wasn't feeling like this a month ago, so surely it's just a phase from all the stress. I hope anyway. (It's my longest relationship and I have no idea how I am "supposed" to feel) Probably belongs more in the relationship section but people just tend to say "lbt" so I can't be bothered :)

I will keep fingers crossed for you Eeyeore!

Bugsy that sounds very much like my situation, so you probably know more than you think :) I mean, we decided to try for a baby before we were settled in any way, because I wanted baby on time for her to meet - everything seemed to go well until christmas, and then suddenly it just went really fast. Very glad he didnt come early on her funeral etc! Good luck x

Bugsy Sorry to hear you're having a tough time of it. It's understandable you want these events to be as far apart as possible but don't put pressure on yourself, these things are out anyone's control. Your poor DH.

Littleen It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do, you are bound to feel numb emotionally with everything. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time. Allow your OH in so that he can do something positive for you and be there for you. It's good that deep down you know you don't really want to run away so that's a good starting point.

Can babies turn the wrong way round at this point?? Hit 36 wks next week and am sure I've just had hiccups up by my ribs. She's been head down the WHOLE time till now. Argh

littleen what you're feeling sounds totally normal for everything you are going thru. Pregnancy hormones are enough without everything else on top. Talk to your OH about it and don't feel like there's something wrong x

Bugsy that sounds like incredibly tough timing for you and your DH. Sending lots of your way and fingers crossed there is as much distance as possible between her passing and the baby's arrival. I have no real personal experience of bereavement other than grandparents (for which I am incredibly grateful) but it would be nice to think that your baby's arrival will be a wonderful gift for your DH to help him see beyond his grief (in time of course) and have something positive to focus his emotions and energy on. Really feel for you both.

Littleen, so sorry to hear you're feeling lost and a bit like running away, I can only imagine it's a fairly common reaction but like others have said, I guess the best thing you can try to do is try not to push your DH away and let him in to comfort you.

Nothing to report from here. No cramps/back ache or anything which is good because I'm not 37 weeks yet. Due to hit that milestone on Thursday so pretty much on countdown and hoping the little one will arrive somewhere between then and my due date so I don't have to experience too much waiting around and symptom spotting...

Bugsy I'm so sorry you're in this situation, I can completely understand that you don't want the two linked in family's minds. Maybe your little one's arrival will help DH a little bit? I hope you can all support each other and help each other through it.

Littleen I can't fathom what you've been through recently, I think some confusion/numbness is only to be expected. Let your DH support you, and try to be kind to yourself and him. It's got to be tough.

to you both x

Thanks for the advice ladies, it's really reassuring to know I'm not going crazy. We've just had a nice little dinner on the sofa, watching tv and chatting, and I feel much better now. It tends to be worse in the mornings for some reason.

Winter They might be able to turn, I'm not sure? My MW said it's no point even checking until week 36 as they can still move loads, so yes - your babe can still turn around! Mine's had hiccups a bit recently, and I feel it mainly in my ribs, though yesterday I could feel it both in my ribs and sort of deep within my pelvic area. Perhaps they have full-body hiccups? :P

36 weeks exactly today!

36 weeks today and treating myself and hubby to kebab, chips, cheese and garlic sauce... Mmm!

Winter I've felt hiccups high up and baby is still head down. Go figure.

Hi all. Counting down now! This evening I have been having lots of BH contractions, very uncomfortable and I think I'll find it hard to sleep tonight. As much as I want this pregnancy over with, now that we hav a plan in place for my mum coming to help etc I am hoping the baby can hang on til my scheduled section date! Only another 2 weeks and 4 days, woohoo! Got the baby's room mostly organised now, car seat & pram covers all washed, so everything is under control... I think!

Sorry to hear what you're going through Bugsy

Yowvees, three babies born yesterday on Facebook!

And still not so much as a twinge here. My sister said that the day before it kicked off for her she couldn't walk because it felt like there was something between her legs. But I've got nothing to go on.

Can anyone describe a sweep for me? I've been offered one on Friday at 39+6 but not thoroughly convinced I want one.

Morning all, I'm enjoying new born cuddles baby eeyorish was born last night at 11.45 pm. We don't have a name for her yet, but she's gorgeous!

I'll share the birth story when I've a bit more energy. It wasn't as we expected but it all came good in the end.

litleen I think the emotions you're feeling are perfectly normal when grieving. I hope your DH is really there for you over the coming days.

bugsy sorry to hear about your MIL. hugs.

Congrats Eeyoreish, Mr E and Miss E! Enjoy every second x

shrops i haven't had a sweep but not sure how much use they are to first timers. I will be offered a sweep at 41w but not sure if i will accept.
I think the bowling ball feeling your dsis was referring to is babies head being fully engaged. FWIW ds was only 2-3/5 engaged at 39+6 and i'd had zero signs of labour. he arrived the next day

congratulations to all the new mums and babies!!!

So it will be just me and... left in Feb?

Congratulations Eeyoreish! Enjoy your newborn snuggles . Looking forward to hearing your birth story!

Congrats Eeyore! Enjoy every second.
I'll still be here in feb, you won't be alone

Me in feb too petty and probably into March knowing my luck.

Thanks for the reassurance re the hiccjps ladies, maybe she was just having a monster fit. Felt some bk down by my pelvis in the night so fx she is all good.

Congrats eeyorish these babies are coming thick and fast now!

Congratulations again Eeyore
I'll still be here in Feb too. I predict a week late on the 10th. I'm not bothered about speeding things up too much now especially as ds1 (13yo) appears to be having issues with the imminent birth. He's high functioning autistic with a sensory disorder and has declared that he doesn't want to be notified when baby is born as he doesn't care. Fair enough, makes sense that he isn't that interested but I can't help but worry this is the build up to him having a lot of issues adjusting to his new baby brother. On the other hand ds2 can't wait until his brother arrives so that's one less worry.
shrops, I've only had a sweep as part of a full induction so I can't say if they work or not but they are quite uncomfortable. Probably won't put me off having one at 41 weeks though.

Congratulations Eeyore! Enjoy those lovely snuggles, look forward to hearing your birth story.

I will definitely still be here in Feb, as my section is scheduled for the 13th and baby is highly unlikely to come of her own accord!

thingy hope your DS1 adapts ok to baby's arrival. My DS1 (almost 8) has HFA and says he's excited when asked but is adamant nothing is going to change in the house whatsoever, and everything will remain the same for him We walked past a screaming child in town and he muttered ' Oh for goodness sake!' (loud enough to be heard by the mother, who looked embarrassed) When I told him that he'd better get used to it as his sister would scream and cry and make a lot of noise, he retorted 'Not like that she won't!' I think he has a shock coming...

My ds is the same sugar although he's very sure that he's not looking forward to it in the slightest. The biggest issue is going to be the noise as high pitched sounds make him very agitated. We are going to have to be very careful but also ds is going to have to adjust. We can't always walk on eggshells around him. He has decided that he's going to stay at residential school an extra night each week from now on which just shows how opposed he is to the new baby. I'm sure that both our ds's will be fine once the babies get here though. It's more the anticipation and anxiety getting to them. fingers firmly crossed

Bugsy so sorry for what you and your DH are going through. I think Loves is right and that, in time, the joy of new life will help to heal the grief of your MIL's passing, but that doesn't make it any easier for now

Winter I had hiccups up high just before going in for the scan that confirmed baby was head down!

Shrops one of NCT group had a sweep at a week overdue and went into labour that night. I'm surprised they're suggesting one this early though. Tbh as you're not in a hurry to get baby out I'd probably say no at this stage. I'll definitely take one at 41 weeks if offered though!

Petty stories like yours (of DS1) are my inspiration. I live in hope that this baby will spontaneously arrive tomorrow (it's always tomorrow) despite no signs whatsoever.

Eeyore I said congratulations again on FB but will say it again here! Hope you, your DH and your DD (!!) are having a lovely morning together.

Littleen glad you had a good evening with your OH. This is just an inkling, but maybe mornings are more difficult because you have the whole day to face...but by the evening you know you've made it through one more day and it hasn't been that bad?

Thingy how did your DS1 cope with DS2's arrival? Did he express similar sorts of feelings or was he too little at that point to really understand what was going on?

Nothing to report from here except that, this morning, I established that if I lean forward really far on the toilet I can hook my chin over the sink and puke into it, thus avoiding my usual early morning vomit/pelvic floor disaster. Yeeha.

Congratulations to those with new babies from this weekend!

No news from me - I'm definitely expecting to hang on into February - but my DSis had her LO in the middle of the night. My turn now, but unless it all happens really suddenly I think it'll be a while.

Had MIL round for lunch yesterday - it was my idea as well; why on earth did I think it was a good idea? I just don't get how anyone thinks it's ok to tell a woman who could go into labour that same day that her choice of gynaecologist is so wrong as to be dangerous, and that she should have chosen a different hospital because the one she's going to is rubbish I don't care about what she said (she's got her opinions, fine), more about the fact that she said it at all. (She'll be almost disappointed to hear that both DSis and her LO are doing well, as when I told her it was a home birth in a birthing pool she nearly spat her food out in disgust!)

However, I really do think my Natal Hypnotherapy CDs have helped me a lot (wonder what MIL would make of that??) as beyond thinking, 'you daft woman!', her comments about my choices for birth, and her horror stories about her own experiences, didn't bother me, whereas normally they would. What did bother me more was that she was happy to let a 38-week pregnant woman do all the work and didn't even help to clear the table