June 2014 -Thread 8- 20 week scans, gender reveals... Halfway through!

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Hi all, welcome to the new faces and congratulations on lovely scans. I've got my rescan tomorrow as sonographer couldn't check the spine last week, looking forward to seeing bump again. Have been uber tired this week and twice my boss has said 'you look exhausted' - just what you want to hear! Saw my GP today who has been keeping an eye on me due to mmc and depression last year and it turns out she's pregnant! Finishing work in 4 weeks so a little embarrassed I didn't notice. She's lovely though.

MylittleI, girls are lovely. My little dd is such great company and loving. She loves a bit of rough and tumble aswell as the Girly stuff. Congratulations!

I saw a consultant today who basically said let's concentrate on getting to 28 weeks and then we will make a birth plan. She confirmed it would be around 35 weeks but will be hospitalised before to ensure we are in a good space. She stressed that there is no reason I can't get to 35 weeks. Luckily there is a specialist in my hospital so I am really fortunate. Thank you all for your kind words.

Does anyone suspect that they are getting stretch marks? I am normally a size ten and have a very very visible bump now. I didn't get any stretch marks in previous pregnancies but think the itchness is a sign! I am using bio oil but does anyone have any tips?

Little - I so know what you mean . We were hoping for a girl and have another boy on the way. Talked to DP about it and am feeling a bit better now. I would rather get used to the idea now and then be fine when DS2 gets here which us why I choose to find out this time.

Hello! Been away for quite a while so had to catch up so much! Didn't quite manage it all. You ladies are a talkative lot. :)

Panic I'm really glad that the outlook looks good for you and baby and that you know exactly what's going now. I'll be sending you good thought vibes! :)

I had my 20 week scan at 21 weeks last week. Baby is doing well and was very active during the scan. She is a she and was busy chasing her feet through the scan. She has also been very active for about 3 weeks now and it feels like she's kicking harder every day. Dh has even got to feel it a number of times. Her heart beat is strong enough that it's just about possible for DH to hear it through my tum if we're really quiet and she's in the right place. Which was pretty cool.

PG hormones have gone a bit crazy. Had a complete meltdown and was crying uncontrollably for nearly an hour when DH got home from work. Poor man. All my mummy to be terrors came out to play at once. The whole motherhood thing scares me shitless tbh. Totally don't feel like I'm ready. :( The uncertainty of work in academia, the fact that I'll be jobless by the time baby comes, the fact that for the first time ever I will be totally unable of controlling my life as everything will depend on the little one. It makes me feel like I'm being such a bad mum for feeling resentful that everything is going to change when I just want it to stay how it is. Sigh.

Mina I totally understand how you feel. This baby wasn't planned - basically because I didn't feel ready and wanted to wait a few more years. But fate intervened and I am over-joyed that it did...but at the same time, I'm terrified.

I don't think we're alone though - I'm pretty sure every mum-to-be feels overwhelmed and out of their depth at times (even if they don't show it) & it definitely doesn't make you a bad mum. I'm sure we'll be fine - at least that's what I'm telling myself

Mina - another in the not maternal / shitting myself boat. Although was planned I thought (and my told by my gynae) that it would take ages and I would have had time to get in the mindset a bit more. It was very quick and I didn't even have time to actually think about what I was doing. Even when I have my scans I am a bit like - er are you sure that is inside of me?!

Oh and not being able to go out, have cocktails and basically live my old life is killing me and I really hope that I can get my mojo back with baby and be a person AND a mother at the same time.

I remember feeling like that with my DS and we had been trying for 5 years. I think the thing I still miss the most is random nights out - when I would just e mail DP and say "let's go to the cinema / out for dinner "

panic, thank you, i think it started to sink in slowly)

Hello ladies,
Went to the doctors yday and she told me i have pubic symthesis, which i will need physiotherapy for, and im told it will only get worse in the next 18 n half weeks!
Anybody any advice.... im in agony and struggle to walk, sometimes, but stopping isnt an option x

Hannah - you really do need to take it easy. Some women end up wheelchair bound for the last bit of their pregnancy from it. It seems like too much to slow down, but your body will force you if you don't. I think the main advice is "knees together" imagine you're wearing a mini skirt and no knickers! Get into/out of cars/bed etc with knees together, don't cross your legs, and get some sensible flat shoes (or low solid heels). Good luck!

Hannah - that sounds horrible . I hope the treatment helps - good luck.

Boots have got 3 for 2 on baby things and amazon have big box of newborn nappies for £7.66- bargain!

mina no matter how prepared you think you are a baby is a massive shock. You will cope because you have to and it will probably take more than a few weeks to feel like you again but I promise you at some point you will be you again, probably a better you!

I had a major mid life crisis after having my DD (well hopefully not too mid life as I was only 28) but I got through it (just) and now I really am me but better as I have a gorgeous 5 year old and it was worth it.

Marlena Gru I totally agree. You can't really prepare yourself fully. I also remember my mum reminding me I was on maternity leave so to forget about work for a few months as I wouldn't have brain capacity for it all (I laughed when she said it because we run my our business and have always been able to control things) she was so right thu. When I accepted I would be doing less for a few months things were much easier. Now I do everything I did before plus I have a munchkin! But you have to be super organised.

Mina as everyone said it's totally normal to feel that way. I also work in academia and I understand all the pressure and uncertainty. I must confess that before having DS I always thought I was career driven and that I would just fit the baby into my routine. But I had a big surprise! Priorities changed and I much more maternal than I ever imagined. I'm still working full time, attending conferences, travel abroad but I am considering trying part time, if possible. I'm very emotional as I'm writing this, but it's mainly because is 4 today and I feel time is flying and that I'm not spending as much time as I want with him.

I totally remember panicking when pregnant with no 1 that maybe it was too soon and was a mistake and I wouldn't know what I was doing etc. then this time I panic now will I cope with two haha so think it's normal

Mylittle I also wanted a boy and am having a girl. Go shoplifting buy some clothes choose nursery decorations etc and you'll prob get excited in no time

Wondering how the little 24 week old is getting on. It's such a terrible position to be in for parents - I think 24 weeks = 50% survival rate & sounds like they're over the riskiest part but have the hardest few weeks to come. Living in hospital with a baby is very very tough my friends had a very poorly newborn & their relationship almost didn't survive and with visiting hours being till 9 & taking turns neither of them had a proper meal in a very long time. But their little girl is 2 and gorgeous :)

Oh FFS predictive text - clearly I did not mean to recommend shoplifting!!!

Bumble that did make me chuckle, I'm the queen of predictive text mistakes.
Congratulations on all the scans
Welcome to all the newbies
I have my scan tomorrow and like a lot of you the nerves literally have me shaking. Anyway will update tomorrow, I think there are quite a few who have their scan tomorrow so good luck to you all.

Sick interesting you mention Braxton Hicks. I am 20 weeks, think i overdid it yesterday and was in a bit of a bad way with them. Was having to breathe through some of them, just so uncomfortable. Was a bit worried but drank loads of water and laid down on my side for an hour and they eased off eventually. Lesson learned re: trying to carry stuff that is too heavy though.

Hopefully it all means that labour will be a lovely, easy sneeze.

Hi all, already posted this in the Facebook group so apologies if you've already seen. Had 20 week scan today, baby is doing well, all average measurements for everything. I have a low lying placenta though so will have to go back at 34 weeks and hope it's moved otherwise I'll have to have a c section.

bumble I just laughed out loud at my desk at you off shoplifting!

Hope your placenta moves Lmf679 Did they say if it was likely to move? Glad everything else looked fine though.

Thank you Chestnut, yes, apparently 8 out of 10 do so it's just a case of waiting to see at 34 weeks.

Fingers crossed then!

LMF - glad the scan went well and good luck with the next one- hope things have moved.

I loved the shoplifting thing - had a mad day at work which ended with me losing my pass (god knows how I getting in tomorrow) so really appreciated the laugh. What do braxton hicks (sp?) feel like?