September 2014 2nd thread for a chatty bunch

[TheOnlySeven]

...and 2day I feel sick, and sleepy, and grumpy. Told my mom yesterday and she called me earlier all excited. I failed 2 share her enthusiasm and now feel bad about that. Early night I think!

Welcome Cindy and congrats!! Not sure when you should book, I am 6+5 and going on Monday (and very nervous!!).
hereshopping I can understand why you would feel worried because of past experience of M/C but it sounds like just a little bit of spotting to me and not like something you need to worry about.... xxx

Does anybody else feel "weird"... I don't know how to explain this. I think because of nausea and food aversion, smell aversion etc I don't seem to be experiencing day to day life like I would normally if that makes sense??
Like normally a Saturday, I would be really excited, go to the beach, do lots of things but instead because I am always 2 steps away from feeling queasy and really knackered I seem to be experiencing day to day life differently. Does it make sense at all??
Hubby says it's normal to feel this way because of high levels of hormons etc but I am thinking maybe I need to try to do more or sthg?

marie I sometimes feel blissful about being pregnant (or actually I was when I first found out) now I have to concentrate on keeping symptoms at bay, remembering not to lie on my tummy because boobs hurt and try not to let smells make me feel puky hehe! I have had friends telling me "I feel soooo happy, it's almost like it's happening to me and I am ecstatic" and deep down I am thinking "I wish I could be that enthusiastic again, I am pleased but would be more so if I didn't feel like I am about to throw up everywhere!!!". I think being pregnant comes with a wiiide range of emotions and pregnant women are reknown for mood swings, crying for no reason etc. You are entitled to an off day where you don't feel as "happy" as people would like you to be. We are pumped with massive doses of hormones which increase every couple of days so I think it's normal that sometimes we just want to go to bed and want other people to give us a bit of space xx

Hubby totally understand. When I fell with ds I felt odd, just didn't feel myself at all. I felt sick (but never was sick), tired, and just generally ick. I just couldn't be bothered with anything.

Starting to feel like that again too. Although ds won't let me

Thanks Choccy I am glad it's not just me!!!
Also, do you think it is normal to go from totally ecstatic for about a week when we got BFP, then happy with the odd 48 hours of "OMG I am sooo scared of childbirth" to (right now) I am wondering if I will love the baby when I see him (which hubby thinks is hilarious!). I keep freaking out when I imagine something happening to my baby and at the same time right now I could cry because I keep wondering things like "what if I see the baby and don't love him or her" / "what if we become parents which we've always wanted but I realize I don't like it?". I am imagining the baby in a cot in the corner of the room and I feel very weird like I can't imagine it and I am feeling like a monster for even questioning if I will love my child.
Think my hormons are going mad at the moment :s

Hubby I can totally relate to that. This is our first baby, and I have major freak outs secretly locked in the bathroom so my DH doesn't think I'm a monster and files for divorce about whether parenthood will be what I'm expecting, and what happens if the baby comes and being a mum isn't what I expected? I totally get how your feeling in that respect xxx

Pfew I am glad it's not just me Bex thanks for sharing!!!!!
I think it's such a taboo as well like I wouldn't go to my friends with babies and say "I am worried I am going to hate parenthood" because I would be scared they would think a mum to be is not supposed to feel like that!!!!!
I hope in 9 months time all of us come back on this forum and say how happy we are and how much we love out babies ?

I'm sure your questions are all normal hubby, I have wondered many of the same things. I'm sure I've read in my pregnancy book about women being worried about not loving their baby straight away. It's normal don't worry. Have you heard of having a babymoon? I think it's when you just spend a few days totally with your baby, don't bother getting dressed, get someone else to cook for you etc so you can have proper bonding time. Sounds pretty good to me!

Had my chicken dippers now... I think they are starting to work their magic...

hubby thanks for your kind and reassuring words. I hope so!:-) x

Hubby, I really understand how you are feeling. I would never admit how I'm feeling to anyone in RL not even my DH just in case they thought I've really lost the plot. I have also read in my book it's normal, still feels very wrong to think it though, but can't help thinking it at the same time?? A baby moon sounds amazing - I haven't heard of it, but deffo going to look into that x

Thanks Hubby, feeling slightly better after a plain! Jacket potato and suddely wide awake. I also keep having strange thoughts ranging from how will I manage to look after another person to what if the baby doesn't look how I expect! Although dont know what to expect. I then get reasonable and give myself a talking to, knowing that I will think my child is the most beautiful to grace the earth. Have also been having extremely selfish thoughts about my lie ins and how I will find time for myself. Even had a little panic about having a teeneager to manage!

No wonder we feel shattered with all this enery going into the thought processes! X

Hi everyone. Been reading all your posts amd can pretty much relate to every one of you which is very reassuring. I feel sort of drunk, very nauseous, bought orange juice with juicy bits for the first time in years and my boob ache fluctuates. This one may be unique though, today I was cleaning the bathroom and got a waft of something delicious that I just wanyed to eat and was even droolong. Turned out FIL (who is staying with us) had sprinkled some orange shake n vac on the landing ready to hoover!

hubby your post about "I hope we come back in 9 months time and say how we all love our babies" has freaked me out a little - I'm still not thinking of myself as pregnant and it hasn't sunk in yet that I am going to have a(nother) baby!!!!

Went running today, think I overdid it as had quite a bit of pulling. Just ate a curry I made a few days ago and now worrying about food poisoning. Going to chuck the rest out.

Ha ha hubby. I was totally freaked out the first time. I always thought oh shit I've wanted this for like ever but now it's happening I am petrified!! This time? Not so much. I am really really looking forward to everything about having another even the birth!! First time round that's what I dreaded the most (obviously) but tbh ds was not too bad and if I got that again I would forever grateful!! But don't you just know I'll get stretch marks, sickness, bad labour, a tear etc etc!!

I didn't feel that rush of love when da was born if I am 100% honest, it was more oh shit what do I do now!! But it was 4.25am and I was a little bit tired. It wasn't until about 6am when we went back to the ward that I started thinking oh god look at this little person, he is the most BEAUTIFUL thing on this planet and he's all ours!!!
Yes it's hard work, but totally worth it.
Especially at the grand young age of 2 years and (2 days off being) 5 months he's FINALLY just said I love you mummy / I love you daddy.

marie enjoy those lie ins while you can - and by lie in, I mean past 7am - because I'm afraid they become very rare once you've got a littlie in tow haha!! I had all of those worries with our first, it's v natural to wonder how your life will change, and it does dramatically change, but it is just the best thing ever seeing the first smile, first finger hold and even the little black poos they do in the first week or so! It's the best adventure xx

Anybody else starving? I can't stop eating!

Imgo from normal to starving in about 10 seconds. I thnk I need to eat more snacks.

Aaaah choccy that's so cute!! Dd says she loves us but in a way that no one else would understand. My nephew says constantly to my sister "I lush you mummy" and if I'm lucky he says it to me too when he's going home or wants a cuddle.

Best decision I ever made is to become a mummy xx (can you guess she's been a really good girl and an absolute joy to be around today? Totally loved up today! Lol!)

DS says "Lurr yoouuuu mummy!" makes my heart melt. He's a very cuddly affectionate boy, always cuddling other children.

Just seen this on my pregnancy app.....

To make sure you empty it all out (and save yourself another trip to the bathroom in ten minutes), lean forward when you pee. Then, when you think you’re done, pee again. (Might as well try - you’re there anyway!)

Getting ahead myself but.....

My MIL is a bit of a shopaholic and im worried she is going to fill my house with cheap baby crap that im not going to use. As it is she wont call down to our house without a present today was a shot set.

I have already decided to tell her that I dont want to receive any baby stuff until I give birth as nothing is certain until you are holding your baby. Im hopimg that will cut down on some of her shopping.

I suggested to dh that we make a list of the essentials and find what brand/style etc we want so she can buy us a few things instead of finding "bargins" that we wont use.

Im sure this sounds very ungrateful, sorry

Ok, so no morning sickness here or even queasiness BUT I can't stop these bouts of repetitive burping...and I mean like horrid pit of the stomach type burps
Most unladylike.
Please tell me I'm not the only one...

There is absolutely nothing I want to eat. Literally I can't think of one thing, I don't feel sick now but just...blah! Not having a good day! Lol

So many lovely messages on this post! Lo saying "I lush you / arr luvv you mummy" sounds so cute!!!!

Went to buy myself 4 cartons of ruby breakfast just now * blood orange = current obsession, very annoyed tesco didn't have pure blood orange juice!** and couldn't resist and bought little cute teddy bear hat for baba!!
Venting my concerns has really made me feel better, thank you for listening and sharing! I think my little trip to the supermarket and looking at baby's clothes and toys (for an hour and a half how sad is that!!!) has helped me feel positive again as well.
hereshopping how are you feeling? You've not had more bleeding have you?
choccy yup I can imagine hubby and I going "OMG what do we do" with the lo! Trip into Boots today was enough to make us totally confused by the amounts of nipple things and bottles and pads... I am not sure what half these things are for tbh :s