February 2014 - all our bags are packed, we're ready to go...

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Well... we're getting there at least, and definitely ready to meet the first thread baby!

Sorry you're having a rough time Lastnight. Hopefully you'll be feeling better soon. Not long to go now, at least you can say in 5 weeks your daughter will be here!

I know it's just hormones and the last bit is so hard without illness thrown I to the mix! Just frustrated with myself as I want to be nice to DS and DH not a cranky cow.

Sorry you're feeling so crap Lastnight. Can you squeeze a nap in today? Or a nice bath? I know it must be hard to get time for yourself with ds to look after but you'd probably feel loads better for it if you can x

Sorry your feeling so rubbish lastnight. Hormonal mess here too. I'm 34+3, must be something in the dates!! Never easy when there's illness involved and sleepless nights even when your not pregnant.
My OH got home Friday, went out yesterday for "a few" drinks with a friend and didn't come til 12.30 last having been in a fight (we've been together 7 years and first time I Ever known him to do such a thing) he woke up this morning with a black eye and I had his friend sleeping in my sofa. Today is the day we're supposed to be decorating the nursery and at the moment all OH is fit for is his bed and he's away in the bath in a huff with me for being angry with him.

Sorry for the rant, no one else to vent to and he's just making me feel in the wrong for being angry at him atall.

lastnight there's nothing wrong with being a hormonal mess as this time. I'm sure your DH understands. I hope your DS gets better soon.

Grrrr id be annoyed too artisticme as you'd made plans. Hopefully he'll feel better after a bath and can be of use! Can you get some coffee and carbs down him and spur him into action?

I reckon we should all vent away! Everyone else is an arsehole in the last few weeks of pregnancy, especially the "Wow, you're so big! Are you sure it's just one baby you've got in there?" comedians.

Littleen, so glad everything is ok.

Jazz, I agree with lovestobake. My MIL, bless her, got a change mat, travel cot, car seat and highchair for when DD was born, and it makes things so much easier. We just had dinner there tonight. DD has hers early, then goes down to sleep in the cot no bother, then comes home with us when we're going. She's also had DD for sleepovers at weekends as well, and it's so good not having to cart things back and forth.

Think he is possibly on the move misskat Haha don't know how productive he'll be but we may have a nursery before the days out!! Fx.

Julietee Fingers crossed it will cover this as well! I am the same - no experience whatsoever, and no classes to learn from! My other half looked after nephews when they were small so he will have to teach me everything O.o haha.

lastnight Hope you feel better soon, perhaps you could talk to your MW about the pains you have, to reassure you if nothing else? Atleast you really don't have long to go at all, before getting to meet the new baby :)

artistic Wonder what happened to cause him to get in a fight :O You certainly can be angry with him, sounds like irresponsible behaviour. Though I would still talk to him and ask what happened, it might have a better explanation than just "got drunk, got in a fight"!

I know the man-thing of making you feel in the wrong for being mad though - my other half said yesterday that I was 'useless at helping out' (with diy, because when I do help, he says I do it wrong, which he proved to do again yesterday) and it all ended with me apologizing for being useless, when really he was in the wrong.

I know the pains are just crotch lightening, it's all signs that things are progressing. But they bloody hurt!!

Lastnight hope you're doing ok, tis your body getting ready so just take it easy and don't feel bad for anything. It's exciting you are so close now.

Glad all ok litleen always best to get checked and typical he woke up as soon as you're there! My LO still has quiet periods too, wouldn't have thought there was still space for them to hide.

I have the bednest on its way as well and tbh hadn't really thought about sheets yet. I have a heap of jersey sheets that are probably more.cot sized - do you think I'll be ok using those and tucking them in well? Then was planning on using sleeping bags and a cellular blanket. Same for the moses basket I'll keep downstairs for daytime naps.

artistic

I just pulled out all the baby clothes from the attic and I have 12 sleep suits, 17 vests and the various hats/cardies etc... that's just the newborn pile the 0-3 and 3-6 month piles are even bigger this is mostly all ds's gender neutral stuff plus a handful of items from my best friend. she has stacks of girls clothes on stand by for me too depending on babies flavour where the pants am I going to put all this stuff?

Another one here whinging, although mine are really quite minor in comparison to everyone else...

Got up early to tidy house as mil and step fil coming over to do last bit of DIY in nursery. Asked oh to help yesterday but the full extent of his help was to out all the crisp and chocolate packets he had piled up beside him into a carrier bag as bin is full, he then said he would help today.

Conldnt wake him up today, so of course did it all myself, bar the bins and litter trays (tbh it wasn't that much but still). Then get call to say they weren't coming over, as not well (again, not huge thing and they were coming yo do us a favour, even though I had tried to get oh to get them over next week with it being last day of hols before back at work today) and will come next week.

Finally oh gets up and I have to nag and nag him to do the litter trays (not Been done since Christmas Eve, yuck, I used to do them every couple of days, but they are in a cupboard with a cat flap, so he thinks out of sight out of mind and smell ). Finally got him to do them, on the condition that I did all the bins...

It's just really irritated me! I cook, clean, do the washing... Granted I have Ben on holiday for 2 weeks and he has only had a couple of days off, so I don't mind to some extent but this happens when I'm at work as well. Having minor panics about when baby is here because I get really worked up after a while about mess and can get quite depressed about it.

In the past when I have asked him to do things, oh will get a bit stroppy, do it and then few weeks later will complain how I've been nagging him. So now, I have to say things as a compromise...eg If you do this, I will make you a cup of tea...

We never argue about anything and I think he will be a fab dad and he is really thoughtful at times but I just don't want to have keep asking him to do things when baby turns up, would really like him to do it off his own back...

Wow that was an essay and a half! Also makes oh sound bad when he's absolutely lovely and would do anything for me (apart from cleaning unless asked!)...

Forgot to say also, also in oh's defence, he has given up smoking for new year... So has been a bit snappier and less inclined to do things as he is craving badly.

He had quit whilst we were ttc and right up until last 2/3 months but slowly started again (only those little cigars and 2 or 3 a day) and I had told him that he must stop when baby born but it was his idea to stop as a New Years resolution, so I haven't argued with him!

Same thing is happening here too cubano. I'm beginning to think that any initial patience our partners had at the start of our pregnancy has now gone. My DP has gone from obsessively protecting me and doing the litter trays all the time to supreme laziness and casually letting me climb ladders today to repaint a room that he wasn't happy with (I wasn't bothered) whilst he watched football. I think they have become a bit bored by it all. Meanwhile we are less physically able to do these jobs and more irritated by their laziness.
It was DP's birthday yesterday so as normal I gave him a complete day off from everything while I made him a cake and his favourite dinner. He only left his bed to go to the toilet. This has spoilt him though because he's doing the bare minimum today. I better get on with the second coat really and try to hide my resentment a bit better.

thingy that is the prefect word for how I am feeling... Resentment!

Weirdly my DP has issues with smoking too. We quit together 6 months before TTC and I noticed when I was 3 months pregnant that he stank of smoke. He lied to me about it for ages but didn't stop once he had admitted it but he only smokes at work. He hasn't smoked at all while he's been home for 2 weeks. But if you can stop for that long why on earth do you start again? Makes no bloody sense.
Ahhh I feel better now after a rant.

Wow Cubano you must have really clean cats! We clean our trays about 6 times a day (2 cats, 2 trays) because they stink. And total clean out every 7 days. Bloody cats

cubano feeling for you with the cleaning and your DH. Mine flits between having to be told what to do and then I'm told I'm nagging. He doesn't really do half of everything round the house but he does work more than me. After my epic nosebleed the other day he told me I'm not to bend down as much and proceeded to unpack the washing machine and tumble drier for me. But later on I had to pack the dishwasher and sweep up the kitchen floor I keep reminding him every now and again that I might need a CS which will mean he has to do EVERYTHING for a couple of weeks and he says he understands but I'm not entirely sure he does...

I am dead chuffed with my TK Maxx shopping trip today. PIL bought me 2 pairs of mens joggers which were miles too small for me as 'comfy maternity loungewear'. Bless them, they don't realise how big I am! Alas couldn't find any suitable loungewear to swap them for, so instead swapped for a cute neutral jungle print babygrow/sleepsuit/bib set, a Le Creuset pie dish (bargain), 2 new baking sheets and a brownie tin with £2.50 change! Am hoping to make some cakes and biscuits to take in for last few days at work, but not sure I have the energy.

Also went into BabyGAP to check out the sale and found lots of lovely stuff for very cheap prices but couldn't bring myself to buy any as we still don't know what we're having. I really want some (sale) stuff from there though, as I worked in there for almost 8 years and spent most of my time daydreaming about what I'd buy for my baby in years to come...

My DH successfully quit smoking too when I got pregnant - well he had quit and was taking champix which are horrible and made him feel crappy. He's started again now though as his work is so stressful at the moment and he's working ridiculous hours. I hate it and am getting worried about him being able to quit before the baby arrives. I feel guilty for being annoyed at him about it, but I hate that he's struggled so much to give up and now has to go through that all again. He was learning to drive too and hoping to have passed his test before now but hasn't been able to have any lessons for the last month or so due to his stupid work hours (15 hour days and in weekends etc). I'm just hoping they let him book some time off when the bloody project finishes this week as I really need his help at home and we want to actually spent some quality time together before the baby comes. I'm joining the feeling crappy club today it seems! Sorry for the rant!

Thingy and misskat that is completely my oh - stopped for so long, why want to start and he says it's because work is stressful...

Lastnight - no the cats could poop for England! But we found using the wood pellets was 100 times better than other litter and really masks the smell plus with it being in cupboard, only get the smell when door is opened fully. Although we did initially have to get a movement sensor light for the cupboard for them until they got used to it! Also, food changed and not as explosive as they once were (tmi sorry).

Do not want to go back to school tomorrow and STILL have loads of marking to do but want to enjoy last day off!

I'm also a bit grumpy and under the weather today - sore throat and headache all day and just want to sleep! Back to work tomorrow after 2 weeks off and really don't want to go back, even though I only have 6 days to go spread over 2 weeks! I can't be bothered to get back into work mode as I've just been thinking of mat leave and baby this past few weeks and want to concentrate on that, not get up early and commute to the office :( I'm sure it will go fast...

My DH gave up smoking when I was pregnant with DD nearly 4 years ago. He was very much a social smoker - could go for days at home without having one but if stressed at work, on a night out he'd puff away. He replaced it with nicorette mints and sprays which did work for him (and the fact that there were less nights out after DD was born!). The trouble is he's now addicted to them and is still on them! I do nag about it as it seems like such a waste of money and I'm sure they can't be good for him, but must be better for his health than the cigarettes and no negative affects for baby.

I'm quite lucky that DH is helpful around the house. His mum is obsessively clean and tidy and it's rubbed off on him (opposite of my mum!). Sometimes it's annoying though as he'll move stuff that I've left out on purpose to remind me to do something and I have to go hunting for it.

Baby clothes are in the tumble dryer, looking forward to putting them away :)

We use wood pellets too, kind of. They will only tolerate cats best oko plus (v expensive) and if you leave the slightest trace of wee or poo in the tray they refuse to use them and do it on the floor instead. It's horrendous

Sorry to hear some of you are having DHs that aren't pulling their weight. Mine was fab at the start, but as I've got better during the pregnancy he's done less. He still does his fair share, but my nesting instinct is making it tough for him and my standards have gone up!

I've been so lazy today. I stayed in bed until 11.30, got up and did a few things, then settled onto the sofa for the last three hours

I've got all my paperwork out to do my birth plan, not made much progress though! I'm a bit cynical about how much notice will be taken of it though.