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January 2014 Thread 15-More babies to come

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Naturegirl82 · 01/01/2014 09:16

Went to post on the other thread and it was full! Hope people find this one ok.

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Percypiglet · 05/01/2014 09:57

Congrats choco, hope you are feeling better soon.

fryingpantoface · 05/01/2014 10:02

Bug still kicks me a lot, he's been moving but not kicking. Even when i drink cold water/ put a cup of tea on my bump. He's just stopped doing that which makes me worried.

i managed to get to sleep at 4.30 and dh got up with ds so i slept until half nine. Now I'm waiting to go to church. I just don't feel right today, just feel off. Nothing to explain it, or why, i just do. I'm 38+3 and ds was born 38+5 so maybe that's it? My waters broke 38+4

TobyLerone · 05/01/2014 10:25

frizz, I did exactly the same with DS. You do what you have to.

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 05/01/2014 10:29

frying adding to the chorus of 'phone the mw' here. Even if it's "just" for reassurance, it's worth it. FWIW, I get movements, but many many fewer kicks, and they are now mostly in the afternoon and evening with only the odd one before midday.

MrsV I am Angry on your behalf. That's ridiculous. If it helps, after my smug little post yesterday about DH, he drank far too much because his dickhead DF was visiting, and he polished off the end of the bottle after cuntchops FIL left. I am v cross with him. Considering telling him I don't want him as birth partner anymore, to try and shock him out of it, but don't want to be PA (I do still want him there, but sober and not fucking smelly).

toby sleeping? Traitor.Grin Happy EDD anywho.

blue oh it's our two year anniversary on tues as well! How spooky! What are you doing about presents for your DH?

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 05/01/2014 10:31

another hope OOH can advise. Have you tried steamy bathroom? I know my mum used to swear by that for us. Not trying to teach anyone to suck eggs (Mason isn't your first, is he?) just wondered if it might help for now?

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 05/01/2014 10:33

And finally... Hmm

frizz our NCT teacher warned us that blokes can sleep through babies waking. It's evolutionary - they're not usually needed for night feeds, so not attuned to it. Might be worth asking your DH if he does wake up and if so, at what point (when A cries, or when you have woken and started talking to her, getting up etc).

Frizz1986 · 05/01/2014 10:52

Thanks for the info humpty I hadnt thought of that. I will ask him if he wakes up in the night at all. Although I know he was awake at one point as i moaned at him and he decided to turn over to sleep facing away from me lol.

TobyLerone · 05/01/2014 11:08

It's our first anniversary next Sunday. Lots of January weddings!

Bluecarrot · 05/01/2014 12:04

humpty I'm having his baby. That'll do him!

Not sure how ill top it next year though. ;)

Tbh, if he remembers to even get me a card I'd be in so much shock I'd prob go into spontaneous labour an push baby out without meds. ( I'd not complain - trying to avoid CS!)

MrsVDB · 05/01/2014 12:05

humpty I would only want dh as birthing partner and know he really does care but not sure what's gotten into him. I'm assuming it's the reality of life changing forever in a couple of weeks so he's clinging on to bachelor hood. He's trying v hard today and after his uncle has gone I think well have a long chat

GummiBear74 · 05/01/2014 12:26

frizz, I've heard the same - mothers will wake at every tiny snuffle or grunt, but fathers aren't quite as attuned, so it may not be his fault. Regarding co-sleeping, just make sure that you're not under the influence of drugs or alcohol, keep the duvet away from baby, and you'll be fine. Our doula suggested tucking a foam thingy under the edge of the fitted sheet to be absolutely sure that the baby can't fall out, but we thought we'd see whether we could do the same with a rolled up towel.

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 05/01/2014 12:27

frizz hope it helps! So easy to get annoyed (I know I will too), but better for winning argument for you both if you're sure he's waking and ignoring rather than not waking at all.

toby Jan weddings rock.

blue hmm! good point. I may have to go with that...

MrsV well, I just talked to mine and he apologised and said he just didn't think. I guess everyone's allowed to be a twat be thoughtless sometimes... Maybe your uncle being there is part of it? My DH is much worse with others around, if they are drinking, he wants in. Hmm

fryingpantoface · 05/01/2014 12:39

I'm at church at the moment but will be calling triage when i get home. Still no movements today!

ds was born on our second wedding anniversary, it sucks. Means we won't be able to celebrate our anniversary on the day until ds grows up! So we celebrate the month before on the day we actually met

Felix90 · 05/01/2014 12:40

Woah altered I hope you're resting up at home after all that! I had 6 internal stitches. Midwife said I had a 'bucket tear' which is apparently not as bad as it sounds. I think it's healed up nicely now though after 2 weeks! Do your pelvic floor exercises as soon as you can as it gets the blood circulating and apparently makes the healing process quicker.

Felix90 · 05/01/2014 12:42

Frizz I'm getting annoyed for the same reason! I even sat and glared at him last night even though he was asleep haha. Sylvie was screaming the house down and he didn't even stir. I'll ask him if he actually hears anything through the night or not too.

GummiBear74 · 05/01/2014 12:49

felix, it's really 2 weeks already? Shock

Congratulations to altered and choco Thanks

Can't believe my EDD is still 9 days away. Still, as we both have foul colds at the moment, I'll put off wishing the time away until we're better. My bump support band is the bestest thing I've ever bought - I literally have to carry my bump upstairs when I'm not wearing it!

Bluecarrot · 05/01/2014 13:45

Our anniversary on Tuesday is of day we met rather than wedding. DP isn't a planner. In fact til I handed him a book with relevant pages marked yesterday, he hadn't read anything about childbirth!

MrsVDB · 05/01/2014 13:52

blue my dh hasn't a clue about childbirth either, read up to about week 14 of pregnancy in book I got him but hasn't picked it up since. Did come to antenatal class so has a bit if an idea and I've explained hell have to fish my poo out of pool and if giving birth is anything like the videos on YouTube I watched then my bum hole is likely to turn inside out! He can't wait ;)

enormouse · 05/01/2014 14:09

Congratulations choco and altered

felix I swore I'd never co sleep but it just worked with DS and he went straight into his own room at 11 months without complaint. He just wouldn't settle in any crib or basket. Despite me trying 3 of them!
Whatever works for you has to be a good thing.

blue good on your mum!

What is it with all the cuntpuffin dp/hs?? Maybe it's just one last cuntish act before they become responsible adults.

A little sad today as this would have been my late granddad's 93rd birthday and I had (secretly) hoped that the little one would come today. Don't think he will though.

Toothfairy78 · 05/01/2014 14:31

Hello,
Just checking for babies.

Congrats choco! I hope they mend the other problem pronto now and send you on your way to a speedy recovery and enjoy your baby boy! X

Congratulation altered! X

In other news, I was clearing out a pile of papers including an advice sheet from the hospital on how to cope with early labour. It says "it helps if you avoid stimulating the 'rational' part of your brain during labour. This can override the 'primitive' part which produces endorphins..."

Bullcrap, according to DH the rational part of my brain turned to be pretty fricking amazing throughout the 12 hr labour and even at the end when we went to theatre and anaesthetist struggled for Half an hour to get the needles in my spine (he ended up improvising). So NEURGH!!! UP YOUR JUMPER!!

I think I might frame this piece of paper.

Oh and i mentioned to DH about people's OH's going off on one getting drunk, acting like kids at this stage. He was not impressed and essentially said they have no excuse and that the time to get it out of you system was when you were at college/Uni or your teens/20s. Definitely not now...

Essentially Mr Tooth says FFS MTFU boys!!!

He's 35 BTW.

Love to you all kittens!

fryingpantoface · 05/01/2014 14:38

Called triage who said to come in as its the second episode of not moving.

MrsVDB · 05/01/2014 14:41

tooth can you send him to have a word with my dh please! Although he's not out drinking (he drove last night) which I think justifies it in his mind as he's making a change by not drinking. Still no use if I can't contact him and go into labour though!!

I would have thought the rational part of your brain would be helpful as you understand what's happening etc, so much rubbish advice out there!

AnotherStitchInTime · 05/01/2014 14:57

Glad they are taking it seriously frying, I hope they get you on that monitor quickly once you get there.

Thanks for your concern humpty, yes steamy bathroom is great, I spent a lot of uncomfortable time in there last night.

Have now seen OOH at local paediatric A&E and Mason is ok, oxygen, heart rate and breathing all normal, if he gets worse in any way I have to go back. Feel relieved that he has been checked, was worried about bronchiolitis.

Felix90 · 05/01/2014 16:46

Frying hope you get seen quickly!

Another glad he's been checked over and is ok Smile hopefully he won't get any worse.

Gummi yes 2 weeks already! I can't believe it!

Just gave Sylvie her first proper bath (I've been top and tailing her until now) and she bloody hated it haha. Screamed the house down! She's all lovely and clean and soft now though Grin

fryingpantoface · 05/01/2014 17:51

I have to have a scan to see what's going on with the baby, if i can't get one tomorrow I'm to come in for monitoring anyway. Then it will go to the consultant to decide whether to induce.

the Dr has been lovely. The head is on the brim but not engaged at all. So they cant break my waters