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June 2014: New Year, new trimester, new thread! June bugs no 7!!

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hackneybird · 31/12/2013 15:37

Ding dong!

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mylittlel · 15/01/2014 17:02

good news wispa, we have decided an option of my mm staying with us, but agreed to try and do things ourselves, to get used to baby and new routine plus DH will be on paternity leave for 2 weeks, so if only i feel that i need help i will call my mum, but she can be too much work herself, not that we against parent around, im just dont want anymore stress when baby arrives

wispaxmas · 15/01/2014 17:20

Mylittlel, I couldn't just call my mom if I needed her, as she has to fly from overseas to get here. I know H and I could handle things on our own, but I don't want my mom to miss out on her latest grandchild, and like I said, we can offload her on the in-laws if we want to Wink

Expectingtwins1975 · 15/01/2014 17:41

What buggy have you decided on riblet? I still haven't been able to decide on one yet

chestnutmare · 15/01/2014 18:24

Ah, just joined the Facebook group! Was waiting for the email then realised it had gone into my junk folder, oops Blush
Thanks wispaxmas! Smile

MarlenaGru · 15/01/2014 19:18

Spelling homework, a 5 year old, a pregnant and tired mummy after a day at work do not make a good combination. I could really do with a whiskey!

Bumblebeesmum · 15/01/2014 19:35

Went for a walk with the couple who have the new dog (7 months old now) I had thought being outside would mean it's behaviour wasn't my problem (as opposed to pissing all over my house without them reacting). I was wrong. It was so embarrassing it was attacking other dogs without her really reacting so the poor dogs were stood there looking at their owners like get this thing off me! It was jumping up at James in his buggy a lot which made me a little uneasy & because she had the extendable lead really long the whole time it was constantly double wrapped round pram jumping up at strangers etc etc all with just her eventually calmly removing him & carrying on no telling him off or anything (I'm no dog owner but surely something is appropriate?!!)

Anyway I suggested perhaps a short lead might be easier while he's still 'training' and we have the pram. She's sent me a text saying my interference is unwarranted. I've apologised and no response. Now I'm wishing I'd reacted at the time about the wee all over our house!!

Oh well - my husbands had a lot of dogs & he said well you have essentially criticised her parenting (which is why I apologised)....so I do get why she's upset but it does make being around them extremely hard work!!

BEEwitched · 15/01/2014 19:43

Marlena, "I could really do with a whiskey!" is the sentence I have uttered the most during this pregnancy...

Bumble That's a good example on why extendable leads are a terrible idea if your dog hasn't learned how to walk on a proper lead yet. I wouldn't have apologised, the dog was behaving badly, it wrecked your house and possibly scared your child. Your friends are, sadly, just irresponsible dog owners.

MarlenaGru · 15/01/2014 19:50

bumble I am not sure I could have coped with that. Sounds like a bit of a disaster waiting to happen.

Ha BEE! I really don't begrudge DH the odd drink but I do want to scream when he is so stressed and has to have a wine\beer etc! Makes me sound terrible but when do we get a moment's rest?!

CleverOl10 · 15/01/2014 19:54

Bumble that sounds awful. As a dog owner myself, (hopefully a responsible one!), I think that just sounds like they shouldn't have a dog! I am so careful with my dog around children - and he's old and gentle. But I'm aware some children (and parents) aren't keen on dogs so I always keep him on a really short lead past them and let them come to see him if they choose to. I hate dogs that jump up at children, especially little ones, as it can be really scary.

Sorry for that rant! Bumble, I think you were right to say something to be honest, as it will be your child their dog is messing about near in a few months and they need to know you are uncomfortable with it.

MarlenaGru · 15/01/2014 19:59

clever I think most dog owners are like you. My DD is scared of dogs as we don't know anyone with a dog well enough for her to see it often so if a dog lunges at her even in a friendly way she is terrified!

mylittlel · 15/01/2014 20:14

wispa, my mum lives overseas as well, but i just think it will be hard for us to adapt to new life and get used to things when others are around

Bumblebeesmum · 15/01/2014 20:16

I have to admit I am biased re dogs I was bitten as a child & it takes an owner to reassure me or the dog to look really calm before I'm comfortable near one but I did meet a golden retriever the other day who I swear understood fluent English. I was bitten by a golden retriever as a child & this dog was v big & jumping & rolling around as we approached so I restrained James & I think the owner immediately sensed it & said 'Harry come here' & he just stopped rolling got up & went to her immediately. She was talking to him like he was a human & he was just doing everything immediately & even stood to be petted by James. I originally said 'oh no it's not a good idea he hits our cats' & she was like oh no he's used to little ones don't worry. A part of me still wasn't keen but James was beside himself with excitement. Harry stood good as gold then as soon as she said you can go & play he was off rolling in grass again. James chased after him & thew himself in to the grass & rolled around next to him. I am pleased my phobia isn't rubbing off & I have to say I even had a (very brief) thought I might have a dog in the future (not going to happen).

My friends are apparently going to classes with their terrier so fingers crossed they'll get there eventually. Tbh given she's ignored my apology it may not be my problem anymore anyway. It would be a shame though as they're very nice people & have been absolute gems with my little one.

Poetschild · 15/01/2014 20:30

Babasling have some half price slings available if anyone's interested.

www.thebabasling.com/checkout/onepage/success/#.UtbvvvScIns

Poetschild · 15/01/2014 20:32

Sorry, this link is better.

www.thebabasling.com/

MarlenaGru · 15/01/2014 20:54

clever
I have always had big dogs so not scared at all but my friend had two enormous golden retriever boys who used to pin me to the wall every time I visited her which I did not enjoy! They were gorgeous boys but not trained and totally unruly!

CleverOl10 · 15/01/2014 21:08

Marlena, exactly - I love dogs but think I'd be uncomfortable with that! Dog owners have to be aware of this!!

Thanks so much for the link poets - been umming and arring about what sling to get but those look fab and the discount price seems good so have gone for it!!

summerbaby2014 · 15/01/2014 21:51

Poets child - where do the baby's legs go in that sling!?

wispaxmas · 15/01/2014 22:43

It's tough with dogs. Wispa is well trained but she gets very excited to see new people and will desperately try to lick their faces. So I'm constantly having to haul her down and away from jumping up at people who come to our place. However, give her a minute to calm down and she's perfectly behaved, will listen to every command, and will generally just lie down at our feet and sleep.

She's an extra large dog in terms of height and weighs a good 32kg, and she is very friendly; however, on walks she goes off lead and will not run up to other dogs without my say-so. Other people, though... Well, she thinks all people have treats in their pockets and she likes to go sniffing. She will always stop and come back to me if I tell her to, but she's just a very curious and friendly dog.

I've grown up with large dogs, and they've all been like Wispa. I love how amiable she is. I love how much she loves people. It has taken quite a while to get H's family to come around to the idea of a large dog as they had no prior experience with dogs, but they love her now, even our young nieces who were scared to death of her at first. We do have to keep her under strict control when they're around, though, as they don't like their faces licked and as far as Wispa is concerned they are at the perfect height for it!

hackneybird · 15/01/2014 22:51

Evening. Just popping into say good night. Really tired today (for a change!). Had to work late last night and really feeling it today. Feeling so sorry for myself! I'm really struggling with having a 4yo, working and being pregnant. I have to do most of the nursery pick ups, so by the time I travel ti nursery from work, get home with my son and have cooked his tea and run his bath, I am totally totally wiped out. Never doing this pg lark again!

Bit :( as have had to move scan. Husband can't make scheduled date of 22nd as he has a big meeting, and next available appointment not til 28th. Boo.

Marlena I really fancied a glass of cold white wine tonight. Weird, as I am usually a red wine drinker. Oddly, in this pregnancy I have often been craving cold wine and beer! Thank goodness for Becks Blue.

Sorry for the me me me moaning.

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BEEwitched · 15/01/2014 23:04

Sleep well, hackney, I hope it helps your energy levels. Good night!

Bumblebeesmum · 16/01/2014 03:52

I'm going to have to go to my scan alone (not for weeks yet) as husbands a teacher on a 1 term contract can't really pop out. Oh well :(
Up ill with worst headache ever trying to distract myself :(

ohcluttergotme · 16/01/2014 06:49

Hackney, really feel your pain. I'm struggling with lively 4 year old, being pregnant and stressful, full on job. I also do all elements of child care as dh works longer hours and quite often out of our town. I am feeling wiped out. Was thinking yesterday this is the last time, I'm getting too old!
Terrible nights sleep and have splitting headache.
Sorry for another moany thread this morning!
Hope others feeling better.

Bumblebeesmum · 16/01/2014 07:28

Clutter Hackney that sounds hard. It's hard enough just focusing on keeping my toddler alive I think school runs & homework would finish me off!
That said after being up ill 2.30 - 4 this morning my toddler came in at 4.30 & tried to drag me out of bed by my hair....

Redcliff · 16/01/2014 07:30

Marlena - I feel your homework pain. I had to do math homework this weekend and I was not the best.

Not that I happy people are having a bad time but really pleased we have somewhere safe to moan if that makes sense. Had to set the alarm for the first time in a while as have an early meeting to prepare for. Am on train but could so turn round, go home and get back into bed,

I know its a bit early to be thinking about it but is anyone else getting involved in getting maternity cover? I have a really good temp under me at the moment and I think I will encourage her to apply - would love to be involved in the interviews but not sure if I will be - might ask anyway. I am sure it will just be internal so probably not many contenders . .

Vickyvix · 16/01/2014 07:42

Morning red I feel your pain, am also on the early train to work as have so much to get done by the end of tomorrow. I could really do with going home to sleep!

Hats off to those of you with toddlers as well, it's just me and DH and I am struggling enough to do every around the house and work, let alone having a small person to look after.

Eliza thank you for the response re hypnotherapy, we are going to go for it and it's good to know somebody else thinks it is a good idea too. I also like the fact it is supposed to give you faith in the ability of your body and involves DP/DH - we'll see if it actually works!

Have been looking at pushchairs/ prams. I rather like the Quinny Buzz 3 or the Uppababy Cruz has anyone experience with either of those?