The Definitlies - May 2014ers!

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Almost there now, May mums!

Stats page: docs.google.com/spreadsheet/ccc?key=0AvygwA-EKhURdDMwQWNNWGt0cHhmVkloazVVQ0hYNUE#gid=0

Size of baby chart: m.thebump.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-tools/articles/how-big-is-baby.aspx?MsdVisit=1

Sorry for the typos! I'm blaming baby brain!!

irish - I'm not sure if this will help but I have a spreadsheet which works out monthly take-home pay for a given salary. I've used it to work out my overall income for next year in order to get an average monthly income across the year. However there are various bits I don't know, like if they'll take pension contributions from smp (I guess/hope not) and how/when they reimburse for the tax they'll take at the start of the year. Let me know if my spreadsheet will help though. Not sure if I could send it to you but if you give me some figures I could plug them in for you. PM me if that would be useful.

loopy it doesn't hurt to part mine either, in fact I'm sitting cross legged which I'm not supposed to do, but hey, it takes the pressure of my lower back/pelvis! I have PGP (newer name)- it's not true SPD, mine's all where your spine joins your pelvis (sacro something joint). It can cause pain at the front/inbetween legs if it's really bad.

Don't live with it though, that was my mistake with DS, thinking it was manageable then suddenly it really wasn't and I ended up in front of a class of 13/14 year olds in tears with the pain (who were lovely) then signed off!

mrsmummy, yeah they're pretty good- for that anyway, I could list many things they aren't so understanding/good about

Hey ladies! Hope were all good! Too much to read up on in 8 days so excuse my ignorance if I don't read back !!!

I had best nye! Mini thistle had his first kick! Felt him not regularly I wish I did!!! Is this normal???

Has the fb group gone??

Hello, quick question - getting HR stuff sorted at work today. Has anyone been given their MATB1 form yet? I'm 24 weeks, next seeing midwife end of Jan.

We sont get the matb1 form until we are at least 20 weeks pregnant. Either midwife or gp can issue it.

*don't not sont

I got my mat b1 yesterday (22+4) - you can go and get it from the midwife or gp.

I also think I have SPD/PGP. Walking, going upstairs (but not so much going downstairs) and dressing are all very painful, as are bending and crouching. I've just had to go for a little cry in the loos after having to walk from my second floor office to the ground floor and back for the fourth time today. Feeling really pathetic! Unfortunately I can't really say anything at work as they all think I'm milking my pregnancy (I stumbled across an e-mail my boss sent to a colleague which pretty much says as much, because I was signed off for two weeks back in the autumn with exhaustion, sickness and depression. If I was really milking it I doubt I would have bothered coming back full time when my GP wanted to sign me off for another couple of weeks).

Midwife appointment is on Monday so I'll let her know how I've been feeling and see if I can get any help. I'm not holding out much hope as I've had problematic hips since I was 16 (so I guess I was bound to get pelvic problems in pregnancy) and have always been brushed off by doctors about it.

Sorry for the rant. I just needed somewhere to vent!

Gosh pixie that's horrible that they're saying things like that behind your back. What bitch your boss sounds. Lack of empathy or jealousy is at play there! Ignore them.

On the other hand my boss bought me a Creme Egg yesterday because he thought I must miss real ones. Very sweet of him!

Sometimes I think he'd be easier to deal with if he was a twat all of the time. At least then I'd always know where I stand!

Sorry to hear you're struggling pixie, and that work are being unsupportive. Hope your midwife can get you some help. I'm considering going straight to a (private) pgp specialist physio in my area because I'm not confident that the gp/mw/physio they refer me to will know enough about it. Maybe I'm doing them all a disservice though!

In other news, my baby's new favourite thing appears to be using my bladder as a punchbag/football. It was quite cute at first.

This pregnancy thing brings all kinds of surprises!

I have always been a Nancy-no-tits... Before getting PG I wore a size 32 A bra, a couple of months in I purchased a 34 B bra with no padding (smugly grinning to myself!), now I've never worn anything without underwire before but my boobs are sore and bruised so I decided to splash out and get a nice couple of bras that fit... got measured in mothercare... 36 DD!!!

Please can I keep them?

Haha moo I used to have a great pair of boobs (32F) then had dd1 went down to a 32E after breastfeeding, then after dd2 went down to a 32DD. Really worried what ill drop to after this one. I go bigger whilst pregnant though. I have decided that I will be having a boob job to restore them back to their former younger years!

Pixie that's terrible your boss is talking about you like that to colleagues. You definitely should not feel like it's an issue being pregnant.

My work is stressing me out this term, lots of silly little hassles going on! Also absolutely everyone at work seems to have a really strong opinion on my pregnancy or motherhood in general - today I was told I'd have to be mad not to have an epidural & another colleague told me I'm probably jinxing my pregnancy by buying things for the baby this early! Thanks!

Had a scare this morning when baby wouldn't move... went to antenatal day unit, heartbeat fine, everything fine and we helped a student doctor with revision for her exams on Friday so relieved.

All my classmates keep feeling my bump (most are asking first, thankfully), they can't believe how solid it is a bit worried though as first years were auditioning for our directing pieces today, general rule is if they audition for a particular part they'll probably get it - the girl who stalked me, tried to lure me out late at night where her boyfriend was waiting for me and accused me of spending a year bullying her (because we went from college to uni together, she stopped turning up and by the time she came back I'd made other friends and didn't drop them, and she's been stalking me ever since), auditioned for a part in mine and spent the whole time staring at me. The lecturers don't know about what happened because it was outside of uni (apart from her telling the whole of the first year that I'm a bully) and I didn't want it to seem like telling tales, but if they cast her in mine I'll have no choice. She and her boyfriend are dangerous, and she's intensely jealous of anyone who gets pregnant because her boyfriend refuses to have unprotected sex with her ( ) It doesn't help that I feel stupidly vulnerable already just lately. Is this normal in pregnancy?

mrsmummy thats aweful, what right do they have to say things like that to you! I never had an epidural, I hadppethidine with my first and refuse to EVER touch the stuff again. Second time I had gas and air and I will again this time probably. I bought loads of things for baby 1st, second and this time and ive not jinxed myself so far. Ignore the plebs, I think a bit of envy is playing its part.

Sorry to hear your having a rough time moomin I cant really offer any advice as ive not been in your situation before.

Sorry to hear about the horrible girl moomin. I think it's very normal to feel extra-vulnerable at the moment.

V impressive moobaloo! Mine haven't grown much at all but I've just started to find some of my bras aren't fitting so am going to take the plunge and get measured for maternity ones.

I really need to start cooking dinner, but my son is having a private disco in my uterus and I don't want to get up, im enjoying him kicking too much. I don't feel him as easily when standing.

Thanks for info on MATB1, I'll ask for one at next midwife appt. Filled out HR online form today which triggered an auto response to my manager asking him to complete a risk assessment for me. He messaged to say the questions are hilarious, one was about challenging/unpredictable behaviour! He's going to put a sign up asking people to ensure they don't stand between me & choc to minimise risk

mumof2 I feel the kicks more strongly when sitting down. Have a complete obsession with watching my tummy move!

Thanks mumof2. Good to know you were fine with no epidural. What's pethidine like then?

Pethedine is horrible! It made me feel detached from my body but I still felt the pain but also fwlt out of control of the pain. Gas and air much better!

Ooh mumof2 it sounds horrible! Ok I'm definitely thinking gas & air is the way forwards!

Hope all you lovely ladies are all having nice evenings! I'm having a bit of pelvic aches & pains, think it's because I've been running around all day though at work. Need to take it a bit easier I think.

The deugs available react differently with everyone, pethedine just didn't agree with me personally. Im sure there are plenty of women that would say it is a good form of pain relief. The pain is temporary and we forget it afterwards. If someone asked me to describe childbirth I honestly couldn't. Staying calm and relaxed is the main thing. With dd2 I sailed through it because I kept myself calm and the effects of gas and air wore off within seconds so I could enjoy her instantly.