Due in December 2006 (PART TWO)

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Coz the first thread was getting too long....

Hi jabber, my ds a little younger than yours, he's 3 on the 14th, but of December (I'm due on 16th). Tried just before he turned 2, then again in early June as he seemed quite with it but didn't seem to be getting the hang of telling me when he needed to go. Now I'm waiting for 'mummy, i need to do a poo, potty now' before I start again! He has been naked quite a lot, but perhaps I am a little protective of sofa, floors etc. He found tester paint yesterday & put blue paint all over my living room so I guess wee can't be any worse! I find the thought of poo on my leather sofa hard to deal with though, don't quite know how I'll deal with more poo management with real nappies!

It was a bit harder than I thought it would be, tbh. I really had imagined that ds would be totally potty trained by 2 1/2 but he just wasn't that into it. At least yours should be before the new baby comes. That was my main goal. I did not want two of them in diapers!

Gosh. i'm knackered here too (and wearing flip flops-even in the rain!) I'm actually off work today cos i feel grotty and didn't sleep much last night. This time last pg i was doing preg yoga,resting ,eating PROPERLY and generally being a good pg girl. Now I'm feeling guilty for not paying my ds enough attention(allowing him to watch too much Thomas TTE),haven't even booked my yoga yet,still eating too many salty crisps and have been swimming twice!That's on top of the potty training(which is going well til I get smug about it then I end up with soggy carpets)At least the poo in pants has stopped(DOH!.....guess what will be in the nursery bag this afternoon)

Sorry how whingey of me!! On a positive note, I'm finally 20wks and my scan is on Thursday which I'm very very excited about. As well as all the important stuff that the scan is really about, I hope we do get to see if Bean is girl or boy. The poor little thing is more of a "concept" in our house,while DS was a "baby" from about 12 wks of pg.Once(if) we know its gender I can start to imagine another LO properly.I can also start to come up with boys names if necessary which will take us five months!

spinamum, I have to say your post is very reassuring I have felt more than a little guilty about my pregnancy habits with ds and with this one (quite different to say the least!). And, I have frequent pangs of guilt about the amount of time I am spending with ds. I would be more than happy to just lie about for most of the day reading a novel - which, the first time around would definitely have been a book on pregnancy

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and I'm quite nervous. I find it difficult to get excited at seeing the baby anymore and just panic that everything is going to be alright (I had a missed mc diagnosed at the dating scan in Feb before I fell pg with this baby). Have decided not to ask about the sex.
This time tomorrow I'll be full up with water and waiting to go in.
I'd feel more confident if I had felt more movement but I've only felt flutters and not properly for a week or so.

I can only try to imagine how you are feeling cupcakes, but try to stay positive. Ds didn't move very much my entire pregnancy - but he's been making up for lost time ever since! It does make one nervous, though, I can attest to that. When my water broke they told me to rest until contractions started and call if movement slowed down. I was in a complete panic. I told them "It's already so slow, how could I tell?!"

thanks, J, that is reassuring. I can't really remember what ds or dd were like at this stage but I do know towards the end I had to be monitored a few times as I hadn't felt anything for a few days.
I'll let you know how it goes tomorrow. I'm sure it'll be fine, I just can't get excited about it.

Cupcakes, I know how you are feeling (I've had to change my name BTW but have been on this thread for a few weeks now) as I have had 4 missed m/cs and haven't felt this one as much as DS and DD. I hold my breath with each scan and I don't think I'll really feel like everything is ok until I hold my LO in my arms and it's been Apgar'd. I am sure everything is okay with your LO. I'm 22 weeks now and since having the anomaly last week I am feeling more movement.

hi - I can't keep up with this thread. Were you MNP?
Thanks for your post.

No. Sorry to go all cryptic but someone I know freakily spotted me!

ah, ok.

I've decided not to bring ds and dd with me to the scan just in case. Which is a bit of a shame but having had a bad scan I just couldn't bear ds (who is 6) to have to learn something like that in that way.

Totally agree with you CC tho' I'm sure it will be good news for you. I wasn't allowed to take mine with me for the scan (bit of a pain childcare-wise) - they are 4 and 2.

I was really nervous about bringing ds for the same reason, but he's only 3 so we did. I think you are probably right to leave him at home. And later, you can all go in for a 3D/4D scan together!

I took dd to the bad scan - she was just 3 and it completely passed her by. She had no idea what was happening and wasn't bothered in the slightest. But both she and ds know about this baby and I know ds would be devastated if anything happened. At least I could control how I broke the news to him.

Good luck with the scan, cupcakes! I know how you feel, had four missed m/c before dd and took me ages to feel she was here to stay...hope the scan makes you feel that much safer, anyway.

I'm sorry so many of us are knackered and achey, but like Jabberwocky I tend to assume its age with me and get a bit down about it - so its really reassuring to see I'm just about normal! Eyelids drooping as I type...must, must go to bed before 11pm. Toilet training is going a bit better here, no accidents if I initiate BUT I've pulled back a bit and we had two 'teeny' wees on the carpet then she called me and rushed to the toilet to finish them - think thats a good sign?!

Am going to raise another subject...piles.....anyone else suffering? God I hate them.

x-posts...gosh, can't imagine having had dd at bad scans. That must have been hard, even at a young age...and think you're absolutely right not to take kids with you, Cupcake. Though I hope and trust everything will be fine, I wouldn't want to either. What time is your scan?

No piles yet Elibean, but am confident they will appear

not necessarily! Though I'm thinking the same thing about varicose veins...at least no stretch marks (apparently, rare in older women, as the skin is less elastic anyway: have to be some perks).

Just wanted to join in with whinging about aches and pains a bit!! I've been getting a shooting pain down the back and inside of my thighs. I had it last time with dd but it seems to have started much earlier this time. It's not there all the time but when it is it makes me limp and my leg gives way when I'm going upstairs. Anyone elase had this and how do you stop/alleviate it?

Spinamum, my scan is also on Thurs, along with an appointment with the consultant about my thyroid. I'm already getting wound up and stressed about the scan - I always do, I never look forward to them and I've never had a problem so I have no idea how elibean, cupcakes and castles must feel. Strangely, even though this is my third, I'm even more nervous this time than ever before. I think I feel like I've been too lucky so far iykwim. I've got pregnant 3 times on the first go, had 2 very straightforward pregnancies, 2 healthy babies who have been really easy so now I feel as though my luck should be running out. Especially when I read so may of the threads on here where people seem to have had so much bad luck thrown at them. I'm not sure I deserve to be this lucky. Sorry if that's a bit of self indulgent crap, I'm not sure I expressed it very well.

Is there anyone else on here who ISN'T going to find out the sex at their scan. There's lots of people who have and I know in RL I seem to be in the minority for not asking. Just curious, really.

I'm having something similar Olihan. It mainly bothers me if I've been lying down for a while.

Yes, Olihan, I know exactly how you feel, I call it the unbearable lightness of being - you feel so lucky that something HAS to go wrong. Daft really and I usually have a swig of Bach's White Chestnut when I'm feeling like that - not sure if you can during pregnancy?! From a scientific view, you are probably very well designed for child-rearing so there is every reason your 3rd time will be just as successful as the others. Good luck.

Hi All, well as I thought, another little girly! Very excited!!!

Higginpiggin- my scan today showed the same thing as you, so like you...I have another scan in 2 weeks!!! My sonographer said that she expects it needed to have a wee.

All else is perfect, another smaller than average baby.Now, it's time for names!!!

CR, congrats on another girly - your dd will be pleased too, I hope! Girl names much easier imho, we have shortlist of 1 after months of looking for a boy's name.
The shooting pain sounds like sciatica and is quite normal so I've read. Pelvic tilts helpful (helped too with my back today, as did the yoga cat & dog stretch, lovely!). I think those of you doing potty training shouldn't be surprised you're tired - all the bending down to the potty, cleaning up wee etc!
Cupcakes, thinking of you at your scan tomorrow. [hug].
Did anyone notice the Gina Ford notice (at bottom) - I had to report the posts about her a few days ago & we can't mention her anymore!

Hi everyone,

Am feeling very nervous about scan tomorrow. Think I am starting to get neurotic over it. Can't imagine there will be much sleeping tonight. Am convinced something is wrong - haven't felt much movement in last couple of weeks, when I thought it should be getting stronger. Am desperately trying to find the link from earlier in the thread about what they are looking for. Any ideas on when it was?

I posted the link, I think lennied, just googled for anomaly scan. But sounds like you're just going to get more anxious if you look at that page! Not sure if this is the same link , but here's quite detailed page, worth knowing what they're scanning so you know when they're finished! Good luck, quite a few here who have only faint movements irregularly so it needn't mean a thing When pg first time around, I totally panicked at about 34 weeks that ds had stopped moving altogether & rushed to local hospital where they showed him wriggling like an eel I'd still do it again though.