Due in December 2006 (PART TWO)

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Coz the first thread was getting too long....

Sorry Magnolia, that sounds worrying, but you're just gonna have to let other people help as much as possible and look after you and the little one, and don't overdo it. There isn't that much longer to go when you look at the big picture (but easy for me to say with no other children) x

I am sooo tired all the time, getting fed up of saying the word tired so have banned it at home. Trying a mind over matter plan today, thinking that if I pretend I am not tired maybe my body will be tricked into believing it. But seriously thinking maybe I am anemic - anyone else feeling that they are? I am going to ask the midwife at my check tomorrow

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DG, I feel the same. I'm getting to the stage where I can only manage one "outing" a day with my kiddywinks and the guilt is making matters worse. Pregnancy logic eh?!

You can buy the same anaemia tablets the doctor prescribes over the counter at the chemists. They are called Ferrous Sulphate - I take them when I feel really run-down, in fact, will get some today if I can manage to stagger out the door . My mum says all women were automatically put on them in "her day".

Oh Magnolia, how awful. I hope that placenta gets moving. I will stop feeling sorry for myself about feeling tired now and think myself lucky not to have to be confined to bed!

Devongirl, I wonder that all the time, it would be a relief to find out this t**ness could be sorted with a bit of iron. But my anaemia blood test was completely normal. It would be worth asking if you haven't had one done, though.

Elibean - Someone else who knows what its like to not be able to lie down anymore!

I take a 150mg tablet when I wake at 5am to pee (at least its doing someting useful!) another at about 2pm and another just before bed. Otherwise I wake up with acid in my mouth and can't quite make it through to bed time if I take my first tablet at 5am.

I think the only reason I have done more than just think about Xmas, is cause most of my shopping so far has been via ebay!

Magnolia - I am also on the threat of hospital bed rest if I dont rest enough at home and also have the "no sex" thing, am more than happy to commiserate!!! and although this is only my 2nd, I am also with the, "why can't I just have a normal pregnancy like everyone else" stage!

So have any of you tired ones had your thyroid checked? Mine is usually low anyway, so I take synthroid for it but it really plummets during pg. Especially this time around. Once they got my dosage sorted out my energy got much better. I still get tired, mind you, but it's not a real problem at this point like it was a month or two ago.

Anyone(with one or more current children) thought about what you're going to do when the time comes to give birth? It being Xmas there are less available neighbours/friends etc or is it a nightmare anytime of the year to sort out child care for your oldest sproglets?

We're sorting Xmas out here but only from a "we may not have a roof,let's rent a cottage for both families to stay in and hopefully Bean will turn up at a convienant time" point of view.
I am thinking about presents, but one stress (or three) at a time is all I can do at moment.

forgot to add Bean needs to turn up between 22nd and 29th if we're going to have anyone about. My folks live in another country and DH live 2hours away. Am I mad/selfish to think one option is for DH to hang out with DS in hospital while I discreetly give birth in a delivery suite.Followed by a soft focus moment when we all hug and kiss one another and rejoice in the afterglow of becoming a family.(again)
I'm not considering a home birth as I may not have a roof (see above) I know woman have given birth in caves and open fields etc but I'm not into retro that much!(Give me a Cath Kidston ironing board cover any day)

AQueen - yes we are getting married next month, new house (hopefully next week!), wedding, new baby & DP has new job - I suppose if we were going to do anything we may as well do it all at once - oh and we have a 5 month old springer spaniel puppy to contend with as well, who has started bringing me presents of dead frogs - absolutely disgusting!

At least everything should be sorted & quietened down before bub arrives at beginning of Dec, but am definately thinking along same lines as others with regards to getting Christmas shopping done soon. Just need to get into the house first!

Am planning on Christmas shopping in September and have it all wrapped up by the end of the month. But with running my own business, decorating a house and still being a newly wed really life is a bit of a mad rush so it probably won't happen

Can anyone suggest ways I can explain the feeling of being kicked on the cervix to DH? I tried not to moan and explain that I am glad to feel LO moving, but he has a knack of kicking RIGHT on bits that feel like I'm having a smear test! But that means nothing to a man! Grr

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Aaahhh..so glad I can obsess about Christmas with others at last. My RL friends look at me as though I'm mad, and/or airly say 'oh don't worry about presents this year, no one will expect them'. Um. dd certainly will - not to mention birthday presents, her birthday is the 22nd. Which means all her best friends' birthday are also in Nov/Dec...[help icon]

Last year, extended family and close friends just did Oxfam 'gift cards' - so thats what I'm going to do again. Plus a small 'real' present, like a scented candle. But the kids...nephew, best friends' dd, antenatal group kids, and most of all dd...that, I think, is going to require a serious online shopping trip and some magicked out of nowhere storage space.

Spinamum, wow...an unreliable roof is a lot to contend with. Talk about nativity. I think you get the prize for being ultra cool in the face of uncertainty

DG, my dh hates being poked in the bellybutton - not that thats a daily event, just dd did it once in play. He says it hurts and feels really 'weird'. So I told him to imagine a kick there and in the testicles at the same time: he cringed....

We don't have any family really who can help much with older dd....some 'will if I can'/'will if I'm around' from young neice and newly separated/traumatized sister but thats about it. So I'm seriously looking into a postbirth Doula for a few weeks...and dh will take some time off work. I know I'm 99% likely to have a section, and post-birth bp issues, but have no real idea how much help I'll need.

Whats everyone else doing?

ordered some christmas presents from ELC website today. Earliest I have shopped ever!

Ooooh, they have a website? Thanks for that, CC, and for starting the Madly Early Christmas ball rolling...

use code BC0806 to get 20% off. Not sure how long it lasts.

Elibean, how are you going about finding a Doula? I knew of a group of 4 in North London (where I used to live) but they don't seem to exist now.

Thanks, CC

Castles, I googled uk doulas and found a website run by doulas which gives a lot of info, and contact details. I've talked to one, and am meeting her and another one within my area over the next couple of weeks...should really phone at least one more (but Xmas first, eh).

There is only one other site that I found, which is more of an agency and tbh I didnt' have a positive experience when I phoned them...so I'm sticking to UK Doulas. HTH!

they're at www.doula.org.uk/ not sure if that will work as a link, but its the right address: they're Doula UK, too, not UK Doula, sorry!

Thanks Elibean. Your link also led me to a website called Best Bear which has lots of agencies. I might look at a "Mother's help" as well.

Any chance you're all tired because of all the stuff you're trying to do on top of being pregnant and now putting yourselves under pressure to sort christmas in August!!!! What's maternity leave for if not to buy pressies online, I'm saving it all until then. In fact, I'm taking a new attitude starting today as I am sick of feeling tired but I think it's me that's making me tired coz I'm still trying to be perfect & do everything. We're pregnant and edging closer to the 3rd trimester, going to have to slow down sooner or later. I rested on the weekend a lot & felt totally wonderful plus much less emotional which has been a real problem for me the whole pg. I think we've all got high expectations of ourselves but our bodies are saying NO MORE!!!
PS did buy christmas pressie yesterday
PPS beep have you got dress as I've seen loads of sites with wedding dresses on in my travels this week, do you want links or are you sorted?

You may have a point there, AQ.....oh ok then, definitely have a point. Though in my case, its going to bed too late more than trying to do things perfectly (not one of my strong points, perfection). I have been totally hopeless at getting to bed before 10.30-11.30, which is no good at all when having less than solid nights' sleep.
Mind you, being a second time Mum in my mid forties might have a teeny bit to do with it too!

Castles, glad it was helpful

So all that stuff about older mums having more energy complete rubbish then elibean! I too find it hard to go to bed early mainly coz dp won't come to bed & I can't sleep knowing he's going to wake me up! When he wasn't here at weekend, I went to bed at 10 & felt so good for it. I think mumnset's keeping me up late too, must put a time limit on how much time I spend on here...

Aqueen, many thanks but have just ordered a dress from 'a pea in the pod' in US, couldn't find anything in this country as wanted something appropriate without being a full on wedding dress if you get what i mean? still interested in hvaing a look at more dresses just in case mine isn't what i expect mind, so if you get a spare minute to let me know the sites I'd appreciate it, thanks x

Beep, few sites I found (won't attempt to create this many links, just pasting them). But hope the dress you've ordered works out!
www.arabellab.co.uk/
www.swells.co.uk/collections_valja.php
www.bjornandme.com
Think I found some others on the laptop, will post those later if I find them. Presume you're not into wrap dresses in a pretty colour e.g. Melba, Picchu, Push (actually Pushmaternity had some gorgeous dresses, but pricey,still it's your wedding!).

I've had a lovely two days focusing on my two boys.Yesterday I for the first time in ages let the housework not bother me and just hung out with DS1. Today I had a rare Wednesday off work and DS1 still went to nursery and I finally focused on the little bean in my bump. Made some appointments,rang up a yoga teacher,just rested! I even colllected DS1 early from nursery and we went,wait for it, blackberry picking after dinner! I have remembered that I am a pg woman and while I feel oblidged to do that whole "I'm still the keen worker(read dogsbody!) I always was" at work, I am going to have to slow down a bit at home and stop stressing about dishes(bring on my new dishwasher!)
I don't feel exhausted today and my DS1 is very contently asleep ,if slightly stained(blackberry juice!)I finally remembered why I had kids in the first place!!!

I will of course have all my Xmas shopping done very soon