Well the baby name plot deepens in the blessed house. Apparently Dominic was the name we had agreed on mainly because MIL seemed to like it as well. I on the other hand has called this baby Jay from the start. I wanted a J name. So when driving from the hospital i felt miserable about the name. It is gorgeous but Does NOT suit him at all. Dh agreed and we went for my favourite Jonathan. It does suit him, popular i know but i couldn't call him otherwise.
Then MIL came and she starts telling my daughter that she was coming to visit Boa
. I shuddered hearing it and really i held my tongue and myself away from her until i couldn't any longer. I painfully got out of bed, asked her whats all this i hear about the name Boa
MIL" it is a very old name that means brother"
Me" 
whose brother are you refering to?
MIL" nobody's brother. It just means brother and i want to refer to him as Boa
Me" still don't understand the connection between my son and Boa. You know his name is Jonathan Elias. You have two names to choose from. Is it alright if i ask people to call him by the name i have chosen for him?. I really don't like the sound of Boa on him.
MIL" i am his grandmother so i have a right to call him whatever i want!!
Me" I am his mother so what i want comes before what a grandparent wants. If i introduced him as Jonathan to my mum then she tells me she is calling him Peter i would find that rude and would not tolerate it. Why can't you use the names we have chosen?
MIL " it was when i was sitting on the plane that i thought of Boa. Just the sound of the NN you have chosen grates on my nerves. I hate JJ as a nickname and will NEVER call him anything other than Boa. It is a pet name.
Me" if you decide to call him that please do it when i am not around, just hearing you say it now is really upsetting me.
MIL" go back to bed where you were. I honestly don't care how you feel. I don't give a damn about your feelings.!!!!
It is one thing to insult me and hate me when i am physically fit, but another when i am so fragile. I am leaking from every pore left, right and center, my stomach was opened 3 days ago and hurts like the devil. My boobs are spitting fire and blood. I puked for more than 10 hrs in labour and went through every contraction because i knew there would be a human being i would be naming what I wanted. How dare you tell me my feelings are of no importance?? I stood my ground and calmly told her it was not about her, i gave birth therefore was my right to name him. Then i told her to leave. I was BU. I could have smiled and nodded and accept but my MIL is of another era. She would have insisted on having her way. She left after telling me she was keeping the name, i said she could keep it as long as she was not using it in my home.
You might want to know where DH was. He was home. We have the agreement that when MIL is BU. He deals with her. When she is BVU then i step in because then will she only listen. When we started talking i gave him the let me handle this sign so he took Dd and Ds out of the lounge. After she stormed out i asked Dh to follow her. She then told him how sorry she felt and sad that he had married me and was now stuck with me and two kids. Story of my life. Nothing new there. Then she called BIL and complained to him as well. He is Dh's twin so she wants him to convince my DH to leave me...
That ladies has been my day. Hope yours were better. I am sorry i posted it all here but i don't know how to get it out of my chest. I am so sore and crying typing this. My friends will come in a few days' time when i am sorted wrt breastfeeding, hopefully so for now i don't have anyone close. I called my mum and she was horrified,..vile vile woman.