Graduated Elderberries. Thread 9

[Cavort]

The over 30's expecting or just had their first baby.

oh no mother. you are having a crap day, but at least you got lots done. my dh sometimes has to go in on weekends and I never know whether to expect him home soon or not, it's horrible.

Mother, I would be mad too. We might not do paid for work, but we need our weekends too!

Just popped on to say

1. Had brunch with Alex again today. She's still looking amazing and in sickeningly good spirits. I've threatened to cook for her tomorrow - surely that should hurry baby along so she can avoid it?!

1. Cavort - glad you had fun. Very jealous. You looked fab. Showed DP a pic of you and your DH and I announced "see, here is one of my mumsnet friends. They're nice!" To which he replied "yeah he looks ok". He's still convinced you're all men!!

Mother I know exactly what tou mean and I would feel the same, but it's quite difficult to get the hump with OH's for not helping when they're working. Pub/gym/golf etc., would be a different matter. My DH works very long hours and it's so frustrating sometimes. You sound like you're doing just fine without him though, I struggle to get all that done in a week!

COME ON BABY ALEX!!

Well it appears our daughter slept much better for the GP's than she does for us! She slept 12.5 hours, her usual 2 hour wake up was only 40 mins and she didn't get up until 9am. At least this means they will happily babysit while we get pissed again now they think she's an angel.

Damn Janey, how did your DP rumble that I am secretly a man?

He's totally on to you cavort, doesn't trust this mumsnet business!

Do you think my 5 o'clock shadow gave me away?

haha, men indeed....cheeky beggar

Well we now own a ps4, which means my OH is totally deaf and unable to help with anything....oh joy. Do you think it would be wrong to get Harvey to vomit on it so it no longer worked? Totally by accident of course. I have escaped to have a bath, a rare and amazing treat these days, Harvey can vie for attention with the ps4.

Ah you see long hours I am happy with. Weekends not so much. I know all jobs are different, but DP and i work in the same industry and whilst there's often need to work late, you can almost always do that to enable you to keep the weekend free...

Oddly M slept well when his GP's babysat in nov. Damn them pretending to be good! Still, my folks are coming down tomorrow and we've persuaded them to sleep in our room with him tomorrow whilst we sleep in the spare room... Sleepville here I come

I agree janey, working late I accept, this week for example I've been lucky to see him before 7.30. But by the weekend I am tired and looking forward to having help, for example today it would have been nice to nip to buy loo rolls without it being a huge pain in the arse with car seats, prams etc. I figured he'd said morning job so gave him till 2ish, but he didnt get in till about twenty past four by then any hope of having the willpower to hoover the stairs or do other jobs had left me.
Sorry I'm such a bloody moaner.

mother and cavort and anyone else who had a long latent phase - what do the hospital say/do and when did you call them? I've been having more painful contractions tonight and lost my mucus plug earlier this evening (which got me excited but I know it can still be ages!) I should stay mobile but am getting tired so was going to see if I can sleep. Just not sure if they will still try and induce me if it seems like things are happening on their own or if they worry about a long latent phase?

Oh I really hope this means things are getting moving for you Alex

Probably not what you want to hear, but my hospital weren't at all interested in me until contractions were regularly at least 5 minutes apart (preferably 3) and lasting a minute, and even when mine were 5 mins apart and I went in to get examined I was only 2cm so they sent me home . My contractions were soooo painful and I couldn't believe I was only 2cm!

My advice would be to phone MAU if you think it might be time to go and they will assess over the phone and ask you to go in if they think things are progressing. In the meantime sleep between contractions if you can and get that TENS on!

And keep us posted! Good luck, hopefully you will be snuggling your baby very soon and you will forget all about this shit part.

And yes, I think they will still offer induction if things don't progress in their own.

Thanks cavort, well annoyingly the contractions didn't stop me from sleeping so I guess they must have eased off Just woke up and my stomach is rock hard almost like it's mid contraction but it's been rock hard lots of nights when I've woken up in the last week. Wish this had all happened a week ago as then I'd have more time to let things progress before they start intervening!

It didn't for me Alex so be careful what you wish for. After 5 days of painful contractions and very little sleep I still only progressing very slowly and the only reason things did get going at that point is due to intervention.

On a positive note, when I was in your position and had lost my plug, the only thing HCP's had to do was break my waters (not painful at all) and 8 hours later I was holding my baby - no pessary or drip required, so FX if you are induced tomorrow that is all you need as well.

You've gottwn further than me alex, I had 3 days well mainly nights of painful contractions and I never got anywhere, no plug lost and only dilated to 0.5cm. It was stupidly painful when they tried to break my waters cav, but then I wasnt dilated so most likely the pain was actually from him stretching my cervix to 4cms rather than trying to breaking my waters?? Although I didnt have any waters so maybe thay affected it too....god knows.

Alex you'll be fine, if you do need intervention it could be as straight forward as cav says. I have evwrything crossed for you!! Cant wait to hear of the arrival of another berry baby

So if it does go to tomorrow, maybe I'll be 3cm or more and they'll break waters and then it might all kick off properly - will try and be positive and trust them! I did wonder if my waters were leaking a bit earlier, seems to have stopped though and def no gushing or anything. Only a crampy feeling this morning and a couple of quite painful contractions so far. I'm just glad when things seem to be happening!

Poor you mother that must have been tough and bet it hurts more when cervix isn't dilated much (pleeeease be dilating well cervix!!) - what do you mean you had no waters, I don't remember you saying that - had they been leaking then?

Alex just popping in to say I am sending positive thoughts to you and your cervix

go Alex! They broke my waters too, didn't hurt at all, and had the baby 5 hours later.

I don't understand those men who work late and then also disappear for the weekend (if they can help it). Some days I get home only after 8, so if I spent weekends out as well, I wouldn't even see the baby. Not to mention that the stay at home parent might want a little time off too.

In other news, I'm apparently a really paranoid mother. Had some friends with their 4-month old over, they put her to bed in V's carrycot in another room and that's it, didn't worry about her. When we were visiting friends with V the other day, he was also sleeping in the next room and I would still jump up every 5 minutes now and then to check on him. And I still go and check even if he's sleeping in his own bed with the baby monitor on. It's not totally healthy, is it?

my poor dh ends up working late and weekends all the time. he's team leader of a tiny team so every time someone is ill he has to cover them. like today, he got a text at 8am saying 'i'm in hospital' so he had to go straight in to work to cover the guy. it happens all the time and I feel so bad for him. he was on call yesterday and today was supposed to be his only full day off this week. we're supposed to be clearing out the spare room for baby too

we've finally cleared up the spare room for the baby as well. He's 5 months old. By the time we get it wallpapered and find some furniture, he will probably be starting school
But then again, he woke up pretty much hourly last night and wanted to feed, so I don't really want to be getting out of bed for that.

I keep telling dh we won't need it that soon but then he reminds me he's been renovating a rocking chair for me to go in there and it needs a home soon

I don't get any help at the weekends either. Shit innit. Thank god for my Mum or I would never get a break. I swear that hour at yoga sometimes feels like the only time in a entire week I'm doing something for ME not someone else.

As for baby rooms...well you've seen the pictures, I'm still living in a building site. I was told it would be done before the baby arrived, then definitely before Christmas and yet here I am sleeping in a bedroom with only two walls.

Waving pompoms for Alex. Very excited about the impending arrival of a new berry baby.

thinking of you alex.

Yep either my waters had gone or I didnt have any? Thats why my contractions were distressing Harvey, every contraction compressed the cord making his heart rate drop. From their reactions I was quite unusual.

Yes hazel I think thats totally normal!!

Oh an I should point out I'd been wearing a liner and noticed no leaking at all, the only place they could have gone without me noicing is the bath? Very odd.