Graduated Elderberries. Thread 9

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The over 30's expecting or just had their first baby.

Lol the HV's I spoke to yesterday said to just follow their lead. Some will go straight on to loads of food whereas others will take much longer. As long as you also offer lots of boob they will just sort themselves out apparently.

Lol I did it quite slowly as H was getting tummy aches in the evening at first so we feed him lunch at lunchtime ish, then have introduced breakfast this week.

However, his lack of pooing led me to just give him apples and pears at breakfast today.

If he poos then will revert to plan a. I honestly don't have a clue what I'm doing at the moment though. I need to get a book or something but I'm totally skint.

I found out from the health visitor that a portion size is the same size as baby's fist - but I don't know how many portions constitutes a meal, whether thrre should be different elements ie one portion fruit, one veg, one meat then pudding etc.

Feel very out of my depth!

lol the formula thing is a myth, H has been on formula for a just over 2 weeks and his sleep has gotten worse if anything

E had a bit of a late night after waking up from her last nap at 5.45 (I would have woken her up sooner but she was grumpy before going down for the nap I just let her sleep until she woke up on her own), so she didn't get tired and go to bed until about 9, but then only woke for a quick feed at 4 and then slept until nearly 7 so I very nearly had a full nights sleep last night. I am not familiar with this early morning feeling of not desperately wanting more sleep.

V went down for his last nap around 6 and didn't wake up til 8. Very unusual, his evening naps are usually 15-30 min. Stuffed him with food and he went to bed again before 9.
Of course I was worried about the night, but it was also quite reasonable. He woke up at 6, as he usually does, but then agreed to sleep some more and only got up at 8 - again unusual for him.
Is there a light at the end of the tunnel and they're getting over the sleep regression?

S slept for 6 hours straight She's doing so well! She also had a good day yesterday, although cried quite a bit in the evening (not one of her horrific sessions though). She was awake/alert all evening again - from 6pm to midnight. Quite a long time to be up for a 6 week old isn't it? However both nights it's led to a good run afterwards once we manage to soothe her to sleep with the boob and dummy!

alex, H was the same at 6 weeks, he would stay awake most evenings then sleep like a dream overnight. Hope it continues for you!

I took H for hia first taste of swimming yesterday, it was more dunking and swooshing than swimming but he seemed to enjoy it. Plus he was so tired afterwards, feel asleep straighy away for about 45 mins, we then went to my parents as it was dads birthday they kept him occupied for a few hours, he fell asleep in the car on the way back and I managed to get him out of the car, in the house and in his cot without waking him. He slept long enough for me to bath amd wash me hair in peace bliss in the end I woke him and put him in the bath as I wanted to get the chlorine off. Plus I was worried he wouldnt sleep overnight. We all went to bed at 10pm and he only woke at 1.45, 4.30, 6.20 and 8am....plus he has gone back to sleep. Lots of wake ups bit some quite long stints too......maybe taking him swimming every day is the key?

mother I just got S on to a water babies class! We start the week after next and some of my NCT girls are in the same class. Will be our first class, am really looking forward to it, she likes her bath so fingers crossed it will go well!

Would I be crazy to take S with me when I have a bikini wax? Guess it's risky as she might not sleep. We're busy the wkend before my swimming class so DH can't look after her while I go.

Nice one alex, I'm sure she'll love it. H was totally unfazed. I'm going to look at classes for him too. Not sure re the waxing, it doesnt take long so shouldnt be too bad I wouldnt think, depends on S's mood though.

I could ask MIL, DH would tell me to do that. Maybe I'm being unfair here but I feel like I can only leave her with someone who gets my parenting style, like my mum does for example. I'd also feel bad if she was "difficult" after all this "DH was such a good baby, didn't cry" stuff.

DH has taken V with him when he gets a haircut and wax (eyebrows, not bikini). Of course, might be different because he's a man, but nobody minds, they all coo over the baby.

Sigh looks like I have to go swimming as well, as even in the second class at the new pool, all other babies came with both parents. So DH now wants me to come too. 8 effing o'clock. There goes my lie-in..

alex some people really don't think before they open their mouths. What is she trying to say, that S is a bad baby?

Besides, people always forget. There was a topic recently where MIL also claimed that the son slept through from 6 weeks and FIL went "No, actually, he didn't sleep til he was 3 years old..". But MIL had genuinely blocked that part out.
And another MILs memories about when the son started doing something keep changing, so he started talking and walking earlier and earlier, soon he will be a very advanced fetus

Place marking- thanks Mother for getting me the link as I had lost you all

No worries merk. Glad you're well!

I think most people forget what tricky little critters babies are, I guess if you didnt you would only have the one

Do you have to get an appt for a wax or are there any drop-in sessions? I find that babies have a radar for anything booked lol.

I get my hair cut - well the one time I've managed it so far - at a supercuts place where you turn up and wait.

The other thing to note is that normal grooming rules don't really apply here... no-one is going to notice whether or not your bikini line is freshly coiffed (unless you have one of those high leg 80s numbers).

A) everyone else is too busy trying to juggle a baby into the layers of poo protectors, watching baby like a hawk while walking backwards to lockers (while dodging other babies and baby stuff), and then getting into the pool.

B) anyone not doing the above is fretting about their own cellulite/stretchmarks/wobbly bits/huge boobs to care about anyone else's bikini line.

The exception might be in France though - male eyebrow grooming? I have to say I miss DPs metrosexual tendencies. He's let himself go a bit.

Or if you're going with your hubby.

Otherwise, don't worry too much - as long as your pits are smooth enough (there's lots of holding baby up etc) you'll look fab :)

Trust me brave it's a crisis situation Wax definitely needed! I could phone on a day, see how busy they are and then pencil in a slot but explain the situation and see how it goes! Hopefully I won't need to cut the appointment short and end up with one side still 70s retro haha!

I had to get DP to (ahem) clear the area with his beard trimmers yesterday. I have yanked my episiotomy wound and it is playing up, and I couldn't see what I was doing to feel confident trimming near the scar. The indignities truly never end.

We had an awful evening which left me in tears - normal evening fussiness went up a notch, and she was in a cycle of being tired/cranky/hungry from 7-11pm. Distressingly it seemed like she wasn't able to get anything from the boob, so she was flailing and pulling at my nipples and crying, and then coming off after a few minutes and crying again. I'm not sure if I had buggered up my evening supply by pumping a large amount earlier in the pm (can that happen?), or if she had got lazy after a large bottle feed earlier in the day, but whatever it was it was horrible feeling like the boobs weren't working. However, she went off finally around midnight and then slept for 9 hours with one feed at 4am. Consequently I am now really late for my doctors appointment - who sets an alarm when they have a small baby?!?

poor quod, but I'm sure your boobs are fine, just normal cluster feeding.

Oh quod those evenings suck. Could be the expressing made it a bit harder but the fussing and on-off stuff is how they place their order for the next day.

As well as the big obvious growth spurts there are lots of little ones along the way so could be that too. Either way, as Hazle says, it sounds like normal cluster feeding.

Btw, round of applause for your DH quod! How's the epi wound now?

Sounds like a growth spurt to me Quod. E used to do similar, exactly as you describe. I particularly remember the one around 8 weeks had me on my knees with tiredness and sheer frustration that I hadn't been able to get off the sofa for 2 full days, not to mention my poor red raw nipples!

A friend just told me she's pregnant. Surprisingly, I'm feeling quite jealous. (their first is exactly a year older than V). Time for the next one?

Hazle, you're a brave lady. One of my friends has just told me she's pregnant with her 2nd and I feel gloriously relieved that its not me!

Thanks people. Hopefully that is all it is - thank god she let us sleep well last night.

Dr reckons epi wound may be infected - got to give it a couple of days and then get on the ABs if no better :(

My sister has a theory that everyone gets broody at the 6-9m mark, which explains a lot of siblings with 18m age gaps. But if you ride out the broody period it is nipped in the bud and you then leave it a while as toddlerdom hits and you realise how much hard work it is.