December 2013 - the one where we really just talk about kittens and deny the inevitable

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UpThe how come?? Not fair!

How come what? That he's going to be late? Because he's a chef and his boss is a dickhead and booked a table in for 3:30 when he's supposed to finish at 4,so he. Has to cook for them and then wait for them to finish so he can wash up.
He's the only one in the kitchen (even when he's doing 3 meals-buffets/breakfasts/lunches for 50 in a day!) so he has to do everything,from prepping at 6am to washing up at gone midnight some days.
He was promised a pay rise after 3 months,he's been there 2 years now and apparently they 'can't afford it' so he's still on a frigging pittance.
His boss even asked him to DELAY HIS PATERNITY LEAVE FOR A MONTH OR SO!!! Because taking it in December would make things 'tricky' for his boss
Seriously,if I ever meet this guy,I'd probably end up in prison.

I want him to quit and find another job but he worrys too much about the next job being worse so he puts up with it

I can't see a MW until Monday because they close here at 5pm on a Friday and don't open until Monday at 9am.
If I need a MW outside of the hours of 9-5 mon-Friday I have to travel 40 mins drive away,and I don't drive

So unless its proper actual labour,I won't be going.

Meant how come OH has to stay late. (We have similar situation here with out of hours MWs.) Boss sounds like a complete and utter prick. He didn't actually manage to persuade your OH to take paternity leave later, did he?? What a ridiculous thing to ask... Sorry you're having to deal with extra stress

Doesn't sound like it can get much worse Up, what an arse.

My brother's a chef and always seems to be falling over job offers (lucky bugger ). A good chef is a rare commodity, your DP should definitely look elsewhere. It does seem to be a profession with a disproportionately high number of piss taking arseholes at the top though (according to my brother).

Agree with cc - doubt it could be any worse elsewhere!

I know this,you know this, DP is an idiot. It's the only conclusion that makes any sense.

No,his boss didn't manage to persuade DP,as DP knows I would fucking kill him if he even dared to ask.
His boss has,up to now,tried 3 times to convince him though without ever offering any kind of compensation,pay rise or extra time off...just by laying on the guilt

I've tried to call my mum and obviously she has her phone turned off.
FIL to the rescue again however,he called to ask if I wanted him to collect DD from school and I asked him if he'd mind staying here with the DC for an hour after whilst I go and see a MW,he said yes which is great. Brilliant man.

I have serious red mist/ hormonal anger going on though...I pity the MW...

Aaah Up, glad you got soemthing sorted,hope the midwife can give you some positive news.

To those not excited, im in the same boat! People seem to keep gushing about how excited I must be, and I'm not - I don't feel much of anything except trepidation really! As mildred says, I think it's because although its easy to imagine the tiredness and hard work, the lovely bits and the love are harder to get my head around.

My mum is supposed to be coming round this afternoon but I'm so tired and achy I just need to sleep. I wonder if I can put her off till I've had a nap?

UpThe - GOOD!! Hope it's good news at the MW.

I'm teetering between terrified and excited. One is hard enough, two... What the hell was I thinking?? And if I get one more text asking "any news?" I will not be responsible for my actions.

Yes you absolutely can Pistachio- "I'm napping" is my excuse for getting out of everything I've not felt like this week.. ( and you'd not even be lying!)

Marking a spot

upthe glad your FIL is so supportive (can you ask for a MW home visit? We ended up getting one of those yesterday after the MW overran by 1hr30). Sorry your DPs boss is such a knob - asking DP to delay paternity leave is just ridiculous!

Had a couple of random crampy moments today lasting about 30-60 sec - really wish I knew what labour felt like! Although I have progressed to full waddle now since he's fully engaged himself - felt like I should have a mobility scooter around town.

Hope everyone who is ment to be in labour is progressing well. Just had really bad cramps so took a codein and now feel so sleepy. Also the toilet issues are now the opposite and I cant stop going!!! Really bad belly ache mixed with heart burn:(

After a little foot stamp, I am home. I have to go back to hospital for a check tomorrow and Monday, but I get my own bed tonight :)

DP has just brought home wine (instead of his usual evening beer) and offered me a glass as he knows how fed up I've been feeling this week. My first drop of booze in 9 months... I'm so happy!!!

UpThe totally agree that your DP's boss sounds like a complete arse! Glad you're able to see the MW though, hope it all goes well.
If it's any consolation, mine don't make it easy to get an appointment either - I'm supposed to have a 36 week one soon but when I tried to book it 2 weeks ago, they told me I couldn't do it and would have to phone up the day before and hope that they've got a space free! Lovely...

I'm on my way home, yay! So excited to get into my own bed tonight.. :)

Thanks for all the good wishes over the last day or so :)

Had a bloody show and contractions are stronger but still around 4/5 minutes apart but I'm not going in until they are strong as don't wanna be sent home again

Hope your MW appointment went ok Up.
We've just had to book the cat in for surgery at the vets on Monday, so I'm pretty sure that now means baby will be wanting to come on time. S'gonna be a busy day!

Loki and Dusty glad you're going home! Enjoy cuddles

I'm so glad you're both able yo go home Loki and Dusty

I hope your labour gets its bum in gear and kicks off properly soon Alyssa

As for me,the MW I saw said I am NOT in labour,as I'm not dilating but my cervix is soft and about half way thin () and she could 'tickle' the baby's head,she said its very very low,so when it happens,it'll be a quick one again.

She then left the room,when she came back she'd called the Labour Line and 'warned' them about me!
She's on call tonight and lives quite close which is good to know...but I wasn't expecting her to think I'd go into labour tonight then she said it might all fizzle out until tommorow

She says the on again off again contractions are my body trying to get the baby into the correct position for labour,and once it's settled labour will kick off properly...so she wants me in 'front heavy positions' as much as possible.

This has made me go into mental nesting mode again...I might clean the floors again....

May be a trip down the hospital for me tonight as LO has been too quiet this afternoon and MW said if I had another session of it to ring them.

Just as I make a cake as well ...

Made a cake ... MADE A CAKE ....

I'll have the cake if you're too busy...here to help y'know.

Still waiting for DH to come home so I can feel justifed about ringing the maternity unit. Getting a little worried now.

I've had ten movements in the past hour but they have all been very faint. I've only had two-three strong movements all day. Normally he's very very lively.

upthe oooh do you think you will have baby tonight? How exciting xx

bohemian if you're worried Hun go get checked else you will just worry all night xx

Hi all, well things certainly seem to be moving along nicely here with lots of babies put/putting in an appearance - congratulations!

I am absolutely certain that this will be a 2014 baby - DD was a full two weeks late and this one seems very happy and comfortable - I think there could be quite a few of us having a very sober Christmas and New Year - but hey, we're in good company!

I'm getting rather anxious that having been induced with DD, I have absolutely no idea what it feels like to go into labour - or to give birth for that matter - I said yes to every drug I was offered! I'm sure I'll know when it starts, but it is beginning to bother me somewhat!

To those of you not feeling excited about the baby - please don't worry. I felt very similar last time (and a bit this if I'm honest.) Last time I had terrible sickness which didn't stop until I was about 24 weeks and I really resented the baby. I was very honest about my feelings - which had me on official 'bonkers watch' by doctors, midwives, health visitors etc for some time after DD was born. Things weren't straightforward, DD was born with an undetected congenital abnormality which was,and sometimes still is, quite terrifying and DH lost his job the day we brought DD home from the hospital. However, we were very well supported and I didn't go under. DD was (and still is) adorable and PND never raised its head.

My feeling is that it's quite normal to have mixed feelings about a new arrival - let's face it, when it's inside, at least we know what it's up to and it can't make any noise!

Hope that helps x