Graduates of the 'positive' threads

[peachygirl]

Hi Everyone
I thought we should have a thread in here as so many of us have now graduated into the antenatal threads. I know that many good friendships have been made and it would be a shame to lose them because we are all due in different months.
So come on sign in!!
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Peachygirl

Wuzz, she said it could be something called Irritable Uterus, basically 'things' setting the uterus off to contract, could be a water infection (which I haven't got), a tummy bug (which I haven't got) doing too much (I haven't done anything this week except get DS to and from school, and on MN, my brain doesn't have any other functions at the moment!), or it could be the signs of labour, but the IU can lead to labour at any time (all it needs is to start contracting more regular like it did on Monday) and the early signs could mean that he will be born by tomorrow, or he could still be in there in the middle of December!

How did the shopping go? Very of your pumped up ball!

so how are you feeling today nat? all that must be such a lot to take in and try and fathom with all the other pregnancy things going on anyway iyswim

shopping went well. the ball thing was only £4.99 in argos, i recomend it, deffinatly. got soem raspberry leaf tea, breast pads, maternity pads and some coasters lol.

I am feeling like shit TBH, I am mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted. I can't eat, can't sleep, have a spliting headache, can barely see anything because my vision has gone all to cock. I am angry at the consultant, angry at myself for not coping well enough, angry... in fact absolutely f*ing furious with MIL, I am aching all over, feeling sick and dizzy, most of all I am just so fed up of the whole bloody thing now, I just want to shut my eyes and wake up when I am in proper labour - whenever, or whatever causes it I don't care!

sorry needed to vent!! Other than all of that I am fine lol

Ooops, look at the time, I am just going to pop and get DS from school, will be back in a few minutes

im so sorry that your having such a shitty time of it nat. you sound absolutly exhausted with it all now and i really dont blame you at all (i feel that way too, although it just makes me sound like a whinger compared with what you are going though).
i think that you are dealing with all of this fantastically, i really do. why are you so angry with your MIL? (if im being a nosey bugger then tell me to piss off )
i wish there was something i could do to help

no probs, i'll still be here when u get back

Where to start with the MIL bitch from hell - sorry but it is very called for!

Basically she knows that when I go into labour we have no one whatsoever to have DS for us, and she had said that as long as we have the time, DH can go and pick her up (she lives about 40 mins away, and doesn't drive) and then she will stay at our house with DS, while we are at the hospital. So, when I got back from the midwives yesterday, obviously rang DH and told him that they had said if the contractions became regular again that we were to go straight to the hospital, so he said he would ring his mum and see if she wouldn't mind coming to stay over with DS, just incase they did. She said no she couldn't come because she couldn't leave her cat's for the night, she lives with her boyfriend, so he could have taken care of the cats FFS. So she basically left us in the situation, that if something had have kicked off last night, we would have been forced to stay at home and get a midwife out here, even if I was going into labour 6 weeks early, or we would have had to take DS to the hospital with us, and I still can't decide which situation would have been worse!!

There is loads of past history between us as well, she met a convicted child sex attacker, would have thought she'd have run a mile from him, but no, she agreed to marry him, she kept it a secret and invited him to our house, with our DS here. She asked us to buy her a car (over £2000), saying she would pay us £60 a month to pay the debt off, we got about £200 over 8 months, before she sold it to her friend for £600 and kept the money for spending money on her hols. She thinks she is the perfect mother/housewife/friend, looks down her nose at me because I don't iron I must be a shit wife and mother for that, but she forgets that she walked out on her DH and her 5 kids when DH, the youngest was only 5 years old....

LOL God, I could go on forever about her. But, up until yesterdays fiasco, DH has always followed her round like a little puppy dog, I think trying to win her approval after she abandoned him, now she has lost him as well. She hasn't even rang today to see if her unborn grandson is OK, or to see if he is born yet, or if DS was sorted in the end...

bloddy hell nat! she sounds like a right headache! i cant believe that your dh is trying to proove himself to her either. Oh and as far as the not ironing thing goes...im a shit wife too..i hate ironing, and thats what the hot tumble dryer and hanging things up is for, so dont let her get at you. the sex offender thing is bloddy shocking and awful! no wonder you hate her so much. and how can she call herself a good mother/friend etc if shes behaving the way she is about helping her son, dil and grandson out??

if it makes you feel any better nat, ive had a lot of family problems too and after a lot of hard thought ive had to decide to cut my mother and her side of the family out of my life (took me a long time to realise that shes a nasty piece of work, but then when its your own mum, its something that you dont really want to face up to. i wanted to believe that this would changer her i suppose).you'd think shed care that her daughters having a baby, but nope..ive not even spoken to her in over 2 months) but eventhough it was a difficult decision for me to make, i decided that i dont want someone like her in my daughters life. luckily, my dad is an absolute gem (he raised me, is there no matter what etc etc) so ive got him there. i should shut up really...im rameling...i just wanted to let you know that i kinda know how u feel

Families eh? You can't pick 'em! I am sorry about your mum though, I went through my first pregnancy with out mine, and she has been a diamond through this one - well, until she went on holiday and has left me with all of this!! LOL Not that she could do anything anyway! LOL

I think MIL has blown it with DH, he is furious with her. It is a shame though, DS loves her to bits (for some unknown reason!!) I am more angry at her for hurting DH so badly, letting him down again, when he rang me yesterday to tell me she had said she couldn't leave her f*ing cats with her boyfiend, he was so angry, his voice was shaking and everything, I hate hearing/seeing him like that, especially when I can see that she is a bitch that just isn't worth it!

yeah, its frustrating isnt it? dh has been telling me that my mother is a waster pretty much from when we first met, like i said, i just didnt want to see it and tryed to make excuses for her (my dh has a great loyalty to my father, which is nice)..ive just run out of them now and i cant be bothered anymore. she really doesnt deserve the time of day with all that shes done and the way seh behaves..i need to do whats best for our daughter, and cutting ties is the right decision.

do you think that your dh would cut ties with his mother? it must make it very very difficult for you both if your son is so fond of her.

It is sad, but you are right, if cutting ties is the right thing then you have to do it.

No I don't think he will go that far, for DS's sake, but he has said she had better never ask him/us to do anything ever again for her. Even little things she does she always feels like she should deserve a medal for it, things like, DS is seriously obsessed with shops, Tesco, Asda, etc. (it stems more from the money side of things I think, he loves having his own bit of money) so MIL got him one of those bag for life things from Asda so he could play with it in is shop, which was lovely of her, a nice thoughtful thing to do, she then spent the whole time we were there (over an hour) moaning about how she had picked it up thinking it was free, but the checkout girl told her they were 10p each, so she had to pay 10p for it... considering she couldn't even be bothered to buy him a birthday card let alone a pressie, I don't think 10p was OTT! And considering that when we rang to see if she was in before we made the journey down, she asked us to pick up a pint of milk and some toilet roll on our way because she had ran out and it would save her the trip to the shop, she never offered to pay us back for them, not that I would have taken the money from her, but it isn't the point, and she still moaned on and on about how she had to fork out 10p.... GRRR, LOL I really should stop going on about her, can't be doing my BP any good!! LOL

my god, i cant believe how well you handle it! i can certainly see why you dont like her! family can make things a complete pain in the arse cant they? 10p?? ffs, she needs to sort out her priorities by the sounds.
yeah, dont let yourself get worked up nat, it aint good for bp

Awww, DS (called Thomas) is sat on the living room floor drawing pictures, and talking to himself, I heard him spelling out George(name we have picked for the baby), I looked over and he has drawn a picture of him and 'George' having a cuddle and he has written Thomas and George at the bottom LOL

aaaaah! thats so cute. sorry, thats right, thomas is our sons name and george is the name you've decided on for the baby isnt it. im blaming pregnancy brain

by the looks hes keen to be a brother...does he talk to you about it much?

Sometimes, I tend to take my cue from him, so I'm not forcing it on him, and I try not to do any moaning and groaning in front of him, I don't want him putting two and two together and coming up with 5, if he thought his brother was hurting me (or whatever) he might not be so keen!

I think he is overall excited about having a brother, but I have had to explain to him that whenever the time comes for George to come, I will be in hospital for a while, he doesn't like the sound of that, and I think he is expecting to have a great play mate as soon as George is here, I think he is going to be quite surprised when I bring this thing in that doesn't play football, or sing along to his songs...!

It is very exciting for us though, we know that once George is here, and DS can see exactly whats what, he is going to be a great BB!! I can't wait to see DS giving the baby cuddles and kisses and just being with him

awww bless, he sounds like a very sweet little boy nat.and i rekon he'll take to brotherhood like a duck to water

im going to have another hot curry for tea tonight i think...i refuse to give up hope in the possible labour starters

LOL and here I am doing anything to keep him in for a bit longer!! LOL

You can't go much further now. Have you had any more signs?

well today ive been getting those tightenings again and lots of period type pains off and on. but then ive been like this now for about the last 4 days! midwfie rekons its a good sign. my cats seem to be giving me a lot of atention too (which is a little unusual as the one is normally a grumpy bugger)

Oh, yes deffo eat the curry tonight!! And then if you go into labour but have ages to wait before you go to the hospital you can keep me company on here tonight MN get's very slow and boring past about 12.30-ish!

will do nat lol. my midwife has said that i should try and wait as long as i can before i go into hospital when everything starts, so rest assured that when i eventually do go into labour, i'll be here, trying to keep calm lol.

i'll deff have the curry tonight now lol

there must be more tips to try and start things off than just sex, pineapple, walking, cury and raspberry leaf tea...

I think on these threads that people start about it, someone once said with their first they gave the oven a really good scrub, it started her off, so she did the same with her second and it worked again, and by the time she had finished cleaning the oven with her third, he was in her arms!!

Also cleaning windows seems to have the same effect... worth a go?

lol ok that will be the last possible thing i try i think...i hate cleaning windows

omg...ive got an aerosmith album on and you know that sone Eminem sings called sing for the moment??? well it looks like it was originally sung by aerosmith! (well the chorus bit is exactly the same...aerosmith didnt do any rapping lol) well, you learn something new as they say.t im sure that they havnt performed with eminem have they??

See now I would rather clean the windows than the oven any day - pregnant or not! I hate the oven!

In fact just realised why you won't mind doing the oven - yours is still bloody sparkling isn't it?!!! LOL That is cheating y'know!!

lol, yep, and i make sure that i clean it every time i use it too...in a sad way i really like cleaning my oven and hob...i even put a little bit of baby oil ove ther hob (its all stainless steel) after ive cleaned it lol

Oh, no I haven't heard anything about them performing together. I guess it is a bit like when Eminem did that Toy Sodiers song? He just nicked the words!!

i was just sat here typing away, and suddenly i thought..god that song sounds quite familiar lol. its sing for the moment.

best person for doing covers is marilyn manson i rekon. sweet dreams, personal jesus, tainted love all are much better (imo) now that he's covered them