Rat smackers extraordinaire enjoying a festive mince pies and brooking no argument that there will be the occasional sneeze birth before the end of 2013

[SweetieTime]

Ladies I think we need a new festive thread to take us through to the end of the year. And as it will be me to sneeze next –how did it get around to my turn so quickly???-- I thought I would do the honours.

I think it's stopped. At least for now. Ok, now I feel a bit silly. Basically, at about 4.30 I went for a pee and discovered blood on the toilet paper and in the loo when I looked. Black pants so couldn't tell, but there can't have been much or it would have soaked through. I went into instant panic. I stood there for a bit, not really knowing what to do, and then went back to my desk. Realised it was after 4 so I could leave without having to ask permission. Called DH when I got out, discovered he was in a meeting. Told his colleague it was an emergency and to get him out. DH left work in a panic to come and meet me. Went to Boots, bought sanitary towels, then got bus to meet DH. Decided to come home and call EPU from there, picked up M. Got home, went to toilet, no blood.

Do you think I overreacted?

Oh Too I don't think you did at all. I would keep a towel in for a couple of days so you can keep an eye on it thoug. Big {{{{{hugs}}}}} fir you xx

too no way did you over react. It can be so scary to find that as everyone knows how hard the first 12 weeks are. Did you ring the epu?

Everyone's right, bleeding can happen after DTD.

sweetie are you feeling any better? The last few weeks are awful, twins will be here in no time then you'll not have a minute to yourself.

No way did you over react too - I'm nearly in tears just reading about it! Take it easy tonight, try and relax as much as you can. Hopefully the epu can get you a scan soon, reassurance is a wonderful thing.

Thank you all, you're so sweet! I haven't called the EPU yet. If they could fit me in tomorrow DH and I would have to miss some work and explain why. This isn't necessarily a problem, but if things remain okay overnight then it's maybe not necessary. It's a bit complicated by the fact that there are 2 local hospitals. DD1 died at the closer one, and I had to have the amnio there with DD2 because the smaller (but better) hospital doesn't do them. I'm a bit phobic of the first hospital, but the other one is further from work so it would involve longer out of the office..

I was wondering about telling my mum/sister/stepfather/grandparents this weekend because we're having a party to celebrate Mum selling her house and it would be easier to tell them than to try to pretend I wasn't drinking. Now I'm not sure I want to!

Oh Too do what feels better to you with the e p u and family, if it helps to know, the people I told at 7 weeks were the people I would be relying on for support if anything happened. Brooking my socks off that it is nothing more than a bit of spotting from dtd. Xx

Lots of hand holding Too. Do whatever feels right for you.

With DD I bled on three occasions, and went to A&E for two of them. One I now think was an overreaction, the other wasn't. Either way they were good to me, as was my medical practice. I managed to get two early scans too as a result - one was too early, so no hb ( cue panic for the next two weeks) but at 7wks you would hopefully be fine.

Hand holding, brooking and thinking of you.

Also hope you're feeling ok Sweetie.

Too glad to hear the bleeding has stopped! I think dtd can have that effect, the same happened to Keep right?. I had a bleed (bright red) after my 6 week dildocam scan, when I told the clinic about it 3 days later they did say bleeding can be quite common especially early on as the cervix is softer and prone to irritation, but if it starts up again it's worth going to the epu and feeling reassured, brooking of course that it's stopped for good. Also I think Boo is right telling those who you would probably tell anyway if things went wrong is probably ok telling now. Not sure if that sentence made sense but hope you know what I meant

Pen sorry you didn't get to find out the sex.

Sweetie totally understandable feeling down. Are you still doing all the stuff to encourage labour? Our hypnobirthing instructor mentioned more than a couple of times yesterday about dtd to encourage its onset - just a thought!!

Too glad bleeding seems to have stopped. that must be a good sign. just keep an eye on things and take it easy if you can.

Solars I might try to dtd at the weekend. it might not be the easiest considering my considerable size. We haven't had any action for months, so feel quite nervous about giving it a go now. Will see how desperate I get.

Maybe the day for freaking out what with too's panic and sweeties' melt down. I am joining the freak out.

Hope you don't mind me off loading a little, no replys needed or real consideration unless you can offer words of support!!

So, the team I work in are having a lot of staff retention issues at the moment and as a result we are all having to chip in more than usual to ensure the work gets done.

I have had a panic today after a couple of my friends have had early babies(circ 37/38wks) as I am not planning to start ML till 37.5wks and I have so much of my own case work to do let alone helping out that I am panicking 1. about going in to labour at work and 2. not getting everything done.

Feeling very very unprepared, am painting the nursery this weekend with my parents and have cot and moses basket but no mattress', no car seat, no pram, no clothes for a new born, no nappies, no packed hospital bag, no baby bouncer, no clue where to stay with organising everything. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Am I alone in 30wk stresses and panics??? Am I showing signs of early labour with a panic???

Heeeeeeeeeeelp!!! BTW, cannot show any signs of stress on FB as I am watched by "friends" who are desperate for bump photos (when they won't come to see me) and any signs of weakness!!!

Sorry, too I hope you are ok and resting. One of my friends bled when she would have roughly been due her next period if she was not pregnant, perhaps that is the same for you? I have been told I am weird for not experiencing any bleeding(by the midwife!!)

Cannot remember who had their HV appointment ??trix?? don't you find it strange they want to see you prior to the birth?? I was given an appointment at 28 weeks but put it off till I will be 36 weeks!!

And breathe bumpie

have you ordered a pram?

Re: hospital bag, you don't really need an awful lot.

Clothes for baby (vest, sleep suits)
Nappies
Clothes for you (pjs)
Maternity pads

That's really the very basic you need.

I'd love to start buying from stratch again. If only we lived closer bumpie I would so go baby shopping with you.

Thanks pen. Where do you live? I am just in the realisation stage!!!

We have picked a buggy but not ordered as awaiting the January sales!! I have a superstitious husband so too much too early freaks him out but the again it wasn't until my HR letter came through confirming my leave did he say "wow, it feels real now* that was WK 28!!!!!!!

Dtd did give me some spotting, but not red. I think that's likely the reason for you though too, I am brooking all is ok.

sweetie I dtd the morning of the speedbirth... just do it doggy style then size doesn't matter...

bumpie you have ages, just buy one main thing a week. Tbh if you go into early labour a car seat will be the least of your worries! You don't need loads of stuff. Breathe x

bumpie I am west mids, if you want to come round for newborn snuggles and any help.

Ditto anyone else in the vicinity!

I'm from Northern Ireland.

Oh keep I would love to come for some newborn cuddles.

What pram have you picked? Do you know what you are having?

bumpie t'was me and yes I found it strange. she's been twice now but won't be back again until ive had the baby. apparently hv are trying to see more woman before the birth now too especially high risk pregnancies.
too hope your ok. I think you should have a scan anyway, the less stressed you are the better and I think that reassurance will ne good.
totally understand what you mean about not wanting necessarily to go to the nearest hospital.
for a long time even just going to the hospital for scans freaked me out because we had always had bad news there. I'm mostly over it but I did have a freak out when we were there on Monday.
when we were pregnant the first time we went for our 12wk scan, it was bad news we were scanned by a guy whos English wasn't amazing which didn't help while we were trying to understand what was happening. so on Monday when this same man called my name for a min it was like I was glued to the chair. then I was shaking my head and saying no. dh urged me to come so I got up started to follow to the ultra sound room but couldnt do it, by this time I'm hysterically crying. I couldn't go in the room with him. It just brought everything back. luckily another sonographer was coming past saw me and after a quick explaination she did our scan instead. I felt so relieved we'd seen her a few times and I feel comfortable with her. what I'm trying to say in a very long winded way is no one needs that extra stress if you don't feel comfortable don't go there.

Morning, Too hope you're ok. X

Good morning, everyone! All is still fine this morning and I am on my way into work. I see the lovely MW next Wed so I will ask her about early scans. DH thought I should stay at home but I had a lot of sick days at the beginning of Feb with a tummy bug so I'm aiming for a perfect 12 months of no sick days unless it's totally unavoidable. I'm not far off now.

tricks, thank you for understanding. I'm so glad you got a different sonographer when you needed one.

Keep, I'm near Edinburgh but I would have loved to!

Bumpie, it'll be okay! You've still got 10 weeks, or even 12. There's a good chance that you'll go late - chances of that are much higher than of you being early. I would get the car seat soon, if you can. That's the one piece of kit you'll need if the baby is early. Next time you're in Tesco chuck some 6-packs of baby vests in your trolley and see, you've started! As for work, repeat after me: nobody is indispensable. If you had to stop work early, they would cope. I think it's lovely that you are so conscientious, but believe me, you can only do what you can do and once the baby's born you won't give a shit about work for months so don't wear yourself out trying to get everything done in advance. Your health is paramount and that includes stress levels.

Oh trix :( xxx

I perhaps over reacted slightly at the hospital .
too and bumpie you both need to remember that you and the baby are much more important than work.
bumpie too is right. you have plenty time but I think I would get the car seat. I think kiddicare are usually very quick with delivery if you are in a hurry. mothercare have 20% off everything online this weekend if that's any help. I would maybe think what you need to get through the first few days with the baby so you have the basics you can always stock up afterwards.
I really must order the Moses basket. maybe has your icandy arrived now?
I am sooo tired today. I've been having loads a braxton hicks lately too.

In pleased things are a little better today Too brooking dtd was all it was.

Bumpie are you feeling calmer yet?! I would also get the car seat. And have you checked waiting times for the prams you are considering?

Trix pram isn't due until the end of Feb! I am very excited about playing with it glad all went well with the HV

Just marking my place so I can keep my eye on the bumps!

I can understand boo and trix. There are two rooms at our hospital on the delivery suite that were a bit set back so that's where they looked after women having late miscarriages/stillbirths, so that's where DD1 was born.

A few months later, they changed those rooms into the maternity assessment unit. I went up with reduced fetal movements with DD2 and was ushered into the same room that DD1 had been born in. As soon I tearfully asked if I could go into the other room (which was thankfully empty), they whisked me away to the other room and were just lovely.

Anyway, really hoping that I can come back at join in properly before too long. A number of my friends who had babies at the same time at DD2 (now 9mo) are pregnant again and I am feeling rather jealous!

Yes Dino, we need you back!! This has excited me no end!!

Can I also say, Munx is amazing. She sent me a lovely parcel today for Fin

Ooh Sino!! I thought you were done!

Dino exciting news indeed!

Bumpie you've still got time, as everyone has said get the car seat first and everything will follow on, I'm sure it'll be fine. My SIL was saying even if you don't have the pram when baby comes it's no biggie in fact she was saying keeping them flat on their back isn't brill anyway and carrying them around is probably better, you were quite into slings weren't you?

Good to hear all ok this morning Too

How are you feeling today Sweetie?

Well I had my ECG this morning and all ok as she said if there was an urgency with something she would have told me straight away, I still have to see the cardiologist next week for results etc. Had a midwife appointment too today, so was good to hear the heartbeat again. All looks ok.