THREAD 12 Jan 2014 - The one where we start mainlining raspberry leaf tea and festive treats for "the baby"

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Thought I'd go for it

Sounds like everyone was busy yesterday.

I was out at Christmas do last night and stayed out far to late. Got in to bed at 1.30am and now feel like death! Today is going to be a struggle. Never mind. At least everyone said I was looking really well and had a neat (although big!!) bump

frizz your post made me giggle. "I dont sleep well anyway, so what the hell!" I could just imagine your toilet desperation! I have to say, I probably would have gone in the disabled if there was no queue there. When you gotta go u gotta go!!!

Toby I can imagine how knackered your DH was! I managed to use bump as an excuse for not keeping going up to her room, but she kept wanting to sit on me and she was making me mega nervous as she elbowed bump a few times.

Not measured my fundal height - leaving that to midwife (or useless gp at next appointment)! Arghhh....why cant I see the lovely locum again who actually knows what she is talking about....I wonder if he will measure the fundal height, will check if bubs is still head down and listen to his heartbeat.... I will be 38 weeks so quite a crucial time!

Spent the morning clearing up the kitchen which looked like a bombsite after DH and his mate had obviously been snacking after I left them to it. Also put on a wash and found.....crushed up poppadums in the washing basket??? WTF? How did he manage that?

Am dragging DH out to help find me a new cheapish phone that will hopefully be reliable! Once he has finally got up that is......

Hey all,

Looks like a few lie in were required today then?

Me too, had my lovely friends round for dinner and a good old natter. Forced myself to got to bed at 1am!

Much discussion about baby stuff and names was had and much amusement at my baby name book which is blatantly American...it would appear there are some American boys out there called Guilford. Who the bloody hell calls their child Guilford??? Whatever next? Little girls called Basingstoke?! Ooh, how about Swindon...or maybe Milton Keynes? Poor babies!

Ooh, we have our birth centre visit today! Kind of excited!

Enjoy the rest of the weekend ladies.

Hi all, another that's very exciting to think you might get the next private room...really hope you are bearing up mentally. Must be horrid stuck in hospital. GREAT news about mr frizz well done, and bad luck chcco I am so sorry you have kidney stones.
Well, having already been fairly shocked by mums reaction, she left this morning in what can only be described as a completely hostile mood. Il have no idea what happened but am taking it personally as when I hugged her goodbye her arms were leaden weights by her side and she made no attempt to hug me back. She was fine all of yesterday and we had enjoyed a lovely day, topped off by me cooking for my godfather and his wife, her cousins (on her request that I organise them to come round). So nothing could have offended her yesterday, so this morning the fact she was ion this terrible mood made me think she must have slept badly. But I was completely thrown when she then packed the car and they drove off without a backwards glance...no mention of the OP i have on weds, no wishing me luck, no suggesting that she can help in any way and no wishing me luck for the impending birth...when we are not seeing her again at Christmas and no plans to see her when the baby arrives (I have asked but she has said no on both counts). So, what on earth a going on?? She is behaving like a complete child, and having felt more positive over the last couple of days, her behaviour has knocked me back to square one and I have spent the morning in tears. I need to forget about her and focus on me but I just feel desperately hurt and sad, and actually quite angry too.

How weird, mythree. And how upsetting for you. I wonder what her problem is?

Mythree I'm not surprised you're feeling upset - her behaviour sounds bizarre and the opposite of what you need at the moment. Do you think she'd tell you if you asked her what's up or would she say "nothing everything's fine!" (like mine would)?

Hope you're ok

Midwife friend measured me as 38 weeks, she said to see what my midwife said but not to be surprised if the baby comes earlier than expected.

mythree that's strange. Would she tell you?

Oh mythree sorry about your mum. Do you think she is actually really worried but doesn't know how to say so is distancing herself because she isn't able to deal with it? Not what you need at the moment though, so try as best as you can to put it out of your mind and concentrate on you and bubs

mythree that all seems very bizarre. I understand that maybe she was having difficulty with your news as it has come as such a shock for you all, but her behaviour today is just rude and not acceptable at all.
I would definitely ask why she has behaved in this way as you need family support around you at this time especially with a baby on the way.
Try and keep your chin up and get all the emotions out in the open.

frying ooooo early baby possibility. How many weeks did you say you were?
I haven't even attempted to measure my fundal height as am not completely sure where the top of my uterus is and would prefer to try it with a fabric tape measure instead of using my dressing gown tie or something and then measuring that.
My midwife told me to expect a different measurement with each midwife as they all do it slightly differently. So far I am bang on the middle line but would like bubs to be a week early as don't want to be induced as then i cant go to the birth centre.

I have my 34 week app on wednesday. Cant believe how fast it has come around. Midwife apps go to fortnightly after that don't they. Thats a scary thought. They start to monitor baby position soon too don't they. Mine has been head down each time so far but it must be doing somersaults in between my appointments as it doesn't feel like it has settled into a position yet!

Dh and FIL are currently ripping rotten plaster from our kitchen ceiling from the bath leak that we have unknowingly had since we moved in 2 years ago. Think the bath is almost fixed but we are thinking of putting lino down (after they have replaced the rotten floorboards under the bath) as we can seal that around the edge and hopefully stop anymore issues. Its just another task to be done before bubs arrives though and as this is our first home we are not so good at major DIY stuff.

I'm only 32+4 according to my 12 week scan.

so a little alarming. Either i could have the baby early or it could be a massive one! God help me if i go over.

mythree that is very cold behaviour and you have every right to feel angry and upset. Do you feel at some point that you might be up to asking her what is wrong? In the mean time I would suggest surrounding yourself with people who can give you some tlc and distancing yourself until you feel stronger

I have no idea what my fundal height is. I have not had it measured once this pregnancy. I am having another growth scan on Thurs so get to see bubs again. I will be curious to see if he is still such a whopper, atm he is actually off the end of the scale for growth for my gestation.

mythree Wtf? Thats really weird and completely not on! Poor you! Not surprised you are so upset! Hope you can put it to the back of your mind so you can focus on you and bubs. Is your DH home with you?

Have decided on the phone I am gonna get.....but its out of stock! Typical! Still, I can wait taps fingers impatiently....

Just had my 'surprise' baby shower which id said I didn't want but was actually really lovely. Had lots of party food, gifts (including a hamper with most things ill need for hospital bag) and played some games. Had a really nice time :)

I haven't measured my fundal height as I'm sure I'd get it wrong

At 32w apt this week (at the doctors rather than mw) she didn't try and work out (or guess like last time) how baby was led but have scan on Thursday so will be nice to find out

mythree I'm not surprised your upset, is she normally like this? Maybe she has just taken the news really badly and doesn't know how to react? Doesn't make it any easier for you though

mythree I'm so sorry your Mum is behaving oddly. I agree with the others who have said perhaps she is struggling to process the situation. It doesn't excuse her behaviour but maybe goes some way to explaining it. If you have a normally good relationship with her then maybe try to talk to her about it? If you have a bit of a 'rocky' relationship normally then tuck it off to one side & focus on those in RL who are going to give you the support you deserve.

Oh & feel free to rant if you need to

for another & loulou hope you're both doing ok.

Sorry your mum didn't give you the support you'd expect my three :(

Some people just don't process situations very well, I guess. Hope you're being looked after by the rest of the family, anyway!

I've never thought to measure my own fundal height, I'm pretty sure I'd balls it up anyway! 34 week appointment on Tuesday for us. Getting a bit too close to d-day for my liking!

mrsv glad you had a fun time.

I am a bit cautious of them for myself as worry people feel they have to buy gifts and it was only 7 months since we got married and people were beyond generous then so I would feel so bad them spending more money. I love the thought of party food though. A get together of friends with a mass of party buffet food would be immense. God how i love nibbles......i could wolf down a massive bag of crisps with dip right now!

frizz that's why I didn't want one but my friends arranged it as a surprise but dh is as good as keeping secrets as me I didn't get big presents but loads of really thoughtful and useful bits

Hi can't remember who it was tried looking, but they got a swollen arm after thier flu jab, just wondering how long it lasted its been two days for me keeps going away and then becoming red again? Not sure if I should worry yet.

I only have three days left at work...yay!

mythree I can only agree with the others that she's terrified and can't show it/doesn't want to upset you further. She's clearly not thinking straight, to act like this.
I'm sorry, my lovely, how hurtful. Will you talk to her about it? I know with my mum that's one of those conversations I'd have to work up to. Have a massive hug.

And as space said, here's the place for ranting/crying/getting massive cheering up .

frizz I wouldn't count on going fortnightly, I'm still on a 4 week cycle - seen at 32 weeks, next appt is at 36.

We went shopping in Greenwich today, bought the most beautiful papercut, black rice paper in a box frame, called 'By the River', and I think I want to SNOG it, it's so lush. We're ignoring how much boring sorting out of stuff we have to do for the house, and buying Art instead (note wanky capital A - we did the whole thing a lot today. I almost wore a beret, but thought better of it.)
You can't see the thing I'm describing, but this is the shop. I am seriously green-eyed over her talent!

mrsv youre so lucky to have suck lovely friends. Pity dh couldnt keep the secret!

So so jealous of everyone finishing for leave. band you are so lucky to be almost at the end!

Three and a half weeks left for me, but feeling so very stressed about work again. I know my work are trying to make things easier by giving me easier things to do but I always seem to get a 'but' at the end of it all. Like heres some easier stuff.....but next week so and so is off so can you help with.....They need to be able to do it without me there so why don't they try! Think the stress is starting to get to me now.

Testing, resting, 123...humpty on FB says she can't upload to mumsnet

I have four shifts left at work, starting on Wednesday, but i have a half day on Friday.

mythree sorry to hear your mum's not supporting you the way she should. Maybe she's not handling it too well. Sometimes these things are harder for everyone else around the person who's actually got the illness, if you see what I mean? Sending hugs. I hope she comes round soon for you. X

mrsv how lovely are your friends? Glad you enjoyed yourself - and whats not to love? Food, gifts, friends....yay!

band I had a sore red lump for around five days after my jab....

humpty yay for Art! Loving you considering a beret!!!

another hope you are managing to stay sane in captivity....

choco really hope you are in much less pain and they are getting you patched up.

frizz your work is soooo frustrating! You will REALLY appreciate your time off at this rate! Are you emailing your boss again this week?

Tonight I have been completely restless and itchy, which has caused a lot of sudden rage!!! Not even feeling sleepy which is unheard of! Suspect will be feeling mega sleepy tomorrow night at the last NCT class! I can imagine having a restless night tonight. Really dont know whats wrong with me!!!