THREAD 12 Jan 2014 - The one where we start mainlining raspberry leaf tea and festive treats for "the baby"

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Thought I'd go for it

Oh choco that's rubbish, but at least they know what's wrong now for sure

choco hope they manage to fix it fast now they know what the cause is. Sorry you are in such pain, but am sure bubs is just fine in there. I expect you are right that labour will be a breeze after what you're going through now.

extra dh is really happy. Was worried he would just take any job as we need the money but he was miserable at his last school so was a tough year and what with a baby due and being first timers i want him to not hate the place but he said he likes it a lot and his mood has completely changed and he is smiling again. He even took me out to buy a takeaway last night. Even though it was his good news he was adament that he wanted to treat me to what i wanted so i think it has been hard for him feeling like he cant provide for us as he was excited about buying me something.

That sounds lovely Frizz!

Oh Choco, awful you're in so much pain, but at least now they know what it is and can fix you. Hope they pull their socks up and sort you out so you can come home soon xx

Poor choco, but at least they understand the problem and you're in the right place to get it sorted.

Have just informed DH that Ben & Jerry's peanut butter cup ice cream is essential for the continued well being of our baby and must be acquired with all possible speed That sounds right up my street - I still haven't got over the fact that they stopped doing Chubby Hubby. That one had salty, peanutty pretzels in it!

Aw frizz your post made me bawl like an infant brought a tear to my eye. Soooo happy for you guys! You can now hopefully start properly enjoying the countdown to bubs!

choco huge pain relieving hugs! Kidney stones are evil, so am not surprised you have been in tears. Just awful! Really hope the consultant starts kicking their ass for you today - glad you have a diagnosis at least.....

Well had a tiny bit of boob leakage for the first time last night. Only noticed it when I took my bra off and did my ritual boob rub while going "ahhhhhhh.....". It was clear and a tiny amount, but may consider popping breast pads in today just in case as am out and about with friends and then DHs best mate is over tonight.....

Ice cream definitely works for heartburn by the way, just doesnt have a long lasting effect which means you have to eat more yummy ice cream

Hey loulou
Loads of my patients with kidney stones have said they'd do difficult labours umpteen times over rather than pass a kidney stone- and yours sounds a bit stuck anyway so don't worry about being a wuss. I never ever want them....
Good luck with the urologists. let me know if i can help with anything (I'm a very fat hippo urologist at the minute)

mythree glad they have taken action quickly and have a plan for your treatment. Your mum is probably minimising to hide her worry.

choco you poor thing, don't worry about the pethidine it just makes them a bit sleepy. Better that than baby being stressed by your pain.

nature yay for dryers, essential with a newborn I found.

frizz congrats to mrfrizz, great news :)

quack I think it is hard for some guys to understand our needs in pregnancy. He is probably stressed by the thought of everything changing, no excuse though. I am sure once he sees you giving birth and meets his baby he will be so proud of you both that he will fall over himself to be supportive.

Right on phone, and can't scroll back. Hope evryone else is ok and coping with mat leave/work frustration/annoying workmen.

Brain cannot remember much else as I have a cold. Very tearful today, three nights of little sleep, feeling rough and missing hubby and kids. Been told that I am likely here until the birth now :(

choco apologies for x-post last night. So relieved they know the cause now, and hopefully the treatment will be pretty quick. I have also heard kidney stones described as worse than labour, you poor love. Take care.

another I'm so sorry to hear that. Is there any chance they will put you in a private room? You need some rest before the birth. Is there anything we can do?

Another that's rubbish you've got to stay in till b-day. How many weeks do you have?

Aw another how pants. Will they wait until you start labour naturally or are they looking at inducing or anything? Hope we can help cheer you up! Am no good at jokes but will make sure i let you know of any hugely embarassing things that happen to me to give you a giggle.

Dh has just spent over an hour getting excited over lego as we are getting some for my nephew for xmas. He reverted to being a child and it was rather amusing.

Anyone with an anterior placenta.....how much movement do you feel? I def get a fair few movements in a day (not counting just making sure there are still movements in a 24hr period really) but i dont get loads of kicks.
Also does everyone else find that bubs responds to sounds, touch etc. Mine doesnt respond to either me or dh talking to it, or poking it (maybe a bit cruel) or shining a light on it, all things that all the various pregnancy trackers say will be happening by now and could have been happening since about 28 weeks or so (am 33+1) It seems it just moves when it wants but maybe once or twice an hour, sometimes more and sometimes less.
Should i mention it to the midwife as they only seem to worry if you have felt no movement for a few hours.
Just wish that i had something i knew made it wriggle so when i worried i could just test.

Then as soon as i hit post i start feeling some light kicks or maybe hiccups and quite a few of them so def way more than 2 movements in this hour.....

another Not good that your being kept in, will they give you a private room so you can get some sleep and have dh and dc visit?

choco glad they know what it is, I've heard they are horrible horrible things. I know they had my mum fainting from the pain when I was a kid.

Let us know if there's anything we can do / send for either of you

We're off shopping today, planning to sneek a lunch out somewhere naughty too. You've all made me want ice cream so will get some on the understanding its needed for the baby

another not the news you were hoping for. Poor you! Are they gonna get bubs out as soon as he/she is fully cooked?

frizz I havent worked out a pattern to bubs movements here like all my friends seem to have done and he just moves when he wants to. I havent noticed it in response to anything and I too have tried various things. When I asked my midwife if I should be kick counting, she said no because everyone is different. Just know what is normal for you and contact them if I notice a reduction. At the moment, as long as I feel lots of wriggles thru the day I am happy. Hence my freak out yesterday morning when bubs went quiet on me! He definitely made up for that the rest of the day. I am feeling more wriggles than kicks now - particularly high up and seem to get a little foot in my ribs a lot! I have a high anterior placenta.

If you are concerned though frizz always mention it to the midwife. Thats what they are there for....

fizz I don't get kicks anymore, I get pokes or jabs from feet or arms and sometimes big roles from somersaults or flips. Very different from a few weeks ago as I guess she running out of space.

Also when she moves so her back is to my front I can't feel much as she's moving internally if that makes sense.

She also doesn't respond to noise, us talking, or lights but does sometimes to hard pokes (not that I've ever done that!).

Poor loulou & another :(
You're both having pretty crappy times of it

Frizz, a really sugary drink always works for me. I had some Irn Bru yesterday and the baby went crazy! Mine usually calms down when DH touches it. He's convinced he has some sort of magic touch. I reckon it's coincidence, but I hope he's right!

Welcome to the boob leakage club, sultana! :o

Peanut butter cup ice cream sounds delicious! And I don't really eat ice cream on a regular basis.

frizz I have anterior placenta and it can be a bit hit and miss. Every so often I panic i've not felt him, drink shed loads of coke and eat chocolate and then panic for about an hour. The adrenalin usually makes him kick me once as if to say "what the hell is your problem woman?" which is reassuring.

I'm debating getting a scan to see how things are going. I measured my fundal height and i'm miles ahead, but i'm seeing the midwife on 7 dec and i'm assuming she'll refer me if she's worried. I also don't really feel bonded to the baby. Once I start Mat leave i'm hoping that changes. Maybe a scan will help. It's £65 for a non-4d one. We don't really want a 4d one. Or there's a silver 4d package for £80

Your mw will definitely refer you if she's worried, frying. Usually if you're more than 3cm 'out' on either side. My mw referred me for a scan at 34 weeks (with a follow-up at 36 weeks) with DD because I was measuring small. She was perfectly ok. Perhaps a little on the small side (7lb 2oz when she finally made her appearance at 40+13), but nothing unusual.

IIRC private 'wellbeing' scans are not diagnostic. So they would likely just refer you back to your mw anyway.

And I know what you mean about the bonding. I'm getting excited to meet the baby, but I don't really 'feel' anything about it yet, really.

Ah thanks Toby I'm due to see her on the 6th, so little under two weeks. I'll just sit on my hands until then.

I'm also pleased someone else gets what I mean about the baby! I'm looking foward to seeing DS with him, but am a bit meh about it all.

DH is adament the baby will be here middle of December. I dunno what's got him so convinced, but he is. There'll be no talking to him if he's right

Frying I know what you mean too. I'm mostly looking forward to DS with new baby sister, but otherwise am a bit lacking in excitement.

Think it's partly because for us second timers a) we've done it before and maybe can't imagine another baby being as lovely and b) everything is tinged with slight terror at the prospect of having two, especially as we know what the early weeks were like last time...

Bet it'll be love at first sight anyway!

You poor thing, another. I hope they're looking after you well in there, feeding you properly and you're getting lots of family visits.

frizz, the one thing you didn't mention is the only thing I've found is guaranteed to make baby squiggle about on demand. Have a cold drink and then lie down on your left side. Unfortunately, I always feel thirsty when I wake up in the night, so my normal routine is: pop to the loo, have a glug of water from the glass by the bed, lie down, baby starts dancing...

There's definitely nothing wrong with her hearing, though - DH made her jump a couple of weeks ago by banging on the kitchen window to scare a magpie off the bird feeder

As far as bonding goes, it seems difficult to love someone who kind of only theoretically exists for me at the moment. I definitely feel fiercely protective of her, though, and that seems good enough for now!

to another, mythree and choco, I hope things improve for you all soon!

Congrats to mrfrizz!

I had my whopping cough vaccine yesterday, ouch! I mentioned to the receptionist that my 34 week appointment had been booked for 35 weeks (I don't mind when I see the midwife but wanted to check there were no tests that needed to be done then) and it turns out she wrote the wrong date in my notes. Good thing I asked or I would have turned up a week late!

frizz I have AP, and reliably get elbows in the side/feet in the ribs when I try to get to sleep. I have a few somersault (attempts?) which are truly odd, like my whole bump is turning inside out.
But it's not all the time - nothing so far this morning, have been up since 8.30am. I would mention it to mws though - I'm sure all info is good info.

frizz I had an anterior placenta last time and felt less kicks, but wriggles instead.

Having had two I can safely say that all my fears that I wouldn't feel the same about dd2 were totally unfounded. There is more than enough love to go around :)

I will be having a c-section as baby cannot get out naturally due to placenta covering the 'exit'. Waiting to hear next week as to when they might be looking to deliver baby. No private rooms free atm, but midwives have told me I am next in line.

good luck another