THREAD 12 Jan 2014 - The one where we start mainlining raspberry leaf tea and festive treats for "the baby"

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Thought I'd go for it

Yey! Congrats MrFrizz!!

Fabulous -well done mrFrizz

mythree, glad you're back and that it's being sorted out so soon, but at your mum's reaction. Hugh Jackman announced that he'd had a cancerous growth removed from his nose this week, do you think that's what she means?

Hooray for mrfrizz, that's great news

Yay! mrFrizz!! Way to go!

I am SO cream crackered! Bump seems to have doubled in size today. My feet, my knees and back are sore too!

I'm sure supermarkets conspire against us finding stuff. Tescos are always moving stuff around too. They're all at it.

I think I hear DH arriving home. Think I'll get him to cook dinner tonight!

Glad to hear about mrfrizz and that you have been seen quickly mythree and there's a plan for quick treatment.

After a knackering week I've been feeling very emotional...cue big tearful tantrums directed at dh and lots of nasty things said... So feeling pretty down as I have basically pushed away the one person that I really need now,

But has anyone else felt let down by their dh during pregnancy? Just not being given the support they expected or needed? I don't have much family and dh is basically the only one around to look after me in the tough times,and he's just been shitty throughout. Like I'm sure having a baby is a bit of a scary thing but he has been really unhelpful,and resistant to basic stuff like cooking cleaning etc.

Makes me really sad,of course I've had words with him but he just doesn't get it. He even said yesterday he'd leave if I was shouty at him during labour! Seriously wondering if I should ask a friend to be at the birth instead. Just feeling very vulnerable and unsupported waahhhh

Yay mrfrizz congratulations. I bet that is such a relief frizz

That sounds quite positive mythree Glad you have been so quickly

quack sorry your dh hasn't been very supportive.

tarka ah that sucks about the car I hope it isn't too bad. It's always gutting when that happens.

frying bought one from ao.com and one from currys. I shopped around a bit and they seemed to have the best deals for what I wanted. Sadly I'm very excited about getting them. It was one of the things I specified I definitely wanted when looking for our new house

Ah mac that royally sucks. why people think lying makes the situation better I don't know. If they were just honest it would help.

Ah nature! You got one from my work :)

not the spicy food people tho, the other one ??

we are ace. I'm working tomorrow so fingers crossed it all goes well, or i might end up spaking to you on the phone ??

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Mythree glad they're being proactive about treatment. Hope it'll be simple and brief.

Frizz that is BRILLIANT about your DH - I had a feeling something would drop into place before the baby arrived

Quacko your DH does realise you'll almost certainly be shouty during labour?? Does he want to try it?? Grr...

frizz that is just awesome news!

frying great you can finish early!

mythree your consultant must have given you some reassurance with his fairly unconcerned attitude. What a shame about your mum not understanding what you need right now. Dont let her put you off calling re your BH, as tempting as it is. for your stress and worry!

felix am a southern lass so suspect worcester sauce alternative aint an option. We do however have popcorn kernals down here!

Toby looked in the sauce/condiments aisle and the more exotic aisles. Found tons of soy sauces (sorry to rub it in Felix) but no frickin worcester!

Have discovered Innocent apple juice. Had it at my mates last night and bought some today. Its cloudy apple juice and totally addictive! Its also on offer at Waitrose and Asda currently! Bought a tropical one to try too....

Bubs decided to scare the shit out of me this morning by napping and refusing to move. However, after getting out the doppler, drinking cold drinks and a car journey to my mums he well and truly woke up and has been super active all afternoon, including hiccups and wriggles my mum could see. Phew!

Phone battery is majorly playing up (definitely time to try and find a more reliable phone) so gonna love you and leave you all until tomorrow.

Sweet dreams ladies - hope you are in a lot less pain now choco and you are doing ok another.

frizz WOOHOO for mrfrizz and you - that is fantastic news!

frying you are THE BEST PERSON. Fact.

mythree agree that your mum was probably trying to minimise your fear/not show hers, but not v helpful reaction. Hope you are okay.

Mac fucking bastards. I will kill them for you if you kill Viking CUNTING Direct for me? They promised me a bookcase on Wednesday, now it won't arrive until NEXT FRIDAY. I hate the fucking bastard liars. Just tell me when you can deliver, don't pretend you can do it really soon, then let me down.

tarka that was helpful of the lady, eh? Like you can just change your mind now? FFS. Also, I would take a tantrummer over a biter/hitter though - louder, granted, but there's something so mean about kids who bite and hit. We have friends with one and I always ALWAYS judge massively when he does it it doesn't help that he looks like the devil. At least she is letting out emotions, not just acting on anger.

quacko I have had this - not that DH has actually been unsupportive, but if I'm honest, I seize on tiny indications that he might not be the perfect H/father and catastrophize slightly get het up about it. I think it seems like we have ticking clocks inside us, and they have x number of weeks to shape up - or that will be it. Whereas, in reality, there are many options/shades of gray, and the odds are good that they will stop dicking about and man up. And if they don't do it immediately, they will learn over time. I hope so, anyway - I've got to the dramatic 'well, then THAT'S IT' moment more than once in the past month.
I'm not implying your DH is in fact a paragon, but saying it can feel a bit more overwhelming/immediate than it is, IYSWIM? Sorry, I don't think that came out quite right.

Don't know the ins and outs of everyone's stories but congrats frizz I'm guessing that's a big relief for you both?

Been to argos and bought me a gym ball tonight. It literally feels like it's going to pop underneath me as I've turned in to such a heifer. Too scared to even sit on it... Also bought some raspberry leaf capsules and a god awful peppa pig toy for my 2 year old niece to go with her specially requested Christmas present of a peppa pig costume. She also asked for 'curly hair, bum bum, a mouse and a trumpet.'

I'm finding it hard getting used to the fact I can't quote people on here so I keep forgetting who has said what

congrats mrfrizz #does a little happy dance#

mythree glad you're being seen so quickly and have a good consultant. Sorry about your mum, sounds like something mine would say, and I don't think they mean it like it sounds though not helpful!

I've been arguing with DH recently too, I think humpty's right about the count down and it's making things more fraught.

On the fun side we packed the baby clothes for the hospital bag this evening, so cute

Ok so had time for a catch up...

frying it's def very important to be thinking of you and baby at this point. If you are thinking about bringing forward mat leave then it's the right thing to do so yay for less work.

nature sorry u are still in mat leave limbo and don't know when you can start yet. That must suck.

Not sure how u guys have the energy to be cleaning. My house is looking pretty pants and am looking forward to my mum helping me clean up on the parental visit next weekend.

mrsv I don't think i have felt hiccups yet and still have no idea where it is. Guess the midwife will tell me on wed.

mythree u should def mention it to the midwife just in case. I always feel it's good for them to know everything. Glad that things are progressing and you are in the best hands.

mac Grrrr to carpet men and people who come to the house to do things in general. They always seem to be late and lie about why.

Oops on the car front tarka bumpers are there for bumping aren't they?!

quack I think it might be a man thing. My Dh took a while to realise how toufh being pregnant can be, but i think our antenatal classes have helped us both. I have to nag him to help still though.

Thanks for all the cheers ladies. It is such a huge weight of our minds and as it's an academy they have said they will give him 1 week paternity leave (even though he doesn't technically qualify) because they are "not horrible people"
There is a large science dept and the headteacher apparently is really nice. There were only 3 of them there and they cut the other 1 after the lesson demo so only interviewed Dh and offered him the job straight away. It's because someone has retired as well so if they still have lots of kids in Sept he could keep the job for another school year (it's not mat/sick leave cover or anything)

Frizz that's so great! Is he happy?

I'm getting horrendous heartburn at 35wks having had none at all till now. Wtf?!

extracrunchy I've had it very mildly on and off but recently it's getting bad. I've found the only thing that soothes it temporarily is a glass of milk. I can't believe I actually drank milk for the first time since I was a very small child (I've always had a weird phobia of milk where it grosses me out so much) and now I can't get enough of it

Yay mrfrizz! That's fantastic news :)

I've just come back from dinner for a colleagues leaving. I'm exhausted, but very jealous that they'll all be out until the small hours having fun. Ah well, at least I won't have a hangover!

I'm getting ice cream! Will work like milk, no..? AND Ben & Jerry's have released Peanut Butter Cups in the UK! YES!!!

I had ice cream tonight and heartburn was my excuse... Also just googled peanut butter cup and it sounds like my dream ice cream! I'm so passionate about peanut butter.

Hey ladies. Just a quick one. Got barely any signal in hospital. Scan confirmed I have kidney stones and urine on both kidneys. Doctor going to speak to specialist 2moro to see whats best to do next. Meanwhile I'm going crazy in here. Pain is unbearable at times at not ashamed to say ive cried and cried with it at some points. Had some pethidine again 2day which rly helps. I just worry about baby. Goodnight for now. Hope to catch up with all of your news soon x

Meant to say earlier, MrsA, did your post mean your mat leave is finally sorted?

Choco hope you're getting some sleep in hospital. Good they've established the cause and can hopefully treat it quickly but must be agony thinking of you!