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The PESH are waddling their way to Christmas & trying not to freak out!

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FrankelInFoal · 13/11/2013 19:27

The ante-natal fred for BESH graduates.

Recent Grads (aka CRESH)

blonderthanred, boy, born 26th October 2012
FriendofDorothy, boy, born 14th December 2012
QueenRollo, boy, born 21st January 2013
LazyMachine (38) boy EDD 9/2/13 - need an actual arrival date!
CamelKnees (34) EDD 22/04/2013 - need actual arrival date!
HaveALittleFaith (31), Faithlet arrived 14th April 2013
fertilityFTW (34) arrival date needed!
pinkr, (33), girl born 25th August 2013
Jethro (36) boy born 23rd September 2013

Waiting to lay:
Noks - EDD 28/12/2013
Frankel - EDD 4/3/2014
Sinky - EDD 18/3/2014
Ginfox - EDD end April 2014
Kat - EDD needed
Drizz - EDD 7/6/2014
Draf - EDD 19/6/2014
Winks - EDD 29/6/2014

Apologies for any misinformation or omissions!

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FrankelInFoal · 20/11/2013 16:37

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FrankelInFoal · 20/11/2013 16:38

What is it with me. & my fat fingers these days?! Hmm

Anyway, hunger is a good sign Winks. Any more spotting today?

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MyNameIsWinkly · 20/11/2013 17:10

There's been no more spotting (my cervical mucus has had the faintest tinge of colour but I'm choosing to believe I'm being overly paranoid and looking too hard) and my shish was amazing, so it's good news all round here today.

How's everyone else?

evilgiraffe · 20/11/2013 17:47

Good news, winks :)

Love the tardis, Frank! Oh, and regarding HWHNN's Twilight marathon, I think the only appropriate response is: OMG LOL Grin

I had my booking-in appt today - all quite tedious, but necessary I suppose. Midwife (!) and student both lovely, so that's encouraging. It feels absolutely mad to see a bona fide midwife though; I still feel like a fraud.

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FrankelInFoal · 20/11/2013 17:57

Glad booking-in went well Draf, I know what you mean about the fraud feelings though. Do you have a dating scan date or will that come in the post. I had such a faff getting mine sorted so I'd say if you haven't heard in a week or so chase them up!

Glad the shish was good Winks Grin

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evilgiraffe · 20/11/2013 18:24

Yeah, dating scan is 9th December - had that booked when we went for the early scan. Just early enough for a diffment announcement and then for my family to go shitshitshit and give the gin earmarked for my Christmas present to someone else... Grin

MyNameIsWinkly · 20/11/2013 18:37

Grin draf

I've made an appointment for a private scan on Monday evening. Cue time standing still again, no doubt. I'm sure I'm being stupid, but I'd much rather know sooner rather than later if something has gone wrong. Then maybe I can relax a bit not a chance

FaithTheVampireSlayer · 20/11/2013 19:08

Not stupid at all winks. I had bleeding very similar to yours at 12 weeks, utterly terrifying. Fortunately I had my 12 week scan 4 days later (they couldn't fit me in sooner) or I'd have considered a private scan (and that's just normal long term TTC anxiety, I hadn't had an MC).

draf it's weird, isn't it? Like nobody actually checks you are diffed, they take your word for it. Don't even want a photo of a pee stick!

MyNameIsWinkly · 20/11/2013 19:29

Do you think long term TTC ers are more anxious, as a rule? I feel like some of the people on the antenatal boards are so excited and oblivious to the possibility that pregnancy might not equal baby, in a way that I'm actually quite jealous of. Or is it just that I'm a natural born pessimist?

draf I do know what you mean, I feel a bit ridiculous claiming to be pregnant! (Despite the three pee sticks, scan and enormous boobs...)

FaithTheVampireSlayer · 20/11/2013 19:45

Absolutely Winks. It feels like bigger stakes, it's taken so long to get diffed. I think it also gives you too much time to think about the possibility of things not progressing when if it's happened easily you don't dwell. But on the bright side, when I did get my scan there was a wriggly baybee in there who is now upside down in her cot snoring gently.

KatAndKit · 20/11/2013 19:47

Long term ttc ers definitely more anxious, and if you have previously had a miscarriage then definitely more anxious. I was a nervous wreck last time, and still very anxious this time. There is a sort of innocence that you lose when things go wrong and you cant get it back again. I think you have done the right thing getting another scan. Hoping it will be good news.

draf we are scan twinz! I have mine the same day :)

JethroTull · 20/11/2013 20:20

Hello hags. Winks glad bleeding has stopped. Everything crossed for your scan.

Speaking from experience I think if you've struggled whilst ttc then it can have a definite affect on anxiety during & after diffment. I'm really struggling at the moment. Have been for a counselling session today though & am determined to not let it beat me.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 20/11/2013 20:49

I agree about the loss of innocence and the increased anxiety that comedy with long term ttc, and is compounded massively by mc. Every single member of my family seems more excited by the diffment than I am... Simply because I still can't believe it...

So handhold til Monday, winks! And totally sensible to get the scan sooner rather than later.

On other news, I have my booking in on Friday, can hardly believe it either...

Jeff counselling sounds good. If my unbelief does not abate, I might do a few sessions with mine as well. She was very useful in dealing with the mc last year, and I would like this to settle into happiness at some stage...

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 20/11/2013 20:50

Comedy is comes. iPhone is stuuuupid!

FaithTheVampireSlayer · 20/11/2013 21:26

jeff counselling sounds sensible. I had my first assessment but am still waiting on the actual sessions....the happy pills have kicked in now though so I feel more stable.

I don't think my doggedness felt really real until she started booting me from the inside. No denying it then!

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FrankelInFoal · 21/11/2013 08:10

I got told I look "quite substantial" last night Hmm Bless him, he didn't mean it like that (bloke who works in our building) but I'm not sure it was the best choice of words! Problem is I am all bump, I still fit into a lot of normal clothes, providing they're stretchy so I'm not piling on the weight. Haven't actually weighed myself since 12weeks though Grin

25 week appointment with the midwife this afternoon & a half day at work tomorrow for HWHNN's return. Hurrah!

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lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 21/11/2013 09:03

On other news, we have our twelve week and nuchal fold scan on Monday... Have my head firmly in the sand, so hadn't realised it is that soon. As I'll be 12+2 it is time, I suppose! Lots of talking to people who believe I am diffed Wink

How are things today winks?

FaithTheVampireSlayer · 21/11/2013 14:45

Aw Frank, try not to take it too hard. Sounds like you're doing really well. Are you exercising?

Gosh drizz, 12 weeks! Hopefully once the scan is done you can be completely 'out' and it will start to feel real.

Thinking of you winks, hope things are ok.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 21/11/2013 14:52

Btw Frank, I think you look lovely and slim, plus beautiful bump. I am jealous, the only things I gained so far are a cup size, not necessary if you start with E, and what we call the wind-factory... My bloaty belly. The bean is still hiding somewhere low down!

Maybe it'll become real, faif... Bricking it for the results, again... Will get the full set towards the end of next week.

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FrankelInFoal · 21/11/2013 15:22

Aww shucks, thanks Blush

Had my 25wk appointment earlier & midwife said I am measuring spot on so to ignore people's comments on my bump. "Everyone has an opinion!" She said.

Got to go and have bloods done in 2 weeks then back for my 28wk appointment. Good news is I don't have to do the lucozade test if I don't want to! She said it's actually a very old fashioned test and most places don't bother with it these days, just take routine bloods.

She did say my blood pressure was at the low end of the scale, but within acceptable bounds so I just need to keep an eye on myself.

She woke Turnip up whilst trying to listen to the heartbeat, so I've been getting booted in the ribs ever since Grin

Drizz 12wks is such a great milestone, I was very bloated until Faith advised me to try probiotics - they really helped. I think I started showing a teeny bump at about 14 weeks, so I'm sure you'll get yours soon. My cup size definitely did not overfloweth - I went from an A to a B so I feel a little shortchanged!

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MyNameIsWinkly · 21/11/2013 15:55

frank you do look brilliant, really slim and neat. Personally I know it's shallow but I'm dreading the weight gain. I'm not slim now, and I'm going to be one of those people who look fat, not diffed.

evilgiraffe · 21/11/2013 16:00

You are gorgeous, Frank

When are you coming to East Angular, driz? Are we having a BESH meetup?

I've already been told I have to do the lucozade test, cos I'm a big fatty

evilgiraffe · 21/11/2013 16:03

Mind you, the midwife's scales put me at 1.5kg heavier than my own scales, so I'm not convinced on the accuracy of the measurement Hmm Still, I'll be well over BMI 30 by the time they do the test, so no harm done I suppose.

FaithTheVampireSlayer · 21/11/2013 16:06

Aw wriggly turnip!

Frank I got loads* of speculation on my bump size and even had one colleague say Well it's not going to be a small baby, is it?!^ Hmm I measured bang on for dates until I was 36 weeks when I measured 34cm and continued to be 2cm small and of course she came out pint sized! :)

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 22/11/2013 15:10

OMG we have a midwife, booking in took a remarkable amount of time. But she didn't weigh me :) She didn't even check whether I was diffed (I brought the scan pictures with me and everything, but she just believed us). It's all so odd, wonderful but unimaginable. Right, now the do the few more hours of work I promised myself...