October 2013: The Fourth Trimester - the bit no one warns you about!

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Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

welcome mustard ds (dc2) was born on 16/10 too :-) (edd 14/10) xx

Hi mustard, congrats on your lo. Is it a DD or DS?

And pink, thanks for your comments on the other thread. I've got another midwife tomorrow so will find out about weight gain and will ask her about on demand if she is gaining. I think she must be now - so many nappies and has a much better grip on feeding than the last time she was weighed.

mrs0 we were told to use cooled boiled water to wipe eyes.

nat it's quite an achievement if you haven't been at least weed on. We get open air wees and poos quite regularly.

J has a red bum so I was trying to give him nappy free time after a nappy change. He very quickly weed and pooed, triggering a new cycle of wiping him and using nappy cream. He absolutely wailed the whole time. It was one of the longest cries he's ever had and i almost cried myself because I'm sure his little bum hurt and I was hurting him by wiping it. DH had to come upstairs and tell me it was ok and I wasn't hurting him.

Congrats and welcome mustard.

This MUST be the thread for all those ladies SFW!

MoN my supply has been fine so far luckily, just wondered if cutting down from 12 to 8 to 6 feeds a day as advised will reduce it, other things I have read say no longer than 3 hours between feeds. Will see how it goes tomorrow. Great to hear of it starting to get easier for people. we had a comfortable uninterrupted easily latching 25 minute feed which I was very pleased with and gave me hope! We are going to look at going to a breastfeeding group this week.

Tried infacol today, thanks those who advised yesterday, and Thomas has just started doing sicky burps for the first time which i take as a sign it is starting to work. He is still uncomfortable tonight but will keep going to give it time to take effect.

Hope everyone is ok in the storm!

Mrs o midwife said to me cooled boiled for face but just tap water fine for bottom.

God luck imp!

I'm feeling rage at dh this evening! Not
Only did he decide to stop at his NANs on the way home making him late home from work (on my first day alone with both kids) without bothering to tell me. Since he's been in he's done nothing for either of them except put dd's pyjamas on. I have asked him twice if ds's blanket is dry and if not can he put it in the drier both times he has F-Ing ignored me, and H is awake all evening every evening (obviously his awake time) I asked dh too take him for a bit as I've had both kids all day and wanted to get a drink and he just fucking ignored that too! Seriously I wish I could be the one escaping too work and coming home late sitting down and clinging on for dear life too the iPad for the entire evening!!! Grrrr sorry for the rant

Pink you asked about MWs and feeding - I'm out of the area for the Whit home MWs so I'm being visited by Barnet. Most conversations about feeding consist of them asking how often she feeds (I reply "whenever she wants") and for how long (I reply "until she is finished"). I think they find me frustrating :o
However I had so much hassle from them with DS (along lines of others on this thread) and did so much research that I know she is fine and that it's ok for a baby who is gaining to feed whenever she wants (about every 2 hours bless she eats more often) and I know that her latch is good and I trust that when she unlatches that she's done. I still offer the other side though.....

Nat - if dp tries to pull that one I tell him I'm going to the loo and just give him the baby. Lay down the law :o

pseudo I wish I had that confidence! Hopefully it easier second time around when you know what you are doing.

Three midwives three opinions this fortnight told me only one side/ both sides/ offer second side only if wanted so I don't think there is a definitive answer.

Checking in!

Will catch up later when I've managed to eat something...

(Velcro baby today, very unsettled)

I put him down in his Moses basket and he started crying so dh dragged it over to him so he's within reaching distance go keep giving him his dummy..... Probly cos he can see the tears going down my cheek. Seriously why don't men have any maternal instinct?

sephy we have a ds
Reading about the first day without Dh above and we've got that Tuesday... Feeling better about it than I did, but is a big old unknown territory right now

Hey everyone.

Good to hear from you MoN - (I'm not on facebook) and so glad to hear Eliana is home and doing well.

Forgot to say congratulations to redlips and welcome mustard

Thanks for the support taking, still feeling a bit rubbish tbh. Think the mastitis is getting better, but C seems to finding it harder to latch onto that side and has given me another blister - ouch! He's also had a total feeding frenzy over the past 24 hours and has been feeding every 2 hours, so I'm exhausted. Luckily my DH is off for another week, because I don't know how I would cope if he was going back tomorrow. Flyer hope you're feeling better.

Legally as always in total awe of you and the way you are coping.

Good luck Imp!

That's not good nat. Difficult to say what to do. Would probably go along pseudo's line of action!

orange how are lo nappies? Do you feel happy with progress? If so I would talk to someone else about sticking with your plans/schedule. You do know your baby best. Have a look on kellymom website too.

Also have issue with changing girl nappies after ds.

Cooled boiled water for eyes.

We don't use any soap/wash in bath. Just a bit of olive oil in the water. When we start using washes in a few months plan on using baby aveeno. Good for dry skin.

Welcome to lurkers and newbies xx

Good luckimp xx

Natalie I missed that - the same date! How are you getting on? The birth here already feels a long time ago... Xx

Congrats red lips and mustard

I think that too mustard like if was many moons ago. Physically I'm not feeling too bad I had a small tear but no stitches so no soreness down there, still bleeding a bit though. Emotionally- I think I tend to get more emotional in the evenings, probly the tiredness from the day time. How about u? I feel like ds is loosing his newbornness but then when I see other people's babies that are a week or two older they seem to look newborn still if that makes sense?

G is 12 days old and hasn't had a bath. She has been washed with damp cotton wool once (other than bottom and face which are more frequent). The midwife today noticed she had dry skin and advised us to get a couple of products (I'll post them later, they're written down in a different room) and massage with olive oil so we did an olive oil rub this evening - I felt like I was preparing a baked potato!

C has either screamed or fed since 6 this evening - having been such a settled baby til now... I'm hoping its the atmospheric pressure from the storm or something. He was up a lot of last night too. Going to bed before tonight's onslaught...

Checking in....so tired tonight I can hardly speak. Will post tomorrow

My BMI is 33 the highest it's ever been

Diet starts tomorrow

Congratulations to the new mummies

for those of you sfw and sc. not much longer hopefully.

Those of you that are bf, how many times a day do you feed? I am feeding 8 or 9 times a day but the midwife said that I should be feeding 10 - 12 times a day. Surely no one is feeding every 2 hours day and night?

Marking place! Will catch up later.

wicked - I'm feeding more often than you but think LO is still trying to establish a routine.

During the night it's every 2 hours but each day we have a period of cluster feeding when he'll be on every 30 mins of so!